Tuesday, March 12, 2013
I have 3 daughters (17, 14 & 12) and one of the many things I worry about is their self esteem and body image, but at the same time want them to be aware of healthy eating habits, exercise, etc. It's a fine line, especially with teenage girls.
I realize I'm not the most "sensitive" of people. Both DH and I tend to be direct and don't sugar coat things (DH more than me) and I can tend to be a tad negative! My Mom is the exact opposite. Growing up and even to this day, she would always say to me and my sisters "how beautiful we look, etc.", even if we know we look crappy. Sometimes I could have used a little honesty and "tough love" from her since I was an overweight teen (although very athletic) and still struggle with weight issues.
Back to DD#1. She's a beautiful girl. She's tall and has very long legs. She carries some weight around her middle and is "top heavy" (which she hates). She's not considered "overweight", but is at the top of her healthy weight.
I worry about her because she has a very sedentary lifestyle. She's never been into sports, but we usually kept her pretty active with other activities and she did the running program with me a couple of years ago. Now she goes to school & works and has very little free time. She does a lot with friends and boyfriend, but it's mostly hanging out, listening to music, looking at stuff on the computer.
She probably has a better "diet" than the other 2 girls. She eats a very healthy breakfast and very little lunch (if any) at school. The main problem is she has a job at a pizza parlor and works until after 9 pm 3-4 days a week. She gets free food from there and usually brings something home (which she'll share with DH and sisters). Of course the food is not healthy and it's pretty late when she finally gets to eat. I've noticed it looks like she might have put on some weight, but I've been hesitant to say anything.
Anyway, she had a very unflattering (kind of sloppy) t-shirt on this morning and I (very insensitively) mentioned something to the effect of "looks like you've put on a few pounds". She immediately got her feelings hurt and told me something like "way to make me feel bad MOM right before I go to school".
The last thing I want her to do is feel bad about herself. It was hard bathing suit shopping last weekend and the bikinis looking good on DD#2 and DD#1 feeling bad about herself (mainly because she was uncomfortable with the tops - she really looked cute in the bathing suits).
DH and I try to lead by example. We have very healthy food choices at home and we exercise and are very active. DD#2 is very active with playing 2 sports and training conditioning year round. DD#3 doesn't play sports, but is still pretty active at 12 with playing, bike riding, Girl Scout activities, etc.
Anyway, I feel bad and I need to come up with a better way of "motivating" her to find some kind of exercise that she likes and be careful with the late night eating. I want her to be able to take healthy habits with her to college because we all know what happens then! Maybe I'll ask DH to talk to her - even though he's "insensitive" too, it doesn't sound so mean coming from him.
Monday, March 11, 2013
DH brought out the Reece's peanut butter eggs! They are my absolute "downfall"! I can pass up a regular peanut butter cup (although I do love them!), but there's something about the egg!
Anyway, I had a really good week so far with exercise. I did my DVD on Wednesday. I tried the "bodyweight burn" and found it took a little more coordination, but it was a good workout! As I mentioned, Thursday was a beautiful day. DD#2 and I ran at the park. She ran the track and then played some basketball and I went to the greenway. I ran a little over 2 miles and did about 40 mins. of running/walking.
I had to take DD#1 to work on Friday and DD#3 to the nearby mall for a sleepover at a hotel. Friday was my rest day anyway and that was good since it was late when I finally got back home.
DH finished his first week of "overnights". He has 2 more weeks to go. They worked extra hours Mon-Thur so they could leave earlier on Saturday morning. He got home about 3 am, so he was sleeping when I woke up on Saturday. I tried to be somewhat quiet, so I couldn't do much housework (darn!). I had to pick DD#3 up from her sleepover at 10:30 and then we had to leave for DD#2's basketball at 1:30. Turns out we really got there too early. The high school girl's "session" was 2-4 and they weren't able to start until right @ 2. They did drills and warmed up from 2 - 2:45 and then played a game. It was 2 hours of "hard core" basketball. She really is getting so much better!
DH wanted to run when we got home. He was too tired during the week, but he felt like he would sleep better with a little outside exercise & fresh air. We both ran about 2 miles and then walked about 15 mins. It was another 40 mins of exercise!
