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Are you afraid to try or are you afraid to fail

Wednesday, November 09, 2011

What Spark People has to say about it:

A well-lived life is not for the timid. The world was never meant to be approached with extra caution and fear of making mistakes. Kids know that you have to jump in feet first and be willing to take some lumps on the head if you're going to have any fun. When did we stop trying new things? Why did we stop taking risks? In large part, we're afraid of messing up. We've settled into our comfort zones and don't want to look like a fool to ourselves or others. What's the price we pay for our pursuit of perfection? No growth, no sense of discovery, few real experiences. The sacrifice isn't worth it. Are there points in your life that you wish you could have back because you didn't pursue an idea or a new interest? Those chances are gone forever--but you'll have more in the future to take full advantage of. It's been said that most people don't learn much that's new past their 20s. That's an awful long time to stay stagnant. The only mistake you should be afraid to make is not trying.

My take on how I feel about it
There are so many things I have stopped trying and of course I blame my weight. emoticon Iím too heavy to ride a roller coaster.
emoticon It hurts too much to walk for several miles (On my defense I have had one knee replacement already because of bone-on-bone syndrome).
emoticon I have a hard time fitting in booths so I opt for chairs instead.

emoticon I donít do this, I canít do that.

The list could go on for days. So why canít I take this opportunity and try something new?

Read a new book, Try a new food out, A new hair style, I might even get adventurous and try out a new exercise I didnít think I could do. (You know the ones Iím talking about, getting down and dirty on the floor)

The list can go on and on.

My affirmation to myself is

ďI will try something new each monthĒ

Perhaps I will even blog about it. How about you? Are you willing to join me?


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ROSEWCI 11/11/2011 5:58AM

    I'm with you! emoticon

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RUBYTWOSDAY 11/9/2011 8:19AM

    I have always been a firm believer that change keeps us young and vibrant. But, like you, I have problems changing my lifestyle. Lets make a commitment to make one change, no matter how small, every week. Now, if only I could get rid of my fear of failing!

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LUCYVT 11/9/2011 6:47AM

    as they say if you don't succeed try & try again

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Living according to your true values

Tuesday, November 08, 2011

The best intentions matter little if your daily life doesn't reflect those values. How can you make sure that your thoughts and actions match? Good or bad, your values are shaped by your actions just as much as they do the shaping. Actions that are true to your values build a stronger personal foundation that others can see. Why are the memories of our greatest personal and public heroes so powerful and timeless, long after they're gone? They stood for something. They were living, breathing examples of the values they prized. It takes courage, a belief in yourself and strong determination. But it can be done. Do one thing today that shows the world what you believe. Do one thing that you know is right. Do one thing that would make your hero smile. (Sparkpeople's journal for 11/08/11)


Values are about how we have learned to think things ought to be or people ought to behave, especially in terms of qualities such as honesty, integrity and openness

What Do You Believe About Yourself?

Many of the limitations you face in life are self-imposed. What you believe about yourself can keep you locked behind your fears or thrust you forward into living your dreams.

"We are what we think," taught Buddha.

"Change your thinking, change your life," said Ernest Holmes.

"If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, you're right," advised Mark Twain.

Starting With the Right Mindset

Think of yourself as a work in progress. Actually, we all are.

If you stop learning and improving yourself you stop creating history and become history.

Remember too especially with weight loss:


emoticon Donna

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    One day at a time! That's how we do it!

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    Love your blog, thank you for sharing it with your friends!
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Monday Motivation ~ Intentions or Wishes

Monday, November 07, 2011

Have you ever wished for something that didn't happen, even if it felt like the right thing to wish for? For example, let's say that you wished to go to a particular spot for vacation; or you wished that you had a college degree; or you wished that you had a better job.

Why is it that these wishes do not come true? Is it because they are wishes, rather than intentions? An intention carries with it a great deal of power. For example, if you intend to do something, your body will respond more intensely than if you merely wish for something. Intentions feel much more forceful, both mentally and physically, than merely wishing.

What happens when you have an intention? You make a decision that you want something, and you intend to have it. When we make a decision, and therefore an intention, it seems to rest comfortably in the back of our mind. It allows us to relax, knowing that because we have this definiteness of purpose it will happen for us in the right and perfect way, and without the need to force things to happen. Interestingly enough, a level of confidence that is satisfying accompanies our statement of intention.

What's the difference between having an intention and wishing for something? The difference is that wishing is more emotionally based and, therefore, is subject to the up's and down's of our emotions of fear, frustration, and disappointment. It also includes anxieties that stem from our need to control things. Wishing just feels different than intention.

