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Marathon Weight Gain and Mom

Friday, July 22, 2011

Gaining weight from marathon training has been getting harder for me lately. I don't really think it's muscle either. I feel more like I just need excess food and I have no self control for days after long runs and it sucks! I made a deal with my husband that we are going back to actual dinners together again. He said he was cool with that. Even for marathon training u should eat clean. My friend keeps saying, Wow I bet you could eat anything when your running that much and that long. Um no not really. It takes "joy eating" to another level. Instead of eating until I am sick. With the long runs you feel sick and can't eat enough, or I do. No one seems to have the same issue as me lol I am just keeping the house stocked with a 4 cheese pizza I can share with Scott after the runs and I feel better from that. This man in my group group weighs about 250 and runs for his step son that passed away that always wanted him to run a marathon with him. So ever since he has run 4 in his memory. He is going out early tomorrow at 5 am, 1.5 hrs before the group because he is slower. Maybe I should go with him. It's a 12 mile run and I might need to go slower. He's the only person in the group that I enjoy talking to. Only problem is I gotta work at 11:30 am. Can I run 12 miles and then work 6 hrs on my feet, hmmmm. Maybe I can take a nap between. My life is a bit on the NUTS side these days.

Oh anyway that's what I started writing about with the marathon weight gain. I tell my friends about feeling fat and they just go PSH. Gaining 10-15 lbs after losing 130 is not as small and sad as it sounds. I am not telling them "oh poor me" I am actually telling them I am depressed and no one takes me serious they think I am just being cocky and half ignore me. I have gained all my weight back before and it's not so hard to do. It is exhausting to always worry about this and never just lay back and relax. I guess some ppl have alcohal issues and can't have alcohol in the house. They would probably envy my 1 beer or less a week. I envy their ability to stay away from trail mix.

I still haven't talked to my parents. I am not even pissed anymore, but I don't wanna be the first to call. I have a feeling my parents can go for yrs without calling me either. That is just how they are. It's easier to not confront an issue than work it out. I got really upset about this yesterday and started crying to my friend and Scott. It's been affecting my eating too. I just don't like the person I am around my parents anymore. I turn into this cocky self absorbed b!tch that's always on a time schedule. Probably because their lifestyle make me crazy now. They do everything so slowly, on no type of schedule whatsoever. If we are leaving at one time plan on them being 35-50 minutes late. So doing things with them is teeth grinding frustrating. Plus they are so fragile now and I just worry the whole time I am with them. Like that old house walk I did with my mom. I looked forward to it for weeks and I asked my dad on the 4th of july what my mom thought it and all she had to say was "There was a lot of walking". Some people are old at 60 and I understand that. But why did they let themselves get so old at 60. Maybe this is just a good time to stay away from them and work on being a nicer more patient person. Running and exercise and being with ppl who run and exercise just slowly turns u into a type A personality. My old life does not jive well with that it seems. I also feel like time is running out tho and my dad goes to dialysis 3 days a week to stay in our lives and I am just squandering that time.............

Funny thing is I got a call from "Parents House" while I was writing this blog and they hung up really fast before I could answer. Probably my dad half sleeping.

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EDDYMEESE 7/23/2011 10:42PM

    The same thing happened to me when I was running. I gained so much weight and I was training for a marathon. Okay, I didn't gain a ton, but I definitely wasn't losing like I would have hoped to. But part of that was because I forgot that I still have an eating disorder. I'm an over-eater. So I would undo all of the hard work on my runs. Even a 12 mile run, where you're burning 1000-1200 calories, can be undone by a couple of slices of pizza and a beer. But don't let yourself play too many head games, either. You can still fix this!

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    Hi there! I've been reading your blog for a while and this one definitely struck a cord on how I've been feeling about my parents. They're in their 50s but my mom constantly talks about how OLD she is... how terrible she looks, how fat she is, etc no wonder my self-esteem is terrible. I don't even know what to do to convince her that she doesn't have to be old at 50 or 60 or actually never. You never have to become old... I think age is a mental thing. I want her to be around for a long time and be active and I really hope she changes. Maybe if she sees me making huge changes in my life- she'll follow. Maybe you should sit down with your mom and have a talk with her and tell her all of this? Take some time to cool off, but not too much time and then call them. I'm thinking about doing this next time I visit. Not even going to bother over the phone.

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MBSHAZZER 7/22/2011 10:13AM

    Hey there, I just stumbled across your blog... you lost 130 pounds!!! WOWZA! That is an amazing accomplishment!

