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Saturday, March 05, 2011

How do we handle set backs? Some of us choose to become bitter, disappointed and give up altogether. Some do not like the fact that sometimes life just isn't easy. Not everything in life has to be a struggle. Sometimes we just need to adjust our thinking. If we will just look at things from a little different perspective, sometimes things just don't look the same at all.
What if I told you we choose to be successful or we choose to be defeated? Would you believe me? We really can choose whether or not we feel we are cursed at every turn, or that life's blessings just seem to fall at our feet. Every reaction to every circumstance determines the next. Things do not just happen. Yes, there will be some things that cannot be controlled in life, but not as far as we are concerned. Happy people are sick less often than grumpy people. Successful people are positive people. Love produces life.
We cannot now or ever control another person. They become grumpy on their own :) They can make us grumpy, but only if we give them permission to do so. Each person has to make their own choices in life and not all of them will be good. Not all of them will be bad either. Just about every prisoner in every jail or prison has someone who loves them and misses them. Someone found something worth loving in those that society rejects. Sometimes all it takes is someone looking for and finding the good in another for them to blossom and grow. Again, though, we should never blame another person for us being where we are in life. They are not responsible, we are. The sooner we take charge of our life, the sooner things will change for us. We are the only ones that hold the keys to our future. It never has and never will be someone else.
So today rather than choosing to get upset at little things, I will take charge of my life and I will see that they are just that, little things. I will decide to do something about my weight and I will exercise and choose not to eat those things that I know I shouldn't. I will choose to avoid negative people today for they rob me of my successful future and when I must be around them I will shower them with kindness and smiles. I will take every negative thing I face today and find the positive in it somehow, somewhere. I will believe that the sun shines behind every dark cloud I encounter today.

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MICKEYD4 3/6/2011 11:49PM


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IUHRYTR 3/6/2011 8:27PM

    True, we can react to others in a negative or positive way. If their actions and statements were done and made when we weren't around, we would never know about them and so they would have no effect on us. That is how we should think when we're tempted to take others' words and deeds personally and let them sour our day. There will be sad times but, like you, I choose to be positive and try to surround myself with uplifting people. Stay happy. -- Lou

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3CATSLEP 3/5/2011 10:18AM

    Boy, I needed this. Hubby is home and he has had this irritating sinus infection and cold where he is clearing his throat, sniffing, snorting, coughing, blowing, spitting, etc. I told him last night that he sounded like a bag of bodily noises! I said, "Yep, he doesn't say much, but he sure is loud!!!" Then he turns up the TV so he can hear it, and I turn it down. I say he needs a hearing aid, and he says no. This is going to be a long weekend..... BUT he did get up early and go to the men's prayer meeting at 7 a.m. and make coffee for me. I also know he pays the rent and all the bills for me and does a very good job of keeping us out of debt! Otherwise he leaves a mess wherever he goes (I call him Messy Marvin). OK - so you see the pattern. I needed your blog today to help me focus. I have lots to keep me busy and out of the house today too:)

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I Choose

Friday, March 04, 2011

Along the lines of yesterday's blog where I mentioned about how family members know how to push your buttons, I have had yet another encounter with my sister. We shared a room growing up and I had my little corner and she had ninety per cent of the room's space.She has very strong opinions and they always seem to be a one eighty from mine. I guess mom and dad raised us to have an opinion! It seems that everything I say makes her mad. We can never have a healthy conversation and stimulate each other with our differing ideas. It seems to be my opinion is always right and you're always wrong with her. So much is missed in life with this kind of an outlook. It's okay to know what you believe and I think we should, but sometimes opposition only makes us stronger. I wonder if she is afraid she might be persuaded of something if she listens to me. Or perhaps she felt so wronged by others who may have held some of my beliefs that I am equated with them now for the rest of my life. I look forward to a day when we can have a conversation. We don't have to yell or ruffle our feathers. I miss having what others have in their sister. It hurts me to be so shut out of her life at every turn. The sad thing is that her negativity has also been directed at my children to no fault of their own. She would like them if she ever took the time to get to know them. Even my neice won't have much to do with me. That is all such a tragedy to me. I will not let it hold me back from enjoying life, but so much is missed when we live our lives angry. I will learn from my sister's negative example and I will choose to forgive and listen to opposing views and I will choose to love in spite of our differences. I choose to not miss one thing that there is in this life that is good. I choose to not let the negative people in this world stop me from being a positive force. I choose to be happy.

