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Things I think about..Funny and not so funny

Monday, February 21, 2011

Some things I think about are…Why are some things so funny? I have a sense of humor, or at least think I do. However, when watching a comic and they say things like, “It was slick as owl snot” or a comic says "imagine walking through the forest and you hear 'whoo whoo'" then a loud sniff and everyone laughs. I am still trying to figure out what is so funny.

When I hear whoo-whoo, I think of an owl making his noise and then a loud sniff, I think of someone sniffing loudly. OK- not so funny … But then I think, why would an owl’s snot be any slicker than any others snot to begin with? Or is it? Why was it funny? Of course, by this time I have completely lost why it would be funny to begin with, so why bother.

I can find humor in a lot of things but when I see something like someone doing something and getting hurt and everyone bursts out laughing, my first question is why would someone do that if he knew it was going to hurt? Then I get the look or comment from my hubby that says “Are you seriously asking that?” Well yes, I actually am. If I didn’t want to know why would I ask it? Of course missing completely the whole point of the joke.

My husband says I miss the point of jokes and cannot see something as funny like everyone else… well, I guess I just don’t understand...

Other things I don’t understand…
Why ask a question only not to want an answer??? My hubby says it's rhetorical… OK, but again, why ask it if you don’t seriously want an answer?

Something else I don’t understand….People say "just answer yes or no…" Well, problem being it's not always as simple as yes or no… Many times I honestly feel there needs to be some sort of explanation…. Hubby says I am incapable of answering yes or no. OK, maybe I can’t. Sometimes it takes more words for me to explain myself even if you think I am being redundant… OK, so I repeat myself a lot.

Also all this imagine stuff…. I have never gotten the imagine thing…. Like when people do the meditation thing. I don’t get it. Why would you think if a place to make you calm? Why imagine a stream or a tree?? Honestly, if you want to see a tree go see a tree or a stream or beach. Don’t ask me to imagine - I will go look at a picture if I want to see something. I’m not going to try to see it in my head….to me that is just strange.

Or the whole playing thing... OK, hide and seek, fine - that’s easy, it's hide and seek, but why take a Barbie and pretend to talk to another Barbie per se? Why not just talk to a person? Not like they will answer you...

I guess I am very literal in a lot of ways. Ask me to do something fine, I will, but don’t ask me if you really don’t want or expect me to do it.

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SALLYKWITT 2/22/2011 4:12PM

    We are all different. Understanding an animal's perspective is the coolestm of course!!



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SNUZSUZ 2/22/2011 3:30AM

    Yes, I guess you are very literal! But that is not a good thing or a bad thing-it just is:)

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Adventures at Target without the leash

Saturday, February 05, 2011

Ok most will find that an odd title, but those with autistic quiet as ninja runners know exactly what that means.

My sweet PA loves to go to Target (well so does her mom *smiling*), but rarely do I attempt this by my self. We truthfully I wasn't alone, but I decided to take her with me so my husband could look at toys and I would not have to worry about PA wanting something. I wanted to go look at cloths for PA & she loves to look at clothes, so I thought why not.

Started out fine....She stayed close and was easy to control. However when we passed in her words “ballerina dress” (a pink swim suit with a pink tutu) she liked, all bets were off. I didn’t have a very hard time getting her to hang it back on the rack., so I thought I dodged a meltdown. I did dodge the meltdown, but that’s where she started to show her “ninja skills” I was talking about. See she really knew she is suppose to stay with me, but when she sees something *shinny** as we say.. She can not help herself.

I turned around to look at something not even for 3 seconds turned back and she was gone.. Of course first thought is to call out for her, but with PA wouldn’t make any difference. See she is verbal, but will not answer unless she is looking at you and wants to acknowledge you.. So I thought real fast and remembered the “ballerina dress”. I made a b-line and sure enough she was standing there with the bathing suit dancing around.. It was a happy ending and I really didn’t have to go far to find her. Of course she got a talking to and had to sit in the basket for the remainder of the shopping trip, but reinforced to me the need of the leash when we go shopping.

