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LATTEGAL
4/7/2011 10:56PM
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Dont give up because you will feel worse then you do know. You have some really great friends and support on spark. I have been in the same boat as you and I look for comfort and support from all of you. I have some medical issues and thyroid problems that is making my weight loss hard too but I figure if I go back to the way it was I would only be letting myself down. So I will stick with it no matter what and you can too!
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THINANDFITEMILY
4/7/2011 1:07PM
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Hi, I'm going t be 50 in May-not really even pre-menopausal yet but getting there...anyway I have a heel spur and it started acting up. I used to like go out for 8-10 mile walks but now I have to bike(brrr) or jump on a rebounder-that is ok...and swim-what a pain in the butt to get myself to the pool and talk about boring. However when I do these I find I am happier. You gotta move You gotta do something. Also I too have the oh you look great-actually I am 40 pounds over what I used to weigh and many people think I look better. My heel spur tells me differently. It is cracking under all that pressure! So I am finally heading in the right direction. I am eating more low carb& LOTS of veggies! Moving every day. Trying to relax-take a bath or something EVERY DAY!. I listed why I want to lose. I taped it to the back of my bedroom door. Also I take dulse or kelp as a supplement & that has gotten rid of my salt cravings and is supposed to be good for thyroid-BUT ask your Dr. first esp. if you may have a thyroid problem. It is good that you yelled for help. Don't stop -you will get there. Ya know my goal is a 1% loss every week and setting that has been helpful. Let us know how you are doing and if you need another kick in the butt!  Em Report Inappropriate Comment |
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CUBS07
4/7/2011 12:58PM
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Thank you all for your support. There are some good ideas there and things to think about. I am going to go ahead and get my thyroid checked and be done with it. I still don't think that's the problem but who knows. I know my problem is mental right now. I wish I didn't put so much pressure on myself. These are things I need to work on. I did get up today and worked out -- even made a healthy lunch. So, I'm not throwing in the towel yet.
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LDERSCH
4/7/2011 8:14AM
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Donna, Please don't give up. We're in this together. I'm sort of in the same boat you are. I have a wedding in August and I'm not losing the weight. I am realizing that I am putting a half-hearted effort toward it, sort of lip service only. I am not really trying. If I feel hungry, I go eat something. And, I'm not tracking religiously either. Let's make a pact to put forth 100% effort and hold each other accountable. I'm not sure how to do this, but we can do it. Go ahead and have the thyroid checked; my doctor had mine checked because I gained 20 pounds in a year. Of course, that wasn't the problem. The problem was that I had gone back to my old eating habits. I thought I knew what to eat, that I didn't have to track. But, I am coming to the conclusion that there are no shortcuts. I care!! Linda Report Inappropriate Comment |
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BMASON1948
4/7/2011 12:27AM
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Don't give up- It is natural to occasionally feel discouraged. Spend the next week really taking care of yourself- Eat according to the plan and make sure you include a treat every day. Get some exercise and some sleep- Menopause is tiring and emotionally draining. Understand that those that love you want you to be happy more than they want you to be thin. This is about feeling good-both physically and emotionally 
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SKUTRGAL
4/6/2011 9:40PM
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As one menopausal woman to another, let me tell you I can empathize. I have only lost 2 pounds since I joined the 2nd week of January. You have gotten great ideas, & I hope you take them to heart. One thing I would suggest is that, even if you're sure your thyroid is ok, you go ahead and get it checked. Even if it's on the low side of normal it might still have an effect. A least that's been my experience. Good luck, don't sweat the small stuff & enjoy Hawaii! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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NEELIXNKES
4/6/2011 2:58PM
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You have gotten some good advice so I just wanted to say hang in there!
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JOJOMAGIC1
4/6/2011 11:42AM
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Don't give up! I know how you feel about family. My husband isn't any help sometimes. He thinks I look fine which is great but that isn't what I need. Just take it day by day! YOu can do it! Believe in yourself
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UNSTOPPABLE_
4/6/2011 11:01AM
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Sending some  I've been there & will likely be there again....Just hold on! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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JEWLSM
4/6/2011 10:42AM
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I don't have any major words of wisdom. All I can say is that if you don't have your head in the game, you will be disappointed in yourself when you get to Hawaii. Just try to remember how good you felt when you were doing things right for yourself. You DO look great, but I understand not feeling comfortable with yourself. You CAN do this! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SALINAMATHER
4/6/2011 10:32AM
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I read a study the other day that talked about how much more difficult it is for women to lose weight after menopause. Don't beat yourself up about it too much. My mom is 59, past menopause and really wants to lose some weight but having a hard time staying motivated to work out as hard as she needs to and to not eat her favorite sweets and snacks. The motivation will have to come from you and being so negative on yourself is not a good frame of mind to be in. A couple of months ago I was being so hard on myself and I completely lost focus on my goals. All I really want is to just be healthy and happy. Once I refocused on those goals and quit being so darn hard on myself, I found it easy to start losing weight again. I quit tracking what I ate so I wasn't stressing over it anymore, and just instead make healthy food choices. Salad instead of hamburger, LOL. I don't force myself to work out everyday or beat myself up if I'm too tired to do it one day. This morning I was exhausted when the alarm went off so I set it for later and was going to skip my workout. I woke up on my own a half an hour later feeling so much better that I actually still did my workout. Give yourself a break. Besides, you deserve to enjoy life. We do enough beating up of ourselves in our 20s, 30s and 40s! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SANDRA1982
4/6/2011 10:32AM
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why don't you forget about the scale for a little while... focus on eating healthy and exercising. Get out of the routine...find a new exercise that you enjoy...something fun. Focus on the positive...enjoy the journey... then when you have a more positive view of food and exercise weigh in... You will probably find that you have started to lose again. You are worth it and if YOU are not happy at your current weight you DESERVE to change it. I know how annoying it is when they dismiss how you feel and just tell you that you look fine... well I have news for them... If you are not happy with YOU then YOU deserve the time and energy require to change it.