On Sunday I had all these plans to clean house and put out Easter decorations (can't believe Easter is only 3 weeks away!). My sister called and wanted to take her grandson (he's 4 months old) to the park since it was such a nice day. My niece and her husband were "sleeping in", so by the time we got to their house it was after 2 and they were up and ready to go to the park. Niece's husband played with their dogs and my niece, sister and I walked the trails with the baby (he is so cute!). So that was another 30 mins. of exercise.
I had missed lunch, so I was starving by the time I got home, so I had a left over turkey burger from dinner on Saturday. DH took DD#2 & 3 to church (DD#3 was an alter server) and DD#1 was just getting home with some friends and boyfriend. I had to take her boyfriend home and pick up DD#2 up from youth group, so it was after 8 by the time I settled in and then . . .
DH brought out those darn eggs. Since I missed lunch, I had extra points (WW), so I ended up using the rest of my daily points, all of my activity points and a few of my weekly! All for a peanut butter egg (2)! They were good, but I felt kind of yucky! I try not to "spend" my weekly points, just the activity points that I earn with exercise. I'll have to make sure I exercise today & tomorrow to get back those points!
Below is a picture of my too cute Great Nephew (and my sister).
Wednesday, March 06, 2013
is better than gaining! I lost .2 lbs. this week. I figured these last 6 lbs. would come off slow and I'm ok with that. As I mentioned in a previous blog, 2 years ago loosing the last 5 lbs. to get to my Weight Watchers goal took over 8 weeks.
Just like 2 years ago, my clothes fit well, I feel great, I'm exercising and my measurements are good.
I really didn't get in a lot of exercise this past week either (Wed-Wed). I ran last Wednesday and again on Monday. I had another good run on Monday. I did 2 miles straight in 24:36, walked about 2 mins. and did another 5 mins. of running. I got in about 3 miles of running/walking. I didn't do anything yesterday. We had some really weird weather, it was warm and humid and then a big storm came in about 5 pm. It was raining so hard, I couldn't even see while I was taking DD#1 to work. I wasn't planning on running yesterday anyway, but I was going to do my DVD. I ended up helping DD#3 with a Girl Scout project. She's earning a leadership award and her Cadette troop is working with a Brownie troop. They are working on a "diabetic" cookbook and everyone has to make a recipe. We made "diabetic" brownies last night. They looked a little weird, so we decided to taste them. They tasted awful and had a pretty bad aftertaste. DH said they might not taste that bad to someone who doesn't eat a lot of sugar - but yuck! I found another recipe today and we're going to try that tonight. She needs to be able to show the Brownie troop how to make them on Thursday.
The big storm last night brought in a cold front and it's about 40 degrees with 40+ mph wind gusts. A little north of us got snow. I guess it's not as bad as what the NE is getting hit with now!
Since I have to take DD#1 to work, DD#2 to basketball and help DD#3 again tonight, I'll just do my DVD workout and wait and run tomorrow. Thursday - Sunday is supposed to be beautiful - sunny & mid-60's so I'll make sure I get in some runs this week.
Daylight Saving Time starts this Sunday, so even though I'll loose an hour of sleep, it will stay lighter in the afternoons. That gives me a lot more time to run/walk/play outside (and less excuses)!
Monday, March 04, 2013
unless you count cleaning, driving and shopping!
I had plans to run on Friday with DD#2 after dropping DD#1 off at work. She wasn't in the "mood" and I had to get DD#3 fed and ready for her cookie booth that night. DH came home in time to take her and I took DD#2 to Kohl's to look for a bathing suit and a dress for her upcoming basketball banquet. We ended up going to Kohl's & Target. She found a bathing suit, but no dress. She's tall, so it's hard to find a dress that's long enough. She got her first bikini bathing suit (since she was a little girl). I wasn't too thrilled, but she looked good and it was fairly modest considering most of them!
I slept in a little on Saturday (8:30) and started cleaning my bathroom and bedroom. It's been a while since I've had the time to deep clean these rooms (especially the bathroom!), so it took me over 2 hours, in between doing laundry and helping DD#3 with her room. She's been watching too much HGTV and constantly wants to rearrange her room!