As far as her ninja skills. Yes, she is truly that quiet not only when she is trying to escape. She is also has ninja skills when destroying a room. You never know until you walk in the room. Even though you have been in the next room for 2 minutes, but I will revisit her ninja skills in a later post..

I took this directly from my website blog post, because I did'nt want to write two LOL...

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PMCFARM 2/7/2011 4:14PM

  You are emoticon!! emoticon MarilynC.

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1COUNTRY_GAL 2/6/2011 1:04AM

    Oh you sure are brave,when our kids were little the thought of taking them all was one I avoided.I did take them out and go shopping,but not very many times.I can only imagine how scary that must have been when she was away from you.Your quick thinking,sure came in handy.I can remember using a child safe leash on our oldest daughter when we went to the county fair,it worked great.Us parents can never be safe enough these days,we have to be vigilant and oh so careful with our children and a close eye on them. emoticon emoticonDiana

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M_DOBREV 2/5/2011 8:31PM

  I use my blog post for my journal entry EVERY SINGLE TIME! I figure as long as I get some thoughts out once a day that is good enough. Seriously, I print out my SparkPeople blogs and tape them into my journal.
You made me laugh out loud with "ninja skills". I have never heard it called that before, but that is a very apropos description. I have four year old twins who have some pretty impressive ninja skills of their own. Maybe our kids should get together and compare notes sometime. They could start a Toddler Ninja League.

"Ninja skills" reminded me of a silly video my husband sent me years ago. I find pretty much anything NINJA universally funny, so this made me especially giggly.


On a more serious note, kudos to you. I never, ever take my twins to Target when I am alone - NEVER! The grocery store, maybe. Target - Oh, h*ll no!

You are my role model you brave, brave mommy.

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Frustrations over it taking forever to paint 1 room

Friday, January 28, 2011

I have been meaning to spend more time on SP reading blogs and posting to threads, however this week has been incredibly busy.

My 15 year old finally was able to keep her room clean long enough for us to want to go in and paint (deal was she had to keep it clean for 3 months). So my hubby and I for the past three days, in between appointments and such painting her room.

Yes I know three days to paint a bedroom **laughing** well add in an autistic 3 ½ year old to the mix and well everything takes longer than it needs to be. Also the fact that my hubby is in school and well we really have only spent equivalent of 4 hour there actually painting. We have a whopping two and half walls are done.

We have to empty the room, lay everything down then paint for a while. We can’t just leave everything out, because we have to make sure everything is picked up and things are back to normal so my little one does’t get distressed over it all.

This morning for instance, she noticed her sisters garage can was in the living room. So she picked it up and carried it around the living room till I had her put it back where it went in sissy’s room. She then sees the extra paint cans next to her paint can. She became very concerned that
#1 they were there at all and
#2 that her paint can would disappear when we were done. I spent better part of the next 15 min trying to explain that her paint can would still be there (I will explain the whole paint can another day).

I was hoping we would be able to distract our little one today long enough to get her new bed (my older daughters old bed) set up and move the armour into my older daughters room. Well that didn't happen. In fact the only thing I accomplished was getting to the bank today and a shower. My 3yr old was just a whirl wind and everything upset her.

We ended up going out for dinner this evening cause I did not want to cook.
We will not have the chance again to get into my daughters room to paint until Mon. when my youngest is at preschool.

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LRKNOBS 2/5/2011 6:56PM

    Sooooo.....with you on this one!! I have been wanting to paint my dining room but need to take down the wallpaper. My daughter (with autism) is older so her behavior had matured a lot as she grew up :) but I wanted to let you know you really brought me back to remembering some of those days when everything seemed a little more difficult then it should be :) Thinking of you and KNOWING you'll do GREAT!!!!!

