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Did HE know what he was getting into?

Tuesday, March 06, 2012

Did HE know what he was getting into?

This is a very special day in my life.
So long ago in years, but not so long ago in my head or heart; my DH proposed to me.
We met in a candy store.

Yes we did!
He likes to say I was the sweetest thing in that sweet shop and he knew when he met me that we were meant to be.
(Kinda melts your heart doesn’t it…)

We were both young, me especially and I had only been of age for a short time when this special day happened.
We had discussed marriage to a certain extent prior, with me telling him my ideal proposal…
(I know! I spoke my mind even back then! LOL!)
Well, I knew, yes I KNEW it was coming because he said we were going out to a ‘Fancy dinner’.
These were not words that he used very often, if at all.
So I gussied up, as did he.
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He was such a sweetie and took us to our favorite (expensive) Italian Restaurant (sadly it is no longer around).

This is where it gets interesting!

I mean really “Did he know what he was getting into???”

Being a young woman and full of dreams and ideas; I had in mind my perfect proposal. LOL!!
Now him being a young man and nervous as all get out, just wanted to get it out.
This is how it went…

DH: ‘Order whatever you would like Sweetie.’
We ordered wine and our meals with an appetizer first.

The wine comes and he looks deeply into my eyes; takes my hand and says “Ang, I –“
ME: “Not yet George.”

So we chitchat about who knows what after all these years and our appetizers come…
DH again looks deeply into my eyes; takes my hand and says “Ang, I –“
ME: “Not yet George.”

ME: “Not yet George.”
(I mean how romantic is it over ceaser salad?? Get real you know.)
So there were a couple false starts through our appetizers, which of course I diverted.
Then comes our main course…

The waiter manages to set them down and leave, when my DH (courage must have been failing) skips the looking deeply into my eyes and the hand holding and blurts out:
DH: “Will you marry me?!”

Well what was a girl to do??
I mean the other tables heard now and it was over the most delicious cannelloni (of which I had not partaken of as of yet).
So I put my clean fork down and accepted his proposal.
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Needless to say, supper got wrapped to go and we were out the door to tell all our family and friends.
Yes, I didn’t have my romantic proposal over dessert, but I was lucky to have gotten my appetizer in and a to-go bag.
We have been happily married a number of years, this year being a Celebratory number. Not sure yet what we will do for that when the time comes, but I am sure happy to have the memories of his proposal and my acceptance to look back on.

It’s good for a laugh every now and then.
So do you think he know what he was getting into???”

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MESAMA 5/11/2012 12:39PM

    I have to admit... I couldn't stop laughing... "Not yet, George"... That was awesome! And if he didn't know what he was getting into then he was pleasantly surprised because of that celebratory number and I am sure many more years to come. He's a lucky guy if you asked me. Hey, you didn't ask but I'm still sayin.

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BOE4LIFE 3/27/2012 7:13AM

    Even if he wasn't aware I am sure he is completely glad that he did it. I would assume it is like buying stock in a small budding company some years ago with the hopes of making a few dollars and realizing much to your delight that MICROSOFT really was worth it. You are his Microsoft dear. I am sure of it. Congrats.

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GROKGRANNY 3/23/2012 8:24PM

    Oh, you guys are adorable! I am sure by now he is no longer sweaty and nervous, you've learned how to slow down and enjoy your meals and you have given up on controlling all outcomes?? ha ha ha Couldn't resist!
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RDY4THIN 3/19/2012 1:14AM

    Very sweet indeed. happy belated anniversary!

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    Whatever it was, yes, he knew something. He knew a lot. You've made his life better, as he has yours, and that's what it's about.
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Ooh, ooh, ooh, I just realized what's familiar about your story. It's the old song, "Leader of the Pack" -- "I met him at the candy store...." -- with a much happier future.

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LIVINGFREE19 3/16/2012 12:44AM

    What a very nice story!
Happy Belated Annivarsary!

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MDGARDENGIRL 3/11/2012 4:47PM

    Such a cute story! Two lucky people for sure!

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SLIMLILA 3/9/2012 2:23AM

    Sweet... almost fairy tale!!! Aaahhhh!

(I saw my sister who had the slimband done in late Jan/. and she's already down 30 lbs.)

