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Taking Things As They Come

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Received a $100 bill from the nutritionist yesterday. So much for my insurance covering the appointments. This latest info along with my husband quitting his job recently definitely puts an end to seeing her again. Oh well, such is life! Never did receive a referral from my doctor for a therapist and I guess it's for the best now as I won't be able to afford one.

I am planning to weigh in (my scale) on Monday. Haven't done so in what seems like forever (late April) so it will be interesting to see if anything mildly Earth shattering has happened. My clothing feels loser so I know I have lost something but how much is anyone's guess. I am preparing myself however for whatever number appears as I know there will be a difference between what the scale at the hospital noted back in April and what mine will be Monday. Nevertheless I will accept what is and move on from there!

Had a major blow out with the daughter yesterday over a choice of words. Mine not hers. She made a comment, I responded with what I thought was okay, and well, she didn't like it. So World War 6, 892,131 broke out with her basically flipping out on the phone and hanging up. Tried as I usually do to call her back and straighten things out but she wouldn't answer the phone. Later she texted her dad with a stronger worded synopsis of how horrible of a person I am and she much rather I die as soon as possible. She certainly doesn't hide her feelings, I'll give her that. For someone who said she would like things to be better between her and I just a few months, she definitely hasn't made many strides in that direction. Perhaps she goes a bit longer between explosions nowadays but she is as unpredictable and lethal as usual when it comes to me.

Between her tirade yesterday and disagreements this week with the husband, I am laying low this weekend. Staying as much to myself as humanly possible. My mood is not the greatest to say the least so it's definitely for the best. Wouldn't want to fuel the fire any further. I have family outings coming up this week on the 3rd and 4th, and right now I am NOT looking forward to either of them. Would cancel my appearance altogether if it weren't for wanting to spend a little time with the grandson.

On the home redo front, all the staining in the kitchen is now complete and I am moving on with painting the walls in the laundry room than kitchen beginning Monday. Over the range microwave installation, countertops, sink, lighting, and flooring are still pending. Will be adding them in the order they are stated in the coming months. I am hoping by Christmas the kitchen will be completely finished. We will see!

For now I am just taking things one day at a time and trying hard to stay focused on home projects, eating right and exercise. The only things it seems I have even a little control over.

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HEALTHYSLIM2 7/5/2013 4:31PM

    UGH. Hang in there Sallie!
You did make me smile with your "World War 6, 892,131" comment!
At least we can still find some humor in the ongoing unacceptable behavior. Although I wish your daughter would wake up before it's too late. She is going to destroy so many good things with her unwillingness to be more accountable and responsible with her words and deeds.
A friend of mine's husband has recently started studying "non-violent communication" (also called NVC). Apparently it is an entire movement, as so many of us suffer from actual 'violence' in how we communicate. It sounds so interesting to me, so I am planning to read the book. I'll let you know what I think afterwards.

In the meantime, sounds like the kitchen is coming along nicely. I continue to admire your Martha skills and approach to life. Unfortunately, I am the exact opposite of you these days. But I am determined that by the end of July, my house will be in better order. With you as my motivation, I am committing to one project or area per day!!
Wish me luck... emoticon emoticon

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GOLFGMA 6/29/2013 8:26PM

    So sorry, you have this stress. Try not to let it take over your thoughts. Good that you have plenty to do with kitchen remodeling. emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 6/29/2013 8:21PM

    Sallie, I reckon we need to join forces. I have 2 daughters that are angry with dh so I am involved indirectly. Like Nancypat1 said, play phone tag and let your answering machine do its thing on your end. Also, I just wait them out and let them call when they are ready and not "bother" them. I know that our son will let us know if they are really sick/something bad is going on.

Hey, with all the exercise and remodeling work you are doing, you are gaining muscles so that will weigh more but your body will be smaller--hence the loose clothes. You are doing GREAT!!!

