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Older and Wiser

Saturday, June 26, 2010

What is your relationship with your parents? Sadly, I no longer have either of mine. I think I was too much like my mother and we clashed often even in to my adult years. I loved my daddy. I'd sometimes get frustrated when I asked what I thought was a simple question and the answer would take what seemed to be a half hour from him! If they asked me to do something I would rarely, if ever, question them or think of disobeying them. I tried to teach my kids to be the same, but somehow never really succeeded. I always wondered what it was that they did differently.
Our parents have wisdom sometimes just because they have experienced more of life and have hopefully learned a few things as they went along. They offer advice based on their experiences and the wisdom they have achieved. They know the pain caused by not doing things a certain way. They speak out of love for us.
Sometimes, though, you find a child who thinks that they know better than those years of wisdom and trial and error. They do not wish to do things as they are told. Some children can only say, "gimme, gimme." This is not only the very young, but sadly sometimes even adult children. They set their jaw and become angry when not catered to.
Today, though not Father's Day or Mother's Day, tell your parents how much you appreciate all they have done for you as they have led and directed you. Let them know you appreciate the sacrifices they have made. I know not all parents were great parents or showed tons of love towards us, but dig deep if you must. Pray that God would bless them today at the very least. Go find someone in an old folks home to visit if your parents are gone. Listen and learn from those who have gone before you. There is much they can tell us.

  


Value of Routine

Friday, June 25, 2010

Human beings are comfortable with "the way things always are." We don't like the unexpected and find comfort in routine. We don't like change. Even autistic children find comfort there and become very upset when the routine changes even slightly. We resist change.
Children and adults benefit from a routine in our daily lives. Take a look, for example, at a consistent bedtime. I know when I drove a school bus I would go to bed at 9pm. I could set a clock by my body even on days off because my body would desire to be in bed at that time every night. I'd get frustrated when I wanted to watch a tv show that came on later. I would see the beginning, the middle or the end, but rarely the whole show. When I vary my bedtime or waking time, I am sure to have a headache as I do today. Children too benefit from a regular schedule.
When we have a routine we do not have to worry about what comes next in our day, we know what comes next. It becomes second nature to us. Routines can also be called habits if you think about it. Perhaps we always put our left shoe on first, or both socks, or even one shoe and one sock. When I set a specific time to pray or a place in my routine, it becomes natural to do it then. I don't have to remember to do it then.
The problem with routine though is that sometimes we get bored with it. Many have pointed out the importance of shaking up a routine every now and then. We can continue on with an exercise program if we vary it some. Our brains stay more alert if we will take a different route home from work every now and then. But sticking to doing things at the same time every day, our lives will be more manageable if we will apply simple routines to the way we do things.

  
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IUHRYTR 6/25/2010 2:01PM

    We all need a change now and then but I agree that we are usually more comfortable with things being done the same way. Boring sometimes, isn't it? -- Lou

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KHDOESMK 6/25/2010 1:28PM

    I have seen children coming from homes where there is little habit/discipline and those are the children struggling with failure. It is sad, habit isn't the enemy, nor is (self)control.

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Can't Give Up

Thursday, June 24, 2010

It is always too soon to give up. We have heard it all our lives. It really is true. I was thinking of the US game against Algeria in the World Cu[p. In the 91st minute of a normally 90 minute game, the US scored securing the victory. My son had a shirt when he was a kid that went something like this : 9th inning, bases loaded two outs two strikes...it could happen! Sports isn't the only place things can change for the positive if we just don't give up. One of my favorite things to say is: as long as you have a breath in your body there is still hope. As long as there is fight left in you things can change if we will only just not lose heart. It is easy to become discouraged and want to give up. Shoot! We do it all the time. We must get up one more time, swing one more time, try one more time, take one more breath. Persistence has great rewards for the one who finds her. A wall comes down, not with the first blow, but with the last, but the last blow cannot come without the first. We will receive the victor's crown if we will only just keep fighting. Keep the vision alive in your mind. Remind yourself of what you are fighting for.

  
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IUHRYTR 6/25/2010 7:35AM

    I agree. Giving up is not an option. -- Lou

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KHDOESMK 6/25/2010 12:42AM

    I am battling 10lbs and REFUSE to give up!

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LUCKYSTAR99 6/24/2010 4:39PM

    Love your blog. Thank you for your positive message, just when I was thinking about ditching my work-out for today too!

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GRACIESMOM70 6/24/2010 10:28AM

  Liked your blog a lot- HOW TRUE- Have a GREAT day

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Our Greatest Legacy

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

I was reading in Proverbs this morning about how we are to listen to our parents' wisdom handed down from years of experience. It says when you walk it will guide you, when you sleep it will watch over you and when you are awake it will speak to you. My mom and dad are both gone now, but every time I drive, I hear her say,"Keep both hands on the wheel." I have a bad habit of driving with only one hand on the wheel, always have. I hear mom also tell me to keep my meals colorful. It's supposed to keep your meals more nutritious and balanced. Sad, but I hear less of my dad's voice though I loved him more.
I have also heard it said if we talk too much our kids will tune us out. So let your words be few and carry more weight because of it. You never know what words your kids will remember years from now. Let them be words of encouragement and not words of criticism. Let them not remember the complaining we do, but rather how much our words soothed and comforted them. Choose your words carefully especially when talking to your children. It is our words that are our greatest legacy.

  
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IUHRYTR 6/23/2010 11:59AM

    It seems human nature for many of us that 100 people could offer us praise but let one person say something hurtful and that's what we remember for a long, long, time. So, yes, let's make our comments encouraging and uplifting. Thanks for a good message. -- Lou

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Jugement and Injustices

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

The Bible tells us that the birds know their time of migration, but somehow the people of God can't seem to know His commandments. I wonder how much of this is nothing more than stubbornness. If we don't find out what is expected then we can't be held guilty of not doing it right? It forces us to take responsibility for our actions if we know to do good and don't that is the definition of sin after all. But willful disobedience is not a good thing either. The Bible tells us that in so many ways we will be without excuse on the day of judgment. Even if we refuse to find out what God expects do we not know it because of an inborn sense of what is right and wrong? Some people would say that is only something that we are taught by society. But in any society there is a sense of what is right and wrong and it is violated on a daily basis. I loved the e-mail my husband sent the other day. A barber told a customer that there was no God because there would be no famine, wars, etc if there were. The man walked outside and found a long haired homeless man. He took him back to the barber and told him that this man was proof there were no barbers in the world. The barber said, well yes there are because I am one. He just didn't come to me." The customer said, and so it is with God. There are problems in the world and injustices because people will not go to God." Quite a point isn't it? Today I want to take the time to come to God and get to know His expectations for my life. I will bring him the injustices I see in the world around me and lay them at His feet. I will not blame Him for what I will not do. Have a good one everyone!

  
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IUHRYTR 6/22/2010 12:06PM

    Loved the barber story. Right on! -- Lou

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