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#38 - Day 15 - Tuesday.

Wednesday, February 08, 2012

Tuesday was a pretty good day. Here's why:

- I drank ten cups of water.
- I exercised for 71 minutes (Zumba).
- I was within my range for calories, sodium, fat, carbs, and protein.
- I slept for eight hours last night.
- I can almost walk again. My thighs have been SO sore from the SuperBowl workout.
- I feel smaller.

I wish TOM would go away! I'm not having any food cravings (except on Monday for the chips and salsa); I just don't have a lot of energy. After having cramps all day, I really don't feel like going home to exercise. However, I am pushing my way through it.

So, the last two weekends, I have been really bad about just eating whenever, whatever I want and not exercising. So, after receiving some great advice from all of you, I briefly talked with my boyfriend about this weekend. I said that Friday nights are going to be my "cheat nights", so I don't feel deprived of food. I'm going to try to stay mindful of the portion though. We usually go out on Friday nights, so he said that will be ok. I also asked him to help me compile a list of places we like to eat. OURMAMAM (thank you!) had suggested I do this. If the restaurant has a website, they usually have nutrition facts on their meals, and my job is to figure out 2-3 items from each restaurant that I can eat that are relatively healthy. After I compile the list, I will keep it in my purse/wallet, so that when we want to get take out, I have my handy dandy list, and it takes all the stress out of eating out. Also, I have added these items to my favorites to make tracking easier. So, thanks again, OURMAMAM, for the great advice!

I will say though that I was deeply ashamed at to how I was treating my body. I've looked up quite a few of the restaurants, and I'm appalled at the high sodium and calories. The good thing is that now I know, and hopefully, I will be able to make better choices.

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Tuesday's Goals:

1. Be active for 30 minutes. emoticon
2. Get eight hours of sleep. emoticon
3. For 2-3 restaurants, pick out 2-3 menu items for my "Restaurant Guide". emoticon

  
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WINNIE1978 2/9/2012 7:05PM

    I love restaurants that post their nutritional information... but sometimes it's a little scary to see what I used to eat and exactly how bad it was for me. It sounds like you've got a good plan for handling your cheat nights from now on! emoticon

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COMMUNITY10 2/9/2012 7:03AM

    I love that idea of choosing a couple restaurants and having items already picked! Can't wait to hear how that wen1t

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JDELMIT 2/8/2012 9:56PM

    I admire you so much. Your planning is great. I find it very hard to let myself have a cheat day b/c it usually leads to a cheat week. I am so glad that you met your goals. keep up the good work.

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MISTYBLUE716 2/8/2012 9:31PM

    You are doing great! emoticonI hear ya about the weekends..I take my "rest" days during the week because I have more time on the weekends and so then I end up working out more...just a thought. That's a great idea bout the restaurants!

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CURVYMAYA 2/8/2012 1:58PM

    Wow, you did awesome! I think it's great you talked to your boyfriend and you now have a tool to help you make healthy decisions when you go out. Got to be prepared. I'm proud of you for pushing past the ickyness of TOM and still working out. Usually I end up on the couch in my pjs under a blanket when I get mine and am nowhere near the gym. So good for you. You have great goals for Wednesday too. Keep it up.

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MISSY994 2/8/2012 1:03PM

  Way to face facts and look up the nutrition info from restaurants!

I'm totally on the same page- wishing Tom would go away! Then I can weigh myself in peace without that freaking jerk messing up my scale.

Anyways, keep up the good work.

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MELLYBEANS0919 2/8/2012 12:33PM

    What a great idea to look up restaurants, pick healthier eats & keep a list with you! It would make things so much simpler as yous aid.
You had a GREAT Tuesday! Way to go!



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JORDANA84 2/8/2012 11:42AM

    One thing that I notice is that being aware of what you are eating and how bad those restaurant items are, whenever you go there you probably won't be able to ignore your mind screaming out that info. There's nothing wrong with a little splurge every now and then.. Weekends are harder for me as well, we can get through them though!!

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BECCAJ98 2/8/2012 10:06AM

    Keep iit up! How's water intake going?

