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Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Last weekend, I was cleaning out all my stationary and postcards and I had this thought ---- why don't I send inspiration to sparkfriends. Then I thought why don't I start a team that is focused on supporting one another by sending short notes in stationary or postcards. What is it to spend $1 a week to send a random note to someone. This note could be touching them when they need it most, when they feel like no one is listening, when they feel like they can't do it and they haven't even logging in to sparkpeople today.

I was thinking I should make it private to keep any personal information keep locked down.
It can become a very personal thing to take a moment out of your life to send something to someone else. It fosters gratitude and the idea of passing it on.

If you love to write, love quotes, love stationary, love to send or receive snail mail, want to share motivational emails, etc, send me mail and I will send an invite!!!

Maybe I can find great homes for all my stationary!!! :)

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DEVOTEEOFISET 5/26/2010 9:37AM

    I love you Amy and Jackie!!! With support like you two, I should be a size 6 now. What am I waiting for???

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FINDINGMYWAY09 5/25/2010 9:06PM

    lol Erica you are awesome!

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DEVOTEEOFISET 5/25/2010 8:56PM

    lol ~ :O

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XENAMY 5/25/2010 8:25PM

  Reason #284 that I love this chick.... she spells the word stationary correctly.

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In regards to love relationships

Saturday, May 22, 2010

The more I travel out of my comfort zone....

The more I travel deep within myself and explore what is there....

The more people I reach out to meet....

The more I fall in love.

There are so many interesting, strong, capable men who are full of ideas, passion...
Of course they are all taken but that is a good thing because it teaches me

that you can fall in love unconditionally
that you can love and fall in love with all types of people
that you can trust that if there are this many wonderful men out there, there just might be a great love out there for you.
that life is about now and experience and not about set relationships and that they need to end and begin and last forever and be monogamous.

I am still about monogamy but it opens up the mind and the heart to not needing to have this
control over any part of love.

It also teaches me to allow life to unfold as it will and not force something or chase or lust after anything.

Everything needed comes.

Just become more aware of the love around and enjoy the amount of really great people who are living in the world today.

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SKINNYROBIN100 5/23/2010 6:57PM

    I can find him if I take the time NOT to look!! I will meet him,when my stars and his are next to each other, I am patient, cause he is being patient too!!! I love your words. They bring hope and knowledge so when you meet, nothing can keep you apart. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    *grins* you sooooooooo get it.

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NEEBREW 5/22/2010 10:57AM

    I spent a LONG time looking for that "one." What I found is that I surround myself with people who offer "pieces" of what I need. No one person has everything. One person offers inspiration, another comic relief, and everyone offers love. I hope in return I can offer them something of myself that they need or enjoy. I feel that expecting everything from one person (other than yourself) leads to unreal expectations and disappointment. Can you tell I'm not a romantic?

What I'm trying to say is that if you feel a "void" then you need to fill it with your OWN passions. THAT is the key. If you love to write, then write. And write. And write. When you follow your passions and your passion-oriented goals, you will feel like you are living the life you are suppose to. It is okay to be selfish because then you will grow and have so much more to offer.

Renee :)

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FINDINGMYWAY09 5/22/2010 9:50AM

    You need to listen to the song "Haven't met you yet" thats what I play! I met my dream guy but he breaks rules 1 and 2 of Garcin rules (kinda like gibbs from NCIS)

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Thursday, May 20, 2010

I am a planner. I like to think of something nice to do and do it. I like to experience as much as possible and grow.

People around me don't plan, don't want to plan, and want to do everything last minute.
This usually hurts me more because I am the one who pays for rooms, travel, and am usually the one travelling so time off etc.

If I don't plan anything, no one wants to do anything. If I plan to go somewhere, that is when people plan things and then make me feel bad I can't come.

This hurts my people pleasing mentality. IE I want to take a tennis lesson. A handful of friends say oh yeah, I really want to do that. I want to go. Let me know when you go I want to go. If I wait for them, it never happens. If I just do it, they then get mad because they can't do it when I planned. BUT IT WAS PLANNED. YOU KNEW!

So I have a tennis lesson this saturday. It is paid and booked. Everyone is coming out of the woodwork to do things. And I feel bad I can't. But what about the other 3 weekends? What about me asking you? sending emails? nudging you? And no response....