Weight gain during marathon training is normal, but not inevitable. I have run 3 marathons - I lost weight during the first two and put a little back on for the 3rd. Here are some tips I found helpful:
-The more long runs you do, the more your body will get "used" to it and not need all that much extra fuel. That feeling of wanting to EVERYTHING in sight? It goes away with time!

-Eating clean is key to avoiding bingeing later on. Clean eating will help you regulate your blood sugar. Focus on fresh fruits and veg and whole grains like brown rice, quinoa, buckwheat, etc. I find the bulk bins at Whole Foods or similar are a really inexpensive way to experiment with new grains.

-I have a hard time eating directly after a long run, but if I don't refuel with something, it can be difficult to tame the munchies later on. I use a recovery drink called Recoverite by Hammer, but basically anything with a 3:1 or 4:1 carb to protein ratio will work - a lot of people like low fat chocolate milk. Have that after your run and you'll be able to strech, cool down, shower and then have time to make a sensible meal.

-This is controversial, but a lot of people (myself included) opt to either not fuel or fuel minimally on long runs. By not giving your body a quick source of fuel, it is forced to use fat stores as fuel. If you want to try this, pick a day when you are doing a long SLOW run, bring plenty of water with you, and back up fuel just in case! It might be good to try it on a group run. I have used this strategy for years and most recently had a PR at my last marathon having only consumed 2 gels on the route - definitely could have skipped them, too!

If you have any questions, feel free to ask!

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RUNSWITHDEER 7/22/2011 9:25AM

    At 52, I see the effects that running has had on my body. Yeah, I can take IBprofen like its candy, but I know its not good. I realize that I am sore most every day and night but I choose to run. I am blessed to be able to run. I can live with the soreness but I may pay dearly come 60 or 65? Give the parents their time. If I were you I would call them today! Life is too short. If life has to slow down when you are around them, so be it. The people we have in our lives are there for a reason, or so I believe. We should look upon them as blessings, even if thats hard. And when I look at people as blessings, you know what, I think that my attitude starts to change, my heart gets a little softer for them. Not bad for an old grinch. hehe

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Sometimes you gotta use yourself for encouragement

Thursday, July 21, 2011

I was thinking of all the stuff I have been doing wrong lately and how I need to correct it. I know exactly how to correct all the little stupid stuff I keep screwing up on. Do all the tips I give other people. It sucks how sometimes you are on such a roll and losing weight and all well. But then when u get off that track, getting back on seems so hard.

1) Get house cleaned up, nothing in my life is organized until my home is clean.

2) Get back to eating my fruits and veggies.

3) Eat out ONCE a week, THAT IS IT! Anymore then that is a disaster. Also make the occasion a nice one. Not a fast dinner on someones lunch break where I am rushing.

4) Make dinner everynight at home with 4 servings of veggies. Even if you have to eat dinner at 4 pm. Make it happen. When you eat a balanced meal it helps so much. Eating small meals all day just leaves me hungry for more and more small meals.

5) Stop stressing over the small stuff. You are where you are for a reason. You didn't sign up for any running events because YOU didn't want to. You did them because once upon a time u felt empowered to do so and you don't wanna let that girl down. Enjoy every workout and STOP looking at it as a hassle! I repeat STOP THIS NOW!

6) Stop watching so much tv. That roku box is cool but it causes u to eat garbage in bed. Start reading at night before bed instead. It is really hard to eat and read at the same time!

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EDDYMEESE 7/23/2011 10:36PM

    Jules, thanks for writing this :) It's a reminder to all of us! P.S. It's okay to not be PERFECT every day! Keep up the good work. You are still the same person who ran races and who loses weight and who eats all of their veggies!

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PAPER_WINGS18 7/21/2011 2:55PM

    Hey Jules,

I just want you to know that I'm here if you need me! :) I know I haven't bene posting as much since I've been so busy with this new job, but if you need anything don't hesitate to PM me or FB message me. If you want, PM me your cell and we can text or something for extra support/accountability.

I KNOW that you will pick yourself back up and continue kicking @$$. It just takes a little self-talk and reflection to get there.


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JWARD199 7/21/2011 2:27PM

    Julie, your blogs are frequently meaningful to me, but this one really hits home. I'm trying to get back on track too. I really need to get back to exercising and watching portions. I eat healthy, but too much at times. I like the advice you gave yourself. I may need to give myself a talking to.

