Monday, November 14, 2011
My only daughter Amanda was married on 11-11-11. It was a very special day filled with many emotions. This has been a very eventful year for my family. Public speaking has never been a love of mine but because of my fathers death, my sons marriage and now my daughters marriage I have found myself standing before a couple hundred people 3 times in 2011.
This speech was definitely the most difficult to write but I spoke from the heart which is all that really mattered.
Today is a celebration of love which started 23 years ago with the birth of Amanda. She was the first girl in three generations of the Becker family and was the little girl her Omi had been waiting for. Even though their time together was a short 5 years Amanda was Omi’s “little princess”. She would be so happy for you today Amanda.
We have a verse on a picture in our home that I would like to share with you today.
Ecclesiastes 3 verse 1-8.
To everything there is a season
A time to every purpose under the heaven
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to gain, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
Amanda and Matthew today is the beginning of your time together and our wish for you is many years of love and happiness.
I found this poem that is coincidentally titled “Amanda”. The author Loretta Taylor seems to have written my very thoughts.
They laid you in my arms all tiny & new
Then god whispered in my ear
I have someone special for you
A bundle of joy
all blonde hair and blue eyes
and you held our hearts with invisible ties
Cooing, talking walking and running
before we knew it school was beginning
A mischievous child with a giving soul
you were into everything and on the go
A gangly teen with a shy grin
through the giggles we saw the beauty within
Now you are off to chase dreams of your own
Amanda on a mission is something to behold
You will follow your dreams in whatever way
But in our hearts you will always stay
For wherever in this world you may roam
in our hearts you will always be home
Life is not about ends, but new beginnings
and you have found the love with whom you'll be living
For life is a circle that never ends
and with you a new circle begins
One day God will whisper in your ear
about a child you will hold so dear
Manda, thanks for the gifts of love and laughter
Our wish for you a love that lasts forever and after
I smiled at her and told her I loved her.
I really felt like I had just lost my daughter.