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Five Years Ago Today -- My Brush with Death

Thursday, November 05, 2009

On Friday, November 5, 2004, I was headed south on MO highway 21 (also known as "Death Alley"), to my place of employment. It was 1:00 p.m. and a bright sunshiny day. Little did I know that within mere seconds, my life would spin out of control. For unknown reasons, at approximately 60 mph, I crashed head on into a school bus. From that moment on, my memories are vague and almost non-existent. The doctors tell me it is better that I do not remember the details. I was flown to a St. Louis hospital with numerous injuries: crushed foot, broken ribs, broken vertebrae in my neck, broken knee, torn ACL, broken fingers, both jaws damaged, torn rotator cuff, and a mild brain injury. I was in the hospital for three weeks. Then I was allowed to go home in a wheelchair for nearly five months before moving on to a walker and eventually a cane. Even after 10 surgeries, needless to say these injuries will be with me for the remainder of my days. However, I do not tell you of these events to dwell on the negative. In fact, my purpose is exactly the opposite.

Three years prior to the wreck, I had lost 125 pounds. Of course, once I became immobilized, things changed drastically. I not only gained back the 125 pounds but another 17 as well. Throughout these five years, I have been on a roller coaster ride in terms of physical limitations, emotional and mental chaos and levels of frustration beyond compare. Not until I became a member of Spark People did I feel like I would be able to change anything in regards to my weight and health. I have been a member almost one year now and I can say things are much better. The motivational articles I read give me hope; members cheer me on, even in my worst moments; I am becoming educated about health issues; and I feel I have a support group with members that know where I am coming from. I will forever be grateful to those of you who have taken time out of your busy schedules to give me a boost and reassure me that I can (and will) succeed. I tend to be somewhat of a non-patient sort and want what I want NOW. I am slowly adapting to the idea that it will come in time. God spared my life for a reason and I want to show Him my gratefulness by living my life for good and to attempt to help others in whatever way I can. I write this blog to thank Spark People in general but to specifically thank each and every one of you that have reached out to me and encouraged me to keep keeping on.

God bless you all in your own personal journeys.

Best Always,
Carla Jo a/k/a DaisyGirl

  
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GINAKAY11 11/21/2009 1:13PM

    Thank you for sharing. I didn't see this untill 11-21-09 because I didn't see the box that said I had spark mail. It is hard to keep up with every little thing on this web site.
We never know what is going to be in store for us in this life or what God's plan is for us. A belief that there is a purpose for each and every one of our lives is what keeps people going through the bad times. I just happened to be watching a TV program last night on wounded soldiers who have had serious brain injuries. They followed their care to rehabitate them as much as possible but they all require 24hr care now. The showed how the wives were now responsible for the care of their children and their husbands. The wives would never be able to get jobs because they could not leave their husbands unattended. Their jobs were to be caregivers for their husbands for the rest of their lives. On top of that they had their children to raise. I found the program heartbreaking as I do not feel the government does enough for these men. These men sustained these injuries while fighting for our country. Now I do not agree with a lot of the military/ leaders ideas on the way our service men are used but I do respect these young men for putting their lives on the line so we will have our freedom.
Anyway, I got off the main subject. I admire these women. They will carry a lot of responsibility for a very long time.

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AMYISSUCCEEDING 11/14/2009 3:26AM

    Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry about your accident. You are a very strong person and have come a long way. I am very proud of you. Like everyone else has said, YOU are a true inspiration.
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BO42SOX 11/11/2009 8:10PM

    thank you so much for letting me read your story.Im so glad your able to write,think.I have Faith and Pray daily my Son will be able to say a woerd,any word.I know he knows who I am,at least Id like to believe it-Thank you again-hugs-Kathleen

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JAZZID 11/7/2009 10:50PM

    Thanks for sharing your story with me... you have overcome so much.... I am so glad that I found Spark as well and I very thankful to have met people like yourself, who have accomplished so much despite the physical challenges you had to deal with...

The saying that keeps coming to mind is..."what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"... I truly believe this... You are a stronger person because of what you have gone through and you are so inspiring to me...

I am glad that we are in this journey together... Take care...

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AQUAGIRL08 11/7/2009 3:32PM

    Carla Jo, thank you for sharing such an inspirational story with us. It's amazing what we can go through and still come out in one piece. God never closes a door without opening a window and He gives us the strength to handle whatever life brings us. Never give up on yourself! You are worth the effort it takes to become healthy!

Cyndi

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DANGEL117 11/7/2009 3:17PM

    Your story is so insiring, heartwarming, and touching it brought me to tears!

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KIMILY327 11/7/2009 8:36AM

    What an awesome story and even more so the triumph you have accomplished over such a tragic thing. Blessings to you and yours!

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CMBELISLE 11/7/2009 7:33AM

    WOW! You really are lucky to be alive based on that picture. You are definitely an inspiration to others. Thanks for sharing.