Now I know why I don't call people, keep in touch, or plan things to do with you - Because you don't.

I am finally going to fight for myself. I am going to make plans. And if another plan comes up, I am not going to switch even if it seems more desireable. I am going to stick to my guns. I think this will help me build follow through and a stronger self character.

Do what I say I am going to do.
Yeah well. Obviously if people really wanted to do something with me, they would SOLIDIFY IT, just like they say with a dude.

If he likes you, he will secure that first date, that second date.
I am not going to worry about it anymore.

My plans are my plans and I am sorry if that doesn't fit in with the rest of the world, the group, etc.

I need to work on following through with everything and staying true to myself and listening to myself. It sucks sometimes to do what you say you were going to do but it feels better deep down then being strung along.

I say follow your heart, your instincts, your inside silent voice.
Watch and Listen.
And if people aren't giving you an equal due, don't worry, fret, or give them power.
Just do your thing and shine.

I gotta learn to shine.

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KATELOSS2009 5/20/2010 12:52PM

    I'm with you - I'm such a planner... (it's even in my job title... LOL...)

I'll bet that, as you go ahead with the things you've planned, you'll meet other folks who may be more like you than your other friends... not to say that "like-minded" is the only friend group to have - we grow from being with people who differ from us - but like-minded is where we can relax... where we can just be ourselves... I think you need more of that. (after all, I think "yourself" is a pretty cool chick.)

so go. Be YOU. true friends, different or the same, will stay. lesser friends won't, and that's ok.


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    shiny rocks!!! :)

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ROCKINFOX 5/20/2010 10:26AM

    There are some things that I will plan on and others that will be at the last minute. It is frustrating when you try to plan things and then people bail out. My roommate has this problem with people, she will plan on doing something and then they will flake out on her. I'd say go ahead and do your thing. If your friends get mad then let them. They know you are a planner and should respect you in that sense. I hope you enjoy your tennis lessons...maybe you'll meet other planners. emoticon emoticon

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CECE0330 5/20/2010 10:11AM

    I can relate. I'm a planner for sure, and used to feel let down when I would plan on something, and people wouldn't follow through. I've gotten over that though, and focus on MY needs more. It's not always easy, because I am a people pleaser as well, but there's only so much you can do for others, you know?

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Erica's Blueprint to the Swoosh

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

So I heard reasons are the fuel in the furnace of achievement - Brian Tracy.

As I was making my blueprint tonight, I thought instead of focusing on a goal like losing weight, eating right, writing a book. I tend to get overwhelmed by the sheer task, I put out a lot of effort and then fall down and I fear success, I fear failure, I fear, I repress BLAH!

So..... I will focus on cultivation. I will focus on Awareness and Listening. I will keep my blueprint with me all day. I will work on incremental goals and I will work on progress in each areas.

And instead of focusing on the goal. I am going to focus on the reasons or the aspects of the goals themselves.

When I want to fudge or slip, I will decide the obstacle and note it in my book. I will read my reason list, I will make adjustments. I am also adding passages, quotes, and other tricks to keep myself motivated and to do prior to quitting or giving up.

My first goal is to be healthy and toned.
My second goal is to be and feel like a writer. To finish at least the one book in my head.
My third goal is to live in such a way each day that I am cultivating organization, "on"ness - with it attitude, creativity, and awareness.

How I listed my goals (abbreviated.....)

Goal One:
To look great dancing.
To attract my husband.
To have stamina.
To be a flowing energetic individual.
To show Erica inside personality outside.
To have sex and feel sexy.
To look good when I see my ex.
To do more photo modeling.
To feel comfortable when I share ideas.
To feel confident when I meet new people.
To take part in a dancing competition..... YADDA.

so if I focus on each day cultivating these things, thinking of these goals, adding to the list as they come up.. They are all code for lose weight. They are all reasons to lose weight.
But I just focus on my fat butt and exercise and do this and you look horrible and do this.

I get so overwhelmed and I feel like crap and then I work really hard and I decide screw this I deserve to feel good so I pop in a movie and some crap food and "relax and reward" myself.