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    I read somewhere that at family reunions (or holidays), we revert to our "roles" in the family. Someone is typecast as a "the smart one", so the "pretty one" doesn't get respect as intelligent. Sigh. Wish we all lived in the Kodak moment or Disney families.

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3CATSLEP 3/4/2011 6:02PM

    I am so glad that you are YOU! I'm beginning to think that all sisters actually DON'T get along. You both sound so much like me and my sister who is 7 years older than me. Our last visit wasn't too bad although it was all centered around her visit with my mom last weekend which I'm just glad she spent some time with her! Again, I am glad that you are YOU!

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NEWMAC2011 3/4/2011 11:04AM

    I agree. It's sad when people are so negative but it only brings us down. It's great that you're keeping your positive attitude.

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WORKINGSTIFF 3/4/2011 10:55AM

    What a great attitude to have. What kind of world would it be if we all thought the same way? I find myself being opinionated and then stopping myself. I have to remember that everyone has experiences along the way in life which influence them. Listening is a skill that few people develop and really use.

I hope that your feelings toward your sister are like the proverbial "water on rock." Eventually the water can smooth the rough edges on the rock. It just takes continual action and time.

My best to you!

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Same Situation/Different Outcome

Thursday, March 03, 2011

You can take two people in the exact same situation and they can have two absolutely different interpretaions of that situation. The one will say things are going from bad to worse. And he will be right. His situation will be deteriorating with every step he takes. Life will have never looked as bleak as it does at that point in time. Take guy number two now. He will say that things couldn't be better and that life is looking up. And he too will be right. Life has never looked better for guy number two and things are improving with every step. Yet the circumstances are completely equal between the two. How can this be you might ask? It is all in their mental outlook on the situation. Success and failure have less to do with the circumstances we face than with how we look at them. In other words, positive people will be far more successful than negative ones. It has nothing to do with their abilities, but with their attitudes. So tell me now, why do we neglect this aspect of our lives if it is the single most important part of our success???? It is not a forced, "Oh I am going to be positive right now." It, like out habits learned here, must become a lifestyle. We become like the books we read and the people we hang out with. Do our friends take on a little more importance now? Is it that much more important that we are diligent about who our children hang out with? No one would knowingly set our children up for failure, but if we do not pay attention to who their friends are we may be doing just that. If you want to be successful, find successful people to hang around with. If you want to become an addict, hang around with addicts. It is well worth the effort we put into it to see the possibilities in life and find hope in every situation. Our investment will pay off in huge rewards. So instead of throwing the scale against the wall, remember that you are one day closer to finding out how to reach your goals and have eliminated one more route that isn't the right one. All things truly are possible if we don't give up and give in to the negative way of life.

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IUHRYTR 3/3/2011 9:45PM

    Where would we be if Thomas Edison had given up after 1,000 failures or 5,000 or 9,000? If we want something badly enough we will forever strive to achieve it, for if we give up, we take away all chances of success. -- Lou

