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Dealing with Fibromyalgia and its "F" Factors

Saturday, January 28, 2012

I have Fibromyalgia (FM) and this is my blog to myself on dealing with it and organizing it so that I can cut it down to a size where I can deal with it.

Fibromyalgia effects us all differently so I have had to learn to deal with it on my own terms. For me my pain seems to be worse at night. I would take meds but I have lots of side effects to the point of illness due to the medications, so for the most part opt out. For me I don't have a lot of choices.

In not being able to tolerate the high powered pain and often mood altering drugs offered to most FM sufferers I feel like I am a little weirdly wired from the typical FM patient. I had rather have pain and my wits and have a fair shot at losing weight and staying healthy, then have meds that interfere with my weight and have to deal with all the overwhelming side effects these meds produce in my sensitive system.

I have not really solved the problem, but I have at least risen to the challenge it has created and am learning to work with the problem. I now take some meds "as needed" or sparingly with my doctor's blessing. If I take them on an everyday basis many of these powerful drugs overwhelm my system and the side effects start showing up.

I have found that anti-inflammatory meds work sometimes but they are tough on my stomach. Sometimes that must be a trade off. Also OTC pain meds work somewhat, but when I am are having severe Fibromyalgia pain it can be a challenge trying to get through.

In discovering what helps give me quality of life I have pinpointed things I cannot do without. These, for me, are 2000 mg of coral calcium and, even though it is balanced with magnesium and vitamin D, a friend of mine and I were both told by doctors and lab technicians we needed to add even more vitamin D. We were told that most people, and especially those with FM, needed more vitamin D than they were getting.

I have been taking calcium for years and the right kind does minimize pain. I really notice it if I skip it. I started adding the extra vitamin D recently and it has seemed to help as well.

I have also discovered my triggers. For me I call them the F factors. These are Foods, Fronts, Failed sleep and Frustration which when allowed to go unchecked place my body in Fatigue causing my FM to Flare for me. Here is the equation.

F (Food, Fronts, Frustration and/or Failed sleep) x (multiplied) on Fatigue unchecked = FF (Fibromyalgia (FM) Flare)


If I can stay ahead of the F factors by
1) eating higher protein sustainable energy foods and avoiding junk food and high carbs,
2) paying attention to the weather to know when to expect a weather induced flare and planning on taking the meds I take sparingly the day or just before the front is due so I am ahead of the pain,
3) reading a scripture or other positive uplifting reading to ponder (for me it is a scripture that a student of mine brought me which brings me peace) and using other de-stressing techniques that leads to Frustration,
4) and relaxing at night before bedtime in order to get a good nights sleep and avoid the Failed sleep pattern
I have found that I can do moderately well considering the condition. As a matter of fact, just getting most of these reduces my FM symptoms. Unfortunately this is an if and does not always work out.

The scripture my student gave me, by the way, and which I keep in my Bible as a book mark so I can read it every night is

" Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives it do I give it unto you. Let not your heart be troubled neither let it be afraid for I am with you always." John 14:27

However, there are many other uplifting scriptures or other writings that are peaceful and uplifting to focus on. I ponder good thoughts as I rise and upon going to bed at night to prevent frustration and especially in times of frustrations. I have found it does seem to help sustain the body as well as the soul.

If you are religious, a prayer journal at night, giving over your stress to God, is often very effective in reducing stress at bedtime so that sleep can be more beneficial.

These are just some of the things I have found helpful as I struggle to deal with my FM. I sometimes feel like a boxer giving it the one two punch and trying to keep it off guard, but then sometimes it flattens me. There are more techniques I use and others use as this is an illness that requires adjusting and adapting to whatever it throws at you, so the challenge goes on...

For a more complete blog of some of my methods of dealing with pain see my blog on "What Do You Do for Fibromyalgia Pain?"



