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To be a friend

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

I would hope that my friends would find me faithful and caring towards them because those are characteristics I need in a friend myself. The old rule of thumb, treat others as you would want to be treated surely comes into play when I interact with my friends. So what makes a good friend?
A good freind is someone you can trust with your emotions, someone you don't have to be guarded around. I don't want someone that shares my deepest, darkest thoughts and fears with the whole world once they leave my presence. I want to know my secret is safe with them. I take criticism from a friend much more readily than I do someone who has spent no time at all with me. Open rebuke from a friend is easier for me to accept when I know someone loves me and is looking out for what is best. It still hurts, but when I know the intent behind it, it is somehow easier to take. The Bible says faithful are the wounds of a friend.A friend is someone you can laugh with and cry with. A friend is someone that you have inside jokes with and laugh even ehen no word is spoken between you. It's even better when you happen to marry your best friend and truly something to be envied.
Nothing hurts more than the betrayal of a friend as well. To think you can trust someone only to find out you were being used for thier own good and not yours is devastating. Or to find out that when you are together it is all smiles, but when they leave you the tell others how much they can't stand you can be just as painful. Friends shouldn't cause you that kind of pain. Backbiting only stirs up anger. Though it is nice to have a friend, you can get too much of a good thing when they won't leave you alone and are always calling or coming by and end up dominating your whole day to the point you can't get anything done.
I love and cherish the friendships I have. I will be today the best friend that I can. I will be someone others can trust. I will be faithful to my friends today. I will treat them gently but always tell them the truth. Today I will be the friend I hope others will be to me. Thank you to all I call freind :)

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TIME4ANEWME47 10/13/2009 9:22PM

    I have very few friends but those I do have exhibit all the qualities you listed. I am very lucky that they also accept me as I am and do not try to change me. Beautiful post!

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GOLIONS 10/13/2009 11:10AM

    There is nothing like a good friend

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We will always have the poor

Monday, October 12, 2009

How do we veiw the poor? So many times we look down on the man or woman on the corner and ask how they could have reached such a low in their life. Or maybe we thought to ourself, why doesn't he get a job. We do not know what may have happened in a person's life to have brought them to that point. Today's poor is not the same as the ones of yesterday. Many once weathy people find them selves without the ability to care for themselves or their family.
There is a lot of blessing in loving the poor. Nothing we give to them is lost. It is appreciated and cherished. Money isn't everything in life or the reason for our existance. It will not bring happiness or satisfaction in ways that many believe that it will. I live near the Mexican border and though I do not reccommend going to Juarez right now given the violence there, there is much that can be learned from the poor who do live there. Many are content and happy with their lives. They don't know anything else. Even though they do not have much, they are willing to give what they do have to give. Is it any wonder that Jesus praised the widow who gave her tidbit in the temple, having given all she had? The weathy man, who probably gave far more than she did was not praised because he gave out of his abundance. I have seen freer people in prison than I have sitting next to me in church on Sunday moring. Our life satisfaction has little to do with how much we make or where we live. It's what we do with what we have that really counts.
Though I do not advocate giving a hundred dollars to the man on the corner to spend on drugs or booze, what's wrong with buying him a sandwich so that he does not go hungry? There is much satisfaction from giving an hour or so of your time getting to know the people in the local soup kitchen as you serve them. They too are people just like you and me in many ways. They will always be a part of society. Let us have a heart of compassion, because are we not all just a step from being where they are?

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TIME4ANEWME47 10/12/2009 9:36PM

    I realized just how close all of us are to living on the steets when I served dinner at a homeless shelter week our church sponsors. My kids even had the chance to play basket ball with some of the people who came. It was not only eyeopening to me but them as well. Great post! Thank you for the reminder.

