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Las Vegas

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

I'm going to Las Vegas! Wish me luck....lots of it. Obviously, I won't be on Spark for a few days, but I'll get caught up as soon as I get back. Wishing everyone a wonderful Easter!
And if any of you have visited Vegas before, we're looking for a few "non-gambling" things to do....we know we're going to Hoover Dam, but would appreciate any other ideas!

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STARTSPARKING 4/10/2010 9:37PM

    Sorry I'm so late because I'm just catching up. I hope you had a fabulous time in Vegas!

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PAM1864 4/1/2010 5:35PM

    WoW Deb ,that is a great vacation place. Well don't blame us when we hear Las Vegas, the only thought that comes to our mind is gambling & romance. Enjoy dear and tell us all about it when you return.


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    Well I've never been, hope you have a wonderful time! Try some tourism brochures on the internet. I understand the desert is beautiful, especially at sunrise (but cold). I understand there are museums, and there might be tours within driving distance. I understand you can eat at the restaurants inside the hotels for very very very cheap prices for very high quality, delicious gourmet food (take some exercise dvds and stretchy bands WITH you, LOL). Find out about the way to pronounce "Nevada" - there are 2 ways, one is the ways locals say it, so depending on how you say it, they ask you where you're from as a test and if you're "local" then you get in free to the museum. I understand slots (can be?) fun, but I just don't get it. That wouldn't be fun to me. I played Pac Man but at least that was fun; there was a game involved. I have an addictive personality so I guess I should thank Jesus daily I'm NOT addicted to gambling, drugs, etc. Yeah maybe you better stay away from the slots, LOL.

How are you going to celebrate Easter while you're there??? I'm guessing that would be difficult to do in Sin City. Can't wait to hear about it when you get back. Hope you take lots of pictures. Hope you have a wonderful, safe trip!


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LLCURTS 4/1/2010 12:17AM

    ooops how did that happen! emoticon

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LLCURTS 4/1/2010 12:17AM

    I was there once - got in late - walked around a bit - not much experience just to say we were there. I loved the lights and walking at night. We stayed at Circus Circus I think = there was lots of family fun there. WE don't gamble and I found it annoying to walk through the casinos. I would say enjoy the sights, the shows, there are lots of free things just on the streets to take in. You will figure it out...

We did go to Hoover Dam - it was awesome.
Have fun! emoticon

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JUDY1676 3/31/2010 11:03PM

    Enjoy!! And good luck to you!!

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ASMPP1 3/31/2010 10:51PM

    Have a great time!

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MOMMA48 3/31/2010 9:44PM

    Have a totally great time, Deb! Relax and enjoy!! emoticon and see you when you come back all refreshed and raring to go!

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PHYL220 3/31/2010 9:38PM

    Wishing you lots of luck!! Have a nice Easter! emoticon

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ESMERM 3/31/2010 8:48PM

    Good luck!

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MCHOPPER 3/31/2010 8:18PM

    Have fun in Las Vegas. I have never been but I'm sure there are other things to do besides gambling. After about 15 mins at the casino I get bored so I guess I'm not much of a gambler.

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Friday March 12th

Friday, March 12, 2010

I finally took the plunge and joined Facebook. It was shortly after that that I discovered Farmville! It seems as if everyone I know plays it, but just in case you haven't, here's how it works:
You build up your farm by planting and growing crops. You also have animals and trees, and can build buildings. It is a blast!

If you're on facebook, add me! I would love to have more Farmville neighbors. Just search for "Deb Becker". I'm the one alone in the picture wearing a white shirt with little flowers on it (the flowers just look like dots in the picture). It is the same pictue that I have at the top of my spark page. Just let me know you are from spark people and looking for farmville neighbors.

Loving Sparkpeople and Farmville!

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LOGOULD 3/15/2010 12:56PM

    Love your page! You've got a wonderful attitude! Especially like the blog on the people who sabotage our efforts. I hope you don't mind that I added you as friend both here and on FB -I FV also, but not as much as I used to. Busy life and Sparking is much more productive.

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CHIRORENGO 3/14/2010 2:46PM

    Oh Geez - not another farmville addict!!.

I will add you don't worry but I don't play anymore because I got so hooked for awhile it took over my life!!!!!

Good luck and have fun - happy farming!!