  
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MAMAWLINDALOU 1/31/2012 9:50AM

    Wonderful and helpful blog. The weather is one that gets me the most, I will try some of your advise to see if it works for me. I am on a lot of meds not just for fibro, sometimes it seems to work but others it doesn't so I take one day at a time. Thanks for the blog.

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LINDAF49 1/29/2012 11:06PM

    Well done and well written - I sit here nodding my head to your blog The main thing I would encourage is to add some magnesium in form of magMalate - Makes a huge difference for me. When I first tackled this monster, I set my alarm for every two hours and got up, stretched, went potty and drank 8-16 Oz of water or lemonaid to get the toxins out of my system. Now it is pretty natural for me if I drink enough during the day, especially that 8 oz right before bed. I have to get up and change positions or the fibro freeze and pain take over.

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MARGIE100%PURE 1/29/2012 6:10PM

    I have found that control to reduce toxins going in and maintain enough energy to remove them can positively improve overall pain threshold and result and with curbing the bad does save energy for laughing. Not taking in junk food and prescriptions of limited success and pain relievers with their nasty side-effects can eliminate some of the causes of pain and energy loss. Miss Veg is so right.

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GIRLSEEKSTRIBE 1/28/2012 6:22PM

    It's really commendable that you choose to manage your disorder mostly through lifestyle treatments. There is nothing wrong with medicine but people who put their faith only in medicine and don't change their lifestyle can not hope to reach the rate of relief or recovery that those who look at the whole picture will, IMO. You're very brave!

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Happy Fathers Day in Heaven

Monday, June 20, 2011

I had a great Dad! He was known for honesty, integrity, work ethics, and lack of haughtiness ina all circumstances even though he was a manager. His employer told us at the funeral what we already knew and that was that if my Dad said something you knew it was the truth, he also added what we didn't know and that was that as long as he managed his books he knew hew never needed to call an auditor. He knew they were correct because of my Dad's integrity and accuracy in his work.

Another co-worker stated that once she and another co-worker got into a squabble about who should do what work. My Dad walked in as they were bickering. She said he never said a word, but sat down as they were arguing. When they happened to look over at him, he was quietly doing the job the both thought they were too good to do. She said they both felt about an inch tall and wanted to slither into the woodwork. They settled their differences and didn't argue worked together to decide how they could help each other make the office run more efficiently by doing whatever jobs needed done.

I am so blessed to have these memories of my Dad. For me I knew whatever he told me was the truth and I knew that whatever I told him would not be laughed out, villainized, or minimized and he would show true understanding and compassion without strings attached.
He was a deacon in the church and enjoyed serving others. I continue to learn from my Dad's example every day.

My husband was another strong man but in different ways than my Dad. He believed in protecting abused animals and worked with the USDA. He was very intelligent and could fix anything. He was a kind man and tried to take the best of care of me. I miss him greatly and with the trials and obstacles I have faced as a widow I have relied on the things that I learned from my husband and watched him do to survive and keep the place fixed up and repaired.

I am very fortunate to have had two strong men in my life who had values and commitment.

Also, I have a Heavenly Father, who has looked after me, provided for me, and provided these two men in my life for a definite reason I am sure.

HAPPY FATHERS DAY in Heaven to all of these wonderful pillars of support in my life.

  
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RAINBOWFALLS 6/22/2011 9:15AM

    I am sure my dad had some great features too, but he died when I was six so I know very little about him. emoticon

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JWJCKSN 6/20/2011 10:16PM

    This was my first Father's Day without my dad. He died in February. My heart was heavy, but not sad as I know he is in heaven. I am happy you also had a strong father figure. Those genes help us through the tough times. Thanks for the blog.

Jane

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MICHELLE311106 6/20/2011 2:48PM

    That was a beautiful blog. I enjoyed reading it and it has made my day better for reading it. I could really feel the love you have for both of those wonderful men.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 6/20/2011 2:12PM

    emoticon I'm so glad you're doing well.

