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Monday morning... whatever.

Monday, February 08, 2010

I had a lovely weekend, mainly because I feel like it was a long one, and it was! Friday I drove down to Sacramento, met two old coworker friends, had supper and then we went to a production of "The Threepenny Opera". It was LONG, 3 hours, and started late, and I was awfully tired... but the parts I was conscious through I did enjoy quite a bit. The cast is talented and energetic and as is always the case with a community theatre were outstanding in their performances.
Saturday was a one-day seminar on the newest technologies designed to pinpoint earlier and earlier stages of breast cancer, plus information in other areas that were of great interest. What a wonderful day! There is something about a gathering of mammographers that always builds up the spirit, and reinforces the ideal of serving the greater good. The sad part is, we can't save a woman who won't get regular physicals and screenings.
If you are a woman and you are reading this, I don't care how young or old you are, do the monthly tit checks! Soapy fingers = sensitive fingers so do it in the shower or bath. However you do it, do it the same way every month or every few weeks. All you're doing is feeling what "normal" for you is, and if by chance something happens that is not "normal", you will feel it like you're feeling an iceberg in the water. It will jump up and shout at you.
More important than that, TRUST YOUR GUT. If you feel that something in one breast is "off" or "wierd" or "just not quite right" or "probably nothing, but...", GET IT CHECKED OUT. Some cancers don't come with lumps, or they might come with lumps that don't show up on a mammogram. Trust the message your body is sending you. It could save your life, or at least your quality of life!

I spent yesterday mildly busy with things like laundry and sleep. There's always housework to be done, but I have to have more motivation than a day off with no obligations to be anywhere at all. I also finished the leftover pizza I made last week, some rice with frozen meatless patties, and made a wonderful apple breakfast goodie that's something like apple pandowdy. Or apple upside-down cake.
My big dog is exhibiting behavior issues, namely aggression and bullying tendencies toward the little disabled dog. This is not good. There is no room at all for this, because the little disabled dog is the alpha female and I am the pack leader, so the big dog needs to learn that she is last in all things, at all times. She's got a habit of blocking a person and then going onto her back and using her paws to demand attention. I've got the unsavory task of ignoring her when she asks for or demands attention, so that she only gets attention when I decide to give it to her. I also have to step up to the plate and start taking her for daily walks by herself, so that we have together time that isn't part of the rest of the family together time. I believe that there are no bad dogs, only irresponsible or ignorant owners, and I am one of those owners. I have to be a better dog-ma if I want a better-behaved dog.
Meanwhile, another challenge is to take my vitamins daily. Eating well is part of the solution to mild chronic depression, and exercise is another part, but an important part is making sure I take my vitamins. That way, whatever I don't get in my food will not affect my mood. There's a rhyme there. I'm a poet. Yee haw.
And that's it for today.

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SPCHTCH76 2/8/2010 9:04AM

    Have a great day! I find that I am better at taking my vitamins at night right before bed.....the mornings are too crazy and I often forget! Take care and have a great week@

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Friday 2/5/10

Friday, February 05, 2010

I don't need coffee. Every morning, I have a ritual of waking up: I put the water on to boil, heat up 4 oz soy milk (unsweetened, because to me sweetened coffee is an abomination), set up the carafe with the filter holder, put in the paper filter and the grounds. When the water is boiling, I take a few minutes to pour it into the grounds and wait for that lovely rich liquid to fill the carafe. Then I pour what I want into my special mug (I'm the only one who drinks out of it, and coffee is the only thing I drink from this mug), and then sit for a little while and sip. Thus my day begins.
I know when I'm sick, because then I don't want my morning coffee.
Generally I don't have time to make breakfast right now, so I have my food bag all ready with snacks (dried fruit trail mix for carbs and nuts for protein/fat), usually cheese slices with Triscuits for a quick, nutritious and filling breakfast, and lunch plus dessert or afternoon snack.
I don't feel the need for all that food, but I make every effort to eat everything, because it's when I feel hungry that I get crazy with desire. When I've eaten everything I packed for the day, I come home ready for a small supper. Thank goodness I have never been a midnight foodie; early morning was always the devil's time, and the afternoon hours were the most stressful and dangerous.

I like to start my day slowly, and as long as I can, I will continue to do so.