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STARTSPARKING 3/14/2010 5:05AM

    So far I have resisted joining Facebook because I'm afraid I'd spend even more time on the computer. I do feel like a dinosaur and so out of touch though! emoticon Happy virtual farming, my friend! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LLCURTS 3/14/2010 12:01AM

    emoticon I am on FB - but don't do the farming. DH is at the highest level of Farmtown ... it is definitely addictive.

I have reconnected with classmates and family in other states - great site for that!

Have fun! emoticon

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JUDY1676 3/13/2010 5:11PM

    I've seen it on facebook but nevergone any farther. That's all I eed--to get addicted to that! Time will tell, I'll have to check it out!

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    Oh no. Farmville is addicitve. Everyone I know who is involved with Farmville wants to quit and can't.

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PHYL220 3/12/2010 10:34PM

    Haven't started farmville yet, but it sounds like fun.

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ASMPP1 3/12/2010 10:30PM

    emoticon I have not started a farm...

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MOMMA48 3/12/2010 9:31PM

    Hi, Deb! I know alot of my friends are playing it too --- so keep on planting, harvesting, selling and seeding, my friend, and keep having fun on the farm!

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SOLSTICECHILD 3/12/2010 9:21PM

    gotta watch farmville - it's more addictive than chocolate!!

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WILDCARD1 3/12/2010 8:20PM

    LOL! I keep resisting joining facebook! My best friend is hooked, and she loves doing farmville too! Maybe one of these days!

Have fun on the farm!!!

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How Do You Deal With a Sabotaging Spouse?

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Does anyone else have this problem? My daughter and I were comparing notes. I'm not going to say whose spouse did what to protect the innocent (or guilty...ha-ha). But between us, we both have spouses who claim to be VERY supportive of our weight loss efforts. Most of the time they are. They're always there with a "congrats" when the scale goes now and a pat on the back when something goes wrong.

But between us, the following has happened/been said:

"Come on, let's go get doughnuts. One won't hurt you!"
"Let's go out for lunch." "No, honey, I don't have the calories." "Oh, it's just one meal."
"Is that salad all you're going to order?"
They put ice cream in the cart.
They act as if it is a personal affront if you make a healthy meal for BOTH of you to eat instead of making two separate dinners.
"You look fine. Just eat what you want on vacation and worry about it when you get back." (Never mind that vacation last TWO WEEKS!!!!)
"It's the holidays."
"Come on, just have a bite." (Of the most fattening food in the world).

So, I have a question for you your friends or spouses do this to you?
How do you deal with it?
I really don't want to kill him, I kind of like him (ha-ha), but me and my daughter are both about at our wits ends!

p.s. If I get some good responses, I'll do a follow up blog with solutions for everyone to read!

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SUPERVICKY 6/27/2010 10:16PM

    yeah, i used to have this problem. i pushed through it and now the man's on board (seeing all my successes and thinking to himself, hmm, this is a good idea....")

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STEVIECAT4 3/3/2010 3:16PM

    You need to have a serious talk with him and tell him that although he doesn't mean anything by it, it's really sabotaging your efforts. Explain to him how much it takes for you to deny yourself your own cravings without him adding to it. And, don't TELL them it's a diet meal, just make dinner and serve it. I always kept 2 jars of mayo in the house, 1 regular and 1 low fat but only used the low fat in the tuna salad and told him I made 1 batch for me w/my mayo and one for him with his mayo. He didn't know the difference. Cook with PAM & leave the bottle of oil on the counter. Stuff like that. You need counter strategies.

One thing I learned at Weight Watchers many years ago about sabatours was how you respond. If someone comes to you with a tray of food (or a doughnut in your case), don't hem and haw and say "Oh, I really shouldn't". What you say is "Ugh, if I eat one more thing I'm going to throw up!" Nobody is going to press you to eat more if you answer like that. Or you can say (if you hadn't just eaten) "Ugh, that looks so disgusting, take it out of my sight."

As far as eating on vacation, just make the right choices and when questioned about "is that all you're eating...a salad?" respond with "Yeah, for some reason, that's all I'm in the mood for tonight. Maybe tomorrow I'll have something 'good'." and then just make sure that "tomorrow" never comes. Continue to eat what you can to stay as close to your food goals as possible.

That's how I've handled it in the past. After a while, my husband stopped offering.

In other words, you have to stand up for yourselves.

P.S. You should have been there the time I fell while out power walking and got burning scrapes on my hands. My husband offered to go to Carvel and get me a chocolate thick shake because if I held it, the burning would cool down and the shake would make me 'feel better' !!!! I threw him out of the room!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!