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In Memory of My Sylvia Our Beloved Cat 1996-2010

Saturday, June 12, 2010


My Sylvia observing me at my computer from her usual place on my shoulders .

As some of you know our cat, My Sylvia took sick Monday and disappeared the next day. She was 14 years old and looked very tired that day, stopped eating that evening, and I gave her an antibiotic just in case. She looked so frail and worn out and just wanted to lay down as if she was exhausted. I did get her to drink some milk but that was only lip service on her part to make me happy. The next morning she had left the house via the cat door and was no where to be found. I searched and called her name but to no avail.

My Sylvia's original name was Sylvia, but she was our dear sweet kitty and my dh and I would banter back and forth...."She's my Sylvia!", he would say to which I would reply, "No, she is my Sylvia!" So Sylvia immediately decided that her name was MySylvia and would always answer to that. She usually did not like leaving me unless my dh needed some kind of extra care. She would sit or ride on my shoulders and observe every move I made.

When my dh went into the hospital the first time she was quite distraught but did finally get to see him via webcam which is how the photo above was taken. When he came home she was the only one of our pets (not even his own dog) who recognized him because he had lost weight and lost his hair and had changed so much, but that didn't fool My Sylvia. She knew the smell of the one that was missing and immediately she took up her place in his lap. For days she would not leave his side unless he slept and then she would come to me and sit on my shoulders as if to say "He is resting so I will make sure you are okay, now." It was almost as if she worried that she had not been diligent enough in taking care of him the first time he went to the hospital and she was making up for that.

When we went to the hospital the last time MySylvia followed us out to the car like she usually did and watched us leave. MySylvia did not stay in the house much when we were gone. She preferred to stay in the front yard and wait until we got back to come back inside with us, even though she had a cat door and could go in or stay out as she pleased.

After my dear husband died we took him to another state to bury him in our family plot. When I got back, MySylvia had a broken back leg. The vet said it would probably not do any good to set it since we had not been able to get to it when it happened, but that she would be fine in about six weeks. Well, she was fine from the broken leg in 6 weeks and was jumping up on my shoulders and the washing machine, etc., and was able to run, though she did have a limp.

However, MySylvia, was far from being well from her broken heart from not being able to find my dh. It was as if this time she knew something terrible had happened. Every day she would go to the places my dh would spend time outside and check them out to see if he might show up there.

Yesterday some friends from St. Louis came to see me and help me around the place. They changed a flat, checked and filled the water and oil in my cars, fixed my TV so that I could watch it again (the handyman who moved it to replace some paneling had not hooked it up right), and they did various things I was unable to do which helped me a great deal. While they were out and about, however, in an outbuilding where my dh had spent a lot of time, they found MySylvia. The building was open and she had gone in one last time before she died of what we believe was heart failure to find him. I had looked in the building but she was in a hard place to see and I had not seen her when I looked inside before.

Our friend said, "It looks like she is with your husband now. He has her and is caring for her like she cared for him." I cried and cried. We buried her in the front yard where she used to wait for us to come home and then jump through the fence to meet us.

So now I have lost My Husband and My Sylvia and today is a really rough day for me as she was a part of the family for 14 years and I know that after she said goodbye to me she had gone to try to find my dh to say goodbye to him, but maybe she said "hello" instead. I talk to my husband even though he is gone and last night and today I have asked him to please take good care of MySylvia and that I miss them both, so.


  
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KAT7457 6/11/2011 8:38PM

    So sorry for the loss of MySylvia and your husband they have both found each other. thanks for sharing this story, had the kleenex handy,.hugs to you Char.

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GETDONE 5/13/2011 12:45AM

    I am so sorry to hear of your precious MySylvias passing over--yes, they are together again.
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BARBBF 1/2/2011 4:20PM

    Thank you for sharing. I have lost 3 cats over the past 30+ years. Am still missing them.... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STLRZGRRL 9/27/2010 7:41AM

    Oh, Cinder!

