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A Little Motivation

Sunday, September 30, 2012

Found some quotes this morning that I liked. Thought I would share!













And I absolutely LOVE this last one. It's so TRUE!


Happy Sunday my friends! Make it a good one!! emoticon

  
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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/30/2012 11:31PM

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CRAFTINWIFE 9/30/2012 5:44PM

    emoticon for sharing!

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PMFISH 9/30/2012 4:30PM

    Thanks for sharing. Great quotes.

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LKWQUILTER 9/30/2012 2:50PM

    I am like you and love that last quote. It is so true. You can't go forward if you don't let go of the past. ((HUGS)) Sallie and have a super Sunday too.

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BUSYGRANNY5 9/30/2012 11:10AM

    I love quotes that have meaning and these are awesome! Thanks so much for sharing these today!!

Have a blessed day!!!

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NANAW12001 9/30/2012 10:41AM

  I love these, thanks.

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HEATHOG 9/30/2012 9:13AM

    Thank you--very inspirational (plus I love the background photo on your SparkPage!

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MIMIDOT 9/30/2012 9:05AM

    Loved the quotes. Especially "You can have results or excuses but not both" Thanks for sharing.

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Spooky FUN

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Had a very nice time with the grandson yesterday. Our favorite Halloween store we learned unfortunately, has moved. emoticon However we visited 2 others. Both were super large but only 1 had exactly what we were looking for. A LARGE amount of costume choices and accessories PLUS a HUGE amount of SPOOKY STUFF for decorating the house and yard. It definitely made a return trip next week A MUST!

The grandson, DH and I had a lot of fun exploring our new favorite store and making a mental TO PURCHASE LIST for next week's return visit. I did however pick up a black cauldron last night. I was in desperate need of a new one! emoticon As well as a pumpkin craving kit, some haunted netting for the dining room table and a few scary window clings for the bathroom mirrors. I simply LOVE Halloween and can't wait to get started on decorating! I have also found a great many ideals for the holiday on PINTEREST. From recipes to pumpkins and everything in-between. PINTEREST if you don't know already is a website which allows you to save (pin) things to a particular board you add to your page, like for instance Halloween, Christmas, Easter, vacation ideals, favorite quotes, clothing, recipes, fitness, etc that you either like or love. It is quickly becoming my new addiction. And I highly recommend checking it out. I plan to make a few of the items I have found and add them to our yard display this year.

All in all it was a good day. I got in some walking too which is a plus. This morning my legs are sore so I know I worked something. As for today I am going to try and tackle some more of the wallpaper with the husband as well as help him remove the roots of the bush and hedge he chopped down last week. His promise that he would have them out by Monday didn't happen. So today, they WILL be removed!

  
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WANABEFITNANA 9/26/2012 7:02PM

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MAYBER 9/26/2012 6:14PM

    Halloween is getting to be a big decoration holiday
Enjoy your spooky mood and have fun
One day at a time
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CRAFTINWIFE 9/26/2012 5:46PM

    emoticon Sounds like a fun day!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/26/2012 3:57PM

    Glad that you had such a good time and found a NEW favorite store. It's great to hear of someone who likes Halloween as much as I do. You'll have to post pictures! I'd love to see them. emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 9/26/2012 10:45AM

    So glad yesterday was such a good day Sallie and you, dh, and grand had such fun. Have fun today too. ((HUGS))

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SABLENESS 9/26/2012 10:44AM

    Love to decorate for Halloween! I have lots of Halloween recipes too! FUN! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Weigh In

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Another pound is gone! I am happy that I lost something this week considering the last few days I have eaten more than necessary. Like I said in my last blog I haven't binged, just eaten a little more here and than, enough for me to take note of. But as we all know those little extras can add up and bite back hard if not watched carefully. They didn't for me this weigh in but if I don't put a stop to them, they soon will. So that is the plan for this week, controlling the little extras.

