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When We Meet Again

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Since I've started speaking to my sister again. It has weighed heavy on my mind that we need to other than communicate but we need to see each other and visit. I really didn't think that it was going to be this difficult but I guess it is.

When we talk on the phone it seems like old times. I am sure when we meet again it is going to be different. Too many years have passed and I wish that I had not let that happen but I guess was afraid, hurt, angry and unforgiving. I have learned a lot from this experience and one is to forgive. I forgive her and my other siblings. I want to move forward.

One of the issues I am sure that my sister has is her appearance. She is very vain you know but so am I. She has been on numerous medications that make her very swollen, bloated what have you. I could hear the worry in her voice when I speak to her about her medications and if her face and/or body will go down. Of course, it will. I too have changed since she last saw me. I am overweight and show signs of age.

I am unhappy to be overweight but I have to admit it. I am trying I just need to put things into perspective. I must say life can be very challenging. I pray for many things most importantly to be healthy. I do not have any real health concerns but I need to be aware.

Our meet will be just us. I am so looking forward to it. We need to catch up and know that we can be there for each other. My mom (god rest her soul) will be happy!

  
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MANDYLOVE_76 11/17/2013 3:07PM

    Glad you are back in touch with your sister. Family is so important.

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TRESSWANN 11/15/2013 5:11AM

    What I find is after I see people I haven't seen in years, the first appearance is a shock and then my mind just sees them the way we were

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JANIEWWJD 11/15/2013 2:01AM

    It's so wonderful that everything is getting better between you and your sister. God bless you both!!!!
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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/14/2013 8:48PM

    It doesn't matter what you look like - we all age. What matters is that you are sisters and need to be together. I hope you have a wonderful visit.

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KELLIEBEAN 11/14/2013 7:32PM

    I'm happy for you to be connecting again. Try not to focus on the lost time but be happy you are getting this chance now! Life is about more than our appearances. Hopefully you will both make each other feel comfortable and just enjoy being together again!

I look forward to hearing how the meet goes!

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 11/14/2013 5:16PM

    This is wonderful, best wishes with her.
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KRICKET57 11/14/2013 2:30PM

    It is good you are speaking with your sister. Life is too short not to see her. Things always seem worse in our minds than they actually are. It doesn't really matter what either of you look like, it is what is inside that counts and it is obvious there is a loving person inside you.

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_BABE_ 11/14/2013 2:06PM

    Back in the late 90's I didn't talk to my sister for two years over the stupidest thing. To be honest she was mad at me but I blame menopause for her mood ( 13 yr age difference).

Regardless she died in 2007 and I wish I had those years back now. emoticon

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KACEYSW 11/14/2013 2:00PM

    It is always a tough journey walking back into relationships. Wish you the best.

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GAL7288 11/14/2013 1:31PM

    I'm happy for you! I wish you the best when you do meet her again, but mean while it's great that you have learned to forgive and have moved past everything, it just shows how much of a strong person you have become. Changes in appearance are unavoidable, we all go through them, it's a journey and we need to accept the changes that come with it. You should be proud that you have decided to take care of yourself, it's a big accomplishment!

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COPD

Saturday, October 19, 2013

My sister whom I have been estranged from for 13 years and now have reunited with has COPD. I feel somewhat guilty for not being there for her all those years when she was abusing her health. Just hearing her cough and sounding so helpless makes me want to turn the time back. I wish there was something I could do to help her! I know that having positive thoughts and being there for her will help both of us deal with the time lost. Feeling melancholy and helpless!

  
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SUNRISE141 10/30/2013 7:58AM

    emoticon you can't change the past nor do anything about tomarrow till tomarrow just be the best christian and sister you can be and like you said be there for her. I just lost a brother 57 with copd they found him dead so cherish every day and make them good days . She might outlive you . Thank you for joining the team GOD ANSWERS PRAYER !

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/19/2013 11:10PM

    The best thing you can do for her is to pray for her and make sure she is not exposed to any smoke.

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LIVELAUFLUV 10/19/2013 8:47PM

    Take this experience and use it to help someone else. I always find that when life gives me lemons, I get a chance to teach someone else about my experience.