I am SO SO SO SO SO sorry for your incredible loss... SO sorry...
The only words I have are these: You'll see them both again when you get there.

I know that in my heart.
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COACHPENNY 9/27/2010 4:08AM

    Just tears.

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MIMAWELIZABETH 7/5/2010 8:21PM

    Oh my, she must have died of a broken heart, missing him so much... she is with him now for sure. While that leaves you without her, another emotional blow for which I offer my deepest sympathy, for I understand well how deep those feelings go - - - Well, I can't find a "good reason" for losing her now... Sometimes, as you know, we just have to go on faith, that life happens the way it's supposed to even when we can't see the reasons.
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LINDAAINTN 6/21/2010 6:01AM

    Darlin',
I'm so sorry your going through so much right now. I know your faith will give you the strength you need to carry on. Know that you are loved and thought of often and my prayers go up for you all of the time. emoticon

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RAINBOWFALLS 6/14/2010 1:27PM

    I read your post in the Lost a Loved one Team and wanted to read your Blog. It was a very touching story. I have yet been able to write any of my loss stories in my blogs. I do write in the Team folder, but I'm not ready to put it out to the public Blog.

I too have lost a lot of my loved ones and the story about your dog and cat remined me that the day after my Dad died ( I was 6) they put my dog to sleep. I lost my Dad, the house we lived in, and my dog. It is amazing what we go through sometimes and survive.

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CRYSTALFLAIZ 6/14/2010 11:29AM

    Your blog is a beautiful tribute to My Sylvia.
You have touched my heart. Made me cry.
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NACOLESWORLD 6/14/2010 10:25AM

    emoticon I am so sorry dear

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ALASKAN 6/13/2010 7:54PM

    Hello Char,
They are together and saving u a spot between them.I'm sorry that I did not come to check on you sooner. You have a lot of friends who care and love you dearly, so you know we are here. I lost my dog and cat within 5 days apart and I know how you feel.
Her dh and MySylvia will give you your wings when you come there to meet you again.
At least neither of them are suffering and in a better place now. They will watch over you everyday and still love you for the person you are. Remember the years you all had together and all the memories you have in your mind. Those are the things only you cherish now. Take care and talk to you soon. Always. ERNA

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JBARBER1953 6/13/2010 9:29AM

    OMG.!!! One loss is enough, but TWO? How your heart must be in turmoil. Feel the love from your Spark friends. I pray you have a good day today. Then maybe tomorrow----- emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LITTLEWIND53 6/13/2010 2:38AM

    I am so touched by the devotion MySylvia had to both you and your husband. She was really remarkable. Know that she is at peace now. God Bless

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DEBBIEANNE1124 6/13/2010 1:15AM

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved Sylvia.

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DHALYIA 6/13/2010 1:08AM

    Blubbering like a big baby now...thanks. Love the furbabies...I am always getting new ones...they show up at my door. Seems that they make room for the next one coming along.

Two right now...Babette, 16...and Lotus, 3. This is probably Babette's last summer, she is crankier than ever, but eating good.

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SLIMMERJESSE 6/13/2010 12:43AM

    I know this type of heartbreak and am sorry for your loss.

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DARLENEK04 6/13/2010 12:39AM

  Oh Char, I am just so very sorry. I wish there was something I could say or do to
help....it is awful to feel someones pain and not be able to do anything to relieve
the pain. I know MySylvia is with her Bob now, but you know you both did all you
could to keep him and then her with you. Truly, I wish you could have laid them to
rest together, at least in the same spot............
Know I am thinking of you. Mosst of all praying for you..
Love and hugs,
Darlene

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BET212 6/13/2010 12:02AM

    I am so sorry for your loss, of your beloved husband and your furbaby. You are all in my prayers. emoticon

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GRAMMACATHY 6/12/2010 11:17PM

    MySylvia was a fur angel. Now she has wings. It is comforting to know she is with your husband.