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NANCYPAT1 6/29/2013 6:01PM

    My sons were both a little volatile (especially Ed) and I have been called everything from A to Z - sworn at and been told that I should die, they were going to kill me, each other, etc. My solution and one I have offered to others is to call when you KNOW that you will not get an answer, leave a loving simple message like, "I love you and hope all is going well for you." then when and/if the person calls back, YOU DON'T answer - simply play phone tag for a while with ONLY positive messages and eventually the drama dies down and one day you actually connect and all is okay again. Worth a try - it has worked well for decades for me and not only with my sons.

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BRENDABUNNY 6/29/2013 4:28PM

    Hang in there things will get better hopefully emoticon

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KBLASEN 6/29/2013 1:54PM

    For what it's worth my mom has been everything to me from my best friend to my worst enemy. I've had years where we talked every day and a year where I didn't talk to her at all. Right now, we're somewhere in between, not as close as we've been in the past, but I don't hate her don't feel like anything is forever! It can change. All you can control is your end of the relationship and being open to change when it comes around. I hope your week goes better!

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FATASHNOMORE 6/29/2013 1:18PM

    One day at a time, hang it there.

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Thursday This n That

Thursday, June 27, 2013

First off, thank you to all the Sparkies who commented on the previous kitchen cabinet/ paneling blog. I appreciate the opinions and advice so much. DH and I have decided to put the wall color up first beginning this weekend and see at that time whether or not to paint the paneling at the top of the cabinets the same color as the walls or just leave it be. We have definitely decided NOT to stain it as most of you suggested not to do.

Yesterday, we got a scare concerning our daughter. She called us on the way to the ER. Her thigh was completely numb when she woke up yesterday morning and the numbness continued to spread upward to include her hip, buttocks, upper back, shoulder, complete arm and hand, all on her left side. She has no other symptoms. At the ER they did a barrage of lab work which all came back okay. Her heart checked out okay as well. They ran a CT scan on her head which showed no aneurism nor blood clot in her brain. They have ruled out anything immediately life threatening and have referred her to a neurologist for further evaluation and diagnosis. They suggested among other things such as a herniated disk, a small tumor pressing on nerves, an electrolyte imbalance, etc, that it could be an early indication of MS. emoticon Why a doctor would offer up that particular information without knowing for sure is beyond me as it has only served to scare her. Now that is all she can think about. Her dad and I can only hope the neurologist appointment will be soon and that he or she will quickly come up with a correct diagnosis for whatever is causing the numbness. Praying in the meantime of course that it is not serious.

As for the continuing home improvement side of things. I have stained the hall staircase banister and railing the same color as my kitchen cabinets. The darker color looks really good against the new wall color. I still need to select which displays I want for the walls (not too many as the hallway is not a large one) than finally the hallway will be complete.

DH on the other hand seems to be on a staining frenzy and now wishes to stain (same color as the kitchen cabinets) the trim (1 entryway, a bi-fold doorway and exterior doorway) in the Family room which is paneled the same as the top of our kitchen cabinets. Right now the trim is the original stain which is a worn out but warm walnut shell color. I have not given him the go ahead just yet but I am thinking about it. It would definitely be a darker trim if we go ahead and I think that may be why I am hesitating. emoticon

The husband and I also got a little time with the grandson this week (Monday). We picked him up from VBS and took him to see Man of Steel which was a really good movie. Now little man wants to be Superman for Halloween and trick or treat with "his crew" (what he calls the adults who are the closest to him, in full costume...
DH/ Pepa: Iron Man
Mommy: Supergirl
Daddy: Captain American
Mom's BF/ Dan: The Hulk
Big Guy friend/JB: Batman
Big Guy friend/ Jeff: Hawkeye
ME: SUPER MEMA! emoticon Of course, he says, I have to make my own cape.

emoticon Can you imagine this group of rag tag Superheros walking down the street. What FUN! We only need to talk the others into dressing their part. emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 6/27/2013 7:56PM

    emoticon with continuing on the house re-modeling. Hubby's can get impatient when they are working on something--they had 2 speeds--full speed ahead or stop! That is way my dh does. LOL

Praying for daughter. I know that is a worry to all of you but try to wait until you find out for sure what is going on. With her busy schedule between work and school, it may be something as simple as her body saying it needs more rest. Got fingers crossed too.