I have learned in this life to be healthy, to be happy and to live each day to the fullest. We only have a certain number of days in this life, and we need to enjoy each and every one of them!

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AZURELITE 10/19/2013 7:44PM

    My father has COPD. Just today, my sister helped him learn to breath with pursed lips to help him. And we've been reading about positive affirmations. We, like you, are looking for ways to help.


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TRESSWANN 10/19/2013 7:13PM

    You are there now. The past is over and gone and cannot be changed. You can make a different future

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RASPBERRY56 10/19/2013 6:46PM

    So often people think back to the past with regret, which is really a waste of time and precious emotional resources (though it is understandable).......Think of it this way - you are here for her *now* and before it becomes *too late*!

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JUNEAU2010 10/19/2013 6:00PM

    I know how you feel. My aunt was that way and it did not matter that we did not live in the same state - I still wanted to be there for her!

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Plantar Fasciitis

Thursday, July 04, 2013

I think I have plantar fasciitis - oh no so painful. How am I supposed to exercise now? I could barely walk. It comes and goes and when it comes its feels just awful. Someone told me to do stretches and apply ice. If you have any suggestions for me that would be great. I am also going to research and try to find some other options. Otherwise if this continues I may have to go to a podiatrist. Urgh!!! So not good when I am expecting company over the weekend and you know when you have a house full of people the running back and forth does not stop. So please I am praying that I could find some relief. Thanks for any suggestions!

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GOIRISHND 8/11/2013 3:10PM

    Wearing a night splint to bed helps by gently stretching your heel. It takes a few weeks but you'll wake up without pain. I have a couple different splints - one I got from my podiatrist and the other I bought at the drug store. The splint from the dr is better and provides a better flexion of the foot but the drug store one isn't that bad. I hope this helps, too! emoticon

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BEEAUTIFULDAY 7/13/2013 12:30PM

    Hey, sorry to hear about this! It's such a pain (no pun intended), I've lived with this as well, a few years ago.

The good news was that it happened because I was walking a lot (ie exercising) and getting myself moving!

I was told by my doc about the tennis ball, which helped a bit - but also used a foot massager (one of those ones where you sit and soak your feet while it vibrates) which got rid of the pain - but had to keep using every day.

I think using one of those thera-bands (like Joyce said about pilates) but using it just to stretch and strengthen your legs in bed is a good one and you're still getting some fitness into your routine.

Hope you're feelin' better soon!

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RACEWELLWON 7/13/2013 10:13AM

    Plenty of suggestions - I had that in both feet at the same time - it was awful - In 2010 I damage both legs in an accident - six surgeries to walk !! So after the casts were removed I had the Plantar in both feet - this was during transition of wheelchair to walker to crutches - anyway what I was taught by the physical therapist was to take a towel place on the floor for toe crunches. So you place your bare foot (one foot at a time) on the towel and try to pick the towel up with your toes , leaving your heel on the ground - this builds your metatarsals about fifty reps each foot a day . Another thing that helped was to place a golf ball under the foot and massage your foot rolling the ball with a little pressure - it worked for me good luck - Thanks for visiting , I am very excited about this new position , crossed fingers, hoping the eye clears - Hugs K emoticon emoticon

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CHRIAMARIA1983 7/13/2013 1:24AM

    I had problems with this for while. It was caused by improper shoes and weighing WAY too much. I started being on my feet a lot for my clinical rotation and man was it rough. I ended up taking a towel and using it to stretch the arch out. Stretching works everytime for every muscle pain. I swear by it. Even medicines, ice, or heat don't hold a candle to the power of stretching. You'll see...you keep on stetching it and you will feel much better!

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CLESHER 7/8/2013 10:19AM

    Ouch!!!... I would go to the podiatrist...