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IMJETTA8 11/6/2009 11:27PM

    Thank you for sharing. I am glad to know such a wonderful person as you are. You also have made a difference in my life. So many blessings to look forward to. Sending you lots of love and light, Jetta

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SHEKIRK 11/6/2009 4:41PM

    Thank you for sharing this with all of us. As Whimsy stated you are an inspiration to all of us. You show such strength in dealing with all the challenges you have faced and still have such a positive attitude. I know I have gained strength from reading this and am thankful that you shared it with me.
Take care and remember we are stronger as a team then alone.

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WHIMSY54 11/6/2009 3:31PM

    A few years ago I read a comment by someone - forget where or why now but the idea has always stuck with me - and that is if you want to see God smile tell him/her what YOU have planned for your life. It's hard sometimes to think that maybe someone else has a different plan for our lives than we do. I would imagine sometimes you have wondered just what the plan for you might be - maybe it is to inspire others. I thank you for sharing your story. Don't give up though the road may be long and slow - the end result will be worth it! You are an inspiration.

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JESPAH 11/6/2009 12:24PM

    WOW -- you are totally cool.

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SPARK-JEAN 11/6/2009 11:36AM

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! You are an inspiration! I understand the trial and tribulation of coming back from a horrible accident. You are doing an awesome job! Keep up the great work and never give in. I know some days it is easier to give in when so much is wrong; hang tough in those bad days and know that you choose your destiny. God did save you for a purpose and I am so glad He brought you into my life.
Not only are you a GS sister, sparkfriend, but you are my sister in christ. May God continue to bless you and guide you.
jeanla

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HAPPYGRAMMA3 11/5/2009 6:57PM

    What an inspirational story! Thank you for sharing it. I have been thinking I might just quit Spark and go it on my own, but after reading your blog I realize I need others for this journey. God bless you and may you realize your dreams.

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My First Blog & Requesting Opinions!

Friday, September 18, 2009

This is my first blog so forgive me if I do it incorrectly. I would appreciate some opinions regarding exercising on a recumbent stationary bike VS. riding a mountain-type bike. Five years ago I hit a school bus head on and as a result, have a lot of permanent injuries - especially with my lower back, knees, ankles, feet and joints in general. I have been spending 30 minutes a day on my stationary bike only to be hurting so badly the next day that it takes every ounce of my being just to get back on it again. I have tried alternating every other day -- doesn't seem to make a whole lot of difference. A few days ago someone said to me that they thought riding a regular bike on somewhat level ground may be easier on me. I would appreciate any comments, thoughts or suggestions anyone might have. Thanks,
Carla Jo

  
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GRANDTEETON 9/27/2009 4:04PM

    Thanks for sharing about your accident on your blog! I love the background. I know where you are coming from with your injuries; I understand completely. My dr won't let me do any exercise except pool - and I don't have one..I go to my friend's as often as I can..hers is a heated pool..but she will be closing it soon. I was on a recumbent bike the few times I was able to go to physical therapy, but I could only make it 5 min...I used to ride it for an hour..it is disheartening.

We just gotta keep holding on! Good luck!


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SHEKIRK 9/25/2009 11:14PM

    Hi Carla Jo!
Thank you for sharing your blog with me. I still haven't started to blog yet, so I'm really impressed with your doing so. I heard the recumbent bike puts less stress on your joints. Not sure if a regular bike would be better. Wish I could be more help.


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JAZZID 9/25/2009 9:56PM

    Hi Carla, I am so sorry to hear about your dilemma... I wish that I could give you expert advice on what exercise would be better for you to do, the only thing that I can do is share with you my experience and how I handled it...

... years ago, I had a slipped disk, 8th vertebrae, thankfully I didn't have to have surgery, but I did have to have a lot of physical therapy for over a year.. Part of the physical therapy was doing core work on the floor with a tennis ball under the small of my back, pressing downward and for cardio, the physical/occupational therapist recommended that I ride a recumbent bike... For me, the recumbent bike was very comfortable because I was in a somewhat reclining position so there was no stress on my back... I am now able to ride a spinning bike, mountain bike, outside etc... I will always have twinges of pain in my lower back, and I notice that when I am an acute stage of pain, when I ride an upright bike (... my spinning bike) for me, it is not comfortable and hurts my lower back after about 15 minutes I have to stop... the difference in an upright bike is that you are bending forward and that can put stress on an already strained or injured back... I think that if my handle bars were higher or even with my seat maybe it wouldn't have hurt so much, I don't know...

This is all I can think of to tell you because your case is different from mine... What about walking?... if walking doesn't bother you, I would start with that... did you have physical therapy? if not, you might want to consider discussing this with your doctor, this is how I started on my rode to recovery... in the meantime, if you can walk, than do that... I lost a whole pants size from walking last year...