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JAY75REY 1/31/2011 5:44PM

    Painting is hard work and takes concentration...so of course it's not going quickly, with all you have to do. It'll feel great once you have finished, however.
I've recently done a lot of interior painting by hand, 3 coats per room (1 primer and 2 paint). Exhausting!

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SNUZSUZ 1/29/2011 9:33AM

    It sounds like it may be taking longer than expected but that you are dealing with life in a very positive way! Taking life as it comes and taking the time to explain to your little daughter what she needs explaining. I admire your patience with your little one and that your painting is not as important as your children!

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1COUNTRY_GAL 1/29/2011 1:46AM

    That is tough to deal with and try to paint,you are doing the best you can and these kind of projects can take more time than expected.I think I can understand you being frustrated about this.I have a hard time with starting things I cannot finish.I guess we have to try to be flexible when these things happen.Being a parent is a very tough job we love and cherish.May all go well for you and you get her room painted soon! Hugs,Diana emoticon emoticon

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This is not meant to sound like a downer post

Sunday, January 16, 2011

I got my chemo on Fri and just having a time this time around. Being this is only my second shot and I may not have full effects yet. It's not traditional chemo. The shot I get I will receive for the rest of my life. It takes about 3 months before the levels are where they need to be and there are many adjustments that will have to be made. I guess I am just frustrated. I am trying to work on eating right, but it is made difficult by dietary restrictions. I am working on some goals and need to run some things by my Dr. before I can make decisions.

It has been a rough couple weeks for me. Now that my DH has school one night then scouts (he is a scouting leader) on another night. I feel a little left out. All I do is keep house and take care of fam. Everyone (including Patty my youngest) has school and activities. I get to go to Dr. appointments, church (if I am up to it) and the store, . Never by myself cause I can't drive anylonger.
I NEED A HOBBY.... ***sigh*** I use to do many things but for various reasons most of which I can not do anylonger. I need something so my quest for this week is to see if I can find a hobby.

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PMCFARM 1/17/2011 11:52AM

  Dani, you have in front of you an overflowing platter. I had 2 girls 14 mo apart, but not even in my wildest dreams could I imagine having a teen and a toddler and chemo for dessert!!! Part of the problem is the type of chemo some of us are faced with...there is no light at the end of the tunnel where it will all be over. For me it is a mindset, it has taken me 4 mo to finally accept chemo is now and forever part of my life...I can resist it and guarantee the side effects will be worse OR I can meet its' restrictions and work around them. Do you have a bestest friend??? Women need a friend to laugh with,cry with, do silly things with...things that kids and husbands just wouldn't understand. One other thing to consider (and I preface this as my opinin alone), your teen daughter is approaching an age where while you are the mother and she is the daughter there may be opportunities where you set aside those roles to establish things to do as friends. Important to always remember you are not alone, you are blessed to have a family, a church family & our Spark family all here to listen and support you.
emoticon emoticon emoticon MarilynC.

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MISS_VIV 1/16/2011 10:18PM

    Danica, I hope that you are slowly moving past the inital effects of your chemo series.And you won't feel so icky for long. As for a hobby ? I am thinking maybe you could do some scrap booking, or put together photo albums. Perhaps, you could make a vision board.. cutting out pictures and sayings that are meaningful to you. I am sure you have a creative mind and you will surely come up with something that you will really like.

God bless you.

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1COUNTRY_GAL 1/16/2011 6:14PM

    We all need a hobby and some time for YOUrself and especially with your chemo treatments,live as simply as you can,I believe it will make a difference for you.I remember feeling that way when our kids were young and it seemed all I did was take care of family and the home and never seemed to make myself a priority.I can't even fathom what it's like to have cancer with all this responsibility in the first place.Do you have a local Cancer or support group you could go to once a week while dh is doing scouting?Maybe he could drop you off and pick you up.I am here for support emoticon emoticonDiana

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AMANDADAY63 1/16/2011 5:39PM

    Its ok to feel a bit down...you have a lot to deal with right now and its very hard to be freedom-limited...i dont have any major ideas as far as hobbies are concerned, but last year, after i had a brain tumor removed, i was very sick/bedridden for several weeks, and limited for a lot longer, and i used that time to plan my ideal back yard...i drew my designs, then, with all the extra free time i had, I searched for great deals online and had everything shipped to my house or to the stores and had someone pick it up for me...when i finally started moving around a bit I was able to slowly create the garden i had always wanted at a fraction of the cost it would have cost me if I hadnt had all the extra hours to surf the sales/deals online...so, maybe you could think of some things that you might not usually have the opportunity to do and make some special dates for yourself to do them...in the meantime, hugs and blessings...