But if I focus 1. on the reasons instead of the goal. If I focus on the end game. It will be harder to push off 25 reasons for one goal than to push aside one thought of losing weight.
Plus it forces me to remember that this is a connecting goal and it affects my whole life and health. That it isn't about this one situation and moment. It is about the intense conviction and desire to BE ERICA and HAVE THIS LIFE.
The weight is just one small part.

I will keep my blue print with me and the detail for all my goals. I will focus on daily execution of a few tasks and then adding more and keeping myself organized and clear. I will add more activities that keep me connected to my heart.

I am going to work on my blueprint, honing, adding and playing and I will just keep working with it. Just like people have business plans. I will have a life plan. I will dream and visualize and I will play and cultivate. I will hold myself accountable.

I do love love. I want to look into someones eyes again and see something more. I want to feel a connection. I want to share and laugh and be.
I want to do so many things.

But I am also coming to the realization that today is it. Today is all there is.
If I were to pass away, I want to live it with Erica moments and intensity.

I am life. I am love. I want to share my ideas and cultivate and slip in the melody of the void.
Messy love. Messy life. Colors bleeding into desires.
Passion leading me to the doorway.
Only your lips keep me here.
Somewhere I will find you in the field.
Into me. Into you. We are one.

"You've gotten into my bloodstream. I can feel you flowing in me." - Bloodstream by Stateless

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FINDINGMYWAY09 5/19/2010 7:44AM

    I have to agree with Clearly your blogs are amazing.

Also some of your goals are the same as mine I don't want to join a dance competition but all the others (ok and maybe not the photo) are just along with you! So just remember you are not alone!

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    reading your post is like being on a great amusement park thrills me, makes me smile, builds such anticipation to see you work your magic on this world. i am glad i got a good seat....i don't wanna miss seeing that happen. :)

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Persistence is the measure of your belief in yourself.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

"I have been here many times before.... I hurt myself again today." SIA

I can tell I am repressed in so many ways. I watch myself repress all day long.
Another way I can tell, when I exercise or listen to leadership/motivation audio books, I have an ugly cry. I can't suppress it. It comes up under your skin and it feels like you are bringing out demons.

I sat at lunch today in the car alone in a deserted yet busy parking lot.
I started listening to Brian Tracy's How to Set and Achieve Goals and I just started to have an ugly sob.

****Until you desire... Until you hunger for something as much as you hunger for oxygen.... or
---- that pizza, that weakness food.... What do you crave? Until you desire the change, event, etc as much or more than that.... you won't succeed.

****He mentioned that if you focus on too big of a goal it can actually be demotivational.

****Reasons are the fuel in the furnace of achievement.
More Reasons, Greater the Motivation

"I have lost myself again today." - SIA

I think I am ready to walk on my own two feet out the door of my ego and into the arms of the universe.

"A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd."
Max Lucado

My game plan to encourage daily progress chipping away at tasks, building a bank full of healthy days of food intake and exercise.

Awareness and Listening.
Sucking it up.
Eating the Frog.
Ripping off the Band-Aid.

Belief is a big must for you to achieve your goals. Do you believe it? Is it believable? Can you fake it til you make it?

If you have too big of a goal, it will be demotivational instead of inspirational. Look at your actions. If you are working toward your goal you believe it. If you aren't working toward your goal, look to your beliefs. Actions don't lie.

"You have gotten into my bloodstream. I can feel you flowing." - Bloodstream by Stateless

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7KG6DA7 5/22/2010 9:19AM

    Remember to stay focused on your goals and on your weight loss and everything else will fall into place for you ! Life is too short to be thinking down about things ! Best of luck !

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DEVOTEEOFISET 5/19/2010 12:34PM

    I was raised that way. But I am trying to learn when to share, and when it isn't appropriate and allow my feelings to go somewhere, live somewhere because otherwise they turn on you.

Blogging is a great release. I think you are doing great Jackie, with you moving and grooving everything will balance out. Plus the motivation to get into school will keep you motivated to keep progressing. Stick with MA and I am sure you will bounce through a plateau and starting going down again.
Plus you will be more toned hehehe

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FINDINGMYWAY09 5/19/2010 7:40AM

    I think the reason why my weight loss is at a stand still is due to the fact that I want to get into school more than lose the weight although it will make me more confident hmmmm maybe I should work on those hand in hand.....

I'm sorry you feel repressed why do you feel this way?

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