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Saturday, October 10, 2009

Fasting is something that many would say is not good for you, but I beg to differ. I have fasted many a time. Though not for weight loss, I did lose several pounds. It must be done correctly and carefully depending on the length of the fast and certain precautios should be taken. The fasting I do is purely for the spiritual benefits and they are tremendous. The Bible says that fasting should be done for loosing the bonds of wickedness, to undo the yoke and to let the oppressed go free. It is to give your food to the hungry even bringing the hungry to your home. It is to clothe the naked and it further states not to hide yourself from your own flesh and blood. The Biblical results will follow a time of fasting. They are as follows: our light will break forth like the morning, your healing shall come quickly. Your righteousness will go before you and the glory of the Lord shall cover your butt. Well okay it shall be your rear guard :) It goes on to say that you will call on the Lord and He will answer; you will cry and he will say here I am.
It also says that if you give away what you need to sustain yourself for the benefit of another you will shine brightly and the Lord will guide you continually satisfying you in times of need and you will become as a spring whose waters do not fail.
I do not know why it works, but I guarantee you it does. I have faced unsurmontable things in my life. In a very short time there were major turnarounds after a period of fasting. Things I have prayed and cried about did not seem to change until I humbled myself and prayed and fasted. The new testament talks about the people fasting on a regular basis, leading fasted lives as if it was a given that they were fasting regularly. I too have done it setting aside a day of the week every week for fasting. It was taken for granted that it was being done. Yet today in our christian lives I would venture to bet, very few do. Why is this? Most are probably not taught the benefits of it. It is not comfortable and we avoid things that are not pampering to us.
So let us rise above our comfort zones and enter the spirtual realm and find the victory we have sought for with tears and not attained. I would say to you, try it you'll like it.

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KANSASGAL3 10/12/2009 7:59PM

    I had a great teacher who shared with me about fasting. He taught that we sometimes need to rid our life of things that we depend on to focus on God.

I've fasted food many, many times and spent the time before the Lord, talking with Him about the thing that concerned me. One time, I fasted all purchased food, eating only the items that were made at home. Another time, we fasted TV for a period, freeing us from distractions and spending the time focused on the issue at hand.

I love the scripture where Christ says "when you fast..." not if your fast or if you decide to fast. He knew that food can be a distraction and, sometimes, a hindrance to us growing.

May God bless you for being so faithful!!

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3CATSLEP 10/10/2009 8:07PM

    I have often contemplated fasting for spiritual growth. How do you know when it is time to stop? Will I feel it in my heart when I receive an answer? I know I didn't word that correctly - I hope you know what I think I mean :) ??

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Love and correction

Friday, October 09, 2009

Why do we correct our children? Because we love them. If we did not care how they turned out then we would allow them free range. What is so sad to me is to see so many who have given up on their children and allow them to do what ever they want to do, often times finding themselves in trouble with the law when they are of an age to do so.
I know a mom who sits by and watches what her child does yet she rarely corrects him unless she thinks she will get into trouble for not doing so. The child is unmanageable at times whaen she is not present because he has learned to become defiant and unbending in his own will.
The Bible aslo states that godly men had ungodly parents and ungodly parents gave birth to what became godly children. A parent is not completely to blame for how a child turns out, but a large part of it is. I am opposed to those who want to punish the parent when a high school or junior high aged kid refuses to attend school. At that age it is the child's responsibility and he knows full well what he is doing. If they know the parent will get in trouoble and he will walk free there is nothing to make the child stay there. They are even going so far as to take these parents to court. I do not know if it is making any impact on the problem.
You cannot force a parent to love their child. Some I know can be VERY unlovable. But usually when we act the most unlovable is when we need to know it most. Having raised two very difficult children I can tell you it is always too early to give up on them. Force yourself to find ways to let them know you still care despite their behavior. I am not saying you should lie, because they can see right through that. If they will not accept a hug leave them secret, small gifts on their pillow for when they return. Cards can also be a good tool. Make sure before they leave the house that you tell them you love them even though it may appear scorned and not returned. Sow seeds of love every day and eventually you will reap a harvest.
You can never go wrong with love. It is the most important thing you can add to your day. It is powerful and life giving. Speak words of love and watch life, however small, begin to take root in the lives of those you cherish. It may be little more than being patient with the difficult child, but eventually they will come to their senses and realise you were there all along just waiting for them.

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    Yes I agree completely with you about punishing children when they need it..And if you start teaching them from the beginning it works best because they understand and know that you are doing it for their ; own good. And people when they see you and your child or children coming wont dread to see you. That way everyone enjoys the visit. And as the get older.. You really need to raise the punishment to something besides a time-out because by doing so I feel you are underrating what will happen to them in the real world!! If we underrate the punishment; if they steal, hurt someone or whatever they may do will both lose because the punishment will mean going to jail or even prison.. And that will harden your heart and theirs towards the entire world.. And all because you didn't want to take responsibility for the life you brought into the world !!! It's time to stand-up now!!!

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WORKINGSTIFF 10/9/2009 10:12AM

    What a wonderful blog. What you say is so true. My sons are older and I have had a marvelous time being their mother. Neither one has been outrageously troublesome, no more than is common.

You do have to keep telling your children that you love them, and keep setting boundaries for them. Yes, children need limits and structure. That's our job as parents. Too many parents let children make their own choices and decisions at too early an age. That is what age and wisdom is for. Children don't have enough life experience to always know what is best for them. Sometimes I want to ask these lazy parents, "Why did you have children if you weren't going to raise them?"

I've always told my sons that while I may not like everything that they do, I will always love them.

Parenting is one of those "delayed gratification" things. It takes about 25 years before you know that you've done a good job. Whew!

