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Husband Officially Off Work

Thursday, September 09, 2010

Yes, the doctor yesterday agreed with the hospital. However, rather than signing DH off for the full 3 months, he's gone for 2 months to start with.
DH's boss had said, when he phoned in on Tuesday after being to the hospital, that no doctor would sign him off even for a month. He'd possibly get 2 weeks - then may well find he was well enough to be back at work.
Whereas, he could easily have had the 3 months, for starters! However, we both reckon that 2 months to start off is sensible. If things happens spectacularly well, maybe that might be just about enough (I'd so love that, for him). If things go as is more likely, extra time can easily be added.

So having got my hectic time finished, having got the extra body (younger son) out of my house - I am again having to cope with an extra body, having DH at home during the day.
I reckon I should make use of this to ensure that I get up and get going, daily. And that I get on with the decluttering in the dining room, daily.

Today was good, though, in that I got a couple of washings hung out and dried.
And I got a load of work done in the kitchen, after leaving it to the very bare minimum for too long.
So I was happy with that. And it has given me somewhere to work FROM as opposed to trying to work TO.
Maybe it would be different if I was one of those folk who like doing housework and cleaning. But I don't.
But I am feeling happy this evening having done what I got through today.

  
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CMFARRELL36 9/9/2010 6:49PM

    Hey there,

I don't know if you will find hubby's problem - I can't remember if I've mentioned it in the past few days or just that he's off again!
He has very poor circulation, and in addition has Type 2 diabetes.
A number of years ago, he was off for about 5months with an ulcer on his shin which refused to heal. Eventually he was put into a heavy duty compression bandage, and healed up within a few weeks.
Since then, he has an "open invitation" to the leg clinic - if he damages his shin, however slightly, he's supposed to go straight there, "do not pass GO, do not collect 200" whatever. And he has done so in the past.

Since then, he has had various Doppler (?) scans of the blood flow in his legs, and has been told he must on no account wear compression bandaging!

Couple of weeks back, he bumped into his computer bag which he'd left in the hall here as he was getting ready to go to work.
As an aside - he's a **** nuisance the way he leaves that bag lying around, with its shoulder strap waiting to catch anyone walking past. But that's a different problem.
Anyway - this small bump removed some skin from his shin. He thought it was just 2 areas each about the size of a 50p. However, it was in fact 4 separate sites.
Whatever - he had dressings at home, so came straight back upstairs and dressed it.

Wednesday, a week past, he had a doctor's appointment for his blood pressure. He didn't get to see the doctor who is treating him and his diabetes, but was most impressed with the other doctor. He wanted to sign DH off work immediately, because the movement and flexing with DH being on his feet all day would definitely hinder healing.
But he agreed to wait till this week, as DH was heading for the hospital clinic on Tuesday afternoon, to see about this new damage.m And doc said he'd be guided by the hospital who knew the problems, and also DH, better than he did.
Hospital put him straight into heavy duty compression bandaging (the only thing that works for him) and told him maybe about 3 months off.

Yesterday (Wednesday) DH was back at the doc and could have been signed off for 3 months straight off. But they both decided to go for 2 months initially.
School isn't happy. Head Teacher had been warned by DH a week past that it wasn't IF he got signed off, but for HOW LONG. But she refused, this week, to believe that any GP would sign anyone off for even a month. She reckoned he'd be given a fortnight, and would then probably find out he was fine to get back to work.
Right enough, she does seem to be arrogant and is a crap manager.

So that's me not got my house back to myself during the day, despite both sons being back to their own flats and their own lives, and not needing any more transport help for just now.

OK - that's my big moan for today - thank you for the opportunity LOL

Take care, and I'll "see" you again soon.
Christine

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AKELAZ 9/9/2010 5:56PM

    Sorry to hear about your husband - 'fraid I've missed the story but will go thro yourblogs where I guess I'll find as to what the problem actually is. Ashamed - always - to moan when other folk are so-o much worse off than me. Hope you and your husband survive the sick leave - know it can be a trying time but please know that if you need an ear - I am here for you. emoticon

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The end of "hectic"?

Tuesday, September 07, 2010

Today was just about the end of my really hectic, and fairly stressful, interlude - I hope.