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ANDI_3K 6/12/2010 11:09PM

    (((Hugs)))

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ADMETOS 6/12/2010 10:42PM

    I am sure that MySylvia has found your husband and is back with him once again. I feel for your loss.
I lost my 'Sweet Baby Gray' aka Hushpad, two months before my father passed away. She was 12 years old at the time. We never did find her. We also have cat doors, and our kitties have always come and gone as they please.
My daughter MOLLOCALYPSE who is a vet tech and is always trying to place homeless animals, brought home my Tanooki in May of 2008. Although she can never replace my Hushpad, she has taken her own place in my heart.
Though we inevitably lose those we love as we walk this world, we will just as inevitably join them in the end. in the meantime, our capacity to love is endless!
God bless you,
~Marjie

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IAM_HIS2 6/12/2010 7:25PM

    Char...my heart is heavy and my eyes filled with tears. Oh how I wish I could just put my arms around you and give you a big hug.

Our Lord gives us His love, never leaves us and give us what we need when we so need it., but He never said we'd be without pain. May you find His loving arms wrapped around you to comfort you and give you strength.

All my prayers & love,
Sharon

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ONLYTEMPORARY 6/12/2010 7:01PM

    I am so sorry! Such a hard time for you. Losing both so close together. They become like our kids and it is so hard when we do lose them. She must have been such a comfort when your hubby died. Even though they keep looking and hoping, they kind of instinctivly know they aren't coming back.

When our daughter and 3 babies moved to WI, our dog went down hill fast. They were HER kids and she saw them almost everyday for 3 years. It broke her heart when she couldn't see them any more. She got so bad I had to carry her outside so she could go potty and then back in so I knew it was time to say good bye and give her peace. That broke my heart and I miss her still and it's been 10 years.

Keep all the fun times in your heart and memory. If it's at all possible and you can do it, check into adopting an older pet that has lost it's family due to a move or illness or the like. There are thousands of them out there that have lost everything and need someone to love them again. emoticon emoticon

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KAT7457 6/12/2010 6:42PM

    so sorry to hear about your cat, she is with your dh watching ovet him. I will say a prayer for you. it was nice of your friends to come over to help you out. hang in their Char, I am still grieving over the lost of my fiance on may 3,08 when i found him its still hard for me, All I can do is pray that things will get better for you in time. if you ever want to talk I am here for you.
many hugs Kat

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VELVETSAPPHIRE 6/12/2010 4:13PM

    My heart aches for you to have to go through this so soon after losing your dh but you are a strong woman and God will help you through this time. Keeping you in thought and prayer dear friend.

LUV & Hugs
~Carol

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ROSE5328 6/12/2010 1:45PM

    I'm so sorry to hear about MySylvia and your dear husband. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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In Memory of My Husband and His Birthday Wish

Tuesday, June 08, 2010

As most of you know by now, my dear husband passed away the last part of April , 2010. He did not die of the leukemia as he remained in remission to the end, but of a new strain of C-diff that many of you may have read about in your newspapers recently that does not respond to antibiotics.

There is much I would like to say about this but will wait.

However, last year I gave my husband an "internet" birthday party and he really enjoyed talking to many of his friends in a chat room that I set up for him for that occasion. This year even before he was sick he talked about having a "real birthday party" and when he got sick it was his goal and kept him going when things were not going well.

Since he was in remission from his leukemia we had found a place to have it and he was already thinking about what kind of cake he wanted as well as who all he would invite (which was a quite a long list including nurses and doctors, co-workers, friends and family) .

The day before his birthday on the way home from teaching lessons, I thought about using one of the cake mixes I had bought to make a birthday cake for him, and make a cake for him anyway, but I have just been so tired lately! I had to stop in at a store on the way home so as I did I prayed, "Lord, please let there be a cake here so I don't have to bake one and make it one that I will know immediately that my husband would like", and then as an after thought I added , "I wonder what my dear husband is doing now and and how he is doing?"