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A wonderfu woman indeed

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Sometimes the task of being a wife and mother seems thankless. There are endless mounds of dirty clothes, few in the hamper, and dishes that reach the sky with no one to help shrink the mountain. If we are not careful we can become bitter and resentful in that. My boss says of working with kids, "You discipline them today and hope to see the results when they are 25." A lot of truth in that. Our job is very important and with great rewards even with the heartache we may have to endure.
A wise woman, according to the Bible builds her house. It further says that understanding is the foundation of that house. And on top of that is godly wisdom. They say that being a parent is one of those jobs that doesn't come with an insrtuction booklet or owner's manual. I beg to differ. We all have a manual for life in the pages of the Bible. Sure, we will all makes mistakes and the next generation will attempt to fix them and make their own. We can limit those mistakes if we will listen to the wisdom of the Bible. Prayer is also one of the most valuable tools we have to get the task accomplished. It is never too early or, unless they have died, too late to make a difference through prayer.
The virtuous woman of Proverbs were are all aware of, but very few fit the bill. We may have one or two characteristics perfected, but fall short in other categories. Simply put she is very industrious and intelligent. She takes care of her house's interior and the affairs of her house. She is more valuable than rubies. It may take a few years before others recognise all you have done, but know your reward is ahead. We have great value and should not grow weary in all the good we know we do.

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TIME4ANEWME47 10/11/2009 11:48PM

    So true...I do believe prayer is helpful for those who have died as well. I know of a person whose son recently committed suicide. I prayed for not only her but also her son. The pain one currently feels and the other felt in life are unthinkable. But I hope God is there for both.
You are right that we may not realize the difference we make. Reminds me of the book by Mitch Albom called The Five People You Meet in Heaven. Very interesting and thoughtful interpretation of the difference each of us make.
Love your blog! Have a great week!

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3CATSLEP 10/11/2009 5:47PM

    Simply put and well stated! I often just pray for wisdom, wisdom, wisdom.

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TXSASSY76 10/11/2009 4:51PM

    I really like this blog! It put a smile on my face... it has so much truth to it! Great blog!

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Saturday, October 10, 2009

Fasting is something that many would say is not good for you, but I beg to differ. I have fasted many a time. Though not for weight loss, I did lose several pounds. It must be done correctly and carefully depending on the length of the fast and certain precautios should be taken. The fasting I do is purely for the spiritual benefits and they are tremendous. The Bible says that fasting should be done for loosing the bonds of wickedness, to undo the yoke and to let the oppressed go free. It is to give your food to the hungry even bringing the hungry to your home. It is to clothe the naked and it further states not to hide yourself from your own flesh and blood. The Biblical results will follow a time of fasting. They are as follows: our light will break forth like the morning, your healing shall come quickly. Your righteousness will go before you and the glory of the Lord shall cover your butt. Well okay it shall be your rear guard :) It goes on to say that you will call on the Lord and He will answer; you will cry and he will say here I am.
It also says that if you give away what you need to sustain yourself for the benefit of another you will shine brightly and the Lord will guide you continually satisfying you in times of need and you will become as a spring whose waters do not fail.
I do not know why it works, but I guarantee you it does. I have faced unsurmontable things in my life. In a very short time there were major turnarounds after a period of fasting. Things I have prayed and cried about did not seem to change until I humbled myself and prayed and fasted. The new testament talks about the people fasting on a regular basis, leading fasted lives as if it was a given that they were fasting regularly. I too have done it setting aside a day of the week every week for fasting. It was taken for granted that it was being done. Yet today in our christian lives I would venture to bet, very few do. Why is this? Most are probably not taught the benefits of it. It is not comfortable and we avoid things that are not pampering to us.
So let us rise above our comfort zones and enter the spirtual realm and find the victory we have sought for with tears and not attained. I would say to you, try it you'll like it.

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KANSASGAL3 10/12/2009 7:59PM

    I had a great teacher who shared with me about fasting. He taught that we sometimes need to rid our life of things that we depend on to focus on God.

I've fasted food many, many times and spent the time before the Lord, talking with Him about the thing that concerned me. One time, I fasted all purchased food, eating only the items that were made at home. Another time, we fasted TV for a period, freeing us from distractions and spending the time focused on the issue at hand.

I love the scripture where Christ says "when you fast..." not if your fast or if you decide to fast. He knew that food can be a distraction and, sometimes, a hindrance to us growing.

May God bless you for being so faithful!!

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3CATSLEP 10/10/2009 8:07PM

    I have often contemplated fasting for spiritual growth. How do you know when it is time to stop? Will I feel it in my heart when I receive an answer? I know I didn't word that correctly - I hope you know what I think I mean :) ??