I don't know how much I have helped you, but I hope that you can take something away from my comment and I wish you the best of luck in finding an exercise program that is beneficial, comfortable and safe for you. It took me close to 2 years to get back on my feet, I couldn't even bend down to tie my shoes, I had to buy slip on shoes and my ex-husband helped me put those on! I never thought that I would be where I am now... start with your physician and "stay encouraged" ... emoticon ~ Dee ~

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AMYISSUCCEEDING 9/24/2009 7:39AM

    Thank you for the E-Mail. I am sorry but I can't really give you any advice either. There is no way I could ride a real bike so have a stationary bike in my house and I really like it. It is the easiest thing for me. I am quite heavy and my feet bother me from walking on cement floors for the last 25 years at work.
I too think water aerobics would be a good exercise too and sometimes I do that also.
I am hoping that once I get some of my weight off again I'll be able to do my Walk away the Pounds tapes. That is what I really miss.
Have a great rest of the week.
Amy

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DSHRBURR4 9/23/2009 10:08PM

    Great job on the posting. I wished I had some words of advice but I do not own a bike - I walk outside with a group of women whenever possible.

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ADNAW_YOTS 9/23/2009 6:31PM

    Hi Girl! I have to agree with a lot of the comments above, after my surgery the best thing I did was find a water class. it has made me more sure of myself and you can do more in the water than you can on land without hurting knees, abs, etc.
Let me know which route you take. I would love to ride a bike again. Only in Hilton Head can I ride and feel comfortable because it is so flat.

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SPARK-JEAN 9/23/2009 4:31PM

    Carla,
Great 1st posting! I am so sorry to read about your accident and injuries. A drunk driver hit me over 11 years ago and I have lifetime disabilities and am so grateful I am alive.
I am so thankful that you are alive and trying to improve yourself.

I read a few great suggestions - I agree with the water therapy. I still love water therapy - where other exercises can do more harm then good {being in pain is one} water exercises can do so much more for you without adding pain and more discomfort.
I love my treadmill because I have built myself up to go greater lengths and can increase/decrease the speed,ect.

I wish you the best in whatever you choose - please keep blogging and seeking input. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

God Bless you!
jeanla



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WHIMSY54 9/23/2009 3:36PM

    I think you did a great job of blogging! I don't have an answer about the bike - I think it is a matter of trying things and going slow. I have back problems - although not nearly as bad as some of the injuries you have sustained - and I find I have to modify some exercises - but after 5 years of building up strength my core is much stronger, bones are denser and I feel much better. Hang in there and be very proud of the weight you have lost and how well you have hung in there!

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AQUAGIRL08 9/23/2009 3:21PM

    Hi Carla Jo,

I'd like to suggest that you skip the bike for now and try walking in a pool. Water exercise is easier on those sore joints because the water supports your body weight. I have 2 knee replacements and lots of spinal issues. Water exercise has been my saving grace! Whatever it is that you decide to do, please check it out with your doctor first before exercising. Once you get checked out and are given the green light, start out small, say 5 minutes, and build up little by little over a period of weeks. Too much, too fast can actually hurt your body and cause additional problems. That is why you consult a doctor first before doing anything. Small changes over time add up to big changes. I'm here if you need me.

Cyndi

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POLYANASUNSHINE 9/23/2009 2:55PM

    Great 1st blog., or I should say great blog. It is like you have been doing them forever. Maybe 30 minutes is too long. perhaps you should start with 10 minutes and see how you feel the next day. Maybe you need to work up to 30 minutes or maybe you can only do 10 minutes. Listen to your body. I would thein the recombent bike would be better than the regular one.

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BELLACUDDLES 9/23/2009 2:17PM

    I use my st. bike.......nonrecummbent......my chiro suggested that over a rec. bike. GOod blog too!!!!!!!! emoticon

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MRSAKINS2005 9/23/2009 2:02PM

    Yes great first blog. These are what blogs are about. They help us to know if you are happy or need of support, just vent, just babble or give a lesson on a topic or two.

I am glad you are alive as well. I am not sure of the many differences. Othan than the statioinary is what it says it is. I usually get all my cardio in by walking. However, I would suggest speaking with you presonal physican about the pain you are experencing with your workout. Maybe he/she can help reccomond some alternatives.

Just a suggestion. I hope to see and hear a lot more from you.

Nancy

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CMBELISLE 9/23/2009 1:36PM

    I don't know about the differences in the kinds of bikes, but I do know that when my daughter had physical therapy on her knee, she only did about 5 to 10 minutes at a time. Did you have any physical therapy after your accident? If so, the kinds of exercises you did then should give you a hint to what you should do now and build on that. If not, maybe seeing a physical therapist to get you started in the right direction would help.

Best of luck to you - great first blog!

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IMJETTA8 9/23/2009 12:31PM

    WOW, it is a blessing that you are alive!! How awful that it happend to you. Would a treadmil be easier on your body? I have both a stationary bike and a treadmil. I really like the treadmil because it can be at any speed you want plus I can increase the hill if I want to. I do it mixed up so it is not the same but it is better to slowly increase the slant/speed.

I think that a bike would be just to tough on your joints after what you have been through.

Great 1st blog! YOU GO GIRL!!!

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JESPAH 9/23/2009 10:53AM

    First off, great 1st blog entry. :)

I'm sorry that biking has been so painful for you. I wonder if some of that pain has to do with other things, like the seat on the stationery bike, or your posture.

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