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The Gift of Loving Ourselves

Sunday, March 29, 2009

During my walk today an old favorite song of mine pumped me up in a whole new way. Ages ago many of us have heard what sounds like common sense spoken by Erich Fromm in his tiny book "The Art of Loving" that in order for anyone to love another person one must first truly love themselves.

Well for most of my life I belonged to that very large (pun intended!) club of people who never really "got it," never could honestly say that he/she loved him/herself unabashedly without conditions.

I realized today that one of the most exciting aspects of working out and making healthy food choices is that these are powerful means of affirming, accepting and truly loving and celebrating ourselves. Instead of hearing this song as a love song for someone else, I heard it as a celebration of being able to love myself, able to draw from that hidden strength inside about which I hadn't known for SO much of my life, feeling all pumped up, stepping right along to the drive and push of this wonderful song! So I had to get home and write this up and share it with all of you here within our SparkPeople community:

This is Love
Artist: Mary Chapin-Carpenter
Album: Stones In The Road

If you ever need to hear a voice in the middle of the night
When it seems so black outside that you can't remember light
Ever shone on you or the ones you love in this or another lifetime
And the voice you need to hear is the true and the trusted kind
With a soft, familiar rhythm in these swirling, unsure times
When the waves are lapping in and you're not sure you can swim
Well here's the lifeline
If you ever need to feel a hand take up your own
When you least expect but want it more than you've ever known
Baby here's that hand and baby here's my voice that's calling, this is love,
all it ever was and will be
This is love

And if you ever need some proof that time can heal your wounds
Just step inside my heart and walk around these rooms
Where the shadows used to be,
you can feel as well as see how peace con hover
Now time's been here to fix what's broken with its power
The love that smashed us both to bits spent its last few hours
Calling out your name, I thought this is the kind of pain
From which we don't recover

But I'm standing here now with my heart held out to you
You would've thought a miracle was all that got us through
Well baby all I know, all I know is I'm still standing
And this is love all it ever was and will be
This is love

And I see you still and there's this catch in my throat and
I just swallow hard till it leaves me
There's nothing in this world that can change what we know
Still I know I am here if you ever need me
And this is love

And if you ever think of me let it be around twilight
When the world has settled down and the last round of sunlight
Is waning in the sky, as you sit and watch the night descending
A car will pass out front with lovers at the wheel
A dog will bark out back and children's voices peal
Over and under the air, you've been there lost in the remembering
And if you ever wish for things that are only in the past
Just remember that the wrong things aren't supposed to last
Babe it's over and done and the rest is gonna come when you let it

And this is love, all that it ever was and will be
This is love, when you let it, if you let it now
This is love, all it ever was and can be
This is love

Lyrics link: www.getreadyforlove.com/thisislove.h

Link to album review: Mary Chapin-Carpenter, Stones In The Road
This is absolutely one of my all-time favorite albums! So is her other one, "Come On, Come On."


Link to mp3 download, entire album $8.99, songs 99 cents apiece:


If you aren't familiar with this album, celebrate yourself, celebrate life and buy it! :-)


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ANDALEX 4/1/2009 1:58AM

    thanks :) i needed that.

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HAPPYWRITER7 3/30/2009 7:47PM

    It's so great to see you still around! I went to comment on sweetzmix's page and saw your comment, I remembered you from my first few weeks here on SP last year! Great Blog, Im still learning this myself. Im working on having more than just a few glimpses here and there. I want to live in loving myself.

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MARJIJANE 3/30/2009 4:27PM

    Yupp! So true ...thanks for sharing a new perspective!


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JIBBIE49 3/30/2009 2:48PM

    So True!

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TRAINOF4 3/29/2009 11:04PM

    Oh that is sooo true. I've told people & even had on my page that no matter how thin I ever was or ever get, how fit I ever was or ever get it won't make an iota of difference if I can't love myself completely.

Your post really hits on what I think a lot of us at SP suffer from - a lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, etc.

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OUTDOORGIRL70 3/29/2009 4:37PM

    Don.... That is a great Blog and a very good thing to think about.

I am also one of those that never could honestly say that he/she loved him/herself unabashedly without conditions.

It gives us all something to think about.