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ASHESS85 2/8/2012 9:43AM

    You did so well! I love that feeling of skinny that you feel when you know you are doing well and have lost some weight. I love the restaurant list idea! Very smart. I'm also going through TOM so I know how hard it is to get the motivation to exerise around this time. Great job on pushing through TOM and on meeting your goals yesterday!

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#37 - Day 14 - Monday.

Tuesday, February 07, 2012

Monday went all right.

- I drank my eight cups of water.
- My exercise: Zumba for 51 minutes.
- I got eight hours of sleep last night!
- I did well with calories.

Here's the reasons why Monday was just all right:

- Hello, TOM. emoticon
- Hello, Cramps. emoticon
- Hello, Irritation (mood). emoticon
- Hello, Cravings (chips & salsa!), but I didn't give in.
- Carbs were a little over.
- My boss snapped at me yesterday.
- I couldn't walk or get up due to the 150 squats from the Super Bowl. This made exercising difficult, but that's ok. I am glad I did it.

Other than the above, it was pretty good. Sunday, I had batch cooked some of the lunches for the week, and I cut up all the fruits and vegetables as well as measured oats for the first part of the week. Needless to say, I was able to relax last night after working out and cooking dinner.

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Here were my goals from yesterday:

1. W1D2 of C25K. - This did not happen as it was rainy and nasty out. Also, I am really not sure if I am ready for this program after my first encounter, so I am thinking about waiting a month or two before trying again. I don't want to give up though. I want to be a runner.

2. Get eight hours of sleep. emoticon

3. Fix Tuesday and Wednesday lunches. emoticon

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Hope every one has a GREAT Tuesday! Eat healthy, get some exercise in, and get some sleep!

  
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MISSY994 2/7/2012 1:25PM

  Stick with it! I hope that you have a wonderful week, despite the tough beginning. Great job not eating the chips and salsa- YAY!

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WINNIE1978 2/7/2012 12:23PM

    I'm sorry you had a crappy day yesterday but you did awesome with the exercise and food! emoticon

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TARAFROMTX1 2/7/2012 11:40AM

    Keep it up you are doing GREAT!!!! TOM sucks!! Hopefully she checks out soon lol emoticon

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MELLYBEANS0919 2/7/2012 11:11AM

    You are doing really awesome! TOM sucks, I hope you are feeling better now. I hope your legs feel better too, squats are sure killer!


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BECCAJ98 2/7/2012 10:42AM

    Keep it up!! You are doing great! You'll start noticing big changes soon!

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DRAGONFLY02 2/7/2012 10:35AM

    Good job! Make sure to focus on the positives and not dwell on the negatives. Let's face it, no one ever has a perfect day every single day of the year. That would be boring, right?? I'm especially impressed with the 51 minutes of Zumba. I wouldn't last 5 minutes. Mostly because I am so uncoordinated, I would trip over myself, fall, whack my face off of something, and then land on the floor unconscious. No seriously, I am that uncoordinated. I hate any aerobic exercise videos because I can't do them. I even stuck to one working out 3 days a week for an entire month and I still couldn't get the movements right. I finally decided doing something I dreaded was not the way for me to get healthy. My aerobic exercise now consists of working out on an elliptical. The machine does all the movement for me, I just provide the "power", ha-ha!

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#36 - The Weekend (Days 11-13)

Monday, February 06, 2012

Friday:

- I got eight bottles of water in.
- I ate pretty good up until dinner.
- I wasn't feeling well, so I didn't get my goal of 30 minutes of exercise.

My boyfriend and I ended up skipping the birthday party. Both of us were exhausted from the week, so we decided to get Mexican, and we came home to relax.

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Saturday:

- I only achieved one goal on Saturday: I went grocery shopping.
- I didn't get my eight cups of water.
- Since I had run out of my healthy food, I was unprepared for Saturday, so I turned to bad food.
- My boyfriend and I did some shopping, so I got some walking in.

I could definitely tell a difference on Saturday that I had messed up. Since I did not eat well nor did I get my water in, I was feeling dehydrated and crappy all day. I definitely learned a lesson.

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Sunday:

- Again, no water.
- I ate a healthy breakfast.
- Lunch and dinner were pizza (not good).
- I got my batch cooking in! (Yay for one goal!)

