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Food for thought.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Another day already! I worked til midnight then had a meeting at 8:30. Tired. Tonight will be rough if I don't get a nap. I've been doing better on my food intake. I'm having a hard time finding anything that tempts me right now, which really is a good thing I guess. It also makes it hard just trying to figure out what to eat. I'm sure I will find something.
I've been thinking about a lot of things lately. Our lives and how we live them affect so many around us. Some people are not very socially capable, shall we say. When someone is angry they tend to deal with them the way they would want someone to deal with themselves. Not a bad thing really, treat others as you would like to be treated. But the thing is, we are not all the same. Some people, when angry, need to be left alone until they can talk without exploding. Others need to talk before they explode. Especially with those we live with, we should learn how to deal with each as an individual. But we don't always and hence unneccesary conflict arises. To learn how to effectively deal with people we need to become students of their behavior. And we need t learn to communicate in non threatening ways. Some times we just need to make adjustments to our own life to accommodate their idiosyncrasies.
Then, on the other hand, you find people who work according to their own plans and no one else's. In other words, I'll do it when I get around to it. This too places more stress on the ones we are dealing with when imoprtant things are seemingly treated as unimportant.
I guess what I am trying to say in all of this is... let's be more aware of how our behavior affects those around us. Be more thoughtful and less selfish. Be patient. Study others so we can effectively deal with them and in the long run we will lessen the stress that we all live with. If we do, we will have made our own life and the lives of others more healthy. Just food for thought.

  
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TRY2CHANGE 7/22/2009 10:12PM

    As I began reading your entry, I had a flashback. Through my church we watched a movie called Fireproof. Now, this is actually an awesome book for married couples especially if they are having issues. I have never been married and what I got out of it was how to have relationships of any kind. Basically the biggest point I remember seeing is about the dating process. When you are a young couple in love, you study each other. You know their likes and dislikes and even their inner most desires. Once you think you know someone, you forget to learn the new things about them.
Thank you for sharing, it really is something to reflect on.
God Bless
Jamie

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DSCHONDOG 7/22/2009 8:00PM

    You made me think of a little article I wrote once that was published in the Journal of Christian Nursing. When Jesus said, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." He didn't mean that we should treat others as we would want to be treated in the detail of it, but in the essence of it. For example, if I love to have my back rubbed, I shouldn't assume everyone loves a back rub. I need to check to see what would make that person comfortable/relaxed and do that. It's not the back rub that's the point; it is the creation of a relaxing environment. In the case of a back rub, the back rub may be inappropriate because that person may associate a back rub with many uncomfortable moments and it may have the opposite effect on them than it has on me, who loves it. I think Jesus meant that we should do unto others as we would have them do unto us, as if we were the other. I believe this is what you were saying and I totally agree.

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2BSALLYB 7/22/2009 1:17PM

    Good food for thought to remind us not to be so self centered. We need to respect other people's boundaries.

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IUHRYTR 7/22/2009 1:10PM

    Insightful observation. -- Lou

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Adjustment needed!

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

I need some kind of adjustment! I am eating the right amount of calories and now I am gaining weight, not losing it. I used to get hungry between every meal and now I am not. I am trying to adjust my proteins so I get enough and less of my fats. Is this the culprit or am I at some kind of plateau? It seems so strange to me that I am not humgry any more. I know I need to have a certain amount of calories, but I am going to cut back for a while just because I am too full. I think my body tells me what it needs and if it is satisfied then it is satisfied! I will try to exercise a little more and see if this will jump start things again. I hate to exercise and though I have done more since joining Spark it is still difficult to get me going. It seems like I have been doing nothing more than complaining lately. I don't like that, but I am not happy with myself or my weight.
The one bright spot is things are going some better at work. So I know I am not eating out of stress. My son has also moved into his new house which is so exciting. We are planning a housewarming party for Saturday. I am in control so I get to choose the food and leave everything behind for him when I leave. Sounds like a great arrangement to me!There is always a bright side to any situation we find ourselves in and if we will only concentrate on what is good,right, true and perfect we will find ourselves a lot happier in this walk through life.

  
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DSCHONDOG 7/21/2009 3:59PM

    Portion control and exercise are the keys! I just say a loud "AMEN" to what Lou has already posted. When I am active and begin to see results from that activity it is addicting. It is difficult to begin simply because it is so difficult, but once you have consistently worked at something and gain some skill or mastery of it, it becomes a game with yourself as to how much better can you do. I could only do 2 sit-ups in the spring of 2004. Now I do 130 sit-ups once a week just to say that I can. I have all kinds of different exercises I challenge myself with to keep it interesting. Get some accountability partners. You'll show up if you have someone meeting you. I meet someone 4x/week. (They are not all the same person, but there is someone to meet me so I get going!)

You GO, Girl!
Dawn

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IUHRYTR 7/21/2009 12:48PM

    I too have a hard time starting exercise but once I'm into it I'm glad I did begin. Remember, a body at rest tends to stay at rest while a body in motion tends to stay in motion. Plus, the endorphins from the exercise give you a natural high. Take one step, then another and remember that each portion of each day is a new beginning. You CAN be successful.