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KATJAMN
4/6/2011 10:28AM
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You are not alone.. Just stay with the program. Exercise when you can even if it is 10 minutes at a time. You don't have to do 60 minutes all together. You can do this.. sometimes, it takes some longer than others. One day you will get on the scale and see a remarkable loss. Also, do you measure? sometimes that boosts my morale even if I haven't lost but the inches are less. DON'T QUIT!!!! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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PRINCESSDI733
4/6/2011 10:16AM
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I know exactly how you are feeling. I need to lose those last 15 baby pounds and just can't seem to find the motivation. I know it has to come from me and no one else. I think you might need to put your weight loss goals on hold and just focus on being healthy. If you have a lot of stress right now your lack of weight loss only adds to the frustration and stress. I know my problem is eating. I am working out harder and more consistently than ever but don't take the time to measure and track like I need to. My saving grace is that I am not gaining. I would have your thyroid checked, right now it is probably adding to the additional stress and when you get tested and find out what is going on, you can either move on or get treated if necessary. If you need a break take a break but don't quit! You are worth the extra effort but the timing may not be right. Figuring out ways to reduce your stress my benefit your life the most right now. When things line up again you will be able to lose the weight. Keep your head up and breathe!
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I'm hoping for some guidance here from my Couch to 5K or Cubbies Teams. I signed up for my first 5k - April 16th. I know some of you have done it before - Race to Wrigley. I have been training on my treadmill - the Cool Running Couch to 5K workout. I did it before and was very successful - but never ran outside. Before I had foot surgery January 2010 and than Nov. 2010 I could run up to 5 miles at a time ---ON THE TREADMILL. I won't lie. I'm intimidated to run outside. Next week is my last week of the 5k training. I am having no problem doing it ON THE TREADMILL. So, last week I went with my husband to the gym to practice running on their indoor track. I was so disappointed in myself. I couldn't do more than a half a mile. My feet were killing me - and I do wear gel inserts in my shoes. My right foot is still a little swollen so that should have been expected. I didn't pace myself well and I gave up after half a mile. So, of course, now I am panicked! I did sign up for the fun run (rather than the timed run) because it's my first (and probably last) 5K. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can better prepare on the track and than outside once the weather improves? I have to admit that I do have a bad cold and did have it when I ran but that can't be the whole reason I did so poorly. Any suggestions? I'M PANICKED!
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KNUTE4477
3/28/2011 4:13PM
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How is the training going??
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CUBS07
3/10/2011 12:22PM
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Thank you ladies for your words of wisdom. You are right. I need to take a deep breath. I will do the best I can - I'm not giving up.
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PRINCESSDI733
3/8/2011 1:55PM
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Don't stress too much. You will do fine and even if you end up walking it is not a big deal. I am not a runner even though I did the Race to Wrigley 2 years ago. I thought running in a race might change my opinion but it didn't. There are a ton of people who don't run one step the whole race and lots of people who take walking breaks. I would try running outside but run for a few minutes then walk one and keep alternating. Listen to some good music and just concentrate on your breathing. Try again when you are feeling better. You can do this!
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BACK2MINIME
3/7/2011 10:00PM
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I don't run but the only thing I can say is to practice, practice and more practice! Just be careful not to hurt yourself. You still have time I suggest to start by 11/2 miles and up it every week. If weather is not allowing you to workout outdoors do it at the track.  Good luck!
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SANDIK9806
3/7/2011 9:55PM
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First...breath!! When I was able to run I found that, when healthy, I ran much further and even faster outside. I was scared to run outside at first, but I bit the bullet and did it. I will tell you it's a lot easier to run with tons of other people running with you. I'm not an expert runner, and given my cyst under my knee cap I can't do it much anymore, but when I did I was way more productive outside! My advise (totally not worth a dime, but it's what my experience was and what my heart says), just breath, try again when you do not have a cold and try not to get worked up about your foot or running outside in general. Just go with it, run while you can, walk if you need, just make the goal to finish and enjoy yourself and do that! So proud of you for doing this!! Report Inappropriate Comment |
