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I have a Magnesium Deficiency

Thursday, November 19, 2009

I was having chest pain and went to the ER. It showed I had a small amount of heart enyzmes in my blood that only leak out when the heart is in distress. They think my pain is from worsening asthma and magnesium deficiency.

When my blood work came back, my magnesium was dangerously low. I started tracking magnesium in my workout. I am going to see if I can get a capsule but mostly I am going to have to take Epson Salt baths every night. When I read up on it, I can't believe how much it seems to be a lot of my problems. It is very common that people are deficient in America. I don't know why it is attacking me. But I am optimistic that if I can get my magnesium under control, my other problems will lessen.

And losing the weight I am sure will help a lot too.

oooo I just found out I can make a cream. I will do that too!

Vitamins are so interesting. I guess I will have to try to really get those green veges in too!


Sheesh - Advice Requested - But this is long

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Okay let me try to break this down and depersonalize this issue.

Employee One: Started with the company 6/3/09.
Her Duties: Answer the phone, handle billing calls, mail invoices, cancel accounts, make changes to accounts, call delinquent customers and credit card declines

Occasionally: She will QC a website for accuracy or populate a contract in a template.

Notes: She is on AIM and/or FACEBOOK 8 hours a day. She usually has 3 billing windows open, and a facebook, aim, and another fun website

She also just got assigned to for 1 hour a day monitor the video surveillance video.

Employee Two:
Started with the company 10/15/07.
Her Duties: Cover Billing Department and all duties when rep is at lunch or out.
Prepares almost all contracts, receives, processes, inputs and files.
Makes all kinds of appointments for CEO, COO.
Takes the brunt and responsibility for front office in general.
Keeps all kinds of records for the company - go to person (software library, licenses, keys, supplies, forms, etc.)
Daily reviews all kinds of government and contracting websites for proposals.
Double checks Employee One's work, helps her out, completes harder billing breakdowns for her.
Ships UPS/FED EX - Go to person.
Runs the Morning Credit Card Batch.
Filing, Copying, Printing, Faxing
Preparing and documenting emails from legal cases for our files.
Travel arrangements
Handles Vacation Calendar, Equipment returns
Does anything the Director, CEO, COO, VP of Sales, Accountant or any other co-worker might need throughout the day in a timely fashion.
This person usually has 2 billing windows open, a time entry, calendar, ups, a few other sites travel etc, at least 5 emails.

And this employee is using a very very old computer, with office 2000 and xp.
And practically no ram at all. And a small monitor.

Notes: Occasionally will go on a website for a few mins, occasionally works unpaid overtime and over lunch to get more work done for the company.

Question: Who would you give a brand new Windows 7, Office 2007, Widescreen monitor, new printer, new keyboard, new mouse, etc too?

I completely understand that Employee 1 needed a better computer to complete the video job and I know they don't want to burden Employee 2.

However, they usually ask Employee 2 who should do the job. And I know for a fact that Employee 1 will not be able to handle this job and I feel like they are rewarding a bad co-worker with a new computer.


-- Should I hold my mouth shut and say nothing at all and just hold out for a year until I can quit?
-- Should I throw my co-worker under the bus and express my full feelings on the subject even mentioning her facebook use? (I do like her)
-- Should I ask my boss, if I maybe could have one of the widescreen monitors if they are compatible with my computer? (At least it would be kinda a new step up.)

As you can tell I am Employee 2.

Stop now to avoid --
I guess I wouldn't be so upset if this job wasn't completely outrageous. They make us sit in complete silence and yell at me for the craziest things. And my co-worker doesn't care or work so she lets it roll off her whole system.

She has a great husband. He babies her. She doesn't have to do chores or drive her self to work or cook or clean. She goes on all kinds of vacations. Right now she is with her mom in NYC. From her own words she is spoiled.

And here I am alone. Busting my ass to keep all fires burning. I get chest pain at work I am so stressed and panicked to get it all done, and I have no man, no life nothing to speak of. And here she does nothing and here she gets a computer.

But it isn't all just that it is because I work so hard for this company, I give blood, sweat, probably heart problems with all the stress, and all I get is the short stick.

It makes me want to hide and eat and curl up and disappear.

