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Why are we jealous of other people's success . . .

Thursday, June 26, 2014

especially when we're not doing that great?!

That thought ran through my head last night as DH and I were going on a hike. He is doing great with his weight loss and fitness. He decided last fall (when the doctor told him he had high blood pressure and wanted him to go on medication at 47), that he would try to control with diet & exercise (he has a family history of high blood pressure too).

He's a big guy (6'5" and usually around 280 - 300 lbs.) and is very active at work and his side jobs (doesn't sit around at a desk all day). He has really "kicked it in gear" the last couple of months! He's lost about 40 lbs. since last fall! He's also back to running and doing a lot of core work. He looks and feels great! With the weight loss, low salt diet and exercise, he has his blood pressure under control!

I'm extremely proud of him and grateful that he cares enough about me and his girls to get healthy! So I'm proud, I know he's working hard at this and it didn't just "happen overnight", but since I'm struggling with getting back to goal, I'm a little jealous too.

Don't get me wrong, I'm also extremely proud of myself. I'm only a couple of pounds over my "healthy weight" and 9 lbs. above goal. I've said it before - maintenance ain't for sissies! I had a small gain last week at Weight Watchers - I keep loosing and gaining back the same pound! I didn't go to the meeting last night, but I probably would have had another gain!

Things have been very busy this summer. School has been out for 5 weeks and I'm still waiting for the "lazy days of summer" to kick in! Between getting the girls ready for trips/camps and DD#2's insane summer workout program - I'm still constantly on the "run" (and not the good way!).

DD#2 was asked to play with varsity again at a basketball tournament yesterday and today at a college in downtown Atlanta (about 30 miles away), so I decided to leave work early yesterday and catch a couple of games (thus missing my weigh in).

After battling the horrible Atlanta traffic, I got home in time to go on a hike with DH (about 7:30). A couple of weeks ago, my sister and I "turned him on" to the strenuous hike we've been doing after our Weight Watcher's meetings the last couple of months.

Last night was his 3rd time going with me. It's a 3.8 mile hike that goes around a lake through a couple of parks and there's a lot of hills (up and down). Near the end you are at the bottom of the dam and then you have to take 63 steps straight up (I counted last night) and still go up a hill until you cross the street back into the parking lot.

It usually takes my sister and I about 1 hour 15 min+ (we like to talk). Sunday night and last night I finished in under an hour! DH stayed with me Sunday night and really pushed me - I even ran part of the trail. I was really tired last night so I told him to go on ahead and I'd just meet him back at the parking lot.

It was getting really dark near the end of the hike (heavily wooded), so I found myself running quite a bit because I was getting nervous! After trudging up those steps, I didn't think I was going to make it - but I checked my phone and I still had 9 min to go before hitting an hour. I really pushed myself and finished in 59 min.!

So I have a lot to be proud of too - but I tend to focus on the negative!

I'm going to be on vacation next week and I'm going to Florida with my oldest sister and DD#2. We're staying at my sister's condo. that's on the inter-coastal and about 10 miles from some really nice beaches.

DD#2 has a "dead week" from any school activities, so she asked my sister if she would take her to Florida. Her BFF has been down there a couple of weeks already visiting her grandparents (near my sister's condo) so she's going to "hook up" with us on Tuesday and drive back home with us next Saturday. I invited myself along - DH and DD#1 both have to work and DD#3 didn't want to go, so it will just be the 3 of us driving down.

We've got a lot of activities planned - kayaking, paddleboarding, riding bikes & playing tennis & volleyball. There will also be a lot of "chilling" and I'm sure eating!
I'm going to weigh myself before I leave to get a gauge and just try to maintain while I'm away.

July is going to be just as crazy as June and then the girls go back to school on August 7th (crazy I know when a lot of school's in the north are just now getting out for summer break!). DD#2 will have already started volleyball (tryouts are 8/1 & 8/2) and the first game is actually the first day of school!

DD#1 won't start college until late August, but we'll be busy getting her ready to go! We have orientation on 7/23.