Your Halloween costumes sound neat. Can't wait to see pictures of the group when you are all dressed up. Have fun making all those costumes.


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CRAFTINWIFE 6/27/2013 5:30PM

    emoticon Prayers for your daughter.

The costume idea sounds fun, hopefully everyone is easily talked into it.

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CATLADY52 6/27/2013 4:12PM

    I think the costumes for all would be a neat thing (if everyone goes along with the plan). emoticon

I hope your daughter is going to be ok. emoticon

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IMAVISION 6/27/2013 1:37PM

    I have (& will continue to) lift prayer on your daughter's behalf.

The doctor who was so right ready to project possible causes for her concern was so terribly wrong in doing so.

God bless!

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SABLENESS 6/27/2013 12:58PM

    Hope your daughter finds out what was going on. The possibility of MS would scare anybody.

At least you have several months before Halloween to twist arms and sew! emoticon

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MAGIK0731 6/27/2013 12:25PM

    Hope your daughter is ok!

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Kitchen Redo - NEED INPUT

Friday, June 21, 2013

Here are quick pics of our kitchen cabinet redo. I think the NEW cabinet color is definitely an improvement over the old. We are presently working on the last side of the kitchen which unfortunately has the most cabinets. We are replacing all of the wood shelves inside each cabinet as we go along as well as laying down inexpensive vinyl on top of the shelves for easy cleanup. I like it much better than shelf liner and it will last a whole lot longer.

BEFORE COLOR and HARDWARE (we tested out a new knob on one of the drawers here)


Now, we kept the paneling that runs along the top of the cabinets the same (untouched) basically because its narrow trim is the same color as the new cabinets and it also matches the paneling in the Family Room which is directly off the kitchen. My husband likes the contrast. emoticon However the more I look at it I am not so sure I do. I am now wondering if we should just go ahead and stain that area the same color as the cabinets. It is a small strip of paneling at the top of the cabinets only so I am not sure what difference it will make. If I do go with staining it I will need to do some research as I have no idea how to stain paneling.

Does anyone have ANY COMMENTS on whether to leave it as is, stain, paint, or other??? Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

Anyway after we're done with the cabinets and possibly the paneling on top we will paint the walls a Westminster Gold from Benjamin Moore. The trim and molding has already been painted white.

This is my inspiration picture for the cabinet color, wall, trim/molding, counter top and flooring.

Than it will be onto staining the small kitchen table and 4 chairs, replacing the counter tops, sink, mounting a microwave above the stove (are we having fun yet?), and new flooring. Yep, with DH's lack of job these days, this is definitely going to be a long work in progress but I am determined to keep this project moving forward. emoticon

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HEALTHYSLIM2 7/5/2013 4:37PM

    LOVE the new look so far!! emoticon

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SABLENESS 6/25/2013 12:04PM

    What a beautiful warm paint color!

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PURPLESPEDCOW 6/21/2013 8:20PM

    I would paint it the same color as the walls.

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RURAL3 6/21/2013 8:00PM

    I do not believe paneling will take a stain because of the finish. I would take the paneling off and paint it the wall cover which is beautiful. It would be a nice contrast to the dark cabinets. Of course that might be extra work because of how the paneling is on. Is it glued or nailed. I am not a fan of painted paneling either. I do love your new handles.

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CATLADY52 6/21/2013 4:07PM

    Good job on the cabinets. Painting the paneling the same color as the other walls will make the room seem larger an brighter. It is, after all, your choice. emoticon

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LINDA! 6/21/2013 2:08PM

    I would also go with a lighter stain.