Lou

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DEANNABUBBLE 7/21/2009 10:58AM

    I'm sorry to contradict you, but your last few posts have you eating milkshakes and burgers and going to the top or over your calorie limit. so it might not be a plateau. You can get back on track and it sounds like you are ready to get there!

I struggle with this too, sometimes the food just calls to me, but we can do it.

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Don't even remember the 70's.

Monday, July 20, 2009

I am doing better on my calories. Yesterday though I did not eat enough according to my tracker. I wasn't hungry and to have eaten everything I would have been stuffed. I think today I will eat only what my body tells me I need while staying within my calorie range. I feel bloated and stuffed like maybe I picked up a four pound alien on my last trip to Roswell! lol I am going back to making sure I have more fruits and veggies, something I have slacked off on. They don't cost a lot calorie wise, but they are so good for the body. Just trying to find the right balance of foods now. Maybe I will throw in some exercising today too. Didn't make my Monday goal weight of 179, but will continue to push in that direction. I need to break that boundary for ME. I have been in the 80's and 90's for too many years. D on't even remember the 70's

  
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IUHRYTR 7/20/2009 12:02PM

    Heck, I don' remember the 90's. I guess it's all in our individual perspectives, right? As for the 70's, wasn't that the disco era? -- Lou

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Here we go again.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Well here we go again! I had eaten the max on my calories yesterday. I ususally try to keep it to the low end, but found myself on top again. Then my best friend and her husband were broken down just at the end of our road. I went over to visit until our husbands returned. The her husband wanted to make us a milk shake. I tried everything I could to tactfully let him know I really didn't want or need to eat. They too are losing weight so I thought he would understand. I did not want to hurt his feelings so I ate the milkshake he wanted to prepare. One more day over my calorie intake. I am now three pounds from my short term goal. I will have to find a new strategy for my sabotaging lifestyle. I am still not giving up and will continue to try. The ones who should understand seem to understand the least. I will continue to look for ways to keep on track in the midst of impossiblilities. Really there are no impossiblilities, just opportunities to get creative and try something different until I find success. If one thing doesn't work, try something else. Here we go again.

  
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IUHRYTR 7/18/2009 11:33AM

    It's good to read that you're not going to beat yourself to death over one day. I, too, went over yesterday. I was OK until about 9:30 last night when I felt as if I hadn't eaten in a year. I had cereal, but I'm chalking it up to not being that far off the day's calories total. Maybe do some extra exercise today to make up for it. Just a bump in the road for both of us. And, I agree that people can be uncaring when they know how we're struggling. Like offering drugs to an addict trying to kick the habit. Maybe you could have excused yourself instead of drinking the milkshake or just let it sit there. If asked, say you weren't hungry and leave it at that. -- Lou

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Mini self destruct mode

Friday, July 17, 2009

I ate a hamburger with my husband last night after I had already consumed my calories for the day. Usually I do pretty well there. It was a social thing more than because I really wanted it. Of course the scale was up a pound today as a result. I am really trying to behave today. I have to get serious again. Yesterday I almost cried because I can see how I am doing myself in. That tells me two things. One is how bad I really do want to do this. The other is I know what I am doing. I have done so well to this point. I am proud of my successes and I will be proud of reaching my goal when it happens no matter how long it takes. I just wish I would quit taking all the side roads to get there. This is the story of my life though so there is something to learn about myself in the midst of this. Becoming self aware is what Spark is all about. Since beginning I have realised that I tend to overdo it on the fats and don't get quite enough protein. I also see how often I consumed three days worth of food in one day when I was totally unaware of what I was doing. It didn't even phase me then. I don't have to be hungry to lose weight, but if I am full I am probably overdoing it. The hunger will pass when my food catches up to my body anyway if I will just wait a short while. Now I read the nutrition lables so I know what is going in. I also make a consious effort to include the fruits and veggies that before were nearly non existant in my menus. I have made lifestyle changes that are good for me. I have losts of people cheering me on who really do want me to succeed. I have much to be thankful for. This is only temporary and I will move on. I'm just a little frustrated with myself right now.

  
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DESERTDREAMERS 7/17/2009 2:54PM

    You slipped, you regret it - move on (sounds like you already have, actually). You've made what sounds like major healthy changes already. A big pat on the back for you!! emoticon

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SHUTRBUG1 7/17/2009 1:16PM

    Well, today is a new start, and you are determined to do better, so forgive yourself that burger and move on. Have you asked your husband to support you in your healthy plan? If he knew how much this upset you, perhaps next time he will help you avoid that situation or support you in ordering something healthier? I know I wouldn't be successful without 100% support of DH. He gets me out for a walk when neither one of us feels like it, he cheerfully eats all my low fat, low carb, low salt recipes - he's filling in the spots where my resolve is weak.
Have a super day and weekend! You can do this.

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