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Sore back...

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

I put my back out Sunday night, scrubbing the kitchen floor on my hands and knees...I just got back from the chiropractor and I'm feeling much better...sore still, but much better than I was!

So my plans of painting the kitchen are on hold now. Until I'm feeling 100%. Oh well...it could have been worse, I guess. I can read and crochet and walk...not speed walk, of course, but walk nonetheless. So the rest of my vacation is going to be a much more relaxed, laid back vacation.

I've got to go...dogs are begging for my attention.

  
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MAINEROCKS 2/20/2008 9:43AM

    Ouch! Glad you are feeling better and hope you heal quickly! That'll teach you not to scrub the floor on your hand and knees! ;-)

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Quiet Saturday Morning

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Darryl left for his morning run, so it's just me and the four-leggeds in a quiet house. A nice cup of tea and the weekender paper...I don't have to rush out anywhere...I wish I could start every day this way!

Things at work are still going fairly well...for me, anyway. My co-worker is less critical of me, but I see she's always got to have someone she's mad at. Since our conversation, she's chosen three others to alternate being mad at. In fact, she's gone from barely speaking to me to confiding/complaining to me about these other co-workers. Very strange. I'm doing my best to not take on any of it...the negative energy, the gossip, the anger and cattiness. I listen, nod my head once in a while and try to move away.

This all has made me realize our problems were never really about me...I was personalizing it and it was never about me! Seeing how she is with everyone else, I can now see it's all about her and her insecurities (bordering on paranoia). So should I fall under the crosshairs again, I think I'll be able to handle it better. I hope it doesn't come to that, but I'm not naiive enough to think one conversation will fix everything.

I have empathy for her now...something I certainly didn't have before. I'm so thankful to the Sparker who suggested a sit-down with her, so I could really open my eyes!

I've mentioned before that we thought we were going to get month-to-month memberships at the YMCA...we haven't done it yet, but I'm really seeing the need. People around here are just NOT good about clearing their sidewalks and taking a brisk walk for exercise is just not feasible! Heck, even walking the dogs can be down right dangerous this time of year! Especially when it warms up, the snow/ice melts or turns to slush, then people walk through it, leaving it lumpy and bumpy and then it gets cold again and everything freezes like that...it's a twisted ankle, waiting to happen!

Tea's gone...dog wants attention...guess that's my cue.

  
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MAINEROCKS 2/16/2008 1:13PM

    So glad things are better at work. You have a great attitude with this co-irker -- pity instead of anger! :-) It's too bad that something in her life has made her so miserable.
Hope you have a great weekend!

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Things are going well...

Monday, February 11, 2008

Things are finally looking up...I'm getting along better with my co-worker...my kids both came home for dinner tonight, which was very nice...we're getting things organized and rearranged around the house (changed out the large dining room table for the smaller one with a leaf, which really opened up the dining room), and Darryl and I are beginning to get a routine down. It's not as bad as I feared it would be. I love my "alone time" with Darryl and it's such a treat to have the kids come home for a meal and a visit.

I have found that we have way too many leftovers now. And we never run out of toilet paper anymore! (Wow, did they go through a lot of toilet paper!) And the daily chores they used to do...I guess I didn't fully appreciate the little things they did around here until I had to start doing all of them!

Kate went back to her dorm room tonight, but Devon's staying overnight, so I'm going to close and visit with him some more before going to bed.

  
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CAMROLA 2/11/2008 10:59PM

    Hi, Kim. I'm so happy to hear you're settling back in to a routine and enjoying the upside that inevitably comes with change. It sounds like you have a wonderful support system in the great kids you've raised and the family around you. Enjoy them, and your new-found time. There's never enough of it in a day, but it sounds like you are making the most of it! : )

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MAINEROCKS 2/11/2008 9:33PM

    So glad that things are going well! :-) Sounds like you had a nice weekend with your kids, that's great. It's nice that they have a refuge like home to go and recharge the batteries. I'm sure they appreciate that!

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Dark, rainy day...

Wednesday, February 06, 2008

It's so dark out this morning...raining and a great day to sleep in...if only it wasn't the middle of the week!

But it is. And I'm dressed and ready for work and have a few moments to post.

As I mentioned yesterday, I had my meeting with my co-worker. I don't think there were any huge revelations, but I was honest and as kind as I could possibly be. I think she was appreciative that I came to her. I took the advice of a friend and presented it as a problem I was having and hoped she could help me...I don't believe she took offense, which is what I had hoped for.

I don't think one conversation will change much if anything, but at least it's been addressed and my hope is that it will open the lines of communication.

She spent most of the time re-telling me her philosophies, I think in hopes of convincing me that she's right in the direction she's going and that I was wrong. She didn't change my mind. But I realize she's not going to/willing to change. I need to find a different way through. And not take what she says/does personally. And NOT allow it to make me eat over it!

I've got to go...coffee's ready.

  
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PEONYQUEEN 2/9/2008 2:21PM

    It takes a lot of courage to address a problem like that though. And it sounds like you went about it the right way-kind, courageous, honest and not aggressive. Hopefully, it will help her respect your position, even if he can't agree with you.

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DCFKAF 2/8/2008 6:53AM

    You guys are great! Thanks for all the support you've given me through this difficult time in my life. I really appreciate it!

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CAMROLA 2/7/2008 11:31PM

    Hi, Kim. Good for your for taking a positive step in mending fences. I hope it helps to change the dynamic, if only for your own peace of mind.

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MAINEROCKS 2/6/2008 10:35AM

    Glad the meeting went fairly well! Hopefully that really does open up the lines of communication and help you to ignore her when you need to. :-) Good luck with her ;-)

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Gulp...today's the day...

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Today I'm meeting with my co-worker to discuss our poor working relationship...to say I'm nervous is an understatement. I'm beyond nervous. But I know it must be done.

We have yet to really settle into a child-free routine since the kids moved out. We've had so many different things come up that it doesn't really feel real yet. Darryl's working on the set for the high school play, so that's keeping him busy most evenings. I'm not sure when the play is, so I don't know how much longer that will continue.

I do know he bowls on Tuesdays and I have yoga on Tuesdays...and I have small group ministry the 2nd and 4th Mondays of the month and my gastric bypass on track class the 3rd Monday of each month...so that pretty much takes up Mondays and Tuesdays each week.

Weekends...ugh...we NEVER have just a free weekend to chill or do household projects. I'm looking forward to having some of those sometime. I want to do some painting...the kitchen and family room, to start. It would take far too long to try to do it evenings. I'd like to carve out a weekend to do it sometime.

Weight...uh yeah...not moving...up or down...just staying put. I'm not exercising, though. So if I did, I'm sure it would go down at least a bit. I've really got to get back to it...maybe go back to the early morning walks or something. By the time I get out of work, I just don't want to go work out. (Not to mention I have to rush home to let the dogs out.)

Wish I liked exercise...I'm sure I'd make room for it if I enjoyed doing it. Funny how that works, huh?

Time to go back to work...gulp...and then my meeting...gulp again!

  
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DCFKAF 2/5/2008 6:01PM

    Well, the meeting is over...I don't think it will change much, but it did, at least, open the lines of communication. I called attention to the large white elephant in the room. Nobody cried and we hugged when we left. So we'll see what comes of it. I'm just so relieved that it's over. I stressed all day over it. (Even ate a little over it. Not too bad, but not great, either.)

Thanks for your support! It gave me the courage to go through with it!

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MAINEROCKS 2/5/2008 12:38PM

    Good luck with the meeting! I hope it goes well!

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