So things will continue to be hectic - I'll continue to be active, I just have to do a better job of planning dinners and keep away from the sweets & snacking!

I'm going to enjoy my vacation next week and try to get some R&R!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MJREIMERS 6/26/2014 11:22PM

    I used to be one of those jealous people, but not anymore! I've kept 40 lbs off for over 3 years and I don't intend to ever regain it back.

Jealousy is one of those emotions we feel when we don't think we can be successful. When we make excuses and don't have the "gumption" to go for our goals, it makes us feel inferior.

Then, we discover Sparkpeople and all the wonderful people here. The support we receive gives us the motivation to "do it." Once we feel that success, there is no stopping us!!

Keep at it!

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WIFE48 6/26/2014 12:47PM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing.

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POSITIVEHOPE 6/26/2014 11:51AM

    I think our jealousy comes from thinking their success was achieved easily. This is especially true when we are struggling. There are easy downhill parts of the journey and there are those steep steps on the journey, too. When we are climbing those steps, everyone else's journey seems to be in fast forward and since they are doing well, their journey must be easy.
We know the truth that every journey has easy and hard parts but we are jealous that we aren't in the easy part right now.

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Pretty good week

Monday, June 16, 2014

I had a pretty good week since last Monday. I set a "challenge" of at least 30 min. of exercise each day. I didn't actually meet that challenge! I walked on Monday for about an hour with DH and puppy. DD#2 started her basketball/volleyball workouts on Monday - she was feeling fine and didn't have a headache, so she went to both workouts. She said they were both "light" (her words, not mine!) and she said she felt fine afterwards. She even went to the movies in between the workouts!

She got asked to play with the varsity girls in a basketball scrimmage on Tuesday (she played JV basketball last year and varsity volleyball). I left work a little early to take her to a high school about 40 min. away. I had gotten 15 min. of exercise that morning walking the dogs and had planned to do something in the evening.

Since it was a "scrimmage" they didn't actually play "official" games, but they played 2 different high schools. The gym's air conditioner wasn't on and it was miserable! I don't know how they did it (again they only had 6 girls) because I was sweating just sitting there! So I'm counting all of that sweating as my additional 15 min.!

We got home about 8:30 and DD#1 got home soon after that from the airport and her trip to Arizona. She brought out all of her "stuff" she got and recapped her trip. She loved Flagstaff the best and actually had a friend there she was able to meet up with!

I was excited about my "official" weigh in on Wednesday. I felt sure I would loose at least 2 lbs. (based on my scale which showed almost a 4 lb. loss that morning). Of course it's never the same as the Weight Watcher scale and I had a 1.8 lb. loss. I was ok with that (much better than a gain). My sister and I weren't able to do our "extreme" hike after the meeting because I had to leave right after the meeting and pick up DD#2 from volleyball. We did meet up and walk a little later.

DH's birthday was Thursday, so I only got my 15 min. of exercise that morning. I had to pick up DD#3 from Vacation Bible School (she was a volunteer all week) and get some stuff for grilling out (and cake!). We had a great dinner and I only ate a small piece of cake.

I had to take the puppy to the vet on Friday morning (she was getting spayed), so we got our walk in that morning. I picked DD#3 up from VBS and DD#2 and I picked the puppy up that afternoon from the vet. She was pitiful and we had to spend the evening watching her to make sure she recovered ok from surgery.

Saturday was basically a day of no exercise! Unless you count house cleaning, mowing lawn and shopping with a teenage girl! I had to take DD#3 shopping to get stuff for her away camp - she is a nightmare to shop with (and for).

DH, DD#2 and I also walked around an outdoor mall (after seeing a movie). It was a nice "date night" (even though DD#2 was with us) since DH and I don't get a lot of time together. DD#1 had to work and DD#3 didn't want to go - said she wanted to "chill" before going to camp on Sunday.

