Tuesday, January 25, 2011
I've really been thinking about seeing others differently. It's kind of hard and easy both. It's getting a different mindset. You can look only at the negative or you can choose to look for the positive. Before I knew someone in jail, I feared those who were in jail. When it became someone I loved, I could love them all. When I could finally love them, I could begin to minister to them because I no longer pitied them or looked down on them or judged them. Certain people don't do well in my job. Or should I say, most people can't do my job. I work with addicts and most of society judges and condemns them. Again, it took someone I loved becoming an addict before I could love an addict. It was a change in mindset, a change of how I looked at them.
God loves every human being on the face of the earth. Yet we love so few of them. If God can see something worth loving and dying for, why can't I? I need a new set of eyes, God's eyes.
Non Christians can also get a change of eyesight. We just have to find something positive and focus on it rather than the negative. We have to believe something better for the other person. We have to have faith that a person CAN change before they WILL change. There is no one on the face of this earth who cannot choose to change. Yes, it may be more difficult for some than others, but it can be done.
To quote Zig Zieglar again, we can get what we want in this life if we help enough others to get what they want. No one wants to be miserable. No one wants to be lonely. No one wants to be defeated. No one wants to have a poor self esteem. One man decided to write Thank Yous. It brightened the day of those who served him daily at the coffee shop or on the bus or wherever he met them as well as family members. How hard is that? A high school teacher asks the kids to write something positive about their classmates. Years later the child still carries it in a wallet or it sits framed upon a wall. Did it make an impact? Did it change a life or two? Did it change the perspective of a student or two?
So today let us buy a new pair of glasses. Let us check our eyesight and make the necessary adjustments. The world will thank us for doing so, I guarantee you!
Sunday, January 23, 2011
You can't go wrong with love. Love covers a multitude of sins. We all crave love. Letting someone know they are loved has picked up someone from the depths of despair and made life worth living. Just the same, without feeling they are loved many have committed suicide. Many times the person was loved, but no one bothered to let them know. I made a commitment when I was in high school to make sure that my children knew they were loved, when I had them. I told them often. I tried to show it as well. I did not want there to be any doubt in their minds that at least one person felt they were worth something.
Many times when we have found reasons not to love ourselves, we become critical out of own poor self esteem. In an attempt to make ourselves prove to ourselves we are unlovable, we cause others to feel the same way. This is not our conscious choice, it just comes of a low self esteem. We search for anything that will take away that pain of not feeling loved. I felt rejected by God somehow for many years and when I finally realized the even He loved me, it made a world of difference in me. Someone once asked me if I had always been a positive person and I laughed at the question. I have struggled greatly to overcome negativity.
My dad said I would sabotage my efforts time and time again. I felt I was unworthy of whatever good might come my way because I did not feel I deserved it, despicable person that I was. I could not see this in myself. I still struggle with being all I can be, but not nearly like I once did.
We cannot truly love another if we do not in some way love ourselves first. We criticize in others what we do not like in ourselves. We will give those who are listening the clues to reach us if they will but listen. If we teach others to get what they want in life, then our life will be far more rewarding. Behavior can be changed in positive or negative ways. Sometimes all we need to do is shift how we approach another. Instead of telling them all that is wrong with them, try telling them what they are doing right. If they complain of everything being so negative, make a point to say only positive things around them or say nothing at all. In doing so we will be loving them as they are needing to be loved.
I will make a conscious effort to let someone know today that I love them. I will try to do this every time we come into contact with one another, starting with today.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
My daughter has learned a very important lesson. She probably isn't going to learn much in her remaining college time. She is very intelligent and even since high school has taught herself far more than the teachers have. This is not to put down the teachers, they themselves realized her potential. So she sees that she will be better off reading the books that will teach her what she wants to know and learn it that way. I have bought some books for her for this purpose. One of the books that made a HUGE impact on me was one I got at sales school with The Southwestern Company back in my college days. It is called See You At The Top by Zig Zieglar. I love his humor and no nonsense approach. I have been rereading the book as I wait for my husband to make a trip to take it to her. One of the points he brings out in the book is that we have all we need in our life to succeed. He says that no one is born a lawyer or a salesman or a doctor. They are born boys and girls. They die a doctor or salesman or what have you. It's what happens in between life and death that determines who we become. We can put off becoming or doing what when want until thus and such happens. Like for example, the car gets fixed, I quit smoking, or Johnny cuts the grass. If we continue to wait for THAT day to come, we will die never having accomplished in our lives what we hoped for. The power is ours but we will never get there if we do not act. A lot of people want to lose weight, but never will. They are waiting for something else to happen before they act. You will lose weight if you exercise and eat less. So when are you going to start?????
There are so many things in our lives that are holding us back from achieving what we want in life. Instead of pointing fingers at others and saying it is their fault, let's get off our duffs and get busy. The power for success lies in each of us and it is up to us to do something about it. Nothing can hold us back, but us ourselves. It is time for action.
Get An Email Alert Each Time CINDYHOUGHTON Posts