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A Mother's Heart

Friday, June 18, 2010

A mother knows things about her children that she does not need to be told. They call it woman's intuition I think. A mother knows when her child is falling in love. She knows when the whole truth is not being told. A mother knows when her child's heart is broken and needing to be comforted. The days when they were little are cherished because sometimes life gets in the way of relationships.
We allow hurts and bitterness to take root and come between us. We don't see it coming as it is so subtle. Before we realize it, there are walls too big to climb or go around. Yet love will tear them down. It is always too soon to withhold love. The times when they are least lovable is when they need it the most. That is when we must put aside our pride and humble ourselves in their sight and give them grace.
I am really struggling right now with knowing how best to love my daughter. I know she is not telling me the truth about events in her life. Though I may not really want to know the truth, it hurts nonetheless. We've been through a lot in the last ten years. Unforgiveness lurks right beside the desire for restoration. There are hurdles we can never seem to get over for long. My heart aches for the little girl with a heart full of promise and excitement and joy. She's done so many things right in life. I do not know how we arrived at the place we find ourselves. Mistakes have been made, forgiveness asked. My goal has always been for her best.
So with all of this in my heart, I prepare for my youngest to come home today. I haven't seen him since Christmas. At one point he said he was leaving home and never coming back, yet here he comes, for Father's Day no less. Though we are not close, he is honest about his feelings and I can live with that. I know where I stand with him even if it isn't where I would like to be. The lasagne will be made, his favorite, and we will enjoy our time, however fleeting together for a day or two.

  
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BESEENU52 6/18/2010 12:51PM

    i don't know what happened to you and your daughter but i wish you happiness and a peace for both of you. i have two daughters, both different, both living their lives in the way that they have created. i am very close with them and i respect them even if they don't always live their lives as maybe i might live mine.

but i always have to remember; they are women; not little girls anymore; they will have their lives, their secrets and that's ok;

always be the first one to keep trying with your daughter, ALWAYS, because you are the mom.

I wish you well and i hope your daughter and you will soon mend what ever is not right between you! life is to short to miss out on the lives of our loves ones;

acceptance and forgiveness! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Dream With a Passion

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Seems to me that June is the month of dreams. More people get married and graduate in June than in any other month. It is one of the biggest months of celebrations, just ask my cake decorator friend.
How many of us live life full of unrealized dreams? We hear people all the time saying, "when I was a kid I wanted to be..." Or, "I've always wanted to..." What happened in the time the dream was given birth and the the time that the dream died. I believe there is a reason the dream was placed within our hearts to begin with. We were made to make a difference in this world and each of us is unique in what we bring. Passion is what makes the difference. I see it in the stories about the oil mess in the gulf. A child with a passion for wildlife raising hundreds of thousands of dollars to save the birds she loves. Another child started a 4-H project years ago that still thrives and is very vital to the survival of the coral reefs. They have done many things with their passion because they have not allowed it to fade and have acted on it.
What is your passion? Are you willing to do something to make your dreams live? The world needs your passion and waits with bated breath to see what you will do with it. Your dream is a gift directly to you. How long will it take for you to open it?

  


Fear

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

What is it that keeps us from doing all that God wants us to do? I venture to say it is nothing more than fear. The Bible tells us to do so many things, yet so few of them are being done by the average christian. Think about it.
We have all heard the excuse of why not to tell God you will become a missionary : "I don't want Him to send me to Africa." Okay so why do we not minister to those right there in our own home towns? Did He not say, "Go?"Yet we leave it for someone else because it is out of our comfort zone and we are filled with fear. Perhaps fear of rejection, fear of not knowing what to say or do. Fear of being sent to Africa may include fear of being separated from family and friends and fear of the unknown. Perhaps it is fear of not having a comfortable place to call home.
In so doing do we not place these things higher than our love for God, idols of sorts? We all know what God thinks of that now don't we? It is time we start moving out of our comfort zones a little more regularly. It is there that we will find God like we never knew Him before.

  
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4EVERBEUTIFUL 6/16/2010 10:29AM

    Fear is always what keeps us from living our true potential. Great entry :)

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Remember

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

One of my Spark mails today said to remember the good and learn from the bad in our lives. What good advice! There must be balance in our lives in every area. When we are going through tough times, it is always good to remember that they will not last forever. One of the best ways I know to do this is to remember the good things that have happened in the past and knowing that they will return. Nothing in this life lasts forever. Perspective and hope are gained by remembering this.
It is always wise to learn from the bad things that happen to us. If they have happened from mistakes we have made, it is wise not to repeat them! It is the times of greatest hardship that I have grown the strongest. Though I would hate to repeat them, I cherish them. They have truly made me what I am. I am more compassionate because of what I have suffered. I have found strength I did not know existed in times of weakness. I have found purpose through the lessons learned. I am changed for the good through the bad times. So how can I truly call them bad times? You find out exactly what you are made of during the times you are squeezed. There is something cleansing about the tears, something necessary.
The good times, too, do not last forever. It is in the good times that we experience the blessings of life. That is when we see the fruit of our labors. The good times are times of celebration and times of rest. We could not endure the times of trial if they did not let up eventually. Good times bring joy and satisfaction with all we have achieved. We would become lazy if they were allowed to go on forever. We would not appreciate them if it were not for the rougher times. They would not be as sweet.
So in all things let us give thanks. We may not see the purpose yet, but give thanks anyway. Let us rejoice when things are good and remember that they can be fleeting. Let us be cleansed and purified in the rougher seas of life.

  
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IUHRYTR 6/15/2010 3:42PM

    This is why focusing on the positives, even in the down times, helps keep us balanced. emoticon -- Lou

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WISEONE68 6/15/2010 9:11AM

    AMEN! So much of the time we get bogged down in the "bad" stuff and let it overwhelm us...not remembering that IT IS going to subside and fade away. Grief, though devastating, does pass; mistakes, though fristrating, do teach us lessons; and, as I always say to others (and try to remember for myself)--when we find ourselves in a situation--we must find out what God would have us learn so we can move on through...AND, never have to come back to it again.
Thanks for the reminder...have a blessed day!! Remembering the GOOD--my emoticon!!!

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Honestly!

Monday, June 14, 2010

Honesty is the right policy, right? We have always heard this and I think most people believe this. Would you not rather be told the truth rather than be deceived? There is nothing I like less than knowing I have been lied to. I may not always like what someone says to me, but if I know they are telling the truth I will trust them and their responses more the next time. People will seek out those that they know will give them an honest response.
But are we honest with ourselves? I'd bet many of us lie to ourselves on a daily basis. We don't want to admit that we are not the person we want to be. We gloss ourselves over so that we don't have to take responsibility for the discrepancies we see. We often times think more highly of ourselves than we should. We want to look better than the reality.
So today I choose to be honest with myself. I will take stock of the realities and if I see something I'd really not like to see, I will do something to change it. I am after all, the only one who can.

  
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IUHRYTR 6/14/2010 12:56PM

    So true that we are often blinded when it comes to seeing our own faults. -- Lou

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