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Keep Going Back and Forth

Friday, October 26, 2012

I don't know what is wrong with me. I keep going back and forth between SP and Weight Watchers. I know that if I just stick with one, it will work. SP keeps me more full - I get to eat what I like as long as I stay in my calorie range. I feel much more full on SP than WW because WW penalizes carbs now and I have to say carbs really make me feel full and satiated. But! The thing that makes me go back to WW is that weekly cushion in the budget. On SP if I go over my calories for the day I will feel like I've blown it for that day and easily go off course. I also weigh myself too much on SP.

Maybe the solution is to just weigh in once a week on SP and, if I do go over my calories, try to minimize how many I go over by. I do feel so much more full on SP.

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IS1GAR 10/29/2012 8:11AM

    I did WW some years ago and at the time it worked, however, I have been very faithful to SP since Sept 2011 and I have seem better results.
I have learned much more about the right nutrition and what my body needs to keep me healthy and strong. Also the encouragement to exercise have pushed me to new limits that I was not able to do 3 years ago.
You have to find what works better for you, but if you stay consistent in a good nutrition and fitness path you will find yourself in a much better health and looks.
Good luck!

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JESSIG5 10/28/2012 10:34AM

    For a while I was doing both, until I realized that I needed to be tracking things that aren't covered with WW such as sodium. The last time with WW, I only lost two pounds in eight weeks. Just wasn't cost effective. But I know it works for some people as it has for me in the past.


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ANGRITTER 10/28/2012 7:29AM

    I believe both programs work for some people, and others - like me - are not so "up" for the game like Weight Watchers. On SP I an eat anything in moderation and your calorie range will change based on how much you lose and and how much you work out. And sometimes they auto-adjust so you aren't losing too fast.

Have you tried working with the Weight Watchers team on SP? They use both systems to get their desired achievements. I have never tried it as the whole point system just doesn't work for me. I am more calories in vs calories out type of person!

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Sunday, October 14, 2012

I know you're not supposed to have regrets, but lately I've been having a lot of them... and they've been making me eat because I'm so down on myself. Let me paint a picture for you. When I was 22, I was living in Manhattan, working as an entry level investment banker, and living with my husband, who was a trader. We worked a ton, and I complained about my hours, but I had my whole life in front of me and felt pretty proud of what I had accomplished. Then, after two years of 100+ hour weeks, I quit and went to grad school to become a teacher. I reacted too strongly to banking and did a 180. My first regret. Then, I worked at a top tier school in Manhattan and enjoyed it. I was around lots of smart, interesting women, and the kids were smart and well-behaved. Then, I got engaged and had a beautiful wedding. I was skinny, my husband was handsome, and I felt proud of my accomplishments. A month after the wedding, we moved to North Carolina where my husband went to business school. It was a very hard adjustment for me - I gained weight and felt very disconnected from the world in which I grew up. I never realized what a bubble the New York metropolitan area was until I left. Then, after he graduated, he got a job in NE Florida - a very southern, conservative part of the state. Here I am a teacher but with none of the shiny prestige. I am now 29 - no longer thin, no longer with a job that other people admire. And I feel like it's too late for me to reinvent myself because I don't know how without the connections I would need to help me. At least at home, I knew people in different industries who would at least talk to me about a career change.

Anyway, I look back on the last 7 years and it's hard not to see them as a downward spiral. I feel like I had such a promising life ahead of me and now it's just mediocre. I try to be grateful for what I have - a wonderful husband, a charming house and garden, and a cute puppy - but selfishly, I mourn for what I lost. I feel like I had so much and threw it all away. Perhaps it's not rational, and perhaps I place too much importance on what others think, but I just have to be honest. In NY, whether I was a banker or a grad student or a teacher, I felt appreciated and admired, to a certain degree. This gave me confidence and I felt disciplined and in control of food. Feeling good about myself made me feel like I was worthy of being skinny and well-dressed.

Now, I don't have that same self-confidence, so it's harder trying to convince myself that I am special and deserve to be beautiful. These are the things that occupy a lot of my thoughts...but I am nervous to share them because I know they don't portray me in the most positive light. Thanks for listening!

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JESSIG5 10/17/2012 3:29PM


Change is difficult for all of us but it happens in life. I can look back and see several different stages in mine and each time I was discouraged and down about the future, something even better and more interesting happened eventually. Try to keep yourself open to the possibilities. Good luck.

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MELLABELLAS 10/15/2012 12:51AM

    Your life is not set in stone. Who knows what is around the corner. You made the best decisions you could based on the situations you were in and how they made you feel.

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BARBARASDIET 10/14/2012 2:22PM

    It is ridiculous to think that you can live a life and not have regrets. The issue is not letting them govern you.

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Love and Fun

Sunday, October 07, 2012

I had a great Saturday and Sunday morning with my husband and puppy. Yesterday we went out to brunch, had a puppy playdate, went to the mall, and went to dinner and a movie. My husband and I were laughing and being silly all day. So nice after the stress we've both been under. Today we took our dog to church for the blessing of the animals and that was fun, too. He went into the office after church, but I'm okay with it! Going to read the paper and have some down time. I really think if I saw my husband more I wouldn't mind living so far from home. I would love to find ways to make it work down here for me.