As I looked in the frozen section I did see some cakes. One was a chocolate cake, his s favorite!!! I picked it up and started to get it but then thought, "Now this will you make you put on more weight than you already have over this and it won't bring him back, so just put it right back!"

However, as I was putting the cake back in the case I happened to look at the label more closely, and what I read there made me put it right back in my cart, because it seemed to be a message just for me and everyone who knew and prayed for my husband.

On the label beneath the "Dutch Oven Chiffon Cake Chocolate" were these words "Him who cometh to me I will in no wise cast out." John 6:37b

Have you ever seen a cake with a scripture on it before? I had not. All I know is that it is my miracle cake and the Lord answered two seemingly unrelated requests with that one cake. I gave thanks to the Lord for considering my needs , and now have cut out the label with the intention of keeping it and cherishing it forever.

I hope all of you remember my husband fondly today and perhaps a smile will come to your faces when you do. He truly cared about people and all of God's creatures great and small.

In Loving Memory of my husband,
From his loving wife, Char

  
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REBELBLITZ 5/23/2011 11:05AM

    That is amazing and just like God to have a plan for you that day.

Sorry for the loss of your husband. I know that you cherish his loving memories.

Cheryl

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I.M.MAGIC 1/26/2011 1:22AM

    emoticon I've had a few things going on myself, I found out in April that I had cancer... you can catch up on that when you have the time, it's on my blogs. I've missed you, dear friend. I'm so sorry about your DH, I know you had some stressful times dealing with all he went through, and I know how hard things are for you right now... hang in there. Please know you are loved...
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COACHPENNY 9/27/2010 4:04AM

    Wow, that is so powerful and so full of love. I am so sorry for your loss but, also glad that have this sign that means so much.

Penny

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MIMAWELIZABETH 7/5/2010 8:11PM

    We never know from where or when a sign will be shown to us... I had a birthday party for my son after his death, and it was a true celebration of his life for the many friends and family that attended!
Thinking of you & keeping you in my prayers...
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ISAWAPUTTYTAT 6/30/2010 12:22PM

    Yes he did answer your prayers and you know he is there for you also. It was a beautiful story i have never saw a cake with a scripture on it so you get to wondering what that was about a special cake for a special person and his wife wo is so vey special also. Remember i am t here for you also.

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HEILAS 6/21/2010 9:09AM

    Char, I am so sorry I never heard about your loss until now.

Remember Richard is only a breath away.

There is a song by Josh Groban which is so moving on this subject.

I will try to send you the link. My computer skills are sorely lacking but will try.


God Bless You.

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MILPAM3 6/15/2010 11:55AM

  Char,
I had been thinking of you lately. No doubt, it was a call to pray. Bless you at this time and in the future. I know you will yield to Him in times of sorrow, but you will remember that in terms of eternity, it won't be long till you see him again.
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Blessings & Prayers,
Pat

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BEYOURBEST1 6/13/2010 9:52AM

    I am sorry for your loss.
May God comfort you in these difficult times.
God bless you.


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_MAOMAO_ 6/13/2010 3:04AM

  Wow, I'm so sorry for your loss. I knew your DH had passed away, but didn't realize it was c-diff. That's ugly stuff. Most folks don't realize that none of the hospital hand products, even, exterminate that - only old-fashioned vigorous hand-washing.

Monday would have been my dad's birthday, he's been gone 5 1/2 years. I couldn't afford to take my mom out to dinner and I didn't want to buy berry pie - that was always his request - b/c I don't trust myself to eat the filling w/o the crust. So I stopped at TCBY and bought low-fat soft serve for me and a milkshake for my mom, then I went to visit.

We'll see them again someday. We will, we will!
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GRAMMACATHY 6/12/2010 11:12PM

    Thank you so much for sharing. I too look for messages and signs. They are such a comfort.