We had a huge breakfast for Father's Day (cooked by me and DH - the girls were still sleeping) - eggs, bacon, waffles & fruit. DH was off (he usually works Sundays), so we both took DD#3 and her friend to camp. It was about 1 1/2 hours away and was a really nice drive. DH wanted to hike somewhere so after we dropped off the girls at camp, we went to a place that I had been to before (over a year ago) that was halfway between camp and home.

I remember it being a pretty strenuous hike (made more so that time because I was pushing my great nephew's stroller up a mountain!), but it was pretty hard yesterday. I didn't remember it being such a steep incline (increase in elevation of over 950 ft.), and we definitely was going at a quicker pace (DH is tall and he walks fast!).

We got to a fork that connects to another trail (that we weren't going to take), but part of that trail goes to an overlook, so we decided to hike to the overlook and then hike back to our trail. Of course the overlook was straight up, but it was a beautiful view and worth the effort!

It ended up taking us about an hour and 15 min (we spent some time at the overlook enjoying the view). We checked the map when we got back to the car and we had hiked over 3 miles - mostly up!

We got home about 7:30 and had a taco salad and then I had some frozen yogurt! We didn't have lunch, so I was starving. It was a really nice day and I enjoyed spending time with just DH on our hike and ride home.

DH is doing really good on his weight loss and exercise. He's probably lost about 30 lbs. since mid-January. Mostly from just eating right and cutting down on the sodium. He had high blood pressure and a family history of high blood pressure so he wanted to try to control with diet and exercise and has been successful!.

He's also running and doing some strength training. He does a lot of physical activity at work and on his side jobs, so he goes easy on any kind of weight training, etc. He's younger than I am (5 years) so his goal is to make sure he's fit @ 50 (he has 2 years to go!).

I took the puppy on our walk this morning. She's supposed to "take it easy" for a week after the surgery, but she's a very active dog, so it's been hard (she felt better by Saturday afternoon). I won't be able to take her on a long walk this afternoon, but I'm going to hopefully try my hand at some running.

So even though I didn't quite reach my challenge and I didn't quite stick to Simply Filling - I had a good week and I'm hoping the scale will be kind on Wednesday!


Week of no sweets and concussion?

Monday, June 09, 2014

I blogged on Friday about how I can be a little "pushy" and a little negative when trying to "motivate" my girls (or simply to get them to do something!).

DD#2 got home from basketball camp late Thursday night. They had played 10 games in 2 days and they spent Thursday walking around Nashville and the CMA and then driving home in bad weather & traffic.

She was exhausted and wasn't going to go to volleyball work-outs on Friday morning. I didn't "push" her to go, but I kind of fretted about it!

We had a pretty easy Friday night - DD#1 is still in Arizona and DD#2 & #3 just lounged around the house (actually all day).

DD#2 woke up Saturday morning and she said she had a dull headache and has been having trouble falling asleep, but able to sleep after that. After much discussion and calling the nurse line, going online, etc., we determined she probably had a minor head injury or a concussion! Apparently she fell Wednesday afternoon and hit her head. She said she was able to play the rest of the game (said it was actually her best game) and then played 2 more games after that! She didn't say anything to the coach because she was playing varsity at that time and they were down to 5 players.

Concussion treatment, etc. is a very big deal based on all of the research. We signed an agreement when she had her physical and she was supposed to let the coaches know she had hit her head. They saw her fall, but she said they probably didn't know she also hit her head. She has always had the mentality of "suck it up" and is a pretty tough girl. We discussed with her the importance of not "playing through" a head injury and the coaches have the "when it doubt, sit them out" responsibility.

She understood, but I must admit, both DH and I had a hard time not thinking this is all "overkill". We know it's not and we understand, but we did grow up in the "shake it off" and "you just got your bell rung" and if you could stand, you could play!

Anyway, it was already 3 days after the "injury" and a Saturday and the only symptom she was experiencing by then was the dull headache (she wasn't sure if she had experienced any other symptoms because she was also exhausted by playing so many games) so we didn't have to take her in in, but I had to consult a website that is sponsored by the local children's hospital and follow the procedures. Plus they recommend having an "Impact Test" so they can have a "base" if there are any further injuries. It's something that they should have on record.