Today DH and I plan to take the grandson to check out Halloween decorations at a few of our favorite stores than stop for some dinner before returning him home at 7. Lucky for us the little guy loves the spooky holiday as much as we do. Who knows DH and I may purchased some extra goodies for our haunted yard display. It won't be long now before he and I will begin the 2 day task of setting it up. It is worth it though just to see how much the kids and their parents enjoy it each year.

And lastly I want to thank my fellow Sparkies for commenting on my last blog. specifically DAWNWATERWOMAN, 1CRAZYDOG, LKWQUILTER, and RURAL3. Your support has been amazing, your friendship something I certainly cherish and you definitely gave me some things to think about which I appreciate more than you know. emoticon

  
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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/26/2012 2:08AM

    I love that you have a haunted yard. My neighbors in Tidewater and I used to do that together. Here, it just isn't something we've been able to do. However, maybe this is the year to do something. My husband and I like Halloween so much that we got MARRIED on that date! It's a big favorite around here. Thanks for sharing.

Congratulations on the pound lost! WooHoo! Keep up the good work.

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SAILING2GOAL 9/25/2012 12:47PM

    Celebrate your success! emoticon

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RURAL3 9/25/2012 12:21PM

    emoticon on losing that pound considering all the stress. Be blessed! You are loved.

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MTPOETNH 9/25/2012 11:08AM

    Congrats on your great success in your journey- not only your wgt loss so far but also your increased awareness of what you are eating .. emoticon
Controlling those "little extras" is a great goal..continue the great work emoticon

Have fun with your grandson at the Halloween store- sounds like you enjoy this holiday.. I used to live on a very busy street and had lots of Trick or Treaters and had fun doing the "spooky" decorating..your blog reminded me of how much fun I used to have and how much my kids LOVED homes like yours who made the holiday all the more fun.Thanks for this and for all those kids /families that get to have fun at your home. emoticon emoticon emoticon Peggy


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RICHILA 9/25/2012 10:12AM

    It is your awareness that you went a little over that will make the difference in the long run. I know that, if you are like me, at one time you would not have noticed. emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 9/25/2012 8:24AM

    Congrats! Best wishes for continued success.

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LKWQUILTER 9/25/2012 8:19AM

    Have fun today Sallie. Keep on keeping on!!! (((HUGS)))

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ELRIDDICK 9/25/2012 8:15AM

  Thanks for sharing

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A Need To Vent

Monday, September 24, 2012

My daughter said something to me the other day that has shook me up. I have been unable to let it go. I have noticed my eating is off, not horribly but enough for me to notice a change the past couple of days. I haven’t been sleeping well either. And I have been so moody it is not funny. I don’t think I have any more tears left to cry but you never know. So I hope by blogging about it I can release it or at least some of it so it will no longer mess with my head, and heart.

Friday I called my daughter to try and set some time up with the grandson for this coming week. In the midst of the conversation she responded to something I said with, she will not always be available to me in particular when I call. To which I have jokingly said it wouldn’t surprise me if she didn’t have a list posted next to her phone of 1001 reasons why she can’t talk to her mom and next to that another list of 1002 reasons why she hates me. She replied she doesn’t hate me even though she has said it and meant it in the heat of the moment, she only strongly dislikes me. She went on to say she actually has more than 1002 reasons why she feels this way. I asked her to list them but she would only say one of them is that I am ridiculous. She wouldn’t elaborate. She then made a giant leap and stated I had alienated her dad against her the other night at dinner. When I asked her to explain how, she said I wouldn’t accept her decision not to allow her son dessert and wouldn’t let my husband have his so therefor she is sure that puts a riff between her dad and her. I told her I didn’t stop anyone from having dessert, I only suggested they take their cake home so our grandson didn’t have to sit and watch his Pepa eat a slice that he couldn’t take part in. After all it wasn’t just any old dessert; it was a belated birthday celebration cake. I than said DH had no issue with having his cake at home and that he said nothing about it to me on the car ride home nor blamed me for anything. She countered by saying how would I know if he was upset or not, that her dad never tells me how he truly feels about anything. I said that I disagree; I told her that he tells me how he feels about people and situations all the time. His only problem is he finds it difficult to tell others how he feels. To which she replied, “YEAH SURE HE DOES MOM! JUST LIKE HE SHARED WITH YOU HOW HE TRULY FEELS ABOUT ALL THOSE WOMEN HE CHEATED ON YOU WITH A FEW YEARS AGO.”