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BIGJOHNSTON 3/1/2010 12:03PM

    This sounds like my household as well. The major concern with us is that I'm the only one trying to get healthier. No one else has set a goal that they would like to achieve. They say they're supportive but actions are speaking louder than words. I don't want to feel guilty for making a positive change in my life.

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REMODELINGPAT 2/28/2010 1:10PM

    My ex was 6' tall and must have had the world's highest metabolism because the whole time we were married, he never weighed more than 135. He loved to buy my favorite ice cream (heavenly hash...I have been known to consume an entire half-gallon in less than 24 hours, all by myself.) Then when I ate it and gained weight, he was right there with the negative comments.
Sorry, I never did develop a good coping strategy. emoticon

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SOLSTICECHILD 2/26/2010 7:49PM

    My husband used to do this. He was dealing with a couple of things. Worry that I would be unhappy and fear of change. Getting him involved helped a lot and he doesn't do it very often anymore. He's started going to the gym with me sometimes and is a lot more interested in being healthy himself. He has always been thin, but now recognizes that thin does not equal healthy.

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JKGRIFFIN1 2/25/2010 10:25AM

    I sometimes have the same problem. My husband is a high metabolizing guy who can eat anything he wants and never gains a pound. He's 52 years old and still wears the same small size pants he did in high school. And because he burns a lot of calories in a day in his work he truly needs to take in a lot of calories to sustain him. He is very supportive of me in my goals and is good about cheering me on. But the truth of the matter is my new lifestyle change affects him as well. He misses the wife that would jump to go get a bagel or run up to the Taco Bell. He LOVES the healthy recipes from my SparkPeople meal planner, but he needs more. So to compromise I will still go with him when he needs a carb or calorie load or junk food fix, but I will eat at home and when I'm out just have a cup of coffee or water and just be with him. For us, that's a win win! I find that if he's still getting what he wants and needs, and I'm there with him, that he is less likely to try to talk me into making choices that aren't good for me.

Hang in there and keep doing what you need to do to take care of you.



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SPAEPER 2/25/2010 8:23AM

    I think that sometimes its hard for our husbands and closest friends to watch us go through these transformations. We are changing so much, not just on the outside, but on the inside too, becoming stronger women, knowing exactly what we want and how to get it! They're afraid that maybe there won't be room for them in our new lives, or that we'll change enough not to love them anymore.

They also TRUELY love us the way we are. If they don't get that its not JUST about appearance, it leads to these types of statements.

We need to be more open and loving with those closest to us. Without anger, sit down and talk about our feelings when this stuff gets said. Tell them what we need from ourselves, what this journey means to us, and how they can help or hinder... I'm working on all of that, its easier said than done!!

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PAM1864 2/25/2010 7:28AM

    My DH is very health conscious. He does yoga twice daily. Maintained his weight all these years. He is happy that I am eating healthy instead of dieting. Well we go out to dinner once in a month for our son. He(DH) prefers home cooked food with less oil and salt. I love cooking so they are forced to eat it.(Just joking I cook well)Kids like Pizza very much so when we go to pizza hut I have only salad. So you see he is happy I joined SP and taking care of my health. I get a pat now and then when I wear size small jeans. emoticon

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TAMTAMM 2/24/2010 8:22PM

    Wow I could of wrote your blog!! Sounds like my household or I should say husband.

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ONCEMOREAGAIN 2/24/2010 2:57PM

    My husband is very supportive of me. Sometimes, he will get himself a snack and ask me if I would like one also. I tell him no, and he is okay with that. He does not try to make me eat anything that I do not want to eat. We do not eat any fried foods. I boil, broil, roast or bake everything. I am very lucky, as he loves all fruits and vegetables. Once in awhile, he wants chocolate, and makes himself a glass of chocolate milk (2% milk) and that appeases him. I am a very lucky woman.