I had a pretty good sleep last night, then lay on in bed getting other parts of my legs onto the magnet pads for a wee while.
Then up and getting ready for taking younger son back to Stirling.

He was up and breakfasted early enough to do all his packing this morning - a decision he made last night while awarding himself an early night :)
I was aware of him up and doing, but dozed on a bit.

Anyways- we got on the road somewhere between midday and 1.00pm.
He got the car packed during a dry spell. And he also got the car unpacked at the other end during another dry spell. So that was a bonus.

It was sad to see him go back into his flat - same as yesterday saying cheerio to my older son. But they have their own lives to get on with. And I do believe that giving them their space means they are more likely to want to keep in touch.

Home again - I dropped in at home in case DH was home from the hospital. He was just in, in front of me.
He hadn't stopped off to get milk, so I headed back out and got loads of fruit and veg, milk, some meat on special, and home.

Hospital is suggesting that hubby should be off work for about 3 months, probably, to let the skin on his shin heal properly.
He has the doctor tomorrow afternoon - so he'll have to let his boss know during the day that he's likely to be off for that length of time. The doctor said last week that he'd be guided by the hospital's recommendations this week.

Oh well - I'm having lunch with a friend tomorrow.
Then I'll really have to sort my head out for having DH home full time for a while.
Yes - I know he's applying for early retirement. And I know we're going to an exhibition about retirement.
But my head isn;t round it just yet - it's supposed to happen next summer :)
But then - better a hubby with both legs complete.....

  


A day of rest

Monday, September 06, 2010

Yes, today was a much quieter day for me today.

But - I didn't rest on my laurels - or anywhere else!
I got up, and got on with some stuff, so I was quite pleased with myself.

And younger son (here till tomorrow) heard me up and about so poured my cup of tea ready for it to be cool enough for me to drink, then proceeded to make my brunch for me.
I'm sad that I have to take him home tomorrow!

However, older son's send off last night also made a huge impact on me - he offered to get the supper in for himself and brother and me.
I wouldn't have let him pay (though apparently DH did so 6 or 7 weeks ago. That really surprised me, as DH is always the one to be offering to taek older son for something to eat.

Doesn't matter - they have each thanked me like I don't know what for all the help with transport over the past few weeks.
And now I just have one last transport to do - taking younger son back to Stirling tomorrow (Wednesday). Then I don't know when I'll see either of them again, for a while.

So I've been trying to keep my routines going, as much as possible, and now I'll be trying to get back to my routines properly.
A trip to Stirling and back tomorrow.
Out to lunch on Wednesday - but I can work around that with what I want to be doing on a daily basis.

And then, maybe, very soon, I'll start back with exercise as well!
Today's walk was a definite plus in that respect.
I thought I'd maybe forgotten how to get walking over the years.
But I did a half mile each way - and a (very) few minutes talking at the mid point - and was even able to talk without sounding out of breath. So I did my (very nearly) mile including talking time in 20 minutes.

Yet again - I'm so pleased with the results of the exercising I did a few weeks ago, and how much it has helped me.
And I'm back to trying to get some exercise on board again!

  
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AKELAZ 9/6/2010 7:35PM

    I've got terribly behind with your blogs - forgive me. Very glad to hear the weekend and the wedding went so well and that you had family time with your sons - that time is so precious once they're grown isn't it?

Glad to hear you're getting on OK with the exercise 'programme'. I was the world's worst last year - still am but it is getting easier and slightly less of a chore. Don't think I'll ever enjoy it like some people seem to but it is so-o much more bearable now and I definitely feel better for it. Just a question of persevering - and getting encouragement where you can.

Guess you'll be in bed by now - hope you sleep well.

'Talk' soon emoticon

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? Nearing the end of hectic ?

Saturday, September 04, 2010

Today is Saturday, 4 Sept.

Thursday was fine, apart from the blips I already mentioned.