To say these words of hers stung is an understatement. I hesitated for a minute out of sheer shock but then said to her, “You want to talk about cruel; what you just said was exactly that. This conversation is over!” And I hung up. Later I told my husband what she had said. He called her and asked her why she has to be so hateful to me? He said her choice of words really hurt and that she had no right to bring up such a painful memory for me. He said he and I are trying hard to get pass a bad time in our marriage and that she certainly hasn’t helped matters. He told her she has gone way beyond the line this time and she needs to apologize to me.

The time in which my daughter spoke of was in 2009 when I caught my husband cheating via his cellphone and internet. I had just found out I had Diabetic Retinopathy and was undergoing some rather intense and scary laser eye surgeries. During this time (4 months) and for approx 6 months afterwards my husband had ongoing sexually explicit relationships with women on the computer and his phone. One of which he actually said he loved and sent flowers too. None were ever in person but cheating is cheating. We went through 2 counselors before he finally stopped. It was heartbreaking and very painful. I still have trust issues to this day but like my weight, my relationship with my husband is a work in progress. For my only child to bring this disturbing time in my life up in such a sarcastic and uncaring way was the bottom of the barrel even for her. She herself should know how much her words would hurt since she experienced a similar situation with her ex but nevertheless she chose to say them anyway. She has finally hit an all-time low. And whether my husband believes so or not, I feel she owes me an apology at the very least. Currently she has yet to offer one.

I not only get to relive those horrible memories and feel the heartache once more but realized that it was my daughter and her utter hatefulness that helped to bring them back to the forefront. If she doesn’t hate me like she said in the above conversation, than what would you call her latest action? I certainly wouldn’t call it LOVE.

  
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Hang tough!
Please see the email I sent you.
God Bless you!
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RURAL3 9/24/2012 8:32PM

    I agree with the others, you need to find some way to let it go. I am in no way implying that any of this was your fault but you do need to keep one thing in mind. When you ask someone a question, you need to be prepared to hear the answer as it might not be something you want to hear. I think you played into your daughter's hand. And she went there and beyone. emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 9/24/2012 1:09PM

    Someone used to tell me that when someone lashes out, they are trying to make their own hurt go away. I have no idea what your dd is dealing with but for some reason, she takes it out on you. If you can just let it go, forgive her like Dawnwaterwoman said, it will help you. I do know how hard that is to do as I had to deal with something years ago (37) and I know how hard it is to "trust" again. I also know that when you stay "mad" at someone, it literally poisons your body and mind. You can do it and know that it does take a lot of strength to keep on trying and working things out. It does sound like your dh is trying and that should count for a lot. (((HUGS))) dear friend, and keep on keeping on. You are a very loving, valuable, giving lady.

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1CRAZYDOG 9/24/2012 10:34AM

    I think DAWWATERWOMAN hit the nail on the head with her advice. Only want to add I'm sorry for the pain those awful words have caused and wish you peace to work through it. HUGS.

Once trust is broken it takes a very, very long time to earn back. It is a very difficult process. I admire your courage for moving forward.



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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/24/2012 10:24AM

    Words are powerful weapons. I'm sorry that your daughter chose to use hers to hurt you so badly. Pray about it. Let it go. You're right, she owes you an apology, but you don't need to wait for it to let it go & forgive her. The longer you hang on to the pain & resentment the more the wound will fester & infect. Do something nice for yourself today. Read a book, take a bubble bath, buy YOURSELF some flowers... don't dwell on her toxic words or the indiscretions of the past. Your husband appears to be loving & supportive now. Embrace that & cherish it. Spark On my friend.