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TINK33 2/24/2010 9:56AM

    I have four kids, three of which have the gift of "great metabolism". My husband is heavier than he ever has been and has no interest in losing weight. I am transitioning them to eating what I am eating. In some cases, I have to cook two meals, but that won't last too long. My kids feel like they are "suffering" because I am not buying the chips and cookies and ice cream. Occassionally, I'll make them a fruit smoothie and they'll love it. Part of my "goal" is to teach my kids better eating habits. . . .so when faced with the sabatoge, which I face on a daily basis. . . .I have to be strong. . .mind over matter. I've learned to "bite my tongue" on the little things. We'll see how it goes as I continue to lose. . . .maybe DH will jump on board then. :) Most importantly, maybe my kids will learn to love fruits and veggies. :)

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KATHRYN1955 2/24/2010 8:21AM

    Oh yes, we were on a 4 hour car trip last weekend and we stopped for a quick break and he picks up 6 donuts. I'm not sure what is with that, but fortunately, I was in the zone where it didn't bother me. I had some fruit with me. On the other hand, he is quite supportive with my weight loss efforts. I just keep quietly forging onwards and, for the most part, I am not letting others push me into eating what is not good for me. Maybe they just need the reassurance that life as they know it is not over!!

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ASMPP1 2/24/2010 7:28AM

    With others, I politely decline without an explanation. Family, they know why, for health reasons. Once they saw me really making progress, it was better. I still come home to the occasional donuts for breakfast. I usually can work it in, not always. I do pass on things while the rest have the fatty foods. They know to plan ahead or it will not happen most times. It is hard. It is very worth it.

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LLCURTS 2/24/2010 1:06AM

    DH is on board with me - but I have had friends, family who have said some of those things - Oh one won't hurt - lets do lunch or ice cream....

I have in the past said just a simple "no thank you" or :you go ahead I'll just have water, its ok" I have found in my own situation as long as i don't make a deal out of it like "I'm on a diet or I can't" etc - just decline. They usually are having their own issues on weight loss and may be jealous...

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    Oh wow! Dr. Laura just talked about this today. I didn't pay attention because I don't have a saboteur! Just goes to show you you should always listen to everything so you can help OTHER people!

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SERAPHINA80 2/23/2010 10:52PM

    So so so familiar! A friend of mine and I had talked about this at work a while back. It is hard alone for me with just a spouse to sabotage it, but she has the spouse and the two teenage kids to sabotage it!. How can you not eat the food, when the kids are bringing home the junk and your husband offers to make you a sandwich even though you just ate, and he insists! So frustrating!
Actually I have my spouse's brother who has been living with us for awhile now. He doesn't eat a vegetable or a fruit. In fact I am surprised he's still alive. He is not big, in fact he is normal weight but that's only because he hardly eats and when he does it is pure junk!. Getting back to the subject, if he craves a cake he goes and buys a big cake instead of a single serving and eats like a sliver of it...meanwhile my spouse and I usually finish it off because it's there. Or wants a chocolate bar and keeps asking if I want one. Or puts cakes/cookies in the pantry and then hardly eats them! I have confronted him on this before and he just laughs! Anyway I have vented, but thats for bringing up the subject! lol

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LYNNMORRIS11 2/23/2010 10:48PM

    I've been married for 20 years and struggling with my weight loss for many more. Only recently did I really feel like my hubby was truly supporting my efforts. His way of supporting me was to tell me I was beautiful, nothing was wrong with me, etc... No sooner would I announce a need to lose weight than I would find the house full of cookies and cake.
When asked not to bring it in the house, he would complain why should he suffer.

Finally, this last year I looked at him and said these words:
"do you understand what is going on here?" He was puzzled and said, "You're mad at me?"
"No, I'm trying to save my life."
He said, "Okay, I understand now."

He has been wonderful ever since. I truly wish I had just put it to him straight years ago, made him understand it wasn't vanity, but health that I was worried about.

Good luck to you and your daughter! emoticon

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OUTDOORGIRL70 2/23/2010 10:46PM

    My DH is the same way. He keeps telling me you look great just the way you are. Then when I an exercising he comes in and starts one two one two, just like he is doing jumping jacks while I an on the treadmill. I could kill him. The only reason I don't is when I do lose he is the first one to say it looks like you dropped a little. You really look good. Now we can go get a couple of donuts.

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Happy Valentines Day!

Saturday, February 13, 2010

I would like to wish everyone a Happy Valentines Day. Enjoy this card.

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NJDIETZ 2/15/2010 7:25AM

    Thanks... Hope you had a great Valentine's Day as well. emoticon

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    Thank you for sharing such a nice card. Hope you had a nice Valentines Day too.
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UNSTOPPABLE_ 2/15/2010 12:35AM

    Thank you Deb. That was beautiful

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LLCURTS 2/14/2010 12:21AM

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Have a Great Valentine weekend! emoticon

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ONCEMOREAGAIN 2/13/2010 11:43PM

    Thanks Deb, that is a beautiful card...I loved all the roses and tried not to look at those chocolates!!!!
Wishing you a beautiful Valentine's day too.