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CAROL_31649731 7/6/2013 6:23PM

    The stretching BEFORE stepping onto first thing in the AM will help the most with pain relief . . . also, I found massaging the arch really helped (because what causes plantar fasciitis is tightening of those arch ligaments). And the most important thing for me--to get it under control--was buyging New Balance shoes (#856 is designed especially for this problem). They're expensive, but since I bought them 4 years ago, I've had no more problems!!! Tried the insoles, had the cortisone shots, nothing else worked until I changed shoes. Ask your podiatrist about them, if you have to go. Hope this helps & more importantly, I hope it gets better on its own for you!

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LECATES 7/6/2013 6:34AM

    Freeze a soda bottle full of water and roll your foot over that---that really helps when painful---also bend your foot up towards your knee---do this before you go to get up---several times---and wearing shoes, not going barefoot will also help. My doctor taped my foot into the upward position for a week, then again for about 5 days, then I made sure to do those exercises and roll my foot several times a day and I did not need the shot or surgery----and it really did look like one of those huge rose thorns in my foot. You can do those exercises as many times as you can and roll your foot a lot and it will help---but the big key is flexing that foot every time before you put weight on it when sitting down---and while sitting, try keeping the foot in that upward position or flex it while you are sitting.

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KML410 7/5/2013 4:14PM

    I have had it in the past. Try to stretch you foot by placing a bath towel around your foot and pulling the toes toward you before you get out of bed in the morning. Also the tennis ball thing helps too. I did have to go to the podiatrist who gave me inserts for my shoes and that really elevated the problem. Good luck I know its painful. emoticon

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SWEETYOUNGTHING 7/5/2013 8:10AM

    I never had it but hear it's not a pleasant thing to endure. Please go to a podiatrist asap. I hope you feel better. Pat

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PHEBESS 7/5/2013 5:39AM

    I had that too - cushiony insoles help, as long as you don't walk in them a lot (can give you blisters). You can also find cushioned socks.

Sometimes, if the bruise is in one spot like on your heel, you can buy some kind of moleskin doughnut shaped thing and stick it on your foot, to alleviate pressure on the bruised part.

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TRESSWANN 7/4/2013 9:43PM

    believe I had it last year. slept with ankle brace. took months,

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MORTICIAADDAMS 7/4/2013 8:42PM

    i love my Foot Fixer and use Epsom salts in it. Usually RICE works for most orthopedic injuries.

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HAWTGRANNY2014 7/4/2013 8:14PM

    I think you warm it for about 30 to 40 seconds. I have one made of material and with rice inside. I put it in the microwave for 1 minute but it depends on how much rice you have in there and how big the sock or material is. Try it at 49 seconds and see how hot it is.

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_BABE_ 7/4/2013 6:58PM

    Always use good supportive shoes and stretch it out only when warm. If you go for a walk and as soon as you come home and take off sock roll foot on an orange juice can from concentrate that has obviously been frozen.

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LISACHOSECHANGE 7/4/2013 6:29PM

    I am so sorry. I havent had one. I hope the others have something for you.

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JESUSLIGHTSMEUP 7/4/2013 6:18PM

  emoticon I am so sorry you are going through this and I don't know anything about it.

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CRAFTSFAN1 7/4/2013 5:18PM

    I still have it, here and there but completely under control.
I went to the podiatrist;
a) He gave me a shot - I felt great, but it was short lived of course
b) Told me to use ice and massage with a tennis ball - this procedure caused me more pain. Researching the internet I learned that cold is good for inflammation and hot is relaxant. I tried hot and it really made a difference and helped me a lot to lessen the pain.
c) He gave me insoles - they are very good and I still use them.
d) He told me to avoid walking barefoot, using sandals, etc. The shoes have to have firm soles, not flexible. - At the beginning, every time that I was standing, I have to use my tennis shoes or I was unable to walk because of the pain.
e) He gave me a chart with some exercises - After about 2 weeks, I didn't feel any improvement, so I stopped them altogether. I checked in Youtube and found an exercise that was the one that really helped to heal the plantar fascia.
I'm going to try to find the address for the video, and I'll send it to you.

I recommend that you see a podiatrist to get the insoles. They are made of a sturdy plastic material.