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LKWQUILTER 6/21/2013 1:48PM

    I agree with the others. If you stain the paneling dark (if you can do it) your kitchen will really be dark. I would paint it the gold or leave it the color it is. I am not a fan of painted paneling. I do like the stain you have used on your cabinets--looks really good!

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PMFISH 6/21/2013 1:15PM

    Wallpaper and paneling have been out in my area for quite some time. I have to agree, if you can paint it the lighter color for contrast or leave it the same if you are not sure. Would not make it match cabinets, too much darkness in the kitchen. You have to live with it, so what ever makes you happy is what you should do.

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CRAFTINWIFE 6/21/2013 12:45PM

    Love the cabinet update! The look completely different/new.
I agree about the paneling, paint it with the same gold as the room is going to be.

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TRYNAGAIN194 6/21/2013 11:29AM

    have you about wallpapering that area

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1CRAZYDOG 6/21/2013 11:02AM

    I was going to offer the same advice as you've already been given. I don't know that you can stain paneling (I would honestly have to assume that you CAN since it's wood!), but I agree with the suggestion to consider painting it the Westminster Gold. IMHO, I think staining the wood paneling (if that were possible) would make the kitchen a bit too dark for my taste. I think the paint would add warmth to the warmth of the new cabinets. LOVE the hardware (handles).

Good luck.

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RJSCHWEITZER 6/21/2013 9:31AM

    Wow, nice job! I think the paneling is nice, but it doesn't quite "match" now that the cabinets are darker. Can you maybe paint the paneling to match the walls? Staining could be an option, but like you said, I've never stained paneling (though I know you can paint over it).

Keep up the good work--it looks great!

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Bad Weekend

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Had an emoticon weekend last week when DH and I were blessed to spend 4 days with our grandson. Its been months since the little guy has been able to spend time at our house. And 4 days worth, well that was just FABULOUS! We went to the Atlanta Aquarium, Knoxville Zoo, ate Crab Legs at Joe's Crab Shack (The little guy is now officially known as THE CRAB MASTER), to see the movie After Earth, played in the rain (don't tell his mom), made chocolate chip pancakes, colored pictures galore, made funny videos, had a smash down with his cars, monster trucks and train, made up scary stories, and much more. FUN was definitely the name of the game! emoticon

While we were taking care of our grandson, our daughter was busy studying for her finals. And that proved to be successful too. She made the DEAN'S LIST once again. 3 for 3! emoticon She has finally made it through all of her core requirements and is now headed to Nursing School come Fall!! emoticon

Yet with all the positive, happy moments of late I am quickly reminded how fast things can change as this weekend in contrast is downright horrible. DH decided yesterday, unbeknown to me to... QUIT HIS JOB! His reason is there is a guy at work he can't seem to get along with. He now says he has no intention of returning to any kind of work. Our finances, without this job, are supported only by a small trust my husband receives which is currently tied up in bills and... debt. Debt, that HE created out of total misuse of credit cards. He told me for years we were fine financially, and yet behind my back racked up cards right and left that I didn't even know he had, to the tune of $80,000. emoticon We are 3 years into paying them off and have approx. 2- 2 and a half more to go. His job allowed us to do little extras (home repairs, movies, etc) that otherwise we wouldn't be able to do. Add to that the fact I no longer work due to chronic eye disease and worsening vision which has already robbed me of driving, teaching, bike riding, sports and more. Majority of things I do manage these days take extra time as well as I have to be so ridiculously close to see and pull off. Reading a bedtime story to my grandson isn't as easy as it once was. Even simple walking can be a problem. Hell have no fury like a step, rock, sidewalk crack or stick you don't see. So this new situation means A LOT MORE STRESS as well as no health insurance (something I have needed for years), no personal therapy, no additional nutritional counseling, not even a glimmer of hope for a 3 day beach trip this summer with the grandson and daughter, and who knows how S L O W the updating of the house will now have to become. It was already slow to begin with. DH knows full well we needed thus extra income and that his decision is going to mean the end to things we were planning, and yet he chose to do it anyway. He didn't even bother to talk to me about it. emoticon

The only good news to report is I am not binging. I am actually way too angry to even think about food. However I am considering whether I can dig a hole big enough and whether the woods behind my house are large enough to hide a body.

