Saturday, June 26, 2010
What is your relationship with your parents? Sadly, I no longer have either of mine. I think I was too much like my mother and we clashed often even in to my adult years. I loved my daddy. I'd sometimes get frustrated when I asked what I thought was a simple question and the answer would take what seemed to be a half hour from him! If they asked me to do something I would rarely, if ever, question them or think of disobeying them. I tried to teach my kids to be the same, but somehow never really succeeded. I always wondered what it was that they did differently.
Our parents have wisdom sometimes just because they have experienced more of life and have hopefully learned a few things as they went along. They offer advice based on their experiences and the wisdom they have achieved. They know the pain caused by not doing things a certain way. They speak out of love for us.
Sometimes, though, you find a child who thinks that they know better than those years of wisdom and trial and error. They do not wish to do things as they are told. Some children can only say, "gimme, gimme." This is not only the very young, but sadly sometimes even adult children. They set their jaw and become angry when not catered to.
Today, though not Father's Day or Mother's Day, tell your parents how much you appreciate all they have done for you as they have led and directed you. Let them know you appreciate the sacrifices they have made. I know not all parents were great parents or showed tons of love towards us, but dig deep if you must. Pray that God would bless them today at the very least. Go find someone in an old folks home to visit if your parents are gone. Listen and learn from those who have gone before you. There is much they can tell us.
Friday, June 25, 2010
Human beings are comfortable with "the way things always are." We don't like the unexpected and find comfort in routine. We don't like change. Even autistic children find comfort there and become very upset when the routine changes even slightly. We resist change.
Children and adults benefit from a routine in our daily lives. Take a look, for example, at a consistent bedtime. I know when I drove a school bus I would go to bed at 9pm. I could set a clock by my body even on days off because my body would desire to be in bed at that time every night. I'd get frustrated when I wanted to watch a tv show that came on later. I would see the beginning, the middle or the end, but rarely the whole show. When I vary my bedtime or waking time, I am sure to have a headache as I do today. Children too benefit from a regular schedule.
When we have a routine we do not have to worry about what comes next in our day, we know what comes next. It becomes second nature to us. Routines can also be called habits if you think about it. Perhaps we always put our left shoe on first, or both socks, or even one shoe and one sock. When I set a specific time to pray or a place in my routine, it becomes natural to do it then. I don't have to remember to do it then.
The problem with routine though is that sometimes we get bored with it. Many have pointed out the importance of shaking up a routine every now and then. We can continue on with an exercise program if we vary it some. Our brains stay more alert if we will take a different route home from work every now and then. But sticking to doing things at the same time every day, our lives will be more manageable if we will apply simple routines to the way we do things.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
It is always too soon to give up. We have heard it all our lives. It really is true. I was thinking of the US game against Algeria in the World Cu[p. In the 91st minute of a normally 90 minute game, the US scored securing the victory. My son had a shirt when he was a kid that went something like this : 9th inning, bases loaded two outs two strikes...it could happen! Sports isn't the only place things can change for the positive if we just don't give up. One of my favorite things to say is: as long as you have a breath in your body there is still hope. As long as there is fight left in you things can change if we will only just not lose heart. It is easy to become discouraged and want to give up. Shoot! We do it all the time. We must get up one more time, swing one more time, try one more time, take one more breath. Persistence has great rewards for the one who finds her. A wall comes down, not with the first blow, but with the last, but the last blow cannot come without the first. We will receive the victor's crown if we will only just keep fighting. Keep the vision alive in your mind. Remind yourself of what you are fighting for.
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