It also didn't hurt that I weighed myself and have lost a lb since I've been tracking on here.... just a couple of days. I haven't decided how often I'm going to weigh myself, but I did it on a whim. I was so surprised because before I got back on SP I was binging in a major way, so I was expecting to have gained. I just kept myself full all day yesterday and was pleasantly surprised when I had enough calories for some popcorn and wine at the movie last night. Love SparkPeople!

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JESSIG5 10/9/2012 10:27AM

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PATSYB7 10/7/2012 7:41PM

    Keep up the good job! Tracking is key to success! emoticon

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AUNTB63 10/7/2012 2:02PM

    Being that you are under some stress right now, in my opinion, I would weigh only once a week (once every two weeks). As long as you work your plan every day doing the best that you can....YOU will do just fine. Have a wonderful Sunday. BTY I also added you to my friend list. I will keep in touch, but if you need to "vent" or need help with anything else....I'm here for you. emoticon

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Dealing with Stress

Saturday, October 06, 2012

I have been under a lot of stress lately, and taking the SP stress quiz made me realize why!! I moved a plane ride away from where I grew up and where my friends and family still live for my husband's job. The job is great for his career but he works at least 100 hours a week so I'm often alone in a city I don't know very well. I have lived here a year now but haven't found a lot of friends. I am a NYC girl and it's hard to relate in the south. People I've met are so nice but I can't deny the cultural differences. I'm going to keep trying to reach out...start a book club, invite people over. I don't have a baby yet but lots of people my age here have kids already.... In NY I think I would feel more "normal" for my age but here I just don't fit in.
Anyway, after saying all this, I think it makes sense why I've gained weight. I spend lots of time alone and sad, trying hard to be happy. Food is always there and I've gotten back into emotional eating. I've just let a lot out here, but the Stress Challenge suggested I use it as a journal, so there it is!
It's Saturday so the husband shouldn't have to work least not too much. We can hang out and do something fun. Just reading through SP is making me feel motivated to change what I can, which is my weight! Thanks for listening. :)

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DUKEFAN86 10/12/2012 8:50AM

    Welcome to the area! I know how stressful it can be to move and start over with friends and activities. When I first moved here, I jumped feet first into a couple of organizations, and that helped. One thing I joined was the Durham Chorale, which was a lot of fun and good musical practice. (I hadn't sung in a choir in decades!) I only stayed in for a season, but it got me out of the house and meeting people early on. It's gotten much easier since.


Also try the Independent Weekly, which has a good Triangle events calendar. There are print racks around town, or you can look online at

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CLESCOP 10/7/2012 1:33PM

    Thanks so much for all of your supportive comments!! I agree I need to keep trying to both meet new people and also keep trying to find common ground with the people I know. I'm never going to be super into football, but that doesn't mean I can't be friends with people who are. :) I actually love my gym and am hoping I will meet some girls in classes there. There needs to be a to find friends in new places!!

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ANGRITTER 10/7/2012 12:54AM

    Good for you to put it all out there. I vent in my blogs and then get advice on how to deal with a situation. Never has it occurred that I didn't use someone's advice to deal with a situation.

That's what i really like about this site because evrey one of have been there at some time!

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BATCHICK 10/6/2012 1:40PM

    Perhaps you could join a local roller derby team? That's how I met 90% of my adult friends, almost none of which have kids either.

emoticon We support you!

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AUNTB63 10/6/2012 10:19AM

    I feel your pain. Perhaps there is a gym or a YMCA nearby that you could join. Is there a farmer's market around?...I found common grounds with some of those who go there. I like the idea of taking a class of some sort, not necessary to be fitness, perhaps a community college....a cooking class (healthy of course). Volunteer at a hospital? Sounds like you need to get out and about. YOU can do this. Maybe while hanging out with DH you could check out some things/places you could do/go later on your own. Enjoy your weekend and emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    I can definitely imagine how different the South is from where you lived...I live in Phoenix and I don't think I could ever live in the South. I would suggest trying to find a class/activity that interests you, and hopefully someone you can relate to will be there as well. You may not agree with everything they do, but you can at least find common ground in an activity you both enjoy.

Hang in there! emoticon

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Quitting WW Points Plus

Friday, April 15, 2011

I tried going back to WW Points Plus. I thought that the plan wasn't failing me; I was just failing the plan. But, 4 weeks in a row, and I still haven't lost weight. I've actually gained 1/2 pound. I spoke to the meetings leader, but she just suggested cutting the points I'm supposedly "allowed." I feel like what's the point of tweaking something that's supposed to work on its own?

So now I'm back here to count calories!! I love the idea that if I eat a certain amount of calories, I can trust I will lose. Just 5 lbs would give me such a boost! I plan to be on the website a lot in the next few weeks getting my momentum back.

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TINIERTINA 7/13/2011 9:34AM

    If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is ...

Sometimes, you have to go with what actually works.
I am on my own plan, which is close to being Volumetrics ...
With Volumetrics, practitioners of the plan, know which "zero points" type foods are calorie-dense or not ...

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DBURSIKOVA 6/11/2011 12:39AM

    I too am frustrated with the new Points Plus. when I track perfectly I do better, but I have found that if a eat too much fruit or eat my extra 49 points I don't lose. In fact the few times I used all my 49 points over a weekend, I gained 2-4 pounds the following week. Yikes! This is getting me down.

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DUKEFAN86 4/18/2011 7:48AM

    I'm struggling with WW Points Plus too, but my problem, I think, is that I'm inconsistent with tracking my food. Need to try harder with that.

Keep us posted!!

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