But I won't. I won't be working here forever even if I have to hold it all in.
She won't either her husband lost his job now he owns his own company and will hire her soon. So then she can work for her husband.

I love this girl but I hate how this job feels like it pits us against each other because she doesn't work. And she still gets. HOW??? WHY????

I just don't understand this world and why it is mixed up.

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SUNNYGIRL28734 11/18/2009 7:24PM

    Wow.......for you and your situation and for all the different perspectives on this. Now you get to hear mine! emoticon

I say we all have to take care of ourselves. That's why we're here, right? On SP I mean. Healthy lifestyle across the board. So how does this apply to your situation?

First, address the stress. You can't control your coworker's work ethic, but you can do EVERYTHING in your power to do your job to the best of your capability. Definitely request a new computer! Don't "ask if maybe you can have a used monitor". Start by TELLING the boss all the reasons why you NEED one- how it will increase productivity, etc.

Secondly, draw professional boundaries. If you always help the coworker finish tasks, never say no to her or other employees, how do they know how you feel? The next time someone asks you to do something that they are capable of doing or that is not in your job description, start listing all the things you have to do that day and that unfortunately you aren't able to help this time.

I can tell you're an intelligent person. Remember, it's healthiest to respond intellectually- not react emotionally.

I could go on and on, i said at the beginning, just take control, take care of yourself, and I know things will work out!

Best of luck.........

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XENAMY 11/18/2009 6:48PM

  Ok, that said, here's my opinion, from a management standpoint. You're not going to like it. You absolutely should not approach your boss about the computer right now for the following reasons...

1. If additional money needs to be applied to purchasing a monitor or computer, you may be indirectly adding stress to the boss/office/allotted budget. Although they spent the money on your co-worker already, there may not be enough elasticity to either spend the money, or an additional monitor may be currently assigned to a different resource. Piping up now, considering that this is a small, family owned business, may make you look bad as it looks as if you're nothing but a jealous ninny and you didn't squeak about a new computer until your co-worker got one... now you want one too. All this will do is stir up negative energy, and not in your favor.

2. It seems like you're more upset at management, not necessarily your co-worker, even though she's spoiled and doesn't work too hard. That said, in a small office, the walls have mice and mice have ears. In other words, a negative comment said about your co-worker could end up traveling down the lane and resurfacing, again creating a negative environment for yourself.

On the other hand, if there is just a widescreen monitor sitting around and not being used, I would definitely ask for it. I hope this helps. If you need to vent, vent here... don't let them derail you and raise your blood pressure. We all need to find an outlet. Tomorrow is thursday... only 2 more days and you get to unplug over the weekend. Hang in there babe. emoticon

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XENAMY 11/18/2009 6:18PM

  One word... Texas.

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ALPHAPREP 11/18/2009 5:32PM

    Also, HUG.

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ALPHAPREP 11/18/2009 5:32PM

    I'd say request the new computer for yourself. Citing the good work that you do *not* the laziness of your co-worker. Be the better person!!

I hope for your sake you get out of the crummy situation soon - I find that the ease of weightloss is a lot easier when I'm happy in my relationships and jobs! No more skipping lunch lady!!!! Speaking of which, I just read a good blog post you might enjoy -
11/the-office/ - about keeping healthy and happy at the office!!

***Clearly this isn't the case for this woman, who seems to be an all around no-good-nik***, but, I would avoid the generalization that people using social media while at work are not really working - as a child of social media usage, many people in my generation are better equipped to multi-task with this media while working (there was a good article on NYTimes a few months ago): for instance, when at work in my previous job (which I left even though they were about to promote me!), I would often have 15 windows open at the same time, including twitter, facebook, nytimes, cnn, and my rss reader), and still be able to get all of my work done, and usually get extra done, and help co-workers with their computer related work.

For me if anything it helped me focus - the difference was I was also able to keep these things sort of in the back of my mind - Whereas you put my mom infront of facebook, and she immediately becomes engrossed. It's an interesting conundrum.

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THERESEMB1 11/18/2009 5:15PM

    My advice may sound mean But I believe you should hunt down who ever it was that told or implied to you that life is fair and kick their a##!!!!!
I married a man that lied to me about being HIV positive, and when I got angery he used everything I said in the heat of the moment to have ME removed from our home of almost 10 years, and then has proceeded to drag me through divorce court for the past 38 months, He still owes me over 100thousand dollars and has made me run up a legal fee of over 50thousand dollars, he still lives in the house until it gets sold Hopefully soon and there are still court dates because he continues to refuse to not pay me, and the judge in the case is an ididiot.
So my advice is GET OVER IT!!!!