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LINDA! 3/8/2012 8:01PM

    What a sweet story (couldn't resist). He sounds like a wonderful guy. He is lucky to have you. A perfect couple.


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CHIQUITITA55 3/8/2012 10:54AM

    I think he is a very lucky man. Congratulations on your anniversary.

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PLMITCH 3/8/2012 8:37AM

    GREAT STORY! Yes, I think he knew!


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RICH530 3/8/2012 8:31AM

    What a great story!! I am sure he knew what he was getting into!!

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ELLIE381 3/7/2012 6:52PM

    What a great blog. emoticonon the proposal and your upcoming anniversary.
I think he knew what he was getting into. Something and Someone great!! emoticon

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LITTLETEAPOT17 3/7/2012 11:33AM

    That was so sweet and perfectly written. It's just like a movie!! Thanks for sharing your special moments with us my dear Angela!!
Happy Anniversary!

And to answer your question--yes he knew! When it's right... it's right no matter what life throws at us.

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LIVELAUGHXO 3/7/2012 9:23AM

    This is such a sweet blog! Congratulations on your anni! I hope each year brings you love and joy!

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TEXASFILLY 3/7/2012 7:02AM

    Congratulations on your anniversary, dear heart! *hugs* BB~ emoticon

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ASHAIXIM 3/6/2012 11:39PM

    Awwww that is soooo sweet!!

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NEWKAREN43 3/6/2012 9:09PM

    What a lovely story! Does anyone really know what they were getting into when they marry? Not really. But he knew a great thing when he saw you and that's what's important! Blessings Angela.

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    I HAD to read this to my daughter, who thought it was so sweet! I loved it, too.

And my guess is that YES he knew, and that's why he couldn't wait to get your "Yes". What a lovely, lovely memory and sharing of it.

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BBAMMOM 3/6/2012 7:51PM

    YES, he knew exactly what he was getting into. He obviously knew how lucky he was as well!

I love your story. Perfectly written...I can picture it all!

Happy Engagement Anniversary!! May you have many, many, happy healthy more!!

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MNJONES2 3/6/2012 7:43PM

    Thanks for sharing such a happy memory and HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!! It is wonderful to see how happy people can be together.

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LYNMEINDERS 3/6/2012 5:38PM

    hahaha...i so love it.... just love it....
I am not sure any of them actually know what they are getting themselves into when they propose to be honest.....
Mind you...that goes both

Have an awesome anniversary...enjoy it to the fullest

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BLUE42DOWN 3/6/2012 3:20PM

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Well, he's still around, so even if he had no idea what he was getting into, seems he's quite happy with where it has led.

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MIZCATHI 3/6/2012 3:18PM

    Very sweet and romantic! My DH and I were very young too, but the proposal was not romantic! In fact, I pretty much told him it was time to get married or split - just think, we can get wedding gifts, I said! In all seriousness, actually, that was a big concern for me! But it was fate, because both of us took our vows seriously, and 35 years later on October 8, we are still happily married.

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    Oh, Angela, that was AWESOME! I loved reading your precious story! Happy Anniversary! Mine was yesterday! emoticon Did you see my blog about it? I made a slide show! emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 3/6/2012 2:29PM

    You ahd me laughing and crying here with you. what a cool story.
Happy anniversary Angela!

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L*I*T*A* 3/6/2012 2:28PM

    love it...what sweet memories!!!
enjoy your special day whatever you choose to do....
blessings and hugs.........lita

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BE_PROUD 3/6/2012 1:49PM

    Awwww How cute!

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MISSILENE 3/6/2012 1:34PM

    omg. dear friend that is so beautiful. Thanks for sharing and I wish you both many more lovely memories.

Angela, to me you are like a piece of candy. I don't eat candy but I love it all the same. I will think of you as my favorite candy. Almond Joy. I love and adore you. Keep on being sweet and never change. YES HE DID KNOW WHAT HE WAS GETTING INTO.. HE MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE. emoticon emoticon


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BOVEY63 3/6/2012 1:31PM

    Cute story!
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AMYNYNJ 3/6/2012 12:54PM

    emoticon emoticon That is so cute. I hope my BF makes such a nice effort.