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Love and correction

Friday, October 09, 2009

Why do we correct our children? Because we love them. If we did not care how they turned out then we would allow them free range. What is so sad to me is to see so many who have given up on their children and allow them to do what ever they want to do, often times finding themselves in trouble with the law when they are of an age to do so.
I know a mom who sits by and watches what her child does yet she rarely corrects him unless she thinks she will get into trouble for not doing so. The child is unmanageable at times whaen she is not present because he has learned to become defiant and unbending in his own will.
The Bible aslo states that godly men had ungodly parents and ungodly parents gave birth to what became godly children. A parent is not completely to blame for how a child turns out, but a large part of it is. I am opposed to those who want to punish the parent when a high school or junior high aged kid refuses to attend school. At that age it is the child's responsibility and he knows full well what he is doing. If they know the parent will get in trouoble and he will walk free there is nothing to make the child stay there. They are even going so far as to take these parents to court. I do not know if it is making any impact on the problem.
You cannot force a parent to love their child. Some I know can be VERY unlovable. But usually when we act the most unlovable is when we need to know it most. Having raised two very difficult children I can tell you it is always too early to give up on them. Force yourself to find ways to let them know you still care despite their behavior. I am not saying you should lie, because they can see right through that. If they will not accept a hug leave them secret, small gifts on their pillow for when they return. Cards can also be a good tool. Make sure before they leave the house that you tell them you love them even though it may appear scorned and not returned. Sow seeds of love every day and eventually you will reap a harvest.
You can never go wrong with love. It is the most important thing you can add to your day. It is powerful and life giving. Speak words of love and watch life, however small, begin to take root in the lives of those you cherish. It may be little more than being patient with the difficult child, but eventually they will come to their senses and realise you were there all along just waiting for them.

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    Yes I agree completely with you about punishing children when they need it..And if you start teaching them from the beginning it works best because they understand and know that you are doing it for their ; own good. And people when they see you and your child or children coming wont dread to see you. That way everyone enjoys the visit. And as the get older.. You really need to raise the punishment to something besides a time-out because by doing so I feel you are underrating what will happen to them in the real world!! If we underrate the punishment; if they steal, hurt someone or whatever they may do will both lose because the punishment will mean going to jail or even prison.. And that will harden your heart and theirs towards the entire world.. And all because you didn't want to take responsibility for the life you brought into the world !!! It's time to stand-up now!!!

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WORKINGSTIFF 10/9/2009 10:12AM

    What a wonderful blog. What you say is so true. My sons are older and I have had a marvelous time being their mother. Neither one has been outrageously troublesome, no more than is common.

You do have to keep telling your children that you love them, and keep setting boundaries for them. Yes, children need limits and structure. That's our job as parents. Too many parents let children make their own choices and decisions at too early an age. That is what age and wisdom is for. Children don't have enough life experience to always know what is best for them. Sometimes I want to ask these lazy parents, "Why did you have children if you weren't going to raise them?"

I've always told my sons that while I may not like everything that they do, I will always love them.

Parenting is one of those "delayed gratification" things. It takes about 25 years before you know that you've done a good job. Whew!

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MORGANSMOM52 10/9/2009 10:12AM

    Raising a child right really does take a village. One where all of the parents have basically the same values and monitor each others children (if only to protect their own) during the time they are not in school. Unfortunately, many of the parents of today were the latchkey kids of yesterday, leaving for school on their own, getting home before the adults and having no one to monitor, teach, and require responsibility. That, coupled with an ever decrease in formal moral values makes it hard for those who are really trying to raise their kids right. Kids learn what they live, not what they're told. Watch TV or play a video game. Are the people on the screen those that would be invited into (your) anyone's home? Well, if they are on the screen, they ARE being invited in. Personally, I say: give teachers a medal, bring back the truant officers, any kid that doesn't want to be in school should be either working or in the military. Unfortunately, there are way too many single parents (many through no fault of their own) and situations where both parents have to work. I don't know the feasible answers to the problems.

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SRFRGRL7163 10/9/2009 9:58AM

    One thing that drives me nuts is hearing a 5-year old tell there parent they can't touch them or they'll call the police. It's sad what society has created. I'm so blessed to have children (21 and 12) that give me little worry. I haven't had the issues many parents have had and don't know what I've done different than others. I believe I've just been blessed with angels (somewhat, lol). I'm actually glad that I'm not a child in this day and age, it's frightening out there.

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