Tuesday, September 17, 2013
In 1998 a book came out called “Who Moved My Cheese?” by Spencer Johnson. It was an immediate best seller, especially in the world of business.
The book was a parable about change and our response to it. The overall message was something like this– if change is a foot and we stay the same we may all soon become extinct.
In the title of this post I talk about “chi” instead of “cheese.” I LOVE the title of this post, however, I cannot take credit for it. I read a variation of it somewhere else and just adapted it for this post.
So what is “chi”?
Simply put “chi” is energy. It exists in all things animate and inanimate, including us humans. “Chi” is not readily visible, but it is most certainly felt.
Have you ever met someone new and instantly clicked with them? If so your “chi” was likely in alignment.
Have you ever walked into a silent room and felt very distinctive negative energy? That was “chi” too.
“Chi” is not a new concept. It is many centuries old. In fact– in Greece it is “Pneuma.” In Japan it is “Ki.” In India it is “Prahna.” The Ancient Romans called it “Spiritus.” In Hebrew it goes by “Ruch.” In the Arab speaking world it is “Rhor. ” Do you know how another culture or tradition has referred to “chi?”
Here in the USA “chi” played a starring role in a popular blockbuster movie several decades ago. Know what film I am talking about? “May the Force be With You” Star Wars fans!
You may be thinking, that is all good, but what does “chi” have to do with us here at Sparkpeople?
It is this…
Sometimes may feel that someone has moved our “chi” and it DOESN’T feel good at all. Sometimes we may overeat, binge, get mad, depressed--the list goes on. When someone moves our "chi" it can literally feel like we’ve been knocked off balance.
When that happens, we are faced with a choice.
We can immediately REACT.
Or, we can step back, regain our balance and then look at the situation with a fresh perspective and new eyes.
I bet many of us Sparkpeople REACT when our "chi" is moved--and our reaction is often self-inflicted bad behavior like binging, self-destructive mental chatter and the like.
REACTING causes us harm, yet we do it anyway. Why? It is easier to REACT than to RESPOND--even when the stakes are high (like our health!) If all we do is REACT, it is likely our extinction or a variation of it won't be too far off as we will eat
I am not suggesting we just take whatever it is that knocked our "chi" out of balance and grin and bear it.
What I am suggesting, however, is that we likely better serve ourselves, the situation and others if we can control our immediate reaction and instead get some perspective so we can thoughtfully respond in an appropriate and productive way.
Whether it is today, tomorrow or the next day I can guarantee that someone or something WILL move our “chi.” That's life here on planet earth...
What we do when it happens will set in motion our future–whether it be for the good, the bad, the ugly or even the modern day health version of “extinction” that Spencer Johnson talked about in his fable.
The next time your “chi” is moved, I hope the Star Wars force is with you and you are moved to RESPOND, not REACT. My dear Spark Friends-- our good health really does require it.
What do you think about this? I want to hear from you, so please share your commentd below...
Monday, September 16, 2013
I was with a group of friends yesterday who I call "my very spiritual women friends."
While some of these friends may follow organized religions, they mostly consider themselves more spiritual than religious. This means they generally do not feel they need a third party to have a rich and fulfilling relationship with God/Source/Creator. They themselves believe they have the power to connect directly.
Back to my story...
While we were chatting we got on the topic of kindness to self and they made some very interesting observations I wanted to share with you.
They said that many of us women (men too sometimes, but especially women) can be very hard on ourselves--very self-critical!
They said our inner "monkey mind" sometimes chatters to us things like...
"I am not good enough"
"If I only worked harder, I would lose more weight"
"If I was really serious about this, I'd exercise more."
"I am lazy"
"I am meant to be fat."
This is what my spiritual friends would say...
We are souls in bodies (not bodies with a soul). Our souls came to earth--the realm of material things--to do important work. Sometimes in this world of earthly delights, it is easy to get off track or feel that we have--especially with these bodies our souls chose to occupy.
The key, they would say, is to be kind and understanding with ourselves.