Thanks for sharing. Hope you are doing well.

Still snowing here we have had 5 1/2" so far.

God Bless and my prayers are with you.

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Miracle of Modern Medicine

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Today I walked up through town and back...nice bit of walking...not "quite" what I'd call a power walk, but a thought occurred to me as I did this:

Back in the day, I used to BICYCLE up to town and back thinking I had accomplished something!

Now, only a few days after having had major surgery, I'm WALKING this same distance as a "warm up" to getting back to true working out...!

Put a smile on my face...perspective can really make such a difference in how one views life!


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TRAINOF4 3/29/2009 11:44AM

    Great! I love taking long walks - so perfect for contemplation! I'm really psyched about finally being able to do that again in the not too distant future. emoticon

I'm SOOO jealous about your SD trip - good for you! I'm sure you're going to meet a lot of great people that you "know" already & didn't even realize it! There must be a thread going somewhere abou the convention & you could start "meeting" people over there.

Sooo glad to hear you're doing so well. Yippeee!

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JIBBIE49 3/28/2009 10:47PM

    emoticonLots of storms here in past two days. emoticon
So didn't get out to do much.

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Reclaiming My Walking Mojo!

Friday, March 27, 2009

I've been taking things pretty slow and easy thus far...but today...whew WEE!

Got out to a local park and started walking...wanted to get my quota of sunshine before the rains kicked in for the weekend...lol.

I recently had a chance to nab the mp3s of David Byrne's album "Look Into The Eyeball." Byrne has always had appeal to me whether back in the Talking Heads days or his solo work. "Like Humans Do" was the only song on the album that I knew previously...LOVE that one so I thought 'let's check out the rest....


Although there are a number of tracks that appealed to me, one in particular, "Walk On Water" has such a walking GROOVE to it that just lit me right up!

I walked and walked and just beamed and boogied to that song! Soaking up the rays and moving along...feeling so alive! These moments don't happen often, but they occur more than ever these days and I'm learning to savor them HUGELY!

Don't even have a CLUE what the lyrics mean...Byrne seems to delight in straddling blasphemy and being eccentric which has always appealed to the quiet rebel in me...lol!

It was great to be BACK today!


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JIBBIE49 3/27/2009 10:06PM

    I'm not familiar with his music but if it gets you going then GREAT. I see a lot of 4 and 5 star ratings.
I spend time listening to lots of oldies on YouTube. The past couple of days I've listened to HANK SNOW "A Fool Such As I" and "I Don'T Hurt Any More." I guess I like those old songs because I remember the 50's and 60's as being such a happy time. Lots of them my parents listened to on the country radio, and others I listened to on my Transistor radio as I road my pony around my farm and through the woods.

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Heading WEST To The Spark Convention in San Diego!

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Well I'm IN! Booked my reservations and am going to take the plunge...!

Staying with my sister and her family who live in San Diego and FINALLY breaking through my lifelong dream of heading west beyond the Mississippi River...!

I can't WAIT! This will give me something to work toward as I make my way recovering from my surgery and keeping my eye on doing my best with my food choices while my workout choices are so limited!

See you at the SPARKvention! :-)


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GMACAMI 3/28/2009 1:12AM

    I wanted to go so that we could meet but call schedule came out and I ended up on trauma call that weekend so will be working that weekend instead of playing at the convention. Darn !!!


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JAZZYJUDE 3/26/2009 8:22AM

    Ah, "heading west, young man?". Yes I AM going to the convention...especially since I live here in San Diego AND it's right on my birthday! YEAH!! How cool is that! Maybe we can meet up? Sparkmail me when you have the chance...woo hoo!

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ANDALEX 3/26/2009 12:45AM

    cool! have a blast!

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JIBBIE49 3/26/2009 12:36AM

    Oh my SparkFriend, CAREWREN is going. Check out her blog entry.

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JIBBIE49 3/26/2009 12:34AM

    You sister LIVES there!! How lucky can you get!!! My son lives in Los Angeles and we could drive down there, if I were to visit him, but I can't make it now. Nathan has to go this coming week to Columbia U. in NYC to see his advisor for medical school, so I have to pay for that.

