Saturday, March 05, 2011
How do we handle set backs? Some of us choose to become bitter, disappointed and give up altogether. Some do not like the fact that sometimes life just isn't easy. Not everything in life has to be a struggle. Sometimes we just need to adjust our thinking. If we will just look at things from a little different perspective, sometimes things just don't look the same at all.
What if I told you we choose to be successful or we choose to be defeated? Would you believe me? We really can choose whether or not we feel we are cursed at every turn, or that life's blessings just seem to fall at our feet. Every reaction to every circumstance determines the next. Things do not just happen. Yes, there will be some things that cannot be controlled in life, but not as far as we are concerned. Happy people are sick less often than grumpy people. Successful people are positive people. Love produces life.
We cannot now or ever control another person. They become grumpy on their own :) They can make us grumpy, but only if we give them permission to do so. Each person has to make their own choices in life and not all of them will be good. Not all of them will be bad either. Just about every prisoner in every jail or prison has someone who loves them and misses them. Someone found something worth loving in those that society rejects. Sometimes all it takes is someone looking for and finding the good in another for them to blossom and grow. Again, though, we should never blame another person for us being where we are in life. They are not responsible, we are. The sooner we take charge of our life, the sooner things will change for us. We are the only ones that hold the keys to our future. It never has and never will be someone else.
So today rather than choosing to get upset at little things, I will take charge of my life and I will see that they are just that, little things. I will decide to do something about my weight and I will exercise and choose not to eat those things that I know I shouldn't. I will choose to avoid negative people today for they rob me of my successful future and when I must be around them I will shower them with kindness and smiles. I will take every negative thing I face today and find the positive in it somehow, somewhere. I will believe that the sun shines behind every dark cloud I encounter today.
Thursday, March 03, 2011
You can take two people in the exact same situation and they can have two absolutely different interpretaions of that situation. The one will say things are going from bad to worse. And he will be right. His situation will be deteriorating with every step he takes. Life will have never looked as bleak as it does at that point in time. Take guy number two now. He will say that things couldn't be better and that life is looking up. And he too will be right. Life has never looked better for guy number two and things are improving with every step. Yet the circumstances are completely equal between the two. How can this be you might ask? It is all in their mental outlook on the situation. Success and failure have less to do with the circumstances we face than with how we look at them. In other words, positive people will be far more successful than negative ones. It has nothing to do with their abilities, but with their attitudes. So tell me now, why do we neglect this aspect of our lives if it is the single most important part of our success???? It is not a forced, "Oh I am going to be positive right now." It, like out habits learned here, must become a lifestyle. We become like the books we read and the people we hang out with. Do our friends take on a little more importance now? Is it that much more important that we are diligent about who our children hang out with? No one would knowingly set our children up for failure, but if we do not pay attention to who their friends are we may be doing just that. If you want to be successful, find successful people to hang around with. If you want to become an addict, hang around with addicts. It is well worth the effort we put into it to see the possibilities in life and find hope in every situation. Our investment will pay off in huge rewards. So instead of throwing the scale against the wall, remember that you are one day closer to finding out how to reach your goals and have eliminated one more route that isn't the right one. All things truly are possible if we don't give up and give in to the negative way of life.
Tuesday, March 01, 2011
Do unto others... hmmmm. Do we really treat others as we would like to be treated? What about those people who irritate us and drive us to distraction? Our family members seem to know exactly how to push our buttons, don't they? It is hardest to treat those we know the best in the way we know we should. You know the saying familiarity breeds contempt? Unfortunately this is all too often true. How about thinking of the little things that we do that could make their life a little easier, happier or pampered? There are hundreds of things we could do if we would only take the time to think about them. I know many people who have committed themselves to only saying positive things for thirty days and when they do, are truly amazed at the difference in their own lives. I struggle with keeping positive for a few hours. Some negative comment or thought invariably finds its way to my lips long before the day is done. We are told to think on those things that are right, pure, holy, of good report....do I need to go on? Out of the ABUNDANCE of the heart the mouth speaks. What are we abundant with today? Just listen to what comes out of your mouth. If we can control our tiny little tongue, we can control the entire rest of our being. Can be a daunting task, but not impossible. So do and say something today that may be out of character for you today. Challenge yourself to replace those negative thoughts with something you would want someone to think of you. Treat others truly as you would like to be treated...all day long :) Go out of your way and your comfort zone to do something or say something that would make your son or daughter's life a little easier, especially the one that makes your life most difficult. Or is it a co-worker that is in need of something special from you? Gifts given in secret can reduce strife. Let us get the focus off of our own selfish desires and put them truly on someone else today.
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