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Saturday, February 25, 2012


The key to that question is want, not need as in TRUE HUNGER.

My head likes to play games sometimes and tempt me to 'taste' outside my planned meals, or even 'tempt' me to eat more.

It has snuck up at times when I am not prepared and I have unfortunately found myself eating when I am not hungry. I will be midway through and all of a sudden I will be asking myself 'DO I REALLY WANT THIS?' and the answer is a resounding NO!

How I normally combat this is I will make myself a hot drink. This takes time to prepare and time to drink. The key here being TIME.

This allows my logical side of head to counter the illogical head hunger and stop it in it's tracks.

For after I have finished my nice hot drink, I ask myself 'DO I REALLY WANT THIS?'

And if the answer is no then it is head hunger and it has been SLAPPED BACK DOWN.
Because I won't give in!

If the answer is I need this or something that fits best in my meal plan. Then I KNOW it is a true hunger, so I feed the beast.

This is not a perfect plan, but I find if I can at least make that hot drink (tea or coffee), I can beat this Head Hunger and stop it from rearing it's ugly head.

I am not in the mood for games!

So take that HEAD HUNGER! Only TRUE HUNGER will rule here!


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ANGELA2B 3/31/2012 7:09AM

    I love this. This is a great post. Like Grokgranny, herbal tea helps me, too. It is my signal that I have eaten all I will eat for the day. I don't have a cup of tea every night, but if I am feeling snacky, I do. I don't allow myself to eat after 8PM, but evenings are my most challenging time. Sometimes after I have had all of the calories that I allow myself in a day I will make a nice cup of orange or lemon flavored herbal tea and sit and drink it. It nearly always helps me counter the "head hunger."

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GROKGRANNY 3/4/2012 5:17PM

    I LOVED your blog!! Herbal tea "sometimes" helps me. I no longer "nosh" between meals, but if I'm truly feeling like I'm running on empty, I'll reach for as little protein as possible and maybe a little veggie.

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    Angela, this was a really good blog, and that first graphic was my favorite! And Angela, thanks for being my friend! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MNJONES2 2/29/2012 11:48PM

    As always you give great advice. Thank you so much.

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ELLIE381 2/28/2012 9:50AM

    emoticon emoticonGreat advice! emoticon

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SUSIEWHITE1109 2/27/2012 9:44PM

    Awesome blog! I'm with you on making a hot drink...sometimes that's hard for me, because I don't usually drink hot things when the weather is warm (which is most of the time in Dallas)...but it works like a charm. Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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DEE0973 2/27/2012 3:59PM

    Great advise which I need to incorporate at night. Thanks for the blog Angela!!

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NESSANEW 2/27/2012 2:51PM

    I've never thought of making a hot drink when this feeling comes on! That is a great strategy. Boiling water takes long enough to help subside any fake hunger!

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CARO488 2/27/2012 2:40PM

    I love this suggestion - and your attitude!

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BOVEY63 2/27/2012 1:18PM

    Awesome blog Angela, and so true. I'm going to give the hot drink a try when the "Head Hunger" strikes - he's been showing up too frequently these days.

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MAMAWLINDALOU 2/26/2012 10:28AM

    Great Blog. But oh so true!


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SLIMLILA 2/26/2012 1:07AM

    I've had this head hunger since I got home from my trip yesterday, cuz I did not bad at all on my trip, but since I got back, it's been eat, eat, eat. and junk food not good meals at all... Gotta get back on track.

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BLUE42DOWN 2/26/2012 12:29AM

    I remember reading once that one question we can ask to find out if it's head hunger is whether a particular food, say a raw vegetable, would be a good substitute. If I'm hungry enough to go get some raw broccoli or cook up some peas and carrots, then I'm pretty hungry. If I "don't want" those, then I'm not really hungry.

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LIVINGFREE19 2/25/2012 10:49PM

    This is something I also need to look at in myself also.
Head hunger is a crazy thing. It wants to take over, but we must keep it in check.

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LIVELAUGHXO 2/25/2012 10:29PM

    Love this..I find myself thinking more and listening to my head instead of my tummy...thanks for sharing !