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Wednesday, March 02, 2011

One of my favorite scriptures is that Jesus will never leave us or forsake us. That is so comforting. No matter what we face in life, Jesus will be right there. Sometimes he may feel distant, but he is always right there. I have been through some tough times in my life. for about ten years I felt so distant from God. I wondered what had happened. Once I had been so close to him and enjoyed daily conversations with him. Then in that period of time, I couldn't pray for more than five minutes and never seemed to hear his wonderful voice. My prayers seemed to bounce off the ceiling and hit me in the face. I asked my pastors for help and they just didn't seem to know what to tell me. I struggled yet never gave up trying to get back to that place I once had been. There is nothing like that intimacy and once lost you just crave it again. Intimacy with God is what keeps this walk so exciting. My spark and faded and I hated it. My daughter and son got saved and I was reading her testimony that she had written out. One part about her testimony shocked me and I realized how close I had come to losing her forever. Something in that jump started me again and I have never looked back. We have faced many difficult and heart wrenching times since then and I have always known that He walks right beside me. I have too much proof of his intervention in our affairs. That ten years was much of my childrens' growing up. I regret that those years were lost and the effect it has had on my children. Yet it has made them who they are and I am very proud of most of it. I have always wondered why it happened the way it did because it was so far from what I had envisioned before I got married. But after 27 years I am still married. I am stronger as a christian and more compassionate than I could ever have imagined 27 years ago. Somehow even in the silence I know that He was always there with me even when I could not feel him. His promises are something to bank on. If he speaks it you could stake your life on it. His love is above our comprehension. His plans too great for understanding. We must trust him to get through it all.
I you are facing a tough time spiritually right now, feeling as though God is silent, I know how tough it is. Maybe just pray that God will shock you out of your stupor as he did me. Ask Him to do whatever He must to let you know that he hears you and is is still near by. Be patient because it may be many years donw the road before you can see why things happen. It is not for us to understand all we go through. We must trust that he really does know what he is doing. Be patient and do not give up hope of a restored relationship. Hold on tight. I promise, but more than that He promises, He will NEVER leave you or forsake you.

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3CATSLEP 3/2/2011 6:00PM

    What a beautiful testimony! Thank you for all you do for us here at Sparkpeople too!

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JUDITH316 3/2/2011 1:23PM

    Amen, great blog, thanks for sharing. Indeed we serve a Mighty God, I have served the Lord for over 30 years, my spiritual birthday is August 15, 1977. Yes, as you said, it is comforting knowing that God is always with us, through the good times and the difficult...Reminds me of the "Footprints Poem"....
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BBGOOGIN 3/2/2011 10:46AM

    I love this. There are disconnected times in my history with God, too, yet I think I've had to see His "bigness"....He's bigger and more steadfast than I am. So now I am more secure in my relationship with Him.

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Do Unto Others?

Tuesday, March 01, 2011

Do unto others... hmmmm. Do we really treat others as we would like to be treated? What about those people who irritate us and drive us to distraction? Our family members seem to know exactly how to push our buttons, don't they? It is hardest to treat those we know the best in the way we know we should. You know the saying familiarity breeds contempt? Unfortunately this is all too often true. How about thinking of the little things that we do that could make their life a little easier, happier or pampered? There are hundreds of things we could do if we would only take the time to think about them. I know many people who have committed themselves to only saying positive things for thirty days and when they do, are truly amazed at the difference in their own lives. I struggle with keeping positive for a few hours. Some negative comment or thought invariably finds its way to my lips long before the day is done. We are told to think on those things that are right, pure, holy, of good I need to go on? Out of the ABUNDANCE of the heart the mouth speaks. What are we abundant with today? Just listen to what comes out of your mouth. If we can control our tiny little tongue, we can control the entire rest of our being. Can be a daunting task, but not impossible. So do and say something today that may be out of character for you today. Challenge yourself to replace those negative thoughts with something you would want someone to think of you. Treat others truly as you would like to be treated...all day long :) Go out of your way and your comfort zone to do something or say something that would make your son or daughter's life a little easier, especially the one that makes your life most difficult. Or is it a co-worker that is in need of something special from you? Gifts given in secret can reduce strife. Let us get the focus off of our own selfish desires and put them truly on someone else today.

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MICKEYD4 3/3/2011 10:42PM

    emoticon so true

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3CATSLEP 3/1/2011 10:05PM

    I don't even want to try to count the thoughts that shouldn't go through my head in a day! BUT, I'm so glad to have the Holy Spirit residing in me. (I bought a nice spring hyacinth plant for my mom today!) Let us dwell on what is pure and true:)

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IUHRYTR 3/1/2011 3:09PM

    Another "right on" message, Cindy. I wonder how many negative thoughts come into our minds every day? We can get so much satisfaction from helping another with a package or through a door or even being quiet so they have some peaceful time at home or work. I hope you have a peaceful evening and a terrific week. emoticon -- Lou

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