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JULJOH701 11/18/2009 5:01PM

    Considering you plan to leave eventually...I wouldn't bother... but thats just me.

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DEVOTEEOFISET 11/18/2009 4:54PM

    And what makes me even madder is I didn't eat lunch or get my water in or food :(
how can you stop caring!!!!

And tomorrow I will have to listen to her coo about her awesome new setup!
Anger rising. emoticon

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I Broke - I ate a fortune cookie. I was sooo hungry.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

My fortune - Discontent is the first step in the progress of a man or a nation.

Even my fortune cookie is telling me to perserve. emoticon

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ALPHAPREP 11/18/2009 5:35PM

    Hah! Well, that's slightly amusing... At least the fortune cookie isn't a make it or break it moment... You are here! Doing this for yourself!! You've made the first step!

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OSPINO11 11/17/2009 4:33PM

  You will do better, I get a lot of fortunes like that and they just seem to motivate me even more to change. Good luck! It will get better

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Tuesday, November 17, 2009

emoticon Yesterday I went to the gym in the morning and after work. At lunch I went exercise clothes shopping. After the gym at night I went grocery shopping to make sure that I had food - healthy food to eat. I went home unpacked the car, unpacked my gym bags, unpacked my breakfast and lunch food containers. Washed the dishes, repacked my breakfast and lunch and repacked my gym bag. At 8:35, I still had to get clothes for work today and a few items. But I sat on my bed and I was a mix between so exhausted and keyed up.

I am never like that. Usually I can fall asleep with no ease. All the energy was still pumping in my body and yet I couldn't even drive. On the drive home my leg was too exhausted to pump the gas and the brake.

I feel like I could sleep for a week. But no matter what, I still got up this morning and went to the gym. It was harder today. Tonight I am going home - doing the whole unpack/repack crap and then RELAXING!

You know the gym isn't that bad. It is actually rewarding, fun and easy to go once you get over that first visit. But ..... the organization it takes to go and keep your life on track is exhausting. I feel like I literally carry my life on my back. Maybe it is getting me ready for kids, when I have to lug nappies and mommy things. lol...

I think I spent about 2 hours a day just in organizing for the day to incorporate 1.5 hours of gym. oye!

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DEVOTEEOFISET 11/17/2009 4:22PM

    XenAmy, Yeah I am soooo exhausted. Last night at 8pm I started drifting. I just want to embed my butt in my nook and snooze.


When I first start the gym, I can't sleep for like 2 weeks it is like my body doesn't know how to process the energy. I feel exhausted and strung out. I can't sleep. I feel like I hardly skim the surface of sleep. But after that, I know I will want to sleep 10 hrs! emoticon

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XENAMY 11/17/2009 2:55PM

  Whoa... you did 1.5 hours at the gym? YOU ROCK!!!! It gets easier as time goes by... it does, it does, it does! Key is to get to bed on time so that you're not dragging the next day. I always feel like I need more sleep than normal when I start hitting the gym regularly. Anyway... keep moving. You are my inspiration and my challenger, because you know I can't slack off if I know you're hitting it hard! emoticon

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ALPOPLUP 11/17/2009 2:38PM

    but the gym time is worth it, so keep it up

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Thought for the Day

Monday, November 16, 2009

I always think life is unfair. The more bad that happens to me the more my friends seem to win at life without effort.

Well, I am going to stop caring about helping other people, giving them power, supporting them, I am going to stop overworking and depriving myself of food, or going without so I can arrive early for someone who shows up late...

I am going to make sure I eat and I take care of myself and support those who support me and who genuinely need support. Instead of focusing on what people think of me.

I am not going to fight life. I am going to float along grabbing a fish when I am hungry.

If you can't beat them, stop fighting them and take another direction.

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XENAMY 11/16/2009 12:44PM

  Well said. The world means nothing if you don't take care of yourself first. Only then will you be truly able to provide support to anyone else. Hang in and stay positive.

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