Let's try an experiment. Think about something that you would like to do or have? How much do you desire this? How important is it to you? Will it improve the quality of your life? If so, make the statement, "I intend toÖ (fill in the blank)." As an example, let's say that you want to go to Hawaii on vacation and you say, "I wish that I could go to Hawaii." How does that feel? Now make the statement, "I intend to go to Hawaii." Do you notice a difference between the feelings generated by making one statement versus the other? Does one make you feel more confident (and therefore more likely to occur) than the other statement?

So, how does making an intention work? Through definiteness of mind, as manifested through making an intention, you make up your mind that you want something to occur. You may find these things will occur without you forcing them to happen. You simply said, "I intend to go to Hawaii" and those words attract whatever is necessary to make this happen for you. It is not your business to figure out exactly how it will happen, but only to be on the lookout for, recognize, and respond to the opportunities that come your way.

How you get your trip to Hawaii may come through unusual circumstances or opportunities. For example, you may win a free trip in a sweepstakes or through your job, or you may have an opportunity to work your way to Hawaii. Perhaps friends living in Hawaii will contact you and say, "Come spend a week with us in Hawaii. We have frequent flyer miles and we will fly you over." There is no way of knowing how this will come about.

Now compare this to wishing. "I wish that I could go to Hawaii." This wishy-washy statement sounds half-hearted and not at all convincing. It also leaves you lots of escape routes such as, "Nothing good ever happens to me" or "See I told you, I would never get to go" or other such statements. Not being definite will keep you from looking for or recognizing opportunities that come your way because you do not believe it could happen for you.

Look around you. Are there people who seem to have it all? Are they wishers or doers? The fruits of life belong to those who move beyond merely wishing to being decisive, confident, and with intentions.

Affirmation for the Week:

"I will give up wishing and I will take up making intentions. I am determined to have those things that will enhance the happiness and success of my life."

Have a fully-intentioned life!

Written by: Mary Rau-Foster

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ROSEWCI 11/11/2011 6:02AM

    Set goals! Then intend to reach them! It's that simple!

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    Thank you. I intend to lose weight. There! emoticon

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    Great blog, you are good at this! Thank you for being such an inspiration!

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    Nice blog.

Good luck with staying focused and reaching your goals...

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  I belive that if I want it bad enough I will work for it

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Playing To Your Strengths

Sunday, November 06, 2011

It's tempting isn't it? It's so much easier to see what's wrong with yourself and your life than to take advantage of what's right. The problem is, too much focus on the negative can affect your attitude and opinion of yourself. It's a quick road to burnout. While it's important to pay attention to things you can improve, your best bet for a breakthrough lies in maximizing what you're already good at. The secret is to use those strengths to help boost yourself up where you need the help. What are your major talents? What do you have a special knack for? Set specific goals to improve those talents and don't fret as much about your weak spots. They'll get the extra help they need as you climb higher.

My reflections: It is certainly tempting to play off of our weakness vs our strengths. I know during my job evaluation I'm always asked to list three of my strengths. I have to sit and think and think. I shouldn't have to do that. I have been at my job for 21 years. I love it. It's a great place to work, very homey and very team oriented. I'm part of that team.

I think one of the reasons we have a hard time playing off of our strengths is because it makes us look like we are know-it-all. It's like giving yourself a hardy pat on the back. You know what I mean? It makes me feel self-centered.

I do have some major talents. Talents that my co-workers don't have. But they don't have anything to do with my job performance.

So what are a few of my strengths in my work field?
1. I'm a good listener
2. I can multitask
3. I have a good attendance record
4. I am the go-to-person in the area I work
5. I love my job

Strengths outside of work
1. I write poetry and have won contests and poet of the year
2. I write songs and have had them put to music
3. I have been asked to sing lead songs on another person's CD they had published
4. I love my family
5. I love my boyfriend and work very hard on our relationship

Strengths where my health are concerned
1. I have determination to lose this weight
2. I am eating healthier than I did a year ago
3. I am exercising more than I was a year ago
4. I have met many courageous people along my journey here at SP
5. I know I will succeed this time because the drive is there and I have made up my mind.

What are some of your strengths & weakness? Can you name 5 in each category?

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Are you paying attention to how your time is spent?

Saturday, November 05, 2011

Yep I sure am. I am the master of time. That is one thing when I was a young mom (age 17) I learned how to do. Juggling high school, a job and raising a baby, you learn quickly.

This continued on with my job as well. I've been there 21 years and believe me you have to learn to judge/pay attention to your time or you will lose hours that are needed to complete any given task.

I am also learning now to make sure my time is adding time for spark people and preparing meals in advance and exercising daily. Before when it came to this I would say "There just isn't enough timeĒ Now I make the time for me. And to me that is important. I am the only one that can do this for me and I'm finally doing it.

WooHoo... For being a time saver. ~ Donna

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