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CHRISTYARIEL 3/25/2009 10:23PM

    That's awesome!!! :) I love San Diego! Have a wonderful time!

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Back Home...

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

All went VERY smoothly today...my one complaint is that all that gas they pumped into me won't GO anywhere so it sits in my belly making me cross. BUT the good part about that is that ache in my gut totally kills my appetite...lol. Just sipping along on water...feel so PARCHED!

Did a little bit of walking about as we stopped to pick up my pain rx, went into the store and walked about while waiting. Just taking it very s...l...o...w and easy.

Now, what DVD shall I catch up with? Man On Wire?


A VERY inspirational documentary about a FASCINATING man. Recently heard an interview with him on NPR and he is still an active wirewalker, says it is in his blood and it would like dying if he could no longer do this. His addiction to wirewalking reminded me of all of us Sparkie's collective addiction to working out...lol!

"James Marsh's dazzling, invigorating documentary MAN ON WIRE tells the story of a truly inspiring figure. In the early 1970s, a fiery young Frenchman named Philippe Petit wanted to shake up the world. When he saw the World Trade Center being built in New York City, he found his mission. Petit was a trained high wire walker, and his goal was to set up a wire between the two towers and give the world a show it could never have expected. As is often the case with these endeavors, the actual high-wire walking was the easiest part of the plan. For nearly seven years, Petit worked on the project, recruiting associates who supported him every step of the way. Finally, after eight months in New York, the day came when Petit and his cronies jumped into action. This wasn't easy. They had to find a way to sneak past security and make their way to the top of the towers with heavy equipment, at which point they had to battle the elements to install the wire. After many close scares, the time came for Petit to realize his dream--and the rest, as they say, is history. Marsh crafts MAN ON WIRE like a heist film, presenting rare and fascinating footage of the actual event alongside flawless reenactments and modern-day interviews with the participants. The result is an immersive, emotionally gratifying motion picture, made all the more stimulating by Michael Nyman's electrifying score."

I'll get back to you and let you know if it lives up to the hype.

BTW this past weekend my DW & I saw Duplicity with Julia Roberts and Clive Owen...BORING! Definitely did NOT live up to the advertising. Clive also bombed in The International...not a good run for him.

See you 'round everyone and thank you thank you THANK YOU for all of your wonderful support!


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CHRISTYARIEL 3/27/2009 9:18AM

    Glad to hear things went well! :)

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JAZZYJUDE 3/26/2009 8:19AM

    YAY Don! Glad to see all went well. And just because I'd walk for you ahead of time doesn't mean for you to not walk! LOL, so yes, the others are right...you need to walk, walk, walk. Do lots of mini walks, not just one long one, to get all those sneaky little gas bubbles moving around and out. They like to stay in joints as well, so while sitting, raise your arm up towards the ceiling and then the other arm. Also, roll your neck and shoulders, as gas bubbles have a tendency to travel upwards. Good luck babe!

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LADYWEZ 3/25/2009 2:30AM

    So glad all went well. Rest. Take it easy.

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ANDALEX 3/25/2009 1:42AM

    awesome! glad to hear you're home and feeling reasonably well!

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TRAINOF4 3/24/2009 10:33PM

    Yep - walking will help that gas go down, but take it easy and be sure you don't get going too fast! I don't want you to feel dizzy & maybe fall!

I take it they did the surgery with a scope? You'll be feeling back to your old self in no time - glad everything went smoothly and you're home safe & sound.

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GMACAMI 3/24/2009 9:25PM

    Like I said before... walk walk walk walk... that is the only way to get the gas to absorb... walk walk walk walk. Glad the rest went smoothly...so walk walk walk walk...



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JIBBIE49 3/24/2009 8:38PM

    I'm NOT a JR fan, as I think she is so over-rated, so I won't be watching Duplicity. I did see her in The Mexican, because I love Brad Pitt.
Glad everything went well for you~~!!! emoticon
I will have my son get MAN ON A WIRE on the internet and I'll watch it. He can find everything. emoticon

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KHARAHLYN 3/24/2009 8:21PM

    You gotta love the gas........but walking will help it pass more quickly! Glad to hear the surgery went well. Hope you continue to feel well!

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