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Sharing from In These Rooms - Honesty, Willingness, Openness

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Many of you may know me from the 12 step programs I have been active in. I freely want to share my experience, strength and hope today. And remember that there is a solution today.
HOW it works for me. Honesty, Willingness and Openness. Today I am an open book, willing to go to any lengths for my health and wellness, so that I may be of service to others. So that I may live a vibrant and happy life. For me... Honesty is absolutely critical.

Yes, it takes Willingness. And Openness which for me was very hard, as I had a lot of shame issues. But I am done with shame. I am proud today, I am in recovery from compulsive overeating. One day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time, sometimes one second at a time. I get a daily reprieve if I work it, if I put myself in my Higher Power's hands, who gives me unconditional love, always...

Yes, I once used food as a drug, as a friend who was always there for me. Such poppycock, today, food is simply food. I enjoy food. I savour it. I use it to heal my body. Yes, it is mood altering, hence I make much wiser choices today, which has given me a new found freedom.

One Day at a Time.
Lady Di

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from In These Rooms, daily meditation...

July 30
Honesty

Keeping secrets is a foolish attempt to stay safe from the truth. We tell ourselves we are sparing another person or protecting ourselves, but all too often the secrets that we keep actually keep us. What people need from me in order to make sense of me is the truth. When I withhold that truth, I withhold myself. I am creating distance that no one can cross because the way across the divide is the way of honesty. I cannot make something better by lying, and I cannot be fully understood if I won't give the benefit of the truth. I can live my life in a web of lies without ever uttering a falsehood. The web of lies is composed of not just what I say, but the vast amount of honesty that I withhold.

There is a difference between considerate honesty and aggressive frankness. Honesty recognizes the personhood of both people and is an act of trust; but too much frankness can border on mean.

I see honesty as an act of trust.

The weakness of a soul is proportionate to the number of truths that must be kept from it.
Eric Hoffer

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MPENNE 9/18/2011 4:51PM

    Such a beautiful message. Very courageous. Thanks for sharing.

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1BEARWIFE 9/18/2011 2:19PM

    I appreciate your enthusiasm. emoticon

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 9/15/2011 7:45PM

    Beautiful! Honesty and openess is where it's at. I attended OA for 2.5 years many years ago; have alot of respect for the 12 steps.

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HEALTHY156 8/19/2011 4:09PM

    Beautiful! "Secrets make you sick". This is what I told myself under hypnosis and it has really stuck with me. Thanks for sharing this insight.

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SAL1512 8/17/2011 10:52PM

    Congratulations on your new found freedoms!
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DEBIGENE 8/14/2011 4:02PM

    Honesty with yourself is the absolute 1st place to start and always be true to yourself. If you can conquer this you have won 1/2 the battle.

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SUNSETINAZ 8/14/2011 1:04PM

    Thank you. Honesty with myself is a challenge too.
After that, honesty with others.
Thank you.
Lynn

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SUNSETINAZ 8/14/2011 1:02PM

    Thank you. Honesty with myself is a challenge too.
After that, honesty with others.
Thank you.
Lynn

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SMILESRME 8/8/2011 5:10PM

    Hi Lady Di - my new sparkfriend! Thank you for sharing your heart in such a vulnerable way. May God bless you on your journey toward health and wellness. He carries your shame for you. I look forward to seeing your forward progress in this life we have!

We are rooting for you!
Joy!
Julia : )

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2BMYOWN 8/5/2011 5:49PM

    I LOVE that quote from Eric Hoffer. It is absolutely, positively true. Too much of life is deceit and delusion....and we are all in it together, for good or ill. To be alive is to have weaknesses and foibles, but we have to meet them head-on in order to ever conquer them. I sometimes think that is why we are here, really. Thank you for posting this!

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RAINBOWFALLS 8/1/2011 7:21AM

    Very nice. I love your description of honesty.