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MOM2ACAT 1/16/2011 4:17PM

    emoticon You have every right to vent! Chemo is never easy, no matter what kind it is. My current chemo that I am on now is supposed to be one of the "easier" ones, but there are some days I really get tired of its side effects.

I think finding a hobby is a good thing! If nothing else, we need to have things to do just for the pleasure of it, to have something to focus on besides the cancer.

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MNBRINKLEY 1/16/2011 3:34PM

    A hobby is good for all of us. My hobby for years has been eating. i have to get a new one lol. One fun hobby that a friend of mine has is computer scrapbooking. Just like that which became popular a few years ago, she does it on line incorporating her own pictures into clip art and other stuff, and creates some beautiful pages of her kids, family, friends, and has even done power points and pages for others, making a little bit of money. She is paralyzed and can't drive, so it was a good hobby for her. She can even send pages electronically, have the printed, and they are mailed back to her. Good luck on your chemo.

Press on,

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Feeling a little guilty

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

I have been feeling a little guilty past couple weeks. I was going to be really good and post and check in with sparkfriends and I dropped the ball. I can't seem to do anything consistent. I am trying to get my act together, set some goals, follow through and such. I keep missing the mark. I am so afraid of writing goals down cause I know I never follow through so I figure if I don't write goals down I won't disappoint myself therefore sabotaging myself even further.

I need to figure out what it is I want, and how I am going to do it.

1) I need to make a list of foods I can and can not eat.
2) I need to figure out exercise I can do.
3) I need to set up a schedule for myself, making sure I do the things I need to do for me as well as the rest of the family.
4) FOLLOW THROUGH I need to set up some kind of reward system for myself.
5) I need to take into account chemo days are not good days to exercise or do much of anything.
6) I need to log in everyday and check in with friends and keep myself going..

Now to actually do this stuff LOL.... Wish me luck....My follow through sucks....

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BONNIE627 1/14/2011 11:06AM

    we all have the same problems so don't beat yourself up over it..just get here when you can.. emoticon emoticon

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PMCFARM 1/13/2011 11:00PM

  Don't be soooo hard on yourself. How about some teeney tiny baby steps...like maybe 1-2 goals for a week and then add 1 more. emoticon
emoticon MarilynC.

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1COUNTRY_GAL 1/12/2011 9:47PM

    Give yourself some credit girl.You don't need to feel guilty,you are responsible for YOUrself.We have go through this with our journey's.I have been on and off here 4 times and you just need to start slow pick one thing you really want and know you will do and go from there.Get yourself a spiral notebook to write a journal about your journey's and how you feel.Look back at this and make a plan from this.Somehow include your family to join you with your goals and having the extra support will help.Like your 2 other comments,keep trying and it will work for you.What works for one,won't work for another. emoticonwith the support available here I know you can! Support emoticonDiana emoticon

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MIMULUSBUG 1/12/2011 7:48PM

    I know exactly how you feel and continue to deal with many of the things that you've identified. Keep on keeping on, and don't let a few failures or missed goals keep you moving forward with your health goals.

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CELLOPLAYER1 1/12/2011 7:09PM

    Don't feel guilty. We all have our shortcomings. I find writing my goals down helps keep me motivated. I use my goals to keep me on track. I find that when I get off track the goals help bring me back.

Don't think of goals as something to fail but use them to center yourself. Something to come back to when you get off track.


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