Friday, August 07, 2009
Recently someone posted the following comment on my SparkPage: "I remember seeing you at convention but I was a bit intimidated to introduce myself... you had been so active on the board pre-convention, and I was more of a 'lurker'... "
It was such a surprise to myself that I could ever seem to be intimidating!
In public, social situations such as the convention *I* tend to be much more of a wall flower...easily intimidated and having to struggle to "put myself out there" and find my "voice" around others. I can be much more animated and spontaneous on a one-to-one basis, but throw me into a room full of people I don't know...? It's a challenge for me to NOT fade into the woodwork...probably a leftover habit from ye olde schooldays playing Dodge ball (such an evil, EVIL game!) in phys. ed. when I was the last one SPLATTED by the ball because I was so good at HIDING up until the end! I remember one occasion when I actually succeeded in CATCHING the ball instead...everyone's jaw, including my own, hit the floor...you mean I actually WON?!?
Anyhow you know the old expression "on the internet nobody knows you're a dog"...?
Well, here on SparkPeople one of the advantages I find is that I am able to "practice" and even "pretend" that I'm much more outgoing than I really am...and hey, if I practice and pretend often enough it starts to become *real* and feels like a part of who I am and MORE like the person I want to be!
It's one of the things I love about the SPARK! And now, in pressing for REAL, face-to-face meet 'n greets with other members of SparkPeople I'm finding even MORE opportunities to make long-desired changes in the way I am around other people.
These thoughts reminded me of a book on therapeutic technique I read a long time ago by Bandler & Grinder: "Frogs Into Princes," which was actually a transcription of a number of their workshops.
In it, they quote Milton Erikson, a world-renowned hypnotherapist who was wheel-chair bound due to polio and often used a story-telling technique in which he would talk about life growing up on the farm in Iowa. These stories were often reportedly deadly dull, however within the stories he would embed therapeutic messages, hypnotic suggestions which were said to have prompted amazing changes in people. Here is the passage from the book and afterward I have a url which takes you to a website where you can read the entire book (not too long either) if you wish. Some pretty innovative ideas there if anyone is interested!
"The last time that I went to see Milton Erickson, he said something to me. And as I was sitting there in front of him, it didn't make sense. Most of his covert metaphors have made... eons of sense to me. But he said something to me which would have taken me a while to figure out. Milton said to me:
"You don't consider yourself a therapist, but you are a therapist." And I said "Well, not really." He said "Well, let's pretend ... that you're a therapist who works with people. The most important thing ... when you're pretending this ... is to understand... that you are really not.... You are just pretending.... And if you pretend really well, the people that you work with will pretend to make changes. And they will forget that they are pretending... for the rest of their lives. But don't you be fooled by it." And then he looked at me and he said: 'Goodbye.'"
Have a wonderful weekend everyone! :-)
Wednesday, August 05, 2009
Got up, put in 45 mins. on treadmill first thing...later in the morning I had a "walk 'n talk" with a client of mine prone to depression. It always feels good when clients begin to see and feel the boost from walking!
But the BEST part was that although the weather was supposed to be stormy it was PERFECT! High 70's, clear blue skies and lots of sunshine, low humidity...got out with wife after work to go to the park together and went jogging/speed walking for another 50 mins...woo hoo!
I don't push myself to jog very often but every time I'm amazed that I'm actually JOGGING! Jogged further than I ever have before too!
Lot's of other walkers, runners, bikers out also...everybody smiling and just steeped in good will...mighty fine day! :-)
PS...sharing a chuckle posted by one of my SparkTeam members:
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
A fellow member of SparkPeople recommended this site to me:
To me, this story from MotivateUs.com had SparkPeople written all over it!
A Wise Woman's Stone
A wise woman, who was traveling in the mountains, found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation.
The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But, a few days later, he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.
"I've been thinking," he said. "I know how valuable this stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me this stone."
--- Author Unknown
When I read this story, it occurred to me that here at SparkPeople.com we're all giving each other, drawing out from one another this special ability to give away our precious stones. All our stories, posts, SparkGoodies...we give them away and keep growing and SPARKING our way through life!
Just wanted to pass this along with gratitude for all of you in our SparkPeople community!
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