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I'm thankful for a new week. I'm starting fresh this morning, and I'm very happy about that. Over the weekend, I realized that my body was getting used to the healthy food and the eight cups of water. If I don't get those, I feel run down all day. So, I'm definitely glad I recognized this.

My biggest issue right now is that I do so well during the week, but I screw it up over the weekend. I realize that Saturday, I was unprepared which led to the bad decisions. So, next weekend, I am doing the grocery shopping on Friday night, so I can make better decisions on Saturday.

I live with a boyfriend who likes to go out to eat, hang out with friends, and sometimes drink. I'm having a difficult time balancing that because I feel like, if I don't do those things too, then he will get bored and upset with me. However, in the back of my mind, I feel guilty because I know how hard I worked during the week, and I want to be successful during the weekends too. I'm trying to change my life for the better. I don't want to halfway do it. He knows I am trying to lose weight, but he's always saying "Let's go out to eat!". So, I guess my question is: how do you balance having a life with also trying to lose weight? How do you deal with family members? How are you successful on the weekends?

  
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MARVEEME 2/6/2012 8:46PM

    The #1 thing you MUST make sure you order when you go out to eat is WATER. This is especially true at fast food restaurants. Do not order another drink until you've finished your water. (You may actually ask for more water, because the idea of drinking a whole drink when everyone else at the table is 3/4 done their meal is just no longer appealing and/or seems it might be wasteful.)

#2 All GOOD family friendly restaurants keep one thing in the kitchen (for cranky babies) that they don't mind substituting "instead of fries" and that is (insert drum roll here) APPLESAUCE. Check in with your favorite hot spots for this great option.

#3 Look on the menus for turkey burgers. Instead of ground beef, it's ground turkey. If you're not already loving this option, try it at home. You may discover it's the perfect option......especially with applesauce.

#4 Many chain restaurants have menus on line. Take some time to list 2 things on each of your favorite hot-spot menu options that work well with your food plan. This includes fast food places too, and go ahead and add them to your favorites while you're doing your research. Keep this list where you keep your driver's license. It is your license to drive through and away from restaurants more guilt free than ever before. It can also be a guideline or like cheat notes when at a restaurant that doesn't have their menu online, but carries similar meals to the chains. This list, alone, has saved me LOTS of grief.

#5 Drinking at a bar with friends does not have to be stressful. Light beers from Coors to Amstel are great options if you enjoy beer, and reviewing what a shot of your favorite liquor with water will cost you in calories ahead of time will help you gauge, and nobody will think you're a sissy if you're still drinking your water. No more than one shot per hour and a half, and you'll probably stay sober too.

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COMMUNITY10 2/6/2012 8:29PM

    We'll rock this weekend, I know it! We need too... we can't keep up this healthy lifestyle only on weekdays!

Good luck this week girly!

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JDELMIT 2/6/2012 7:53PM

    I eel the same way about the weekends. During my week I am provided with breakfast and lunch so on the weekend I am lost. I tend to eat the stuff that I am not supposed to and my portions are way out of control. I am working on it though and we will both overcome this. I know that we will. one day we will look back at the struggles that we are having and think how far we have come.

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CURVYMAYA 2/6/2012 5:55PM

    Hey you did reach some goals this weekend which is great. I love, love, love batch cooking. I wouldn't get home cooked meals for myself for the week if I didn't do this.
As far as your boyfriend goes maybe you need to have a serious talk with him. Maybe compromise and go out a little less or at least eat out a little less. My boyfriend is only over on the weekends so I tend to cook yummy, healthy food so that he doesn't want to go out. Hey, I can make healthy Mexican at home. I can also make healthy pizza. Give it a shot. Try and get him on board. He might not even realize he's sabotaging you. If he loves you he will want the best for you. Good luck!

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MISSY994 2/6/2012 4:46PM

  Looking up the food online before you go out to eat is the best way to control it, and making a habit of hitting places with good salads you can look forward to enjoying.

I always gain weight when I'm in love, but then I get embarrassed about how my body looks. This definitely is a balancing act we'll have to learn. Helps to go to the gym w/ the boyfriend, to drink so much water you're not hungry, and to sign up for like 5k races on the weekend together.