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DLDROST 9/24/2012 10:13AM

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Recap of Yesterday

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Well the yard clearing went well yesterday. DH and I got all the debris from the rain cleaned up. I even motivated my husband to clear out a bush and holly hedge that had been damaged by a harsh winter 2 years ago and has never looked right since. He still has to remove the roots though but promises to have them done by Sunday or Monday at the latest.

The book shopping went well too. Had a lot of fun selecting Halloween books and Stage 1 & 2 readers with the grandson to help him with his reading. Even found one based on his favorite book Goodnight Moon titled Goodnight Goon. emoticon "Goodnight Monsters everywhere!" So cute!! Even got along with the daughter while there. We sat and talked for a bit while the grandson and his Pepa looked at the Batman toys on display.

Dinner at Olive Garden after the bookstore was however another story altogether. I guess there is a limit to how long my daughter can be civil when I'm around. She seemed to become agitated and anxious as time passed. At one point any question I asked regardless of what it was concerning was answered with, "What does it matter? or Why do you need to know?" My husband actually said to her that I was only asking a simple question and she need not become so hostile. Of course the meaner she became towards me the more she became agitated at her son too. Nothing he did was right. She even told the little guy he couldn't have dessert or even a bite of his Pepa's chocolate cake which my husband wanted to have to celebrate his belated birthday. That went over well. emoticon Last night was sorted of a redo for DH. His actual birthday back in August was destroyed by our daughter's explosive temper. DH never got to blow out a candle or have any of the cake I had made and brought over to her house prior to us going out that day. Our daughter was fully aware we would be trying to celebrate again last night. So for her to not allow her son to take part in the dessert was, well, it seemed very unfair. I finally suggested that no one have dessert after dinner, that instead DH, her and my grandson order what they want and just take it home. After all it just wasn't right in my eyes for DH to have cake and our grandson not be able to have anything. They agreed and took home their desserts. Which of course left me wondering what the difference was? If she was going to allow the boy to eat his dessert at home than why not at the restaurant? Doesn't make any sense to me. Anyway to say dinner was uncomfortable would be an understatement. I guess I need to learn as well as accept that even when things seem to be going well with the daughter the situtation can and usually does change on a dime and go from good to bad or worse in 3.9 seconds. emoticon

  
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LKWQUILTER 9/23/2012 4:48PM

    I enjoyed catching up with you Sallie and glad you and your dh are getting things done together. That sure helps when both are working on something together. Really sorry about the supper and dessert. I will keep praying that something will wake your dd up and open her eyes. ((HUGS)) dear friend.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/20/2012 9:06PM

    I agree, it sounds like your daughter is bi-polar. Both of my sons are bi-polar & their behavior mimics hers. Sorry that the dinner stunk. However, glad that the rest of the day went well. You & DH seem to be doing well with your clean up & yard work... love ya

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BRENDABUNNY 9/20/2012 4:21PM

    I love when DH and I get yardwork done and it looks nice too..who woulda knew?? emoticon ...Lol
Hang in there with the daughter issue she is just her and hopefully someday she will see what a wonderful mother she has before its too late.
I seriously think by all the things she does she is bi-polar,but I know theres nothing you can do...so keep your chin up my friend emoticon

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SABLENESS 9/20/2012 11:10AM

    I'd do some major research and reading on people with serious control issues. Give thanks for the good.

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RURAL3 9/20/2012 8:38AM

    Its probably best to just keep your visits with her short. She obviously can't handle real visits and it doesn't seem to do well with your grandson either since he is also getting some of the backlash. Just keep doing what YOU can and and pray for her daily. emoticon

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LINDAMARIEZ1 9/20/2012 8:01AM

    I worked in the yard all day yesterday!

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