DD#2 had basketball on Saturday from 1-3. My goal was to drop her off and then run at the park nearby. It was really cold and windy on Saturday, so I ended up staying in the gym and watching basketball. It was the last day of "evaluations" and then they'll be placed on "teams". There are 3 different locations for this league, so they will continue to practice at their location during the week, but they may play on a "team" with girls from different locations on Saturdays. It seems pretty neat and I'm curious to see how it works out. She's done Fall training with this organization before, but this is the first time she's played in the Spring league. The owner boasts that this is a "no nonsense" basketball program and he's not kidding. They started out with drills and then went straight into "games" with very minimal breaks and then some more drills/running at the end. It is definitely for players that want to improve, so it is very competitive - these girls don't mess around! She was exhausted when it was over. She ended up taking a 2 hour nap when we got home and I continued with cleaning.
I had to take DD#3 to another cookie booth on Saturday night. It was so cold & windy. It was actually snowing (which is pretty rare for March in Georgia). It didn't stick, but it was pretty to see. We ended up closing the booth early.
Sunday morning I took DD#2 to confirmation class and when we got home, all 3 wanted to go to the mall. Shopping with 3 girls is not fun, especially for bathing suits! It starts early for girls feeling bad about their bodies and being critical when shopping for a bathing suit. No matter what I said, they found fault. Too bad they can't wear baggy shorts and t-shirts like boys can! There is definitely a lot of skin showing! DD#1 is very large chested, so she is very self-conscious. We found a nice bathing suit for her at Macy's, but it was $128! We're going to wait to see if it goes on sale and get my sister's Macy coupons. I want her to feel good, but $128!
DD#1 & 2 ended up going on their own for a while, which made it a little easier. DD#2 & 3 got a bathing suit and DD#2 found her banquet dress. By the time we got home, I was pretty tired.
I also went way over my daily WW P+ yesterday. I used up my activity points (since there weren't many!) and a few of my weekly points. I was so tired and I found myself really wanting to snack. The good thing is a still tracked!
DH starts overnights tonight. He goes in at 9:30 pm. It's going to be a little warmer this afternoon, so I'm hoping to run right after work. The only thing else we have tonight is DD#2 has basketball @ 7:30.
Friday, March 01, 2013
Although I'm pretty pleased with the results on the scale lately, there are a couple of NSV worth mentioning. Actually 3!
First of all, I ran 2 miles straight in about 24 mins. on Wednesday. I didn't have my stopwatch, so I'm not sure of the exact time. I had about a 45 min. window after dropping off DD#1 at work before I had to drop off DD#2 at basketball and DD#3 off at youth group. As I mentioned before, Wednesday was a beautiful day and the temperature was 60! I ran on the greenway (same place as race on Saturday). It was a great run!
This morning I put on a pair of pants I have been avoiding wearing since my weight gain Oct - Jan. They still fit last time I had them on, they were just very uncomfortable. They fit great and are even a little loose. The pants I had on yesterday were really loose!
So, even though I'm not quite back at my "2 lbs. below WW goal" (still about 7 lbs. to go), my measurements are actually a little lower (especially around the gut area). I attribute a lot of this to the body sculpting DVD! So that's really 4 NSV's. 1) increasing running distance, 2) pants fit, 3) measurements are great, 4) consistently doing DVD which includes some strength training!
I was going to take the 3 amigos (my daughters!) bathing suit shopping yesterday. Yes, I'm a glutton for punishment, but they all 3 need new bathing suits and if you wait too long, all the good choices are gone. Wednesday night we had a major teenage meltdown at the house! DH and I agree that they've not been getting enough rest, so last night after we ate, all 3 had to finish up homework, work on cleaning their room/bathroom and get to bed early (DD#1 & 2 had to "turn in their phones"). I felt like I needed rest too, so I lounged around on the couch and went to bed early!
DD#2 and I want to run tonight after we drop DD#1 off at work. We'll probably run in the gym because it's pretty cold and she's a sissy! DH is working the cookie booth tonight with DD#3 (hate those cookie booths)!
I really wanted to see my great nephew tomorrow. My sister is babysitting at my niece's house (about 45 min. away), but I'm not going to be able to go. DD#2 has basketball from 1-3 and DD#3 has a cookie booth - which I have to help
My sister is going to see if her daughter trusts her to drive the baby back to our house so he can visit with us and his great grandparents!
I don't think DD#2 will be playing games on Saturday, I think they're still doing evaluations, so I might run/walk while she's at basketball (she'll be at a park with trails).
Not sure what's going on Sunday. It's going to be cold all weekend - low 40's, which I know most people in the country would not consider cold, but hey, I have southern bones & joints (and old)! I used to be able to handle the cold better.
It will be a busy weekend, but I'm looking forward to adding to those NSV's!
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