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NAIMATANNER 2/6/2012 4:12PM

    Yeah, I can relate to this. My fiance and son are both naturally thin and they can and do eat anything they want. This means that there are always snacky-snacks in my pantry calling my name :( My only suggestion is to sit your BF down and tell him that you are serious about getting healthy, and that it makes you feel bad when you eat bad. Share with him what you've learned so far about healthy eating. Then maybe when y'all go out, you can both choose someplace healthy, or at least something healthy on the menu. (Unfortunately, this approach hasn't worked for me, but it may work for you ;)

I also think it's great that you can make it through the week staying on track. Celebrate this accomplishment, and then make sure that during the week you are very dedicated. I think you will still see results if you are committed during the week and splurge a little on the weekend. Jackie Warner, the fitness guru, allows her clients one cheat meal a week...maybe this would work for you.

GOOD LUCK girl!

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WINNIE1978 2/6/2012 2:46PM

    I was unprepared this weekend too and it lead to a lot of eating out. I need to work on that next weekend!

I stopped doing things with friends that involved food in order to stay on track during the weekends. I am fortunate though because my boyfriend is doing the whole healthy lifestyle thing with me. Good luck finding the balance.

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BECCAJ98 2/6/2012 11:29AM

    When going out, I always try to have a few healthy choices in my mind and then I don't look at the menu. I don't always do it.....I do give in. Weekends are hard because they are not structured. Wwork with your boyfriend and see what ideas you can up with to make them easier.......fitnesss dates or healthy cooking compitions.

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SRBULLARD1 2/6/2012 11:21AM

    My work puts me in restaurants about 7 times a week. Sometimes it is a nice place with lots of options and other times it is a greasy spoon. The easiest thing is to just order something healthy, a grilled chicken or fish dish, a green salad with some sides or a healthy appetizer. If I'm not at a place where healthy is an option I order a slice of cheese pizza, a sandwich with no cheese or mayo and take the top off and eat it open face and maybe only eat half. I forgo the french fries. If the person I'm dining with seems eager for me to try something not so healthy, I take a small portion and nibble slowly on it (I fake my hubby out with this move too). Also, if you know you are going to a place without good options eat a high protein, healthy snack before you go. My metabolism really bonks if I drink so I also have tricks for drinking too, but that is for another time.

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GOOBERIFIC1 2/6/2012 11:06AM

  yea for starting each day fresh. sometimes i have to take it one minute at a time, lol.

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MELLYBEANS0919 2/6/2012 11:03AM

    I ate a frozen meal the other day and it felt horrible, I was sick almost instantly. Lesson learned. As for how to deal with what life throws at you and relationships, it is very hard. I don't have the answer yet. I struggle with trying to eat well too sharing the house with my husband. It's so easy to cave in, and say, "Okay just one," and then eat more. I agree with EMFAPPIER that you cannot always say no to going out because it might derail you. Just pick healthier options, look it up ahead of time and stick to your guns. You can do this!!


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TSABIN1123 2/6/2012 10:41AM

    Weekends are hard for me as well. I find that during the week, everything goes to plan. The weekends I wake up later, eat at different times, and am hungry late at night (cause I don't go to bed until later)..

As for water, I get about 6 glasses in but it is hard. I just don't get thirsty. I have set an alarm on my phone that goes off once every 2 hours reminding me to drink water. That might help you out as well. I now find myself looking for the alarm to go off before it does!

Good luck with weekends, I am sure you will get in a "good groove" soon! Oh, way to go on your body getting use to being healthy! That is a wonderful sign you are doing great!!


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EMFRAPPIER 2/6/2012 9:53AM

    Weekends are always a struggle. I've found that being honest about your feelings and goals is the best way to handle a significant other wanting to go out all the time. My husband didn't know the things about food that I do, so he was pretty interested and ended up making some changes to his eating. Compromise is also necessary. You can't live in a bubble and never go out, but you can try to find healthier places or at least healthy options.

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#35 - Day Ten - Thursday.

Friday, February 03, 2012

First off, thanks to all my WONDERFUL Spark Friends for being so supportive with each blog I have written lately. Some are about good things, and some are not so good, but you all have been there through thick and thin. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it! So, again, thank you!