I was glad she spent Friday doing nothing and couldn't do anything Saturday or Sunday. And I mean nothing - no computer, video games, texting, movies (and no school if they were in school!). She could watch a little TV (like a cartoon), but basically could not "use" her brain.

By Sunday, she was so bored (plus she missed going to the lake with a friend). She didn't have a headache later Saturday or Sunday, so today she went to volleyball this morning. It's a light work-out today, but if the headache returns, she'll have to miss for a couple days. If this was during the basketball season, she wouldn't be able to play any games for at least a week. Apparently volleyball isn't one of the sports that has a bunch of restrictions. She'll go back to basketball practice on Thursday if she's still "symptom free".

So, other than that, my weekend was pretty nice (even though I spent most of Saturday morning on the phone and online). I did cut grass Saturday afternoon and DD#3, friend, puppy and I went to a park on the river and walked and played in the river.

I cleaned house, ran some errands and went to Kohl's on Sunday. DH ran on Sunday evening and I walked a couple of miles with the puppy (again leaving a bored DD#2 at home).

I also had 5 days of "no sweets week". DH, DD#3 and I ended up going to a frozen yogurt shop on Sunday afternoon (while running around) and getting yogurt and sitting outside. It was a nice outing, so I didn't feel any guilt about eating the yogurt (plus it was my lunch!).

I've done pretty good with the Simply Filling and I peeked on the scale this morning and I was down almost 4 lbs.! Nothing is official until Wednesday's weigh in, but I feel better eating right again.

I was thinking this morning while walking the dogs that my challenge this week is to get at least 30 mins. of exercise each day. I walk the dogs for 15 mins. in the mornings, so I have to at least get an additional 15 mins. or more of exercise in the evenings!

I'm ready to meet that summer goal of getting back to GOAL!


Encouraging or

Friday, June 06, 2014

just being negative?!

I was watching The Breakfast Club last night (teen angst movie from the 80's) and trying to stay awake waiting on DD#2 to get home from basketball camp since I had to pick her up @ the school. They were driving back from Nashville and got a late start and hit some traffic/bad weather, so it was about 11 pm. I was thinking about the "sport-o" in the movie and how the kid complained about his Dad and how he "pushed him".

It kind of hit home a little with me because I think I "push" DD#2 too much and come across sometimes as negative instead on encouraging. I've been told this from all 3 girls and DH.

For example, she didn't get home last night until after 11:30 and she and another girl decided that they weren't going to go to volleyball this morning because they were so tired and got home late. In 3 days they played 10 games. They had 2 teams and only 13 girls, so they all played a lot! Her knees were actually a little swollen and she had bruises, etc. (girl's basketball is a contact sport!).

My first thought was to "encourage" her to go because she needs to show the coach her dedication, blah, blah, blah (summer workouts/practice are not mandatory, but highly encouraged).

Fortunately I didn't say that to her last night and didn't say anything to her this morning when I had to let the puppy out (she sleeps in a crate in her room), I just let her sleep. However, I did "fret" about it and felt like she should still go (hence my blog!).

All 3 of my girls are really good kids. They're respectful, smart and hard workers. Yes, it's a very competitive world, but sometimes I just need to "lay off". I really stressed myself out about DD#1 and her grades and she did great! Could she had done better and put in more effort? Of course, but to what expense? She's pretty well adjusted and happy and is going to a great college.

DD#2 is a good athlete that works extremely hard. She too is well adjusted (guess I'm doing something right) and her main reason for participating in sports is the benefit of the exercise and she just loves to play! High School sports are very competitive and most of the kids play year round and also play in the club or travel leagues. A lot of them go to "elite" camps so they can be recognized by colleges for scholarships (parents spend a lot of money for this!). DD#2 is really not interested in this (and we couldn't afford it).

I guess my reason for this blog (besides getting this off my chest) is relating this to my weight loss/fitness journey.