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MNJONES2 2/25/2012 9:57PM

    Thanks so much for the reminder to slow down and wait before eating!! You always hit the nail on head.

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LYNMEINDERS 2/25/2012 9:56PM

    Brilliant....something that i am battling with at quite often half way through something and go...."why am I eating this"

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DEBBIEANNE1124 2/25/2012 8:24PM

    Thanks for sharing this. Loved it

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MISSILENE 2/25/2012 3:53PM

    That is not head hunger ~ Its Yoda. Just teasing. it is a great blog. thanks.. I also have it. grrr emoticon emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 2/25/2012 3:42PM

    Great blog. Thanks!

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KMKANDROSKY 2/25/2012 3:31PM

  Thanks for the motivation today!

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WOWEETOO 2/25/2012 2:31PM

    that's really funny for sure seeing as hunger does originate in the head after
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CELEST 2/25/2012 1:42PM

    Those captions are just toooooo gorgeous and true.

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Part 2 The Ongoing Saga of the Lap band Volcano

Friday, February 10, 2012

Part 2 The Ongoing Saga of the Lap band Volcano

Well here we are going into at least 3 months of do I have a leak? Or don’t I?
For those just tuning in, any questions please view my previous blog UNDER PRESSURE…LAP BAND VOLCANO! It explains all that has happened at my supposedly easy x-ray and whether my lap band is leaking. It left more questions than answers.

I will keep it short.

Saw the Surgeon today who was very precise and careful with his measurements. He could only find 5.5 cc’s in my band when my last experience it was beyond capacity and blew the needle cap off the needle. My band holds 10 cc’s at a time, which I was told you are never to be at.

Anyhow he topped me up to 6.5 so I am at least feeling restriction again. We booked an appointment for April 5 to re-measure. This will be the last check to see before surgery is scheduled.

If no liquid disappears then I continue on as normal. If again it does disappear, surgery is in my future and they would replace my band.

I pray for miraculous self-sealant…yes I would like this leak to have been just misjudgement, but not looking like it. With all the fills etc., I should be having like 8.2 cc’s at least in my band and it is just not there.

Oh well. I am still puttering along and feeling fine. Exercising and trying to eat right.
I will persevere and I will succeed.

Thanks for your care and concern.

Hugs and love,

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SLIMLILA 2/26/2012 1:04AM

    I haven't talked to my sis since she had her surgery either, so all I know is she is feeling fine, how long before you have to go for your first re-check.

Hope everything goes well with you and the surgeon has good news. Keep up the great work..

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PMAY0313 2/21/2012 7:20AM

    Good luck with that! I pray that you will self seal also!
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LYNMEINDERS 2/21/2012 4:24AM

    Prayers & Hugs coming your way....

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JEWELRYLOVER 2/19/2012 3:16PM

    Dear friend! I am sending as many good wishes and prayers your way as I can! I hope all is well with you. I have been offline for awhile, so didn't realize you were having troubles. Nothing is what I know about lapbands, so i have no idea what you go through, but I really am still here for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEWHITE1109 2/17/2012 12:15AM

    Hey Angela,
I'm sorry I'm a week behind on seeing your update. Wow -- that's a bummer, but I'm really glad your surgeon is being so careful about it. I would hate to have to go through a replacement surgery, and pray you won't. You've got a terrific attitude about it, and I know you'll persevere through it...we're here with you for every step of that journey! Sending prayers and hugs your way,
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MNJONES2 2/13/2012 10:47AM

    Angela, I am saying a little prayer that all goes well. You are so courageous and are such a great leader - we are with you!! Glad you are staying positive and active.

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    Angela, I wish you well. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.


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LITTLETEAPOT17 2/12/2012 12:57PM

    WE will get through this WITH you Lovebug. Whatever effects one sister affects us all. Just keep us posted, keep the positive attitude, and keep working the plan. I am so glad you have a wonderful Dr. who is watching out for you.
Hugs, p

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MDGARDENGIRL 2/12/2012 8:24AM

    Hang in there Angela. I know it is frustrating for you! Your Surgeon seems to be taking the side of caution which is good.

xoxoxo Marg

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LINDA! 2/11/2012 8:32PM

    Wishing you all the best!! emoticon

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ELLIE381 2/11/2012 5:26PM

    I am hoping all goes well Angela! Thinking of you. emoticon emoticon

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LIVELAUGHXO 2/11/2012 12:13PM

    Praying that all goes well for you. Stay strong and know the best is coming your way! xo

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BOVEY63 2/11/2012 11:40AM

    Praying that all goes well for you Angela!