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SURFERJAN2002 6/12/2010 4:56PM

    We really can call Him, Abba, father. He has such a daddies heart for us. Nothing is too trivial. He loves our hearts. I finally realized that I had been unintentionally callous with my mom when my dad died. One day she turned to me and said, " You know Jan, I knew your father longer than I did my own parents. (They both died young) and I finally "got " at least some of the profundity of her loss. Two really do become one and the loss is vast. So glad the Comforter has been holding you close.

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CINDYLOU58 6/12/2010 12:38PM

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SMILINGEYES2 6/10/2010 2:33PM

    May God continue to comfort you and those you love. Thank you for sharing this amazing story.

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PURPLELVR7 6/10/2010 2:25PM

    God is so good! Thank you for sharing.

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WENDYSPARKS 6/10/2010 2:14PM

    That was beautiful! God was there for you! God Bless your husband who is watching down on you.

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DIDMIS 6/10/2010 2:04PM

    Your blog was so beautiful it brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for your loss but know the Lord will help you with the adjustment.
What a beautiful gift God gave to you and him when you picked up that cake.
God bless you and comfort you.
Irene

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SHARKAR02 6/10/2010 1:37PM

    How Beautiful!

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ANDI_3K 6/9/2010 10:41PM

    ((hugs))

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MAMA_PICANTE 6/9/2010 8:22PM

    HOW PRECIOUS! ust in these few words, I have met your husband! And what a msg indeed! Your story of keeping his birthday wish alive will be kept in my heart and I will remember him as well as you! God bless you dear!

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VELVETSAPPHIRE 6/9/2010 6:01PM

    God works in mysterious ways :) Really sorry to hear of his passing and appreciated your email to let me know. I'm so glad you have so many good memories of a man who loved you with all his heart. May God continue to watch over you as He gives you strength and may the love in your heart continue to grow.

Romans 15:33 ~ Now the God of peace be with you all. Amen.

LUV & Hugs dear friend
~Carol


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DEBBIEANNE1124 6/9/2010 5:57PM

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I had no idea you lsot him. I remember reading of his illness. Geez.
Char, I'm so sorry. I'm praying for him and for you as well.
Debbie

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JAZZIELORI 6/9/2010 5:45PM

    When I saw your post I went to your page and began reading about your weight loss and family stressors..you write so wonderfully that I was able to go on a journey by reading your Spark page....I was so happy that your husband had a great internet birthday..I was so happy to read that his cancer was in remission..and your journey to lose weight had restarted but at a much lighter weight...then I read your blog....and I became so sorry that your husband had died..but like you I am very spiritual...your husband is your angel who sits beside you when alone and has a twinkle in his eyes when you get such a wonderful surprise!
God Bless

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JUNEAU2010 6/9/2010 10:28AM

    That label on the cake gave you a better hug than I ever could! I so understand how wonderful that was!
Lesser hugs anyway!

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JAVALOVERTOO 6/9/2010 10:17AM

    Thank you for sharing. Just shows that God is everywhere we just have to be open. May you feel God's embrace today.

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GRAYGRANNY 6/9/2010 7:55AM

    What a beautiful blog! Thank you for sharing. And no, I have never seen a bible verse on a cake.........it was meant for you.....perhaps it was a birthday gift from your husband.......how nice

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ADEVORES 6/9/2010 7:15AM

    Wow...You have me in tears, right now! Your faith and your courage are truly inspirational. I'm so sorry for your loss. --Annette

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AHAPPYLIFE 6/9/2010 5:31AM

    I am feeling both elated and sorrow for your times. It's such a great surprise to receive a gift from God and so sad to lose a cherished loved one. Keep looking for those gifts they come when you need them.

When my best friend, my beloved mother passed away, God gave me a gift. Unfortunately, I was not by her side when she passed but at my daughter's soccer game 50 miles away. She had been ill for some time and every night was filled with tears. But at the moment of her death, I looked up and immediately spotted clouds in the formation of stairs. At that time, I knew God was taking her into His arms. It's been 16 years but every now and then I find something that reminds me of her. It's his work on this earth that reminds me that she is by His side. I FINALLY think of her with a smile on my face. I wish that for you!