Thanks for posting!


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PSFITMOMMY413 7/21/2011 9:56AM

    It's so hard to get back on track. I finally have...I hope you do too :)

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THESB25 7/21/2011 9:49AM

    Thanks for all the tips and wrote this for yourself, but all of the above applies to me too emoticon

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Ugh Arg Ugh

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

I have not written in a week. Nothing has really been going well per say. Not a lot of good eating or good exercise. Just a whole lot of hanging in there. Going on auto piolot. Having a hard time with my parents right now and I am not speaking to them. It has been over a week. I know what people are gonna say, life is too short to do that. They can contact me though and they choose not to so whatever. Everything makes me wanna contact them, little things I see. I am pissed though and I am not gonna, so be it. Oh and I can't go on any trips without them watching my dogs. So now I am pretty much Xing my august trip I wanted to go on. I am on my TOM and I am eating everything its been bad. My exercise has even sucked. The heat outside is pissing me off too. Can't run without feeling like I am gonna die. Can't walk my dogs without feeling like I could kill them. Ok I am done whining. On a good note I took my friend Mavis to water aerobics tonight and she really enjoyed it. TOM go away and bring something positive my way, PLEASE! I have been getting a lot of sleep. Probably because I pass out at 10pm every night no matter where I am.

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RELIVE 7/21/2011 9:23AM

    Since I have one of those long term birth controls I don't have a TOM. Yay! =P.

But yeah, I'm sorry nothing is going how you want it to. On the bright side I think your parents are just being stubborn and the dust will settle soon enough. After all they are your parents.

Just keep hanging in there! Wish you the best.

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THESB25 7/20/2011 8:53AM

    My TOM always knocks me around -- I don't dare climb on the scale during mine. Autopilot isn't terrible, but try finding something inspirational to get you motivated again. That's what I do.

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JENREN225 7/20/2011 8:43AM

  Hang in there! I just had a little bump in the road like this not too long ago. If you ever need a dog-sitter, we can help. Our pooch loves furry friends of all sizes to play with. She has a thing for little dogs (I think she thinks she is one sometimes.) lol....

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JEREMY723 7/20/2011 6:14AM

    I hoep you're doing better soon. The heat certainly is bad. Probably not an option on days you work, but going first thing in the morning makes the heat feel much better, though the humidity is horrible still of course.

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CORNERKICK 7/20/2011 2:02AM

  Hang in there!

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JWARD199 7/19/2011 10:10PM

    You will get through this, Julie. The heat is oppressive, but it too will pass (eventually, they're talking about another week of this heat).

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    Like everything else..this too will pass..don't beat yourself up
A little Humble pie isn't so bad lol..blood is thicker than water..Keep Sparking to make your Dreams a Reality!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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I stop eating when I hate myself

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Could not have said it better. I don't know if you guys know Louie CK but he is hysterical and very crude. He talks about eating a lot and he speaks the truth so well. I found this redid yesterday from one of his comedy specials and I think it says a lot about how I have been eating lately.

This past weekend with the art fair, we pretty much ate every meal out besides breakfast. Eating crappy food is addictive. Once you start you crave more and not only that. Your stomach has to get used to eating less again when you go back to normal. All day yesterday I was hungy and for no reason. I didn't exercise, I was just used to being fed garbage and I wanted it again. UGH annoying! Today is gonna be better.

I hope this heat dies down, there is just no good time to go out and exercise. My friend and I are gonna go walking our dogs in the graveyard tonight. I can't wait, no one likes hanging out in graveyards with me, boooo!

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    I love Louie CK and I can sooo relate to that too. Although you feel like you haven't done that great recently, you can catch yourself and get back. Such is life. Bad days, good days and days in between.
I totally love graveyards. Love looking at all the tombstones. I'm jealous since no one will go with me, lol.
This heat is killing me. So humid and sickingly hot. I've almost entirely have given up working out outside. I prefer the gym with A/C.
Good luck!

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RELIVE 7/19/2011 3:03PM

    Yeah that is how I ate in Miami. LOL I would stop eating when I was disgusted at how much I ate. Wish I was one of those people who are indifferent to food. =P And yeah, I've been hungry these past few days too, even though I'm eating normally quantities. Hopefully within a week the feeling will pass, I've also been craving more junk, like potato chips!!

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    The heat is stifling!!

And I can relate to the junk food. The more I eat the more I want it. My body hates it and in no time I end up paying the consequences.