Just kidding! Maybe.

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HEALTHYSLIM2 7/5/2013 4:42PM

    emoticon no words. I hope you husband comes to his senses and makes it right.
In the meantime, stay strong and on track. You are worth it!

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IMAVISION 6/27/2013 3:56PM

    I am sorry that you have been faced with such an ordeal. Maybe your husband will see the need for the extra income & reconsider finding employment.

God bless!

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PMFISH 6/15/2013 10:44PM

    I remember those days when I wanted to kill someone and tell God they died, never did have any bodies to hide. I did shuffle a couple off to parts unknown and they will never darken my doorway again. I hear your frustration and hurt. Especially when you have been left out of life altering decisions. Glad you are not binging. Ask God for strength to get you through this trying time. Better yet tell hubby you expect him to come up with the answer to the problem. Hang it there. emoticon

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RURAL3 6/15/2013 10:29PM

    I am sorry to hear this. I have things I would like to say but it would serve no purpose. Are you sure he quit? You are in my prayers Sallie.

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LKWQUILTER 6/15/2013 7:09PM

    emoticon emoticon I have no right words!

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Monday, June 03, 2013

My grandson officially graduated from KINDERGARTEN today. emoticon Besides his diploma he was presented with 2 awards. BEST EFFORT and PRINCIPAL'S AWARD for consistently demonstrating excellent behavior. emoticon DH and I are so proud of him!!!!

The ceremony was awesome. The children did wonderfully and the songs they sang were really sweet. Afterward parents, grandparents and other family and friend went back to the classrooms for cookies and juice, to see various artwork that the children had done and to hear presentations from a few of the students. My grandson stood up in front of everyone and read a piece he wrote on what he wanted to be when he grows up. "A CAR ENGINEER SO THAT HE GETS TO GO UNDER CARS." emoticon I am not sure what happened to Fireman? Perhaps he put that ambition on the back burner for the moment. Nevertheless we all had a great time. I even received a personal thank you from his two teachers in appreciation for the treats I have sent in throughout the year. This was an unexpected but very much appreciated!

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HEALTHYSLIM2 6/12/2013 5:27PM

    Wow - what wonderful accomplishments!! Best Effort AND Principal's Award!! I see great things ahead for this young man. :-)
Love the pic, too!
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Sallie - I am just sure the teachers really loved having you and your caring, loving 'treats' as part of their school year. As you well know, being a teacher yourself, those little added things for the little ones make things fun and go a long way. And inside, your grandson feels extra loved and special that it is his Memaw who provides such lovely treats to his classmates. Anyway, I am glad they gave you a personal thank you for all your hard work!!
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Lastly, I want to say that I am sure that all you and your DH do for him contributed your grandson's excellence. This is one LOVED boy, and that shines through!

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RURAL3 6/4/2013 11:24AM

    congrats Memaw emoticon

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CATLADY52 6/4/2013 10:51AM

    What a thrill! I can sense the pride. emoticon

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BUSYGRANNY5 6/4/2013 7:54AM

    Fantastic!!! We had two grandsons in kindergarten this past year, I was so hoping that each of their schools would do some sort of graduation program... neither did/does!!! :) (I'm used to my school, where the little ones graduate with caps and gowns..)
Your grandson is as cute as can be.... what a blessing these little guys/girls bring to our lives!


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PMFISH 6/3/2013 9:48PM

    Precious boy! I know how you feel and it is GREAT!

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LKWQUILTER 6/3/2013 8:41PM

    Ya'll are mighty proud grandparents Sallie. emoticon

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