Be well and see His work,
Melissa

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COOLMAMA11 6/9/2010 1:22AM

    I am so sorry for your loss. Your blog really touched my heart, I am in the process of losing a brother to cancer, and the pain is more than I can endure, your blog made me feel better..life does go on!

Hugs
Elaine emoticon

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MCAUDI 6/8/2010 11:33PM

    I am glad you found comfort in a chocolate cake; it sounds like it was just there waiting for you to find it. I did not know your sweet husband; but since he was married to you I know he was a good man. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you.

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DJ4HEALTH 6/8/2010 9:22PM

    Sorry for your loss. emoticon

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FISHINGLADY66 6/8/2010 8:39PM

    What a Beautiful Blog in memory of your Dear Husband. I am sorry for your loss. How wonderful to find a cake with the Bible verse on it.
God Bless

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FRAN0426 6/8/2010 7:36PM

    Sorry for your loss and what a lovely tribute to your late husband your blog is, I'm sure he is very honored and pleased by the tribute.

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KAT7457 6/8/2010 6:43PM

    Char, your blog was a great tribute to your late husband and love the cake. God was with you that day.i am here if you want to talk.missed hearing form you and i know what its like to loss someone dearly to you. take care many hugs Kat

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ADMETOS 6/8/2010 6:37PM

    I did not realize that you had lost your husband. I am very sorry. Thank you for sharing the story about the cake. I am also convinced that it is a sign from heaven, and you were meant to have it.
I lost my father two and a half years ago, and not a day goes by that I don't think of him. Not only was he a loving, kind and generous person, but a wonderful violinist as well. I know that he is with the Lord, and that gives me comfort.
Some time after his passing, my mother and sisters and I had gone to a family reunion to celebrate Dad's older brother's 90th birthday. It was the first time since his passing that we were getting together with all of his brothers and their families, and we were all thinking about our loss.
I was driving the rental car, when the radio suddenly came on by itself. It just happened to be tuned to the classical music station, and Vivaldi's Four Seasons - one of Dad's favorites - was playing. That was followed by a Mendelssohn piano trio; the last piece we'd been working on before his passing.
We are convinced that this was his way of letting us know that he was watching over us, and was with us in spirit.
The Lord works in mysterious ways.

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VGINNY 6/8/2010 6:29PM

    It is a blessing to read that beautiful tribute to your husband.---You have been blessed to have had him---
I read your post on the SparkPeople Business team and became curious and came to read your Blog------I am so glad that i did!!--Bless you!! emoticonMay you have peace and comfort.

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ABALIGAD 6/8/2010 5:55PM

    God is touching your heart, in a way that only HE can. What a blessing you received!!
I'm so very sorry for your loss, but glad to hear you are a sister in Christ and your DH is rejoicing in God's Kingdom.

I've never seen a scripture on any product but you can bet I'll be looking for this one, as my DH adores chocolate cake also!

Many (((((((hugs)))))))) for you my new friend... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JANETELIZABETH1 6/8/2010 5:13PM

    I believe the Lord was right there with you and gave you that scripture to encourage you.
Blessings
Janet

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ONLYTEMPORARY 6/8/2010 5:11PM

    So sorry!

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GRANDMAAMIE 6/8/2010 5:07PM

    sorry for your loss. emoticon

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DESTINYE 6/8/2010 4:26PM

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing this story and what a wonderful cake. Take care of yourself...

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TWOCANS 6/8/2010 4:07PM

    My condolences on your husband's passing; that is absolutely beautiful, I have never heard or seen of a cake with a scripture on the label! I really think God gave you that to comfort your heart! Our loss is Heaven's gain...God bless....

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NACOLESWORLD 6/8/2010 4:06PM

    God is Good

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