I need to take some examples from DD#2 - work hard, stay positive and remember the reasons you're doing this!


Back on Course

Thursday, June 05, 2014

for 2 days now!

I went to my Weight Watcher's weigh in and meeting last night and it wasn't too bad. I only gained .8. I know most of the reason for that is the mega water I drink and the fact that I was pretty active (even though my eating was way out of whack!).

Since I've basically not been tracking anything, I decided to switch over to the Simply Filling plan with WW. I like the "food list" (it kind of reminds me of the South Beach options, but with fruit!) and you have weekly points if you eat anything not on the list. It's easy to keep up with and I like pretty much everything on the list.

I'm also challenging myself to "no sweets" this week and I'm 2 days strong - no sweets or chips/crackers!

Last night's meeting was a little humbling and motivating. My sister and I got our "16 week Charm". I felt a little embarrassed, because in this 16 week period, I've only managed to loose 4.2 lbs. (I was up to 6 lbs. at one point). I also remembered the WW days of old (a couple of years ago) where I was consistently loosing and in the 6 months it took me to get to goal, I never had a gain!

The motivating part was the actual meeting. The leader is very good (funny & motivating). I think I mentioned before she has lost over 200 lbs. on WW and has kept it off for over 12 years (she's been on Today show, People mag. etc.).

The topic of the meeting was "Summer Strategies" and we discussed ways to meet the challenge of summer, i.e. vacations, weddings, kids being around, etc. (which is what I had last week and didn't do too well!).

There is also an "Ace Your Summer Challenge" which starts next week and goes for 12 weeks. Without going into details, my sister and I decided our "goal" for this challenge would be GOAL (me back to my goal weight and her to finally reach it). We both have about 10 lbs. to loose which is very doable for 12 weeks (but not based on our past 16 weeks results!).

So we are motivated! We went on our strenuous hike after the meeting. It's 3.8 miles and parts of it are very hard (steep hills and the end actually has about 20 steps straight up a hill). It was extra hard last night. I think part of it was the heat and humidity. Most of the trail is wooded, so it's a pretty nice hike for a summer evening.

I was going to do my Coach Nicole DVD this morning, but I don't quite have my "summer morning routine" down yet and forgot to reset the alarm. I'm actually finding myself rushing in the mornings and I think it's because most of my time now is spent making my breakfast/lunch and feeding/walking the dogs. In the past I would have more time in the summer because my girls were out of school, but apparently they don't take as much of my time as the dogs do now!

Anyway, I need to work the DVD in a couple of mornings, so I guess I can't sleep as late.

I actually just got an e-mail for a Virtual Race Series where basically "run Your Race - on a treadmill, in a park, in the city, in the morning, in the evening...basically anywhere and anytime you choose during the race period. Once your race starts, your clock runs until you complete your goal of 3.1 or 13.1 miles!" You actually get "swag" when you complete it. It's the week of July 19 - 27, which gives me some time to at least "train" a little. I've been wanting to get back into some running and this could be motivation for that. I'll have to read a little more about it, but it sounds fun. Maybe I'll get my family involved too!

So I have some motivation and challenges. Hopefully I can keep this going through the hot (and busy) days of Summer!

2 of my 3 girls get back home tonight. DD#2 will start her insane summer work-out schedule with volleyball and basketball. She actually already started with basketball last week and is at team camp this week. The next 2 weeks of June will be both basketball & volleyball and then she has 2 weeks off from volleyball and the week of June 30 - July 4 is a "dead week" for all High School sports in Georgia (we will be going to Florida that week). July will be all volleyball with practices, team camp and a couple of tournaments. The tryouts are August 1st and then the season starts right after that!

DD#3 has a back to back Vacation Bible School and Girl Scout Camp (away camp!), so DH and I will be busy trying to set up a driving schedule. DD#2 can't drive until mid-July and DD#1 won't be back from Arizona until June 10th, but she'll be able to help with some of the driving then.

So I'm back on course, I just need to stay there!


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