Friday - 4 of us at home and all needing showered and to get ready for a wedding.
Fortunately the wedding wasn't till 5.00pm (though about 90 minutes journey).
I had stuff for brunches organised, and my husband and both sons were told what was available and where it was.
I am soooo glad that I brought my sons up as an "uncaring mother" - poor wee souls had to see to their own breakfasts and packed lunches through secondary school. Well, either that or a very ratty me, very ratty boys, everyone getting in each others' way, and lots of rows and arguments.
So yesterday went quite smoothly - so much so that we were ready to leave about 20 minutes before hubby's cut-off time (which itself was about half an hour earlier than I had intended).
That let us go via older son's flat in Glasgow to collect his good watch (Gran's present to him when he graduated this summer - she hasn't seen it yet, and she was going to the wedding).
Still got there a wile early, but good chatting time with father and brother of the bride and The Groom.
Had a drink from the bar in the outbuilding which housed reception - that took up longer than it should. 3 weddings happening, and only 1 bar staff in that area, with occasional support from 1 other.
Anyways, we were about to head over to the main building - Airth Castle Hotel, nr Falkirk. When hubby's uncle appeared and said he was going for my MIL's wheelchair from the car - and asking for help. So my 2 boys and I waited while that happened - and this is where my stress levels did start to rise, as MIL and I don't always have an easy friendship. And as she appeared through the door from the bedroom area, the photographer and bride from a different wedding started to take up the whole of the exit doorway.
Fortunately one of my sons found another exit - even while the other son was trying to ask the receptionist how else we could get out! I love my boys :)

So, older to the main building - the castle/house.
It wasn't an easy building to negotiate, but it was ornate and quaint - and some lovely tapestry hangings.
Loads of hanging around outside, while official photos were happening - so plenty of chat and catch-up time.

Lovely wedding ceremony - a harp provided the music, which was delightful, though slightly soporific.
A fairly short, relaxed wedding ceremony - this was a civil ceremony, so my sons were able to see some differences between this ceremony and last year's wedding ceremony of another cousin.
Photos - it was such a beautiful day, so the photos were all outdoors, in the grounds.
Then - the meal.
Same as my last niece's wedding, the speeches were all before the meal. I really approve of that, as it lets all these poor folk who've been living on their nerves all day start to relax and maybe actually enjoy their wedding dinner.

I think 40 folk in all, including the top table. The Top Table plus 4 round tables, each seating 8.
Even though the hotel had 3 weddings on - "our" place had the MC from the hotel plus I think 4 (maybe 5) dedicated waiters/waitresses.
We had a lovely meal after some excellent speeches.

Then a CD compilation - probably done by the bride. She had made all the invitations, cards, RSVPs, name plates, table seating plan, menus for the tables etc. Plus she (and her Mum) had organised all the decor - both in the wedding ceremony room and in the wedding reception suite.

It was a really most enjoyable day out for me with my husband and sons.
And loads of catch up with one of my husband's cousins and her husband - as well as with the wedding party (I rarely get to see my sister-in-law and husband, let alone their son and daughter - only met the bridegroom twice I think).
And a pleasant time chatting with mother-in-law, fortunately older son was with me which eased that really well.

So that was my Friday, 3 Sept 10.
I'll report back on today another time - but things were good today too.
I really think I may be coming out the other end of the "hectic" tunnel, at last.

  


Thursday's Stresses

Thursday, September 02, 2010

Today, I thought I'd have things more or less under control - till last night, when a slight family crisis imposed itself.
Nothing to do with health, and something DH and I were sort of expecting - but still....
So today - some errands that were not on my -ish timetable, and a visit from my brother (likewise).
However -
I still got my basics done, and some extras done, and most of the stuff on my -ish list for today (plus some of yesterday's stuff, too).

And I had the dinner part way ready - and a choice between mince, pasta or rice and vegs, or prawns and salads - so my DH and my 2 DSs didn't have very long to wait for their dinner once they got here and gave me their preferences.

And I had an hour to sit and watch 2 TV programmes - or at least most of them.
Plus chatting time with next door over the fence (and got 6 lovely fresh eggs from them).

So, I reckon today was a positive.
And coping with the extra errands and stuff didn't really put me off my stride today as much as I was fearing yesterday.

Now for tomorrow - all 4 of us at home again! And to get ready and out for DH's niece's wedding.
Thank goodness we don't have to leave here till about 2.30pm at the earliest.

Now - heading for bed :D

  


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