I wish you the best. Take care of it as soon as possible, to avoid further pain. emoticon

Update - I've been trying to find the video, but there are so many, that I can't find it.
Standing up or sitting down, keep the heel touching the ground and point the toes up (lifting the front of your foot from the ground), for about 10 seconds, rest 10 seconds. I did this exercise all the time. Now, as soon I feel pain, I do it, and the pain stops.

Whatever you do with your right foot, you do it with the left.
Also, massage your calves. It seems that there is a correlation with stiff plantar fascia and stiff muscles of the calves.

A very cheap solution for hot pads:
Fill a sock with rice. Make a knot to avoid the rice to spill. Warm it in the microwave for about 20 to 40 SECONDS. Don't let it to overheat, because this is worst than burning popcorn. Apply to your foot. The rice is reusable, not for eating but to keep warming it.

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BASHELBY56 7/4/2013 4:54PM

    I had this last year and your right, it was horrible. I cut back on my walking big time,. I bought better shoes with better support, stretched and put heat and article heat on. It takes a long time to fully recover. How about writing to the coaches, I'll bet they have some good advice. Oh yeah, this year I got a hot wax machine that allows me to immerse my feet in hot wax, which helps alot!

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JOYCEE23 7/4/2013 4:10PM

  pilates on the mat does not use your feet. I started with winsor pilates. also, exercising with a large ball you sit on doesn't usually involve your feet. Swimming may work. Weight lifting for your upper body might not hurt. If these suggestions don't help keep looking around for other ideas. Good Luck! and get well soon.

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Splenda

Wednesday, July 03, 2013

I just read this article and was alarmed. I did at one time eat Splenda all the time until my own kids were warning me about it.

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles
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MANDIETERRIER1 7/5/2013 7:34PM

    I don't like splenda. My dad uses it in abundance and I can't prove there is a correlation. He has so many medical issues. He won't listen or at least reduce his use of the sweetener

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CAT-IN-CJ 7/5/2013 2:05PM

    I agree with MorticiaAdama, as a researcher, I don't trust studies like this.
With that being said, still I rarely use anything but Stevia.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 7/4/2013 8:40PM

    I don't trust studies like this. I don' use much artificial sweetener anyway.

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MJ7DM33 7/3/2013 9:09PM

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PHEBESS 7/3/2013 7:13PM

    Yeah, I try to stick with Stevia - at least it comes from a plant.

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LISACHOSECHANGE 7/3/2013 6:11PM

    I am trying to get away from all artificial sweeners. My frieds husband said if yo want a coke drink the real thing the diet stuff has too many chemicals

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BEEANDHAM 7/3/2013 3:34PM

    I am always telling my family to avoid the stuff but no one listens! Thanks for posting this!

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KNYAGENYA 7/3/2013 1:51PM

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CLESHER 7/3/2013 1:10PM

    Thst is scary thank you for sharing...my husband gets really bad stomache aches if he eats splenda...

Back in AP chemisty in high school, my teacher warned us about all sugar substitutes..he said about 20 years after they come out science realizes they are bad for you...it is best to stick to natural sugar cane...and even better yet, honey....


Thank you for thinking of us all....we want to be healthy but no need to posion our bodies with substitues that can cause disease and complications later in life...

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Unwanted

Saturday, June 08, 2013

What a horrible feeling for one person to have to feel much less a bunch. There are kids who feel unwanted, parents, girlfriends, boyfriends even our most favorite animals are unwanted at some time in their lives. When you thnk about what a horrible feeling to feel.

Have you ever felt that way? I never ever want to make someone feel unwanted that they feel like nobody almost worthless to the other person. What do we do about that? Is there anything we can do to make ourselves count? Is there?

  
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MWWENSIN 6/22/2013 8:30PM

    i agree with everyone else who says you must love youself first

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PONYFARMER 6/12/2013 7:17PM

    Great topic!

I like SARAHTAIT live alone, well except for my dog and new kitten. They do help me to feel wanted but I think the biggest change in my life is that as I grow closer to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I find that I am not only wanted but loved beyond measure, even unto His death for me and others like me.

