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Saturday, February 06, 2010

On Thursday, Steve and I went out on a date (our first in a month). He wanted to get dressed up, so that he could wear his new black suit. (He's much more excited about the black three-button suit we got him than he his about the brown two-button suit we got him for the wedding.) So, even though I was exhausted from the work week, we got all dolled up and went out to Aya Sofia. Aya Sofia is a higher end Turkish restaurant that we'd been to once before, and we both enjoyed it. It was so nice to sit across a table from him and see his face and hear his voice. The booths were cozy and closed in, so it also felt private.

Steve decided on their lamb special. I settled on one of the only two vegetarian entrees they offered, Imam Biyaldi, a delicious eggplant dish, stuffed with a million different vegetables and seasoned with awesome.

When I shared my choice, Steve said "I almost picked that one, but I'm meat deficient."

"Excuse me," I said, "I have made sure that all of the meals I've been cooking have been nutritionally balanced."

He replied, "I didn't say you weren't cooking us balanced meals. I said I was meat deficient."

"But..." I whined, "I bought you bratwurst. Just for you."

"I know, you're taking caring of me. I just want some meat tonight."

At least he only complains about my vegetarian tendencies once a month.

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LASSKERR 2/8/2010 10:33AM

    My partner does the same things when we go out. She is a meat eater , I am not. I cook meat for her as often as she would like but to be honest I think just the idea that someone else can cookl them meat and it isn't an extra addition to the meal makes them feel special :) Don't let it get to you. Sounds like a great night out though and a good meal

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TOWANDA132 2/7/2010 10:52AM

    that sounds like a very sweet date. And you are so sweet to feed him!

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Some questions for reflection

Friday, February 05, 2010

These questions were posted on my yoga team, and I liked them so much I wanted to put them here to reflect on.

1) How do I spend my time alone?

2) Do I pay attention to what my body needs?

3) To whom am I grateful?

4) Do I compare my life to other people's?

5) Do I spend my money on things that speak to my soul?

6) What do I see when I look in the mirror each morning?

7) Have I figured out a way to handle the less-than-perfect relationships in my life?

8) Do I have faith in something bigger than I am, whether it is God or some other spiritual form?

9) What positive things do I bring to relationships with my family and my friends?

10) Is there a space in my home to do the things I love( like paint, practice yoga, write etc)?

11) How many hours a week do I spend on my computer, my TV, my Blackberry?

12) Do I feel older or younger than my years? How often do I feel good about being exactly the age I am?

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TOWANDA132 2/7/2010 10:52AM

    good quetions, i hope you share the results with us.

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  I loved these - it's funny I have them for me to do when it's quiet and I have a few minutes. And I still haven't gotten to them yet. emoticon I have to make time.

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PIDJEN 2/5/2010 10:56PM

    These are great questions!!!! I've been asking myself quite a few similar questions lately. I wish I had started asking them years ago. Thank you for sharing!!! emoticon

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IRETA49 2/5/2010 9:12PM

    Good questions.

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Continuing the uphill trudge

Sunday, January 24, 2010

I am feeling a bit overwhelmed today. I don't necessarily feel the drowning panic I usually feel at this point, but the to-do list looks really heavy today. And the climb looks steep. I can do it; it's just daunting.

This morning Steve and I did some housework (it's amazing what a great bonding experience housework can be) before he went to bed. I've planned my day and revised the first draft of my personal statement for my PhD application. I am not happy with it, but I need to send it off to one of my professors so that I can get some feedback. I also need to revise and edit my writing sample and send it off for feedback. Then I need to write a lesson plan, a lecture, correct homework, respond to several frantic students, and then find time to finish my own homework for the class I'm taking.

And around all of this, I need to exercise. I gained this week, just one pound, but it was disheartening. I accomplished my goal of eating meatless for 6 days this last week - and the one day I did eat meat, it was only at dinner. The rest of my goals were sporadic at best. I got in some exercise, but not enough. With how I'm feeling, I think I will just promise myself a 10 minute work-out. If I can make time for that, I will be happier and less stressed about the rest of my work.

And I will not even mention the first wave of negativity I'm receiving about the wedding. Because of my workload at the moment, I'm vulnerable, so I need to not deal with it right now. I'll address it when I'm more emotionally balanced.

Here's hoping the rest of you have a slightly more grounded day than I'm having!

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JAUDON 1/24/2010 8:23PM

    Busy times for you right now! You can get through this, even if its not easy all the time. I love the idea of committing to just 10 minutes. You can definitely manage that, it will make a big difference, and build your confidence.

Good luck getting through all your craziness!!

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KIERAE 1/24/2010 2:20PM

    hang in there girl - figure out what is manageable and focus on that. (and dude - I am pretty sure I just gained a pound watching Iron Chef so relax..its a pound. Stress anyone?) emoticon

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Mindful eating

Monday, January 18, 2010

Today's Daily Insight from Yoga Journal : Conscious Eating, Conscious Living

"Do you ever feel like food is something that's getting between you and your life? In today's modern world, we rarely make time to eat mindfully. Often, we eat on the go, in cars or at our desks for the five minutes we can spare. But when we eat without noticing our food, we miss one of life's greatest pleasures and we allow that which should nourish us to become that which causes us stress.