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EDDYMEESE 7/18/2011 12:15AM

    I totally agree about getting used to eating less...that often holds me back because even though I know that in time I won't feel hungry, it's hard to get to that point!

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FISHIE3 7/16/2011 2:15PM

    There's a lot of Louie's humour that I can't listen to, but my wife and I saw a few segments of his stand-up, and this was the segment that had us laughing the most.

I love food, but when it comes down to it, I love food most when I don't eat too much. Somehow I forget the second part. We laughed because once in a while, we eat to the point of self-loathing, especially at family functions. Too many good cooks in the family, and as you walk around the table filling up your plate, it's hard to remember to stop. (I need to remember to bring smaller plates.)

I will always have to exercise. I enjoy eating. The bonus with exercise is that it helps me eat better because I want the best value out of my exercise.

Good luck with all of your training. I'll be watching for your race results.

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LINDAJOYWK 7/14/2011 8:13PM

    Wow-that is ridiculously true! Have fun & be safe!

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FRANCESCANAZ 7/13/2011 9:41AM

    Keep up the fight amiga...NEVER give up! emoticon

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AWAHILI 7/12/2011 4:43PM

    I hope You get back on track soon.. I HAVE the same problems and I TRY so hard to eat good and then I have a party to go to or We go out of town for something. This weekend we are taking our girls to a POW WOW and water park and Im gonna try really hard to make healthier choices while Im away those two days. The heat is a killer. Have fun in the graveyard. I have to say Im not one that likes to go at night its spooky.

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DAWNDMOORE40 7/12/2011 11:02AM

    Louis sounds like a really funny comedian! It is true that we do that to ourselves with food! We decide to have a bad day and we just keep going because we figure we have already ruined it by the first meal anyway! I have days like that, but then I just try and not beat myself up over it and go back to normal the next day! It's funny how we are as humans, but it's great to see that even when you fall, you don't give up on yourself! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 7/12/2011 9:40AM

    Since I was a kid I love graveyards. I like to look at the various headstones. Have a great walk.

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What a weekend!

Sunday, July 10, 2011

This weekend was the Sugar Creek Art Festival. My friend drove 4.5 hrs up to do it with me. It was so much fun but also very exhausting! Everything seemed to be a little off. She sent me alum to dip shirts in. The alum never came in the mail. I wonder if they thought it was drugs. White substance lol Really it was just a white substance to dip marbled cloth in so the paint sticks but who knows where it is now. So Friday I could not dip my cloth so I went for my long run for this coming week instead. I set out to run 9 miles but I turned my garmin off and forgot to turn it back on. When I got home I found out I did 10 miles on accident. I was hardly sore at all that night and fine the next day. Progress, we are seeing progress on my healing time!

So all day yesterday and today we marbled cloth at sugar creek in the heat. Saturday was slow, today was much better. We had some return customers from last yr so that cool.

They were giving away a $500 dollar Trek Hybrid at the show. Trying to get ppl to bike to the show via trail that runs thru the town. My friend from spark Tom won the bike! How cool is that?

Oh even with a crazy weekend I managed to run 10 miles Friday, Do 40 minutes of water aerobics with Kate at the hotel Saturday. Bike 12 miles with Kate Sunday. There is always time to exercise! I get the best conversations in with my girlfriends while working out! We were workout buddies when we used to live in the same town. So it's nice to get together and workout again.

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    The festival looks great. And you are doing awesome on the exercise!!

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EDDYMEESE 7/18/2011 12:13AM

    Sounds like a great weekend!

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THESB25 7/11/2011 1:56PM

    Sounds like a wonderful weekend! The marbling looks totally awesome!

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FUEL82 7/11/2011 10:12AM

    Oh those pics turned out awesome!!!! I had so much fun!!! It's amazing we got in that much exercise! Plus we stood for probably 9 or 10 hrs straight! Yes are workouts are always so much fun! It's too bad I don't live closer.

Hope you have a great week! Thanks again for a wonderful weekend in B-N!!!! :-)

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YOGINIMAMA108 7/11/2011 9:09AM

    What beautiful work! I looked for you, but did not see you. We were there right at 10:00 on Sunday. I am glad that the weekend was successful! (And great job getting so many fitness minutes in too. WTG)! :)

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DETERMINED_SOUL 7/11/2011 8:41AM

    wow! that shirt looks awesome! Way to go with your success this weekend.

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