Dreams journal. I have a small notebook that I write down my dreams in. I've gotten out of the habit in the last couple of years but the journal is next to my bed now, with the pencil at the ready. I know from experience that nightmares don't necessarily scare, but they are themed, and recurrent. All of the dreams that stick with me upon waking have meaning, but almost never the literal one.
The importance of journal keeping is that we always forget those small feelings and sensations, and even thoughts, but they can have a lot of influence in our lives. They can help us decide a path to take, a course of action, even how we are going to say something to someone.
I think that, as a person with OCD where food is concerned, remembering those things can help prevent a binge coming on. I overeat a lot, still, but I haven't actually binged on anything for some weeks. Maybe journaling helps me stay conscious while I'm eating.

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  a dream journal... i was thinking about having one for some time, but never did it, as a lot of things i just want to do but never do. a lot of the dreams which stick with you have meaning, because to me some of them trouble me and make me think about them for some time.
and i like the smell of coffee, but as i am one of those who can only drink it with lots of milk and sugar there is no way i will drink it now. :/

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Day 2

Monday, February 01, 2010

So, my deal is, I don't do diets. I don't count calories, I don't log calories I've burned with activity or exercise, and most of all I DO NOT control portions. It's a big step for me just to pack two nutritious snacks for my break times at work, something that's rich in protein for breakfast, and a lunch that won't make me need a nap real bad afterward.
All I'm working toward right now is eating more often. Part of perpetual hunger is that stress triggers will bring on a hunger attack. Because of my work environment, there are plenty of stress triggers! It doesn't matter whether the hunger is for the support of a friend, the feeling of having nowhere to turn to when I really really need to decompress, etc. What matters is that all those triggers add up to hunger pangs, and hunger pangs will not go away unless I stuff food into my mouth!
Nutritionally, having snacks and eating more often means I get less of the hypoglycemic responses, and I also feel the need to drink more water more often.
Eating throughout the day means that I don't feel starved in the evening, and if I don't finish my lunch food, I eat that for supper and that's pretty much a good thing.
Waking up in the middle of the night with food cravings is something that never happens to me, so that's a plus.

I did a little snowshoeing yesterday. The pack was kind of ideal and also kind of slushy-sinky, but it was all good. Dorian struggled along, and I had to eventually turn around and come back because it was tiring her out way too much. It doesn't take much for her to get a good work-out, and I am always worried that if she pushes herself too far, she'll wrench her back and spend the next few hours dealing with leg spasms. For myself, I'm feeling pretty good with my (ahem) skill so far ... as in I haven't done a face plant yet. If I had a carrier backpack, I'd just walk to the big park and snowshoe there, and take Blaze, the big dog, with me. Lazy me would prefer to drive, but parking is kind of non-existent because of the snowplow berms.

One of my frustrations, as I'm sure quite a few women understand, is that I can't seem to get out from under household chores and other demands on my time and energy in order to exercise on a routine basis. I can't ignore what needs to be done, and I already work full time in a physically demanding job. This is a huge depression trigger, unfortunately. I feel like I'm going in circles only now I am not actually doing anything along the way, just staring at all the work that needs to be done all of the time. I had a housekeeper before but I can't afford her anymore. Talk about feeling isolated!
Okay, that's about all I have to say for now.


Day 1

Sunday, January 31, 2010

I will give this a try. Not sure it will work but all I have to lose is negativity. I've been past portion-control, calorie-reduction, deprivation and all those other weight-loss methods for some years now. As a compulsive overeater, anything to do with cutting down or cutting out is a no-no. Food is love, and cannot be changed to any other thing.
As a 30-years vegetarian and counting, I've done massive amounts of research and self experimentation and have come to a very healthy way of eating for good nutrition. My problem, as such, is that I have no "off" switch to hunger, and it doesn't matter what kind of hunger it is. I drink a half-gallon of water daily at a minimum, eat a whole gamut of veg and fruits and grains, cheese for protein, and so on. I buy organic or as close to the source as possible. My New Year resolution is to eat no baked goods unless they are out of my kitchen, and thus far have stuck to it, and of course prefer my own whole-grain breads and sweets made from the best quality ingredients I can find to store-bought products.

The not so great part of life is that I'm dealing with a lot of hostility and negativity at work and it's truly time to leave that environment but of course, the economy being the way it is, finding a different job is a challenge. I persevere.
My wee dog is doing so beautifully in rehabilitating from a spinal cord injury that led to some nerve damage that looks like it will be permanent. She has a wonderful, positive attitude and is so happy and active, daily I am reminded of the courage and great spirit that keeps her going. It keeps me going, too.

