Monday, July 27, 2009
The dangers of people pleasing
No matter how hard you try, no matter how many hours you spend pondering and planning, and regardless of how hard you try, you absolutely cannot please everyone. It is impossible. So do yourself a favor and stop now, before you drive yourself farther toward insanity. There are many drawbacks to being a people-pleaser. A big one is that you often put yourself in a position of subservience. Sometimes you even put yourself last, which helps no one. Remember that helping yourself and doing what you feel is important should be valued. Find worth in your own opinions and viewpoint, and don't let your desire to please others compel you to keep yourself in the background. Falling short of perfection only proves that you are a normal human being.
Amen That hit the nail on the head.
Boy SP really knows me.. That has been my trouble since I was a little girl. the peace maker people pleaser.
I remember when I was 5 my cousin hit me in the forehead with a toy iron. I went to the ER and got stitches, Back then my Mom took me to the drug store after so I could get a treat for being so good. I got a bottle of bath bubble salts(ok i am dating myself) When we got back home my cousin, who by the way is 6 months older than I am, was still there and crying.
A DUH, little me felt so bad that she was in trouble and crying.. I gave her my bath salts.
Now I think of it... I was a PP back then. very scary I might add.
Ok I have been trying to stop and I am slowly succeeding. No more giving away my bubble bath salts. I am taking a stand...
Bless you SP