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MAMAWLINDALOU 2/11/2012 10:09AM

    Angela you will be in my prayers. Hopefully you will not have to go through surgery again. Hang in there!!

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    Praying all goes well and no problems!

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TEXASFILLY 2/11/2012 8:49AM

    emoticonKeeping you close in thought and prayer that all goes well with you. *hugs* BB~

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BBAMMOM 2/11/2012 12:58AM

    Yes, you WILL persevere and succeed! You are strong, determined, and patient. I know how challenging being in the state of limbo can be. I'm here for you!


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BLUE42DOWN 2/11/2012 12:19AM

    I'm just very glad of one thing - that saline which is leaking isn't something that can cause harm inside (if that's where it's leaking) or outside. So you're not being physically harmed by whatever is going on, just inconvenienced by not having the level of hunger control.


Wishing for the best possible news in a month.

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PURESTILLWATER 2/11/2012 12:06AM

    Hang in there. You have the tools even without restriction. Hugs

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    Angela, I really hope all goes well, too. You are a real trooper with this, and your attitude is so great! Keep your chin up my friend! Love, Lori emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 2/10/2012 10:38PM

    I sure hope everything turns out well Angela.

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HDHAWK 2/10/2012 9:54PM

    I'll send some prayers your way. I'm happy to hear you're on track despite all the struggles. emoticon

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L*I*T*A* 2/10/2012 9:54PM

    praying all turns out well for you....
good for you for hanging in there....
take care...
blessings and hugs...........lita

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MISSILENE 2/10/2012 9:16PM

    I am with you always. Try to measure your food like my Dr. Meany told me to do. emoticon

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KMICHA 2/10/2012 9:05PM

    yikes!!! Praying all goes well!!

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Tuesday, February 07, 2012

Who knew that your feet would shrink?

I went from a 8 EEE to a 7 D.

Talk about an NSV!


No more boring shoes, now we can bring on the sexy shoes!

So start looking for your shoe shrinkage!

I dare you!

I also dare you to post your shoe shrinkage before and after shoes.

After all what is life without shoes?

ok....maybe sexy bare feet!

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LYNMEINDERS 2/21/2012 4:20AM

    Go shoes are awesome....woohoo

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NEWKAREN43 2/18/2012 7:30PM

    This is really funny, I'm swimming in my shoes and blaming stretching...I guess my feet finally caught up with the new lifestyle!

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SLIMLILA 2/9/2012 12:24AM

    So are we talking X-factor and a shoe fetish? LOL......
I learn things from you Angela.. That is great, another body part shrinking, who can complain? I haven't heard from my sister since she went to Hawaii, so I don;t know how her lapband is working...I wonder?

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MISSILENE 2/8/2012 8:19AM

    HI, Maybe once I have my bunions worked on, I might see a change. I have to wear mens sas sneakers. I wear size 10 wide now. No photos available. lol emoticon emoticon

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MIZCATHI 2/7/2012 5:06PM

    Wow, that's interesting! Come to think of it, when i wear some of my shoes from my fat years they flop everywhere! Now I get it!

I still don't want to wear sexy shoes, though - I'm afraid of heights.

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SNOWMAIDEN 2/7/2012 4:37PM

    I lost a size too. Amazing what a difference it can make to choices!

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    My shoes shrank, too! Only I threw my old shoes out before I thought of photographing them! Smart girl! emoticon

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PCOH051610 2/7/2012 4:18PM

    Talk about a wonderful NSV - an excuse to go shoe shopping! I guess your weight does come off in all areas just that we are more aware of it in areas we see the most.

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LAURELSPARK 2/7/2012 2:30PM

    I have the foot curse so my weight loss has made it more difficult to find shoes that don't cost an arm and a leg. I have always worn a 7 narrow but now I often need 7 slim. In my next life I want to have a B width! I weaar a lot of tennis shoes that I order at Fleet Feet.