I'm not here to learn what to eat or how much to eat. I live a very healthy life already. Chronic depression keeps me from being physically active with a long-term mindset, and this is what I need to overcome. I love to run, stopped ten years ago and just never got up the gumption to get back to it. I miss it greatly and all the time think of the day when I don't have to think about running because I'm out there doing it. I can't do it for me. Hopefully I can find the encouragement to make a beginning, and then take off with it, and in turn give that back to someone else in the same need.

Let's see what happens.

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DORIANSMAMA 1/31/2010 4:47PM

  Thank you all for the welcomes! Most of my adult life has been one of evolution, where nutrition is concerned. These days you'd be so amazed at how many mass-production so-called "foods" contain petroleum products or MSG or 15 different kinds of sweeteners and so on. I learned to my great disappointment that Triscuit's flavored crackers (rosemary and olive oil for instance) contain MSG!! It's plain only from now on. I can't grow what I eat, but I can be very careful in reading ingredient labels, and cook from scratch as much as possible.
I learned too that you can use honey instead of corn syrup in every recipe that calls for corn syrup. A friend of mine had gastric bypass surgery years ago and would get that dumping syndrome if she ate sugar, and her favorite sweet is pecan pie! I used honey in the recipe and the flavor is so much better plus she doesn't get that dumping going on anymore.

Since my niece started living with me, I've been energized to do more cooking, no matter what my stress level is. The dogs have to be cared for so there's no being lazy there, either.

Also got a set of snowshoes, and I really enjoy getting out there and doing that. I'm so out of shape I can't go far but in time I'll be able to start logging real distances. When the spring thaws come, then I can hopefully start running.

All those baby steps... Like shoveling snow, it seems like the goal is so far away but in time... in time the job is done until it snows again.

Momoffive, I'm sorry about your loss. Grief and sorrow are part of us, and we can't pretend that those feelings don't exist, but it is a challenge to keep them from becoming all that we are. I lost my Naya to old age (she was 17) (!!) but in two weeks she led me to Dorian, who has been my light and life ever since. It didn't keep me from crying every day for two years, but there did come that day dawning where I looked back and there was love and joy and yes sorrow but no tears. Naya still checks up on us here and then, and I know that she is happy in her new spirit place. I'm glad you're starting to branch out again, and learning how to care for and about yourself. It is okay to be your own highest priority!

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AMOMOFFIVE 1/31/2010 4:11PM

    Welcome to sparkpeople. emoticon

It's easy for one to say you can do it if they have not been in your shoes. Well, I have been there and understand what you are feeling. Almost 2 years ago I lost my husband. Now he had been ill for sometime and prior to his death I didn't even realize that I was getting depressed. He was very depressed about his illness and it was hard for me to deal with that. After his death, I was so depressed that my body ached all over. I was unable to do very much activity because it hurt to even walk around. I am thankful I had my family for support.

I started to realize that I needed to do something about it. I didn't even want to go outside the home or do anything. I was becoming a hermit. I only went out when it was necessary ie grocery shopping etc.

One of the things that helped me is to take the "t" off of "can" I would repeat the verse from the bible that says; I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me. I think we all need to find a way or a saying that replaces any negative thought so that we can become healthy in our thinking. You choose what saying will help you to overcome this.

In September I started taking a spanish class and am now in the second semester. I am having fun, have more energy, and am able to stop the negative thinking that has made me feel hopeless and helpless.

I am in my third week of Sparkpeople and it has been a positive decision for me. I pretty much tried to eat food that was healthy but slipped for several years and joined my husbands way of eating junk food. Not to the degree that he did but nevertheless I did.

Three weeks ago I started logging all my food and my goal was to get balance and good nutrition. I am leaning more abut balancing my diet now than I have before I started Sparkpeople and I am loosing weight.

I am not very good at expressing myself eloquently so I hope I have gotten the main thought across to you in this blog.

I wish you every success in this new endeavor.


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VALORI4 1/31/2010 3:53PM

    I'm learning more and more about the "Primal Blueprint" of eating. This is a book that tells us if we didn't grow it or raise it - don't eat it. I'm re-desiging the way my husband and I eat - and it's all making good sense. The less processed the better, etc. So, Getting past negative feelings at work is a hard one in this economic climate. I lost my job 7 months ago and am beginning to believe it's the best thing that ever happened to me. (Not the way it happened - just that I'm outta there). I'm going to get a routine with Sparkpeople too - so I can learn more and keep in touch. GOOD LUCK

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MILLEE42 1/31/2010 3:47PM

    Sounds like you're off to a good start and you have a plan. Welcome to sparkpeople! emoticon

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