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Acceptance

Saturday, July 09, 2011

There was a period in my life where I cared very much what others thought of me. In junior high, appearance meant everything. You were judged by your physical appearance as well as how you dressed. You were somehow worthy or unworthy because of it. This lent itself to my very poor self esteem. Because of things I felt that were beyond my control, I was judged and found wanting. It took years to undo this damage. It really wasn't until I became a christian that things began to change. For the first time in my life, what mattered was who I really was that determined my worth. It was my personality. Even beyond that I was okay just because Someone loved me. I was transformed, more positive and confident. It's amazing how different I am, just because I know I don't have to earn acceptance. Now, I could care less what you do or don't think of me. I'll never forget the first time I left the house without makeup on and wasn't mortified when I realized it! I take care of my personal appearance, but am not consumed by it anymore.
No matter where we go and what we do, people will hate us for it. Or we will be deemed unacceptable in some way. Our beliefs set us apart from others and bind us to still others. There will always be those who oppose us. Judgment and condemnation abound around us daily. When we learn to love ourselves for who we are and what we have become, we can have a lasting peace. Accept who you are, faults and all. Seek to improve, but don't let it become your only purpose in life. Love and allow yourself to be loved. Learn that opposition can be good. Know that it will come. Find your security in something beyond others and watch as your life is transformed.

  
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3CATSLEP 7/11/2011 2:22PM

    Very well said!!! I can identify with this:) emoticon

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SISTERDEAR 7/9/2011 7:23PM

    Well said! What a great freedom we have in Christ! And what great worth!

Thank you for posting this. emoticonSue

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Rough Night

Friday, July 08, 2011

I had a rough night at work last night. When you work with clients whose lives are in disarray you expect them to function in ways you and I might not. They come to us for help to get out of their destructive lifestyles. Some of them leave and continue in these lifestyles, others leave completely changed people. Some people come to us so hurt and broken that they make us earn a paycheck before they leave. We have one such girl with us now. She has been dealt a very rough life, but is making an honest effort to get past it, but her past keeps rearing it's ugly head making that very difficult. She is so very wounded by life. One problem she has is with a simmering anger that will finally explode. I feel she is now on the verge of exploding and thought she was going to last night. I was just glad I was working with the level headed co-worker that I was.
So as I prepare to go to work tonight I am running different scenarios through my mind so that if this or that happens I have a plan already in place as to how I might handle it. Do I send everyone else to their rooms or does that leave the object of her frustration vulnerable? If the child is in the room asleep, there is no way I will endanger him. Just how do I isolate the angry one? I think this is a must so that I do not get into the middle of a difficult situation helpless. I like to anticipate. At the same time, things rarely happen the way we think they will. I am not worrying about it, just preparing to eliminate mistakes. What I care most about is the safety of as many people as possible. Please keep us in your prayers.

  
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3CATSLEP 7/8/2011 11:42PM

    Praying for your situation. Let us know how it goes.

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SRHALLIN 7/8/2011 7:35PM

    Just a thought: Is there anyway you can help this child vent her frustrations safely? Pugil sticks? A speed bag or heavy bag? Perhaps artistic endeavors with permission to create any image, so long as she leaves her anger on the page?

You're in my thoughts, as are these children. Best of wishes.

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SISTERDEAR 7/8/2011 10:53AM

    Praying for you and all those you work with, Cindy. You definitely need the power and guidance of the Holy Spirit with you as you offer the loving assistance that you have chosen to give!
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Rough Night

Friday, July 08, 2011

I had a rough night at work last night. When you work with clients whose lives are in disarray you expect them to function in ways you and I might not. They come to us for help to get out of their destructive lifestyles. Some of them leave and continue in these lifestyles, others leave completely changed people. Some people come to us so hurt and broken that they make us earn a paycheck before they leave. We have one such girl with us now. She has been dealt a very rough life, but is making an honest effort to get past it, but her past keeps rearing it's ugly head making that very difficult. She is so very wounded by life. One problem she has is with a simmering anger that will finally explode. I feel she is now on the verge of exploding and thought she was going to last night. I was just glad I was working with the level headed co-worker that I was.
So as I prepare to go to work tonight I am running different scenarios through my mind so that if this or that happens I have a plan already in place as to how I might handle it. Do I send everyone else to their rooms or does that leave the object of her frustration vulnerable? If the child is in the room asleep, there is no way I will endanger him. Just how do I isolate the angry one? I think this is a must so that I do not get into the middle of a difficult situation helpless. I like to anticipate. At the same time, things rarely happen the way we think they will. I am not worrying about it, just preparing to eliminate mistakes. What I care most about is the safety of as many people as possible. Please keep us in your prayers.

  


Love Is Amazing

Thursday, July 07, 2011

I was glancing through the book don't Sweat the Small Stuff this morning and was struck by how many of the thoughts in there revolve around love. I find this interesting on many sides. Love is what motivates my life and always has. When I was a kid I wanted to love and be loved as my highest achievement in life. Though my parents loved me I thought they did so because they had to. I wanted someone to choose to love me and wanted to be a wife and mother. I also thought that children naturally love their parents. Neither of these thoughts is always true especially when abuse and neglect are added to the picture. But in my simplistic view of the world this is what I thought. I craved love as I believe we all do. As I have begun to understand the power of love a little more as I have grown up and matured I have sought to add more of it to everything I do. It saved my children from suicide. Long before I had children, I wanted them to not have single doubt of my love for them. Love is the most powerful force on earth. If we can learn to tap into it a little more each day we can transform every single person we come into contact with.

  
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3CATSLEP 7/7/2011 4:40PM

    Yes - you are absolutely correct!!! emoticon

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CARPEDIEM0611 7/7/2011 10:36AM

    emoticon love is amazing! well said!

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Motives

Wednesday, July 06, 2011

We have a family friend who helps my husband frequently on automotive type problems. He will bring his two boys with him, one thirteen and the other 15. My husband expresses frustration at how lazy the boys are and I have also witnessed this. If they are to asked for help in minor ways you would think they were asked to give blood or lay their lives on a train track. Then, it takes forever to get your request fulfilled. But when it comes time for getting hamburgers for lunch out of gratitude for dad's help they are right there. My husband has also had several cokes to replace in his fridge after they leave every time. Yes, I know that the parents have a lot to do with this, but not entirely. I have seen this kind of attitude time and again, not just in these two boys.
People also treat God this way. I myself have been known to be this way. We only come to him when we want something out of him. Or we will only pray when we have some kind of crisis to face. Our prayers are gimme, gimme, gimme. There is nothing wrong with praying for others and desiring to have more patience or peace or what have you. But is that what characterizes our entire prayer life? Do we ever just come to sit in His presence or tell Him how grateful we are for all He has done? Do we ever come just to praise Him? Do we ever come just to say nothing and sit in His presence? When we have our life shaken up by an encounter with God it is amazing how the first change we see is in our prayer life. Maybe we just need to have Him shake us up a little more often. But to get His attention do we not need to change our focus to begin with?

  
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MENOLLYRJ 7/6/2011 1:01PM

  So true.

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3CATSLEP 7/6/2011 11:40AM

    I love to just give Him praise:) I feel guilty if I'm always asking. But when I do ask, I ask that it be in His will:) Love ya!

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