Wednesday, January 26, 2011
When I got tired of being a doormat is a phrase that you may have heard many people saying or may have even said yourself. No one likes being a doormat for anyone, but there are too many people that allow this to happen to themselves.
You can prevent yourself from being a doormat by taking back control of your life. There are some essential steps that you need to take in order to completely take back control of your life.
Here are the steps that will prevent you from being a doormat and allow you to also start feeling empowered and in control of your life again.
1. Use your voice to speak up - Don't just sit quietly and do what others ask you to do all the time. If you don't want to or can't do something, then speak up and let them know. Tell them that you are willing to help them out once in a while, but not every time they need something.
When people know that you can be relied on, but that you can't be stepped on, they will respect that and you for letting them know. If they don't, then you may not want to be around that person anymore anyway.
2. Treat yourself well and others will to - When you treat yourself good, others will also. In other words, if you are always putting yourself down, then others will start to believe that about you also.
Start thinking positive all the time and get rid of negative thoughts. Also, treat yourself with the respect that you deserve and others will follow suit. They treat you as you allow yourself to be treated.
3. Don't let others dictate your life - Being a doormat means that you are letting others tell you what to do and when to do it all the time. Stop others from dictating your life by taking back control of your life and using the other things above. When others know you are in charge of your own life they won't be able to use you as a doormat anymore.
Now that you know how to prevent yourself from being a doormat, you can help others once you have achieved this goal. This will help you and others see how they can prevent themselves from taking advantage of them and help you start feeling better about yourself and you can feel more empowered.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Women have strengths that amaze men. They
carry children, they carry hardships, they carry
burdens but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream. They
sing when they want to cry. They cry when they
are happy and laugh when they are nervous.
Women wait by the phone for a "safe at home
call" from a friend after a snowy drive home.
Women have special qualities about them. They
volunteer for good causes. They are pink ladies
in hospitals, they bring food to shut ins. They are
childcare workers, executives, attorneys, stay-
at-home moms, biker babes and your neighbors.
They wear suits, jeans, and they wear uniforms.
They fight for what they believe in. They stand up
for injustice. They are in the front row at PTA
meetings They vote for the person that will do
the best job for family issues. They walk and talk
the extra mile to get their children in the right
schools and for getting their family the right
healthcare. They write to the editor, their
congressmen and to the "powers that be" for
things that make for a better life. They don't take
"no" for an answer when they believe there is
a better solution.
They stick a love note in their husband's lunch
box. They do without new shoes so their children
can have them. They go to the doctor with a
frightened friend. They love unconditionally.
Women are honest, loyal, and forgiving. They
are smart, knowing that knowledge is power.
But they still know how to use their softer side
to make a point. Women want to be the best for
their family, their friends, and themselves.
They cry when their children excel and cheer
when their friends get awards. They are happy
when they hear about a birth or a new marriage.
Their hearts break when a friend dies. They have
sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they
are strong when they think there is no strength
left. A woman's touch can cure any ailment.
They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a
broken heart. A woman can make a romantic
Women come in all sizes, in all colors and
shapes. They live in homes, apartments and
cabins. They drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you. The
heart of a woman is what makes the world spin!
Women do more than just give birth. They bring
joy and hope. They give compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
And all they want back is a hug, a smile and for
you to do the same to people you come in contact
with. Women have a lot to say and a lot to give.
This is a note of appreciation to some wonderful women...
Monday, January 24, 2011
The circus elephant demonstrates what happens to us when we become tied to a habit. When an elephant is a baby, a strong chain is applied to one leg to keep it within a certain range. The baby elephant pulls against the chain, trying to escape, but is unable to do so. After many attempts, the baby elephant finally realizes that she will not be able to break the chain and so does not continue to pull at it.
As an adult, the elephant needs only to be restrained by a small chain that could be easily broken by the very strong elephant. However, she doesn't even try and remains within a limited circle. She has been fooled into thinking that she is limited to this small area and does not attempt to push beyond it.
This scenario demonstrates how we are restrained by our habits and limited thinking. When we meet resistance often enough, we begin to assume that our world is limited. Like the elephant, we are fooled into thinking that we are restricted to a certain lifestyle, because we have become accustomed to it.
Are you tied to old ideas and old thought processes? Do you believe that you must remain stuck in a confining, unsatisfying job merely because you have roped yourself into believing that you can't get promoted? Have you tied yourself up with the belief that this is all there is to life? Have you restricted yourself because you believe that as you get older, your body doesn't work as well as it used to?
Have you limited yourself in other ways, because your habitual thinking has imprisoned you in a cell with a window that only allows you to gaze upon a more desirable world? If so, do you really want to be confined to this very limited space, or do you want to advance to that which you desire?
It can be done! How? By recognizing that you are the one who accepted the restraints and you are the one who must remove them. It begins by asking yourself, "What do I really want and what am I willing to do about it?" If you feel resistant to making changes in your life, ask yourself what you will gain by remaining tied to the current circumstances. Then ask yourself how your life would change if you broke through the resistance and moved on to a different way of being or living.
Desire and imagination are the tools that will free us from an undesirable situation. This is the truth, and the truth shall set you free.
Affirmation for the Week:
"I break away from those chains that bind me to an unhappy situation in my life. I use the tools of desire and imagination to provide me with freedom from the prison of limited and habitual negative thinking. I am pulling up stakes and moving on to a better life and a more joy-filled situation."
Have a free-filling week!
Borrowed from Motivational Monday
Sunday, January 23, 2011
You should be super excited by now. You know what you want to do, and you are discovering how to do it. You are on a roll.
Before you devise a plan to realize your dream, solicit an accountability partner to be in agreement with you concerning your goals. An accountability partner will not only be in agreement with you, but will also hold you accountable to your commitment to get to your dream.
Just one more step to get you off and running.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Do you ever feel uninspired? How about when you are faced with deadlines and expectations?
Using a creative process can be a life-saver when you have a deadline or feel hopelessly stuck and just can’t seem to get inspired. There is no shortage of creative processes to choose from, and I offer this one as an example, however, feel free to modify it to suit you or pick a different one that resonates with you.
The creative process I chose to use has the following outline:
• define the issue or problem
“Creativity can solve almost any problem. The creative act, the defeat of habit by originality, overcomes everything.”–George Lois
Most highly productive creative people use some form of Creative Process.
Preparation– Define the issue or problem.
The first action that we take to seed our creativity, get unstuck, and put us in the empowered position of being able to solve our issue is simply to define the issue or problem. Our issue may be the lack of ideas for the blank canvas sitting in the studio, or it could be the fact that we work twice the number of hours a week that we want too.
This process is not just applicable to our creative practice, it can help us to come up with solutions to issues related to work, our relationships, our lifestyle and basically any area that we feel stuck. There can be numerous problems that keep us stuck, so we may find ourselves going through this process several times, solving different problems or coming up with solutions for new projects each time.
To me, the greatest benefit of the creative process is that the solutions that we come up with are uniquely our own, so we are more likely to follow through with them, rather then trying to put on someone else’s solution,which may not be a good fit for us. I think this is what sometimes happens when we take courses and read books to help us make changes in our life. We want the outcome that we think the course or book will give us, only to be disappointed that it doesn’t feel right for us, and if we experience any change at all it is not to the magnitude that we had hoped for. The solutions that we create will usually feel like a great fit and we will be much more committed to them.
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