The next time you eat, take a moment to relax and really taste your food. Stop what you're doing, sit down, and notice the flavors, textures, and smells of the meal in front of you. Express gratitude for the health and nourishment it provides. And then, as you eat, truly enjoy the experience.

Over time, this ritual can improve your digestion and overall physical and mental health."

It's nothing particularly new, but it's a good reminder to read on occasion. Marking Yule (winter solstice) as my starting point, I'm trying to grow a practice of intentional living and mindfulness as the year grows. I have many things in my life that are demanding my attention, and the one thing that I've learned at this point in my life is the when stress enters the pictures, I quickly let go of mindfulness. It is faster to do things on autopilot, and check them off the list, and the easiest, by far, is eating. Eating must be done, but when I'm filling in meetings on my calendar, it's the only thing that does not get an appointment. Actually, I just looked at my calendar for tomorrow, and I am booked from 9am to 6pm, and I have not scheduled any time for lunch. At least, I have a solid meal plan for this week and my lunch already packed. Now to turn to that calendar and schedule sometime for conscious eating.

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JAUDON 1/19/2010 10:30AM

    I try to be more mindful in my daily life, and especially as related to eating - its hard, but with practice it gets a lot easier. Something that has helped a lot for me is to focus on the texture of my food. It keeps my brain focused on what I am doing, and eventually has made me more mindful in general.

Slightly related - you would probably like the blog Zen Habits - I read it most days, and its a great blog. Its all about simplicity in your life, mindfulness, minimalism, etc.

And, good luck getting through that crammed schedule!!!

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More blogging

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Just checking in to check in. This week has been good all around, I guess. It was sort of a huge week. I realized that my PhD application is in two weeks (eek!), so that's moved right up on my priority list. (Holy crap - I'm almost done with my MA.) My study partner started to freak out about MA exam studying, which is good - I've been freaking out about other stuff and realized that I'm behind on studying for that. I swear, if I make it through this semester....

I started teaching on Monday - it went better than I expected but not nearly as well as I'd hoped. It was also both easier and harder than I'd expected - figure that one out.

Steve and I have made a lot of progress on wedding planning. We bought our wedding bands last week, we've talked so much about what we want that the rest of the planning should go fairly smoothly. We have a meeting at the reception site we want to go with, and we're currently harassing an unresponsive manager at our first choice for ceremony location. Steve has a tentative menu picked out. We took Steve suit shopping and got him all suited up for the wedding. I just have to find the courage to go buy my wedding dress when I'm hoping to drop 15 to 20 pounds before October. I admit, I feel awful being one of those brides who's hoping she'll be a different size come her wedding day. At the very least, I want my arms to look nicer in that dress. :( Also, Steve and I have begun talking about what we want the ceremony to be like - and that has me more excited than any of the party stuff. We're really getting married!!

On a fitness front here, I decided not to kill myself by training for a half-marathon in April - instead I'll shoot for September. My goal is a 10k in April, and a half-marathon in September. If I run a half-marathon before my wedding, I damn well better be closer to my goal weight! I've been working on re-establishing some of the habits I'd let slip (running more than 2x per week, planning more vegetarian meals, and tracking my food everyday). When I get those habits solid again, I think I'm going to add Coach Nicole's 7-day bootcamp workouts to my routine and evening yoga at home every night. BUT baby steps first.

How are everyone else's goals progressing?

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CRESIDA 1/17/2010 11:32PM

    Haha, true! But here is the only place that I update is more than 140 characters. ;)

The good news on the dress front is the *most* I'll drop is one size. And the dress I have picked out is a forgiving, flowy, not overly fitted or structured style. So if I go order the dress now, the alterations shouldn't be too nightmarish... I hope.

Jaudon, I cannot imagine putting a wedding together on five weeks. It's taken Steve and I twelve months to agree on food. Although, I suspect part of that is that we let ourselves have so long to plan. :D

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KIERAE 1/17/2010 10:10PM

    Okay I find it funny as hell that I get your updates on your wedding planning here (considering we follow each other in several I think you can do the weight loss easily, particularly with the training but I most certainly wouldnt stress. Just don't be one of those bridezillas who buys their wedding dress 5 sizes smaller and then can't understand why the thing doesn't fit. Seriously..haha. emoticon

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JAUDON 1/17/2010 9:53PM

    Have fun with the wedding planning! I planned my whole wedding in 5 weeks, and it was horrible - I was so stressed! You can actually enjoy it. And, dont stress about the dress - its a lot more fun that you think it will be! And, if you need a recommendation for a photographer, I know a great one. I actually did a lot of wedding photography when I lived in St Louis, and this guy is really good!

Good luck finishing your MA!!!

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