There are times when the evil one will scream at me that I am worthless and no one wants me, exibit A you live alone, dah! But I just yell back to get out of my dwelling by the blood that saved me and immediately I am reminded that I am not alone.

I know some will read this and think religious nut alert, but I chalk that up to not knowing. I used to be one of the non-knowing and I was alone and scared and felt hopeless. Not any more, I have a great hope. I may still be alone but I will never feel UNWANTED and I look forward to eternity.

God bless you all. Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." I hope those who don't have the peace that I have found, can eventually find it.

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SARAHTAIT 6/12/2013 6:50PM

    I often feel alone and unwanted. I was adopted as an infant by my birth moms sister. Long story. But I lost my husband in 2011 and live alone so it is hard to feel wanted when you live by yourself....

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2BMYOWN 6/11/2013 1:03AM

    It's a sad ol' world, isn't it, Diana? I came into this life being unwanted, and it left a mark for a very, very long time. But you know.....I finally realized one day that my own thinking kind of 'put me there', if you know what I mean. I did some very foolish things along this road, and the day finally came that I realized that I did them as a direct result of trying to fill that 'unwanted' hole that I perceived in my own soul....but that the reason that hole was there to begin with was not because nobody wanted me, per se, but because I allowed the fact that nobody did to affect my own opinion of myself...and I became a person who spent the next almost 50 years seeking that love, acceptance, or whatever from other people, but never developed it for myself in any genuine way....which was the ULTIMATE problem. I finally realized that it did not matter if nobody wanted me, or loved me, or whatever....but that if I loved myself, everything else would fall into place. And I have found that to be the ultimate truth, when it was all said and done. It is true that we live in a fractured and uncaring world....we are all treated as commodities by our employers, by corporations, by our own politicians, etc. In this world, and in this nation, the only thing that really 'matters' to most big entities is the money in your pocket, and not you at all...or the money that they can make as a result of your labors for them. That is just the way it is. I believe the ONLY answer to it all is merely to concentrate on doing the best you can to improve your own small sphere of influence.....by treating others as tho they matter, by doing what is right, and by loving yourself even when nobody else pays you the least bit of mind at all. To see a need in your own particular area, and do what you can to fill that need. When it's all said and done, nobody can 'fix' ALL of the heartbreak that is associated with this life and this world...but you CAN do what you can do in your own little spot of it.

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NOMADATORES 6/10/2013 6:23AM

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RR1_RR1 6/9/2013 12:10PM

    I know I feel this way about jobs all the time- especially my current one as my boss constantly makes me feel unwelcome. I also used to feel I was unwanted by men. And I sense my boyfriend feels unwanted by me too- but sometimes he asks way too much of me(now he's asking for me to take care of him financially and I don't even have a perm job and Im starting to feel like his mother!)..and I feel bad but its hard to know the right thing to do when someone is so dependent on you that it starts getting a little much. ok thanks for listening lol.

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ENCHANTEDBROOM 6/9/2013 1:19AM

    I try to make everyone I know or meet feel wanted. This has come back to me in so many positive ways. As far as the animals go, just ask Katie Blu one of my dogs and Dude the cat, they were both special needs: needed love so that's why they have been with all these years and trust me on this they have returned that love.

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TERRY0217 6/8/2013 11:15PM

    I also know that feeling...I had to decide that something in their lives caused them to act in an unloving way...I do the best I can....that's all I can do..

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FENWAYGIRL18 6/8/2013 11:10PM

    Oh god I know the feeling from my parents and siblings, I've come to the conclusion that they are just miserable and don't have any love to give unless it is to themselves. I use to try everything to be accepted, but I've realized it's not me its them and I can't change them so I have to walk away and be myself and know I'm someone worth loving and caring for thank god I have a very loving hubby and son that have opened my eyes to what real love is all about...... emoticon

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SUECHRIS50 6/8/2013 11:09PM

    I know exactly what you mean,just keep loving yourself!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 6/8/2013 10:42PM

    I think most people have felt this way at some point in their life. I know I have. We have to learn to value ourselves.

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STEVEN_D 6/8/2013 10:34PM

    Just being you counts-

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