Monday, October 08, 2012
I had a nice quiet birthday weekend. Stayed in my jammies and fuzzy slippers. I haven't done that since I was a teenager. It was so relaxing, no stress, no drama. I watched several favorite DVDs, reminisced over old photo albums, gave myself a facial, mani & pedi, called a friend or two, paid my furbabies some much needed extra attention, caught up on some emails, letters, and even with some Sparkfriends as well as pinned to my heart's content on PINTEREST. And I enjoyed every minute!
NOW, it's back to reality! I have a pretty full week ahead. Halloween craft projects that need starting, the last of the hallway wallpaper will be coming down (Hallelujah), need to order the grandson's Halloween costume (Batman) as well as some winter clothing for me, dropping off some books I no longer have use for to the local library and clothing to the Share House, setting up our haunted yard display as well as decorating the house SPOOKY STYLE, taking our dog in to get her stitches and Elizabethan collar removed for the second time (first time didn't take), attending our grandson's soccer game on Saturday, and of course the piece de la resistance - spending all day Saturday through all day Sunday with the grandson while his mom is out of town. A movie of his choice, picking out pumpkins and scarecrows at the Farmers Market, making Halloween treats as well as a couple kid-friendly Halloween crafts and some spooky DVDS are on the agenda. Can't wait!
Have a great week Sparkies!
Friday, October 05, 2012
Well first off I survived my birthday dinner the other night with the daughter, husband and grandson. The daughter threw out a few zingers but no major disturbances so I count myself fortunate. After some more Halloween shopping (can't have enough ghouls and goblins) we had a nice dinner at our favorite Japanese Steak House. I had the Hibachi Chicken & Shrimp and enjoyed every bite. YUM! Afterwards we went to Starbucks for coffee (vanilla milk for the grandson) and I brought along the cake that DH made for me (chocolate with vanilla frosting) and some sprinkles so our grandson could take part in decorating it.
We were all pretty full from dinner so we each just had a small piece than split the remainder. The daughter took home half for her and her son to enjoy later. DH and I took home the other half. I had one small piece yesterday with lunch and will have the last piece today with a candle in it to celebrate my actual B-day today. DH happily has eaten the rest.
My daughter gave me a card, and my grandson made one for me along with a picture of a really big fish in the ocean. It is now displayed on my refrigerator. He also gave me a small plastic Snoopy figure with candy inside. And of course like a typical 5 year old he asked to have the candy. DH gave me 3 roses, a card and gift card to Michaels, one of my favorite stores. I could actually live there if they would let me and be quite happy. I also have received cards and/ or gifts from my nieces, sister in laws and cousin along with phone calls from friends. So all in all I can't complain, it has been nice. As for today I am just doing whatever I want. No stress or drama allowed, just enjoying my 54th birthday. I chose not to go out to dinner again tonight so will be eating in with the DH. Roast chicken, mashed potatoes and corn on the cob along with salad is the plan. And of course my last sliver of cake to last me another year.
Tuesday, October 02, 2012
My daughter called this morning and said I could take my grandson to dinner tomorrow night to celebrate my birthday. She then said he could also sleepover next weekend as she will be out of town on one of the days. I told her thank you and than asked if she would be joining us at dinner tomorrow. She said no, she was still too offended by yesterday's phone conversation. I tired to explain why I was so upset yesterday when we talked but she didn't want to hear it. She went on to outline her plans for her birthday next week that she has made with her boyfriend, son and friends. Her dad and I were not included in any of them which wasn't a total surprise. She then ended the call with a few unkind remarks directed towards me. Typical.
A few hours later after scrapping more of the hallway wallpaper off the walls while shredding some stress and clearing my head in the process; I decided to call her back. And NO, I am not crazy. At least I don't think I am. I conveyed to her that after some careful thought I felt that with her dad and I missing out on her birthday next week and her missing mine this week, this would not help our highly dysfunctional relationship one little bit. I said it may proved to be a road we don't want to go down. And once done, it can't be undone. I told her I believe it would bother both of us deeply. So I suggested to her that she might want to reconsider joining us for dinner tomorrow. And that she was welcome. I went on to say she didn't have to answer now. To just think about and if she decided to come along than meet us at 4 and if she decided not to, text her dad tomorrow and let us know. She responded pretty quickly by saying, she would be there. End of call.
Some might wonder why I decided to do this after all that has transpired between her and I. The only answer I can give is I felt it was the right thing to do. Based more on logic than emotion I came up with a peaceful resolution regardless of how my daughter feels towards me. And I left the decision whether to accept it or not in her hands. Whether tomorrow evening goes well or not, I will know I did what I thought was best. My relationship with my daughter is pretty much rock bottom at this point. I honestly feel if we start intentionally missing out on birthdays than soon that will become special events, holidays, things involving the grandson, and so on. Nothing good would come of it. It would only lead in one direction - DOWN. And there really is not much further down we can go before there is absolutely NOTHING.
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