Saturday, October 09, 2010
I am flooded with so many ideas of what to write this morning because of my mailings from Spark. Two in particular stand out. Don't let others define you and just breathe. These are two that have been etched into my life over the last decade or more.
One of the greatest things I learned when preparing for my daughter's birth more that 25 years ago was was breathing to reduce stress. You cannot tense yourself up and exhale at the same time. Then there is the cleansing breath which goes deep and long. Whenever the addicts I work with start getting upset over how their children or one of the other clients is acting towards them I remind them to breathe. Take a few minutes to clear your mind and get away from it all if only for a few seconds and take a deep breath or so and you will be amazed at how much better you feel. Most of us breathe far too shallowly anyway. As a musician I was trained to breathe in a way that it was not your shoulders that rose and fell with each breath, but your stomach that actually expanded. This type of breathing brings more oxygen into your system and is good to practice even at random times throughout your day.
Now the other one also relates to my daughter. Just out of high school she was charged with a felony. That was several years ago, but it still haunts her. She is not who she was then by any means, but that is all others can see when they look at her, especially on her resume. Many times when praying for her I would ask that her past would not define who she was because I knew she was far more than that. In the blog I read to day someone told the junior high kid that they would never become someone that they wanted to become. Every time he failed at it he could hear those words echoing in his mind. As soon as you tell my husband he can't do something, he believes you and quits trying. I just wish that people would think before opening their mouths. I love the proverb that says it is better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. We laugh, but it also cuts. Let our words be filled with grace. We can be bound by and limited by things in our past. All it takes is one set back and my daughter says, " I'll never get anywhere anyway because of my felony." As long as she believes that it may sadly be true. The greatest battlefield we face in life is in our thoughts and minds. Some people seek for acceptance from their parents their whole life because of one cutting remark made years ago. Let us think twice before we open our mouths and consider the other person's past and future before we stand to limit their potential by our words. Maybe it is our words that will unlock the promise that is in store for them today. We do not have to accept every word that is spoken over us even when the other person may think they are an expert.