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DIVINEPRINCESS 7/31/2011 1:25PM

    Lady Di - I, too, learned the hard way through a long, painful journey that nothing in my life was ever going to change until I was WILLING to be OPEN and HONEST about who I was and where I was and how I had gotten there. I spent many, many decades in "darkness"--literally and figuratively, thinking that the darkness covered over my shame and guilt and kept others from guessing my guilty secrets. NOT!

Today I am totally transparent---an open book, like you say. And I am an entirely different person: happier than I've ever been, content, satisfied, at peace!
Charlotte

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LAMARY9 7/30/2011 6:48PM

    sobering. Thank you for sharing

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An introduction... still learning all about Spark People and what it can do for me!

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Yes, I joined Spark People many moons ago, but just never really used all the features or developed the habit of suiting up and showing up here.

I am trying to learn how to navigate around this place. There is a lot to learn, like updating my profile with my present set of circumstances and what not.

I am an open book today. I had gastric bypass back in 2007 and did not really utilize all the support that is available here and all over really. But today, I am using it all.

I have lost several hundred pounds and have 125 to go, to feel more comfortable in my skin, so to speak. I am an RN, a writer and have recently changed everything in my life. I lost my partner of 5 years and have moved from WA to Colorado to be close to family. A complete fresh start for me.

I plan on getting a total knee replacement in the next month or two so I can bicycle and just plain do more. I am swimming and doing restorative yoga, as I am differently abled with my bum knee. I also am walking.

Very conscious of what I eat today, and doing things right, listening to what I call my "little buddy", my gastric bypass. Still works, if I do not eat around it... Which means protein first, no drinking within a half hour of eating. And then veggies next. Have not met a veggie I do not like, love fruit too, but do that more in moderation. Get my hydration in, take all my vitamins. Willing to go to any lengths for my health and wellness. So I can live, so I can function, so I can be of service to others and give back to others what has been so freely given to me...

Their experience, strength and hope. Today I am in the solution and am taking action. Keeping things very simple.

Hydration
Eating Clean
Exercise
Sleep


One Day at a Time,
Lady Di

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PIP103 8/23/2011 4:54PM

    Thanks for the add. Sounds like you have a wonderful attitude. Good luck in reaching your goals I know you can do it!

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SAL1512 8/17/2011 10:51PM

    You have accomplished so much already! WOW! I just met you and I am inspired with your plan! Keep up the good work!
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DEBIGENE 8/14/2011 3:53PM

    Sounds like you have a great plan of attack, keep it in your mind at all times. Take small steps and make small goals. Welcome back, YOU CAN DO THIS !!!

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SCAROUSEL1 8/10/2011 2:22PM

    Welcome back to SparkPeople! Thanks for adding me as a friend.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 8/7/2011 11:41AM

    Cheeers to a fresh start. My sympathies on the loss of your partner.

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FITKITTYMAMA 7/31/2011 12:40AM

    You have a great plan in place! You can do this!!!

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OUTDOORGIRL69 7/30/2011 8:10PM

    You have such a good attitude. emoticon

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MRSLEENY 7/30/2011 5:13PM

    Sounds like you are having a new start all the way around. Yes, it is one day at a time. You can and will do it! I have learned not to beat myself up anymore when I eat something that I know has a ton of calories. I just make a mental note of how I feel and move on. We all have a life to live and we just need to learn to live it to it's fullest! Good luck to you!

Carlene

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HOPE2011 7/30/2011 5:05PM

    One day at a time - I need to remember that... emoticon

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BENTONHEALTHY 7/30/2011 3:24PM

    What a great attitude - keep it up.

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SAMI199 7/30/2011 3:07PM

    Hi Lady Di!
Thanks for the 411 & welcome back! You will figure it out in no time & be zipping around Sparkland like a pro. This is a great team! I friended you & hope you'll visit my page-i love company. I'm a RN,also & various other interests-I am impressed with how far you've come-it's not easy...

~Sami

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