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BE_PROUD 2/7/2012 1:56PM

    That's crazy but awesome! :D

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DEBBIEANNE1124 2/7/2012 1:49PM

    Yep, yep... I'm down a whole size in shoes.
Good for you.

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BOVEY63 2/7/2012 1:03PM

You are doing so awesome Angela! Have a wonderful day!

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BLUE42DOWN 2/7/2012 12:54PM


Very nice non-scale victory there!

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TEXASFILLY 2/7/2012 12:22PM

    O yeah! When you get fat, you get fat all over. Same thing for shrinking. I went from a size 7B to an 8-1/2W in my shoe size when I got fat. ACK! Congrats on your new sexy shoe size, sunshine girl~ *hugs* BB~ emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MDGARDENGIRL 2/7/2012 12:18PM

    Yes! I've had shoe shrinkage as well!! Woo hooo!!!

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Saturday, February 04, 2012


emoticon Ok, this can be a delicate subject and who else but abrasive me is going to dare broach the subject.

This is my question:


Now for those gentle, naïve fellow sparkers, the X factor I am referring to is S_X, or the Bedroom Bounce.

Now please, I am not intending offence with this subject. I truly want to know or have advice, and really WHO do you ask?

We (I have to say we right, I mean I implies alone which is not the case LOL!) have always been healthy and active. But lately instead of more it seems less and less.

Now I know that more is being done in the day as we are definitely more active with the gym, or in this case, I am more active in taking my health seriously and working out at the gym. So of course getting more tired, and I know my DH is stressed and suffers some depression, which compounds that.

Now I have more self-awareness in the fact that I think I am getting prettier rather than the other way around. There are some down falls to losing weight, especially in the abdominal area, but eventually that will lesson if not go away.

So are we alone in this? Is this normal? Or is it just a phase that will pass?

I am not expecting the energizer bunny! LOL!
Just wondering if you have noticed with your own weight loss journey if you have, more, less or no change.

Please answer in good taste.


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NEWKAREN43 2/18/2012 7:38PM

    I think weight loss has made me less inhibited, I feel like I finally look better...I even bought a lovely lingerie for a night out with my hubby last weekend. I was giddy/nervous and he was impressed that I finally had the self confidence to 'dress up' a little. Men are very visual creatures, it really makes a difference to them...and for me, I felt great! It's been a long time...since I felt that good about me.

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    Take cover -- I've been thinking.
Angela, dear, how about a little shopping trip? A few Valentine surprises to give your sweetie some ideas? Blindfold and handcuffs perhaps?. And there's nothing wrong with incorporating a few items you may already have..
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    Angela, I'm revisiting the topic and just absorbed your saying that the topic is delicate. If you're being delilcate, you're doing it all wrong.

Little Teapot, draw some diagrams of those little moves you mentioned; refresh my memory.

Has anyone noticed that, having lost a significant amount of weight, you no longer worry that there may not be enough hardware holding the chandelier to the ceiling? Arise, frisky monkeys!
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Okay, the serious, sober stuff. If your husband is taking an antidepressant or a combination of things for depression, that may be affecting him. It never occurred to me before, but for you, perhaps you're experiencing hormonal changes related to weight loss? I think your chronological age puts you on the desire upswing, but the other may be offsetting it? Or your husband's depression is affecting you in more ways than one. That would be no surprise, I suppose. Maybe talk to your Gyn when you next have a routine checkup.

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    You're a grown woman, Angela. Stop tiptoeing about an ordinary endeavor. Spell it: S - E - X. Now say it: SEX. What's the big deal? I know you spend time at the gym, but that doesn't mean you have to stick your head in the locker room. That's the province of the boys.

And who has told you that you are abrasive, I should like to know? You bend over backward to be gentle. You want abrasive? Come stay with me for a while.

To answer your question, I don't remember [sssh] s-e-x. At least not with another person in the room. Either way, who cares?

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LITTLETEAPOT17 2/10/2012 3:21PM

    Well you DID!

I am ready to "go" like a rabbit all the time now since I started taking Black Cohosh 540mg!