Sometimes we may find it easier to be kind to others, and not to ourselves. When this happens, we need to be remember self-empathy.
So we may have fallen off the food wagon.... it is ok.
We are just imperfect humans. We simply need to get back on track and keep on keeping on.
So we may not have exercised as intensely or much as we aimed to....it is ok.
We are simply human. Tomorrow is another day and if we put our mind, body and spirit to it we will succeed.
So we may not be losing weight as we hoped and planned...it is ok. Weight is not the only measure of our success and when the time is right the weight will come off. We just need to keep on keeping on and be kind to ourselves on this journey.
Being kind to ourselves--not just being kind to others-- is so very important.
If you find yourself being hard or critical or judgmental about yourself--STOP.
Instead, take a deep breath (or two or three) and then step back and look at the big picture.
Be kind and give yourself self-empathy. Then commit to keep on keeping on and find a way to get yourself back on track.
Friday, September 06, 2013
One of my goals is to be good to myself daily.
Sounds like common sense, right?
Unfortunately, what we often think of as common sense isn't alway so common.
I am an action and goal oriented person so I am always doing, doing, doing--for others.
This is a good thing because it makes other people feel special and I know they appreciate it. However, I also need to make time to do for me.
I am getting better at that. One indulgence I cherish is a massage or other body work monthly.
Yes, I know.....
A massage can be costly and out of reach for some.
However, there are things we can do to keep the cost down and make it a reality, if that is what we want.
Here are some ideas on how to afford massage if $ is tight:
--Look for a special local deal on a social media buying site like Groupon, Living Social, etc;
--Barter with a local masseuse. Do you have a product or service s/he might want in exchange for treatment? Personally, I LOVE to barter and have been very successful with it. It can't hurt to ask--worse they will say is no;
--See if there is a massage school in your area that offers discount massages by students;
--Learn simple massage techniques yourselve and swap "homemade" massages with a friend. My husband gives the best foot massage, for example.
Also, might you be able to save some $ for a massage by cutting back on unnecessary discretionary spending?
I know many people who spend an awful lot of $--and do not even realize it--on impulse purchases at the local coffee shop, vending machine, department store, etc.
If you want to do a massage but $ is tight, try saving for it by cutting back on those frivolous daily discretionary purchases. I promise the "massage piggy bank" will soon be full!
Yesterday I had a lymphatic drainage massage. It was divine. I found a 1/2 price deal through a social media buying company--so it was a bargain!
What is lymphatic draininage massage?
It is a type of gentle massage that naturally helps to drain fluids settled in our lymph nodes. I have seasonal allergies and so this type of massage helps clear me out during the worst of the season.
With this type of massage I feel like I get a 2 for 1: relaxation and a release of blocked fluids. Can't beat that!
What do you do to be good to yourself? Do share...
Monday, September 02, 2013
Happy Spark Labor Day Monday to ALL in the USA-- and a happy Monday to all around the world!
I want to share something with you that I think you might be interested in...
A very wise and thoughtful friend of mine recently turned me on to a free daily inspirational email message service from www. tut.com.
I'd never heard of TUT before, so I looked into it. When I did, I liked what I saw. I found the site and its author very intriguing.
The main purpose of TUT is to provide us with reminders of life's everyday magic, to show us how powerful we all are, and to remind us how far we can reach.
It's so easy for us to lose sight of these truths, particularly as we live in a fast-paced world that sends us messages that we are often limited, aging, too fat, stuck somewhere between luck and fate, etc. You get the picture....
A life properly lived is an easy life. A full and happy life is not supposed to be hard-- though we can make it that way with limited thinking, low expectations, and failing to see ourselves as we really are: as infinite Beings of Light, fun loving gladiators of the Universe, adventurers just being human, with eternity before us and the power of our thoughts to shape it!
Like Sparkpeople, TUT believes that thoughts become things--so it is very, very important that we choose good and positive thoughts about ourselves, others and the world.
If you want to learn more about TUT and think you may want to sign up for the free daily inspirational message, just visit TUT here and see if it is for you: www.Tut.com.
Enjoy and keep sparking!
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