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Ok, here's my Thursday news:

Water: 11 cups. Yep. Me. I drank eleven cups yesterday. I definitely think I am getting used to it, and honestly, I feel better knowing that this is a positive change. For all my life, I have hated water. I would not drink it at all. So, I would consider it a major improvement!

Food: So, I went to my Mom's for dinner last night. The meal was yummy! It was soooo good that I almost got another plate; however, I stopped myself because I have worked VERY hard this last week or so, and I did not want to ruin it. I'm not sure if I was under or over on my calories since I wasn't exactly sure what was in the gravy. I did track the rice, grape juice, and chicken that I ate.

Exercise: I was only aiming to do 20-30 minutes yesterday since I had somewhere to go; however, I ended up doing 40 minutes of Zumba. I was tired yesterday, but I managed to get through it. Afterwards, I felt good about exercising.

Sleep: Well, I didn't get much last night. Thursdays are the nights when all the good TV shows come on, so I didn't leave my Mom's until about 11pm. I laid down about 11:30pm. So, I got about 6.5 hours. No worries though. I WILL be getting my eight hours tonight!

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Thursday's Goals:

1. Drink eight cups of H20. emoticon (I still can't believe I got 11 in!)
2. Stick to one plate of dinner. emoticon
3. No soda. emoticon --> I did have Grape Juice although I added water to it. I didn't even end up drinking all of it to be honest. Since I am new to drinking water, I can't quite drink it with meals yet, but I am working on it!

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So far, so good. I'm planning to do C25K W1D2 this afternoon, but I'm pretty exhausted from lack of sleep last night and from lots of exercise this week. I've managed to "burn" about 1400 calories this week, and my goal is only 1080 calories. We'll see about this afternoon.

  
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MISSY994 2/11/2012 12:23AM

  I agree that I feel like if I take a rest day I might fall off the wagon. That's an awful feeling though. We could be more confident.

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JORDANA84 2/6/2012 8:00AM

    Try not to worry so much about a few calories over or under. It's more about eating the right things, and also allowing splurges here and there so you don't feel deprived. I drink tons of water too, and I find that when I don't my body feels weird.

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MARVEEME 2/4/2012 8:48PM

    Nice! Can't wait to hear how Friday night's party went. Bet ya worried for naught. Try to avoid comparing yourself to others...you are beautiful and you belong to US!
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If your boyfriend wanted any one of them, he wouldn't be with you now would he? He certainly wouldn't have invited you.....but he did. That speaks VOLUMES to me, as it should to you.
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MISSY994 2/4/2012 7:02AM

  You get up at 6 a.m.? Ugh, just kill me, how do you do it? I LOVE how you said you were tired, but after zumba you felt great, because sometimes I find that looking forward to that feeling is all I have.

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TARAFROMTX1 2/3/2012 4:41PM

    emoticon I think your doing Great!! Way to go all around. Yay for more sleep tonight!

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MELLYBEANS0919 2/3/2012 12:57PM

    11 cups?!! Wow!! Good job on not having seconds of the tasty meal too. You are doing awesome.


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EMFRAPPIER 2/3/2012 10:36AM

    Water is still a struggle for me. I usually drink seltzer. Like water only flavored and with bubbles!

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WINNIE1978 2/3/2012 10:29AM

    Great job with the water! I always hated it too... especially with a meal or if I had a cold. It wasn't until I gave up all drinks that were not water that I started to like it and find it easier to meet my water goal each day. I still really miss sweet tea though!

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#34 - Tomorrow Night.

Thursday, February 02, 2012

Ok, so I originally wasn't going to post anything about this, but I don't know. I think I need to just get it off my chest.

Tomorrow night, my boyfriend and I are supposed to be going to his co-worker's birthday "party". The reason I put this in quotes is because they are going bar-hopping. I already have a plan for tomorrow night, but the issue is - I don't feel beautiful. When I look in the mirror, I see an overweight girl, and that girl I see isn't beautiful. When I put on pants, my stomach bulges out of the top. In all honesty, I sort of look pregnant (although I am not!).