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MORGANSMOM52 10/9/2009 10:12AM

    Raising a child right really does take a village. One where all of the parents have basically the same values and monitor each others children (if only to protect their own) during the time they are not in school. Unfortunately, many of the parents of today were the latchkey kids of yesterday, leaving for school on their own, getting home before the adults and having no one to monitor, teach, and require responsibility. That, coupled with an ever decrease in formal moral values makes it hard for those who are really trying to raise their kids right. Kids learn what they live, not what they're told. Watch TV or play a video game. Are the people on the screen those that would be invited into (your) anyone's home? Well, if they are on the screen, they ARE being invited in. Personally, I say: give teachers a medal, bring back the truant officers, any kid that doesn't want to be in school should be either working or in the military. Unfortunately, there are way too many single parents (many through no fault of their own) and situations where both parents have to work. I don't know the feasible answers to the problems.

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SRFRGRL7163 10/9/2009 9:58AM

    One thing that drives me nuts is hearing a 5-year old tell there parent they can't touch them or they'll call the police. It's sad what society has created. I'm so blessed to have children (21 and 12) that give me little worry. I haven't had the issues many parents have had and don't know what I've done different than others. I believe I've just been blessed with angels (somewhat, lol). I'm actually glad that I'm not a child in this day and age, it's frightening out there.

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Preventaive measures.

Thursday, October 08, 2009

Well I have the checks in hand. whew. And now the plumbing is giving us fits again! Does it ever end??
There are so many things we can do in life that are preventative. To prevent having more plumbing problems, my husband will take my son over and redo all the plumbing and hopefully tear down the tree that is causing the problems as well. To prevent tenant problems you can do a background check and have a rental agreement. To prevent health problems we need to exercise and eat right and treat our bodies right. Sunscreen is a preventative as is a yearly check up at the doctor. If we ignore some of these things we can experience untold problems and pain. These are the consequences. They also become our greatest teachers in life. If we continue to make bad choices in spite of our experiences we are some times just not too smart:)
So too if we live a life void of a relationship with God we can expect to suffer the consequences of not heeding the preventavie measures outlined in the Bible. Those are the longer more far reaching consequences in life. Let us cultivate our relationship with God and heed his warnings today.

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3CATSLEP 10/8/2009 10:15PM

    Great preventative reminders! Thanks, Cindy!

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GOSPELCLOWN 10/8/2009 4:15PM

    Well written! THANK YOU for the reminder. I am such a prodigal daughter...


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NJMATTICE 10/8/2009 1:54PM

    I believe that God can also help me when I am in the throes of my difficulties. (If I stop beating myself up long enough to seek His guidance.) And the important thing is progress, not perfection. I need to maintain that attitude of gratitude and be gentle with myself as I grow and learn. God is patient. And I will be allowed to do the lesson as many times as it takes.
Have a great day. Glad that you have check in hand!
emoticonno time like the "present"

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Stressed about nothing, I hope

Wednesday, October 07, 2009

Well I have probably fallen for the oldest trick in the book and hopefully won't get burned again by these guys! They say the check's in the mail. They said they sent it and it went to the wrong address so it was sent back. He said he sent it again yesterday. I will give it a few days before I act I guess. So it appears I MAY have stressed out over nothing. The guys also talked to the neighbors across the street and hopefully they have gotten an agreement about what is and is not acceptable between neighbors.
How many times do I do that? You know, the stressing out unneccessarily. We work ourselves in to a frenzy only to have it all fizzle out. I try hard not to do it because I know it is not healthy to me in any way. I just hate having someone else put me in a tight spot and these guys do it a lot. I do have a backup plan and will employ it when absolutely neccessary. I will spend a part of the day trying to figure out where I went wrong and correct it next time. I will try to learn from the mistakes I have made and take responsiblility for my part in this.

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3CATSLEP 10/7/2009 9:26PM

    emoticonI'll be praying for you my dear friend. Don't worry about tomorrow - isn't that in Matthew 6? Cast your cares on the Lord.

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NJMATTICE 10/7/2009 4:24PM

    Try not to waste too much time trying to figure out where you went wrong.(you could be having fun instead.) Sounded to me like you did what you had to do when you had to do it. Don't add to your negative feelings by thinking you should have handled it "better" (that is advice from a "recovering" perfectionist) You did great. You have a plan and you are working it. Now be good to yourself!

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Wednesday, October 07, 2009

Well I did not realise how much the tenant thing has been weighing on my mind until I went to work and my boss asked what was wrong. One of the kids called while I was at work and I was hoping he would tell me enough on my voicemail that I could prepare a response. He didn't. If it sounds like I am avoiding it, you're right. I know it will be difficult for them and I truly regret it, but I am tired of not being able to make my mortgage payment without taking money out of my kids' college funds. They have made my life difficult enough to warrant this. Plus with having the cops called by the neighbors, I just don't want to deal with it any more and no one is entiltled to a free ride. Then it was a somewhat difficult night at work last night to add to the stress a little.
I did well on my calories yesterday! I am not one to eat when I am stressed. I eat when food is available! As long as I am not around it I can do it! Some days I can deal with the temptation, but most days I cave at least to taste! The first weigh in is next week for our biggest loser. I think I can do it this time even with the holidays. My goal is two pounds a week. 15 pounds or more in three months should do it as well so there is some leeway. I don't want to just win this thing, I want to blow them all away!
I am off to get everything accomplished in what will end up being my one and only true day off. I must get my list of everything I want to take with me, get cash and get ready to make that dreaded phone call! Wish me luck.

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NJMATTICE 10/7/2009 4:20PM

    Good Luck!

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