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Not only has it helped with my mood swings and hot flashes, I am now a sex kitten!! I am all over my hubby!!lol and talk about the weight loss? Now I can do all those little movements like I used to do when we first got married!! Needless to say, all is well here and everyone is happy, fulfilled and burning calories (if you know what I mean) hahahahahaha!!!
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PCOH051610 2/7/2012 4:16PM


I don't have a lot of reliable information to pass along but I wanted to say thank you for bringing this topic up. I am wondering if the depression could be affecting your husband's sex drive? Have you talked about it with him?


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SLIMLILA 2/6/2012 10:07PM

    Since I haven't lost a lot, no report here either, and after over 30 years, there are many other changes here.

But wanted to mention that depending if dh is on meds for his medical condition, that may be causing some of the differences too.

Thanks for the education, I didn't know that's what X-Factor meant... Is it the same for that tv show or not?

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    Hmmmm! My husband also loved it then, and loves it now! Sheesh, you should hear him snicker at the Viagra type commercials as he voices his condolences to the guy in the ad! emoticon I say Hmmmm because my menopause issues sometimes make it less fun for me, but as far as my confidence with my much more fit body, I think that balances it out pretty good! Whew! Did THAT make SENSE? emoticon

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GRENADAGIRL73 2/6/2012 10:11AM

    It took me quite a while, hating the old body and freaked out by the new one, but when I was ready to get back on the scene I did so with more confidence than I ever had.

My X factor is more and it is better (less body and mental issues getting in the way).

I wish I could share what it was like when I got serious about my physical activity, but I was on my own then.

I appreciate your honesty and willingness to put this subject out there.

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BOVEY63 2/5/2012 11:29AM

    Being that I am currently single and not yet back in the dating scene, I'm not much help but am sending lots of positive passion vibes your way. I know you and your hubby will find your way back to a healthy physical relationship.

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MIZCATHI 2/5/2012 7:26AM

    Interesting question and I'm glad to see it. Fortunately my husband loved me both fat and smaller, and definitely pays me compliments almost daily. But we are older now and married for 35 years - and I am full on menopause. Our fun in bed has decreased, but the cuddling and affection has not. Personally, I do feel a bit "dried up like a prune" and need to do something about that - I do want to spice things up - but frankly I'm TIRED! lol

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BBAMMOM 2/4/2012 11:57PM

    You crack me up!

Honestly, I think it's more intense and creative now that I've lost weight but since I'm officially perimenopausal, I do notice that I'm a bit more hormonal. These hot flashes aren't fun!!

I am fortunate that my DH loved it then and loves it now. I say the same but my confidence is higher so I feel better about it now.


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SNOWANGELDIVA 2/4/2012 11:18PM

    I'm going on 37 and there is WAY more X-factor with the weight loss.
At first it was a challenge cuz hubs was insecure with all the extra energy and the changes and so was I.

Combo of self-confidence, but, largely it is more energy because I'm not carrying the 60lbs on my frame.


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DEBBIEANNE1124 2/4/2012 7:30PM

    You are beautiful...

But... good tastin means No comment here honey!

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BE_PROUD 2/4/2012 6:47PM

    I find it's hormonal for me, sometimes its up, sometimes its down... no pun intended lol!

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MISSILENE 2/4/2012 4:18PM

    Short and sweet. It is the same as usual . emoticon

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MDGARDENGIRL 2/4/2012 4:15PM

    I'll be the first to jump in this sack!!

As for you beautiful Angela..... you are definitely hot and sexy in that new dress and I'm sure hubby notices. You wear your JOY in your face and smile, so I know you are feeling all the happiness you should having lost so much weight!

I personally do not think the problem is with the weight loss but with the age. You know you are pre-menopausal and hormones are jumping up and down all over the place. Your body is preparing itself for no more babies.... so guess what that means??? Now not to say that you will dry up into an old prune. You won't. Actually a lot of women say they have better sex lives after menopause. But now is a transition phase and your sex drive may be in a lower gear for a while.

I say to you and ALL women who are in their 40's to get educated about the changes our bodies are going to go through so you can be prepared and not go off the deep end when all hell breaks loose. And prepare DH too! I think they get the worst end of the deal!

Hope this helps with the anxiety.

xoxoxo Dr. Ruth

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