His female co-workers, from what I've seen, are fairly small. They are pretty. I just don't want people to be talking about me although I'm sure the focus won't be on me. I guess I'm just scared of people giving me looks or making comments.

My weight-loss journey isn't just about losing weight although I know that the above paragraph makes it seem that way, but my ultimate goal is to be healthy. I want healthy habits. However, part of me is losing weight for vanity reasons.

So, how would you or do you deal with this? I've talked to him, and he said we didn't have to go, but it's not fair for us to stay at home because I have low self-esteem. I mean I feel good about myself now that I've lost some inches and a pound, but I know what I see in the mirror.

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GOOBERIFIC1 2/3/2012 7:04AM

  that's a hard one for me too. i was actually relieved when i went out the other night, and a new friend was there, and she was bigger than me.. finally i wasn't the biggest at the table. which is really selfish and vain, i know.

my problem is that in my head, i'm still this thin teenager, and when i catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror, it's like what the heck? and i get really self conscious.

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FITMARY 2/3/2012 5:54AM

    Put on your favorite pretty shirt, some nice jewelry, and some "power" underwear and get yourself out there! Have the best possible time. If you find yourself obsessing about something, get yourself out on the dance floor! That will be aerobic exercise too so it's a bonus. Keep smiling because that's the most beautiful, sexiest thing of all.
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FOXY13445 2/2/2012 11:00PM

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It is absolutely ok to want to be happy with who you see in the mirror!

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JDELMIT 2/2/2012 8:10PM

    I feel the same way when I go out which is the reason that I do not really go out anymore. I try and remember just like you that even though I feel like every one is looking and talking about the fat girl they are not. My best advice to you and to myself is that we should just go out and have fun anyway. Other people feel just like we do no matter what size they are or what they look like. You are a great wonderful person who is beautiful. I am sure that your boyfriend and all your other friends think the same.
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COMMUNITY10 2/2/2012 8:01PM

    I can relate beyond belief. I think most of us can. You need to focus on HOW MUCH you have done to make yourself healthy. You WILL get to your goal of being healthy. Vanity plays a huge part in weight loss, and that's okay. We all want to feel amazing and look amazing.

You will look amazing and hopefully have fun. I think once you get out you'll have a great time. Focus on the fun you and your boyfriend will have. Think about how amazing he is and what a supportive guy you have.

You are beautiful... regardless of how you see yourself!

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NAIMATANNER 2/2/2012 5:47PM

    I know EXACTLY how you feel. The last time I was in Miami, all the beautiful, skinny, perfect women wreaked havoc on my self-esteem. You have to remember that your boyfriend chose you for a reason. He probably LOVES you for you, and loves your body. He probably doesn't care about any muffin top you might have. You need to try to look at yourself the way he does. Instead of thinking about what's wrong with yourself, try thinking of all the many things you LOVE about yourself. Focus on those things :) Also, focus on having fun while you're out. Once you resolve to just relax and have fun, you'll feel better.

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BECCAJ98 2/2/2012 4:40PM

    I agree with the other comment......you are going to be way harder on yourself. Hhe thinks you're beautiful and wants to be seen with you. I struggle with the same thing. Go n have a good time......no one will even realize you are bigger. And you never know, one of the guys may have a 900 lb girlfriend!

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LIL_EZZY 2/2/2012 4:39PM

    Look I know how you feel. We were supposed to attend a wonderful friends wedding last weekend and I made up some lame excuse as to why we couldn't go (in advance of course) but it was because of the way I feel. I really think you should go you will probably have a really fun time and you may even make great friends. People do judge but you really need to cut them so slack also. Not every one is mean and worry about appearances. I think you are so beautiful and you probably are kind and caring and great fun aswell. Give it a go. You may surprise yourself.

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CECINOAKLAND 2/2/2012 2:33PM

    Wow, I can totally relate to this.

My husband is in a rock band and the other band members all have hot hipster girlfriends/wives. I always feel stressed about going out with them and being judged (or having my husband judged for being with me), but I am pretty sure I'm way more critical of myself than they are. I usually end up having a good time.

So, I say you should go. It will never be as bad as you think it will. And why punish your boyfriend? If he wants to bring you, it means he is happy for his coworkers to know you're his gal.

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