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HAIRFIXER1 2/13/2010 9:03PM

    Thanks!! emoticonThat was very nice and what a beautiful thought. You're the greatest.

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JUDY1676 2/13/2010 5:31PM

    Thanks, Deb, and Happy Valentine's Day to you!
Hugs, Judy
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POSEY440 2/13/2010 4:16PM

    I did not see that either I am not a friend she haas it set on private oh well I did see the youtube card nice thank you. emoticon

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    Thanks so much Deb - Happy Valentines Day to you too! emoticon
Jackie x

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WINNIEATWELL2 2/13/2010 1:05PM

    Thank you! Happy Valentine's Day to you too! I put a Valentine on my blog for you too and all of my Spark friends as well. emoticon

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GRANNY1972 2/13/2010 9:44AM

    emoticon Happy Valentines Day to you too!! emoticon

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MISSM66 2/13/2010 8:54AM

    Thank you very much DEB,and the same to you, hope you enjoy your day, emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ATNACGAL 2/13/2010 7:53AM

    Happy Valentine's Day ! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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-WRKNG2ABTTRME- 2/13/2010 3:00AM

    emoticon You, too!

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MRSSASS2010 2/13/2010 2:52AM

    I can't see the card because I'm on my iPhone but I wanted to wish you a very Happy Valentine's Day!


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January 24th 2010

Sunday, January 24, 2010

I can't believe it, but looking at the calendar, I must admit that I have another birthday coming up. I then look at my progress in losing weight and have decided on some serious goals for before my 50th birthday (which is next year).
Two of my major goals:
1) To be below 200 pounds.
2) To complete the 3 mile Leslie Sansone DVD.

I have made some progress using Sparkpeople, and while it has been slow, it has been amazing how many different healthy habits I have worked into my life, such as working out on a regular basis. I can also look back at some of the "diet" programs I've tried over the years. None of them worked.

One thing I've learned on Sparkpeople is that steady, healthy change is the real goal. Hopefully, next year, I'll be posting at the same time saying I've reached "One-derland"!

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STARTWME 2/10/2010 9:24PM

    Steady healthy habits.. yep STEADFAST that's the key thank you for that reminder.

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PRONTOPUP 2/8/2010 12:43PM

    Wow, we have a lot in common! I will be 50 in October 2011, I too am working to get under 200, and I would like to do the 3 mile walk too. I love Leslie Sansone, she is such a great motivator! You can achieve these goals, we will celebrate with you when you do! Keep us posted.


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RABBIT8 1/29/2010 4:57PM


u can do it!!!!we can do it !! Happy belated birthday! emoticon

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GLORYLIGHT57 1/24/2010 10:47PM

    emoticonOne step at a time. Yes, it's the steady work that counts; it has to happen on a regular basis. Great success to you in 2010!

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POSEY440 1/24/2010 5:32PM

    WOW you can do it I know you can I love to do her DVD, it is a great workout. I will be 60 this year. I have no idea where the 50 to 60 went. emoticon You keep it up you can make these goals and we are here to cheer you on. emoticon emoticon emoticon keep on doing it, it will get better. emoticon

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MAURIZIA 1/24/2010 12:49PM

    Deb, oh, 50 was so long ago for me (I'm facing 60 in a couple of weeks!). Your goals are attainable and I look forward to celebrating with you next Jan. 24th...or before!

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SCRAPPY_RN 1/24/2010 11:23AM

    Happy Birthday Deb!
You can do it and you will do it!!

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ASMPP1 1/24/2010 6:18AM

    emoticon You will make it!

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    Those are very reasonable goals! I am sure you can do it. Carol

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    Hi Deb,

I BELIEVE you will reach your One-derland! Great blog, and fantastic attitude! Realizing that slow and steady change is the best way to go and be able to keep it off. This is going to be a Fabulous year for alot of us. I know I am pretty determined to reach my goals this year. So you go girl! We are all here to support and to achieve along with you. emoticon
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HAIRFIXER1 1/24/2010 1:42AM

    There is just something about that 50 birthday!!! I was 50 this past June. My goal was to get healthier and to eat better and exercise more. The only way is just to give it your best everyday and hope that it becomes a habit. Best of luck with your goals!!!
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