Monday, April 01, 2013
Well, it's April 1st otherwise known as April's Fool Day. Time to begin a NEW MINI CHALLENGE which I have named appropriately "Nobody's Fool". However before I get into that, let me wrap up March's Challenge.
Peanut's Birthday Challenge went off without a hitch. I dropped 3 more lbs as of this morning bringing my total to 8 lbs for the month. My goal of 5 lbs was met and surpassed!! Definitely a positive way to start off my mini challenges.
Starting today as I mentioned above, I will begin a new mini challenge, Nobody's Fool. Since I did so well with my 5 lb goal last month, I have once again set a goal of 5 lbs for the month. After all I am a firm believer in"if it isn't broke, don't fix it!".
Now I know I listed a whole host of personal goals in a previous blog that I want to add to my lifestyle plan to help with issues such as emotional, anxiety related as well as health but honestly after the first week of last month's challenge I decided to place them on the back burning and keep my focus for the first challenge on eating right and MOVING MY HINEY! I think I began to feel nearly right away that I had bitten off more than I could chew (no pun intended), and really just needed to start with the basics. So I have adjusted my approach and therefore my plan. I will add only ONE NEW PERSONAL GOAL at a time and stick with that UNTIL I feel it has become habit, anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months. This month, besides eating right and moving my hiney I will focus on TRACKING MY FOOD. Tracking has evaded me for many months now but I do believe it is of vital importance to the healthy lifestyle I want to adopt.
So for APRIL's Challenge:
I will eat healthy.
I will move my hiney.
I will track my food.
As for yesterday, Easter Sunday, it turned out to be a relatively nice day. DH and I enjoyed spending some time with the grandson and daughter after surviving the very real possibility Saturday that Sunday would end up a total disaster. *My daughter went completely off rails Saturday over a minor incident but recovered quick enough to salvage Easter. I am thankful that my grandson was able to enjoyed the day. He loved the Easter goodies we gave him and the egg hunt we hosted for hom as well as the bike and skateboard we gave him for his birthday.
Happy April!! Have an awesome week Sparklers! Make it a good one.
Monday, March 18, 2013
Full week in the works! However first things first. I dropped 2 more pounds this week which means I have already met my goal for this month's challenge. 5 lbs! I have two weeks left for the month and can't wait to see what I can accomplish with those. My motivation is back on and strong. Hoping to keep it that way.
This week will be a busy one as I mentioned above. I have shopping to do for Easter treats that I'm putting together this week for my grandson's class, materials to pick up for some Easter crafts that I am hoping to get started on, a few more goodies to place in the grandson's Easter basket, and some Spring clothes for ME.
YES, I am actually doing some shopping for me for a change. Which is a huge step in itself. Very huge!! I am so tired of wearing the same old, boring things. And when I say old I really mean OLD. I have not been one to do much in the way of shopping for myself, or doing anything for myself for that matter. The whole obese thing along with the increasing low self-esteem that comes with growing ever larger put a stop to that years ago. As fat as I have been and still am, I have hated shopping for clothes so I have gotten by with just the essentials over the years. A couple pairs of black slacks (stretchies) and a few tops (all pull overs), a basic black purse and a few pairs of shoes. Perhaps I purchase a new top or two every other year or so but not beyond that. Instead I buy for everyone else. I must be the only woman on Earth that has only 3 pairs of shoes (a flat, fitness, and flip flop) and a small handful of clothes in her walk in closet. I once on a whim bought a set of 100 Huggable Hangers, and after putting my clothes on them stood there, wondering what was I going to use the other 90 for. When I hear my sister in law, an executive secretary, who always dresses so nicely, speak of owning 50 or more pairs of shoes, purses and tons of clothing, I can't even imagine. Even after a loss of 100 pounds I still find it difficult to buy clothes that I feel look good on me. I have found the mind is not so easily changed and when I look at myself today, I still see UGLY. Part of the new changes that I am trying to adopt this year is to change my present mindset and begin to break out of the mode I have self imposed on ME. To learn for the very first time to look out for, and take better care of #1, in all things. Shopping for myself is a positive step in the right direction, I think. Although it may take me awhile to truly get the hang of it.
Anyway back to this week's agenda. I also have wrapping to do for the grandson's birthday which is Sunday. Didn't quite get around to this last week. Wednesday afternoon will be spent with the little guy ordering balloons and picking up goodies bags and treats for his party as well as grabbing some dinner with him. At some point I need to fit in some Spring cleaning too. Didn't get to all the closets as planned so need to finish them up before I can move on. And last but certainly not least DH and I are looking forward to the grandson's birthday and party this weekend!! Can't wait to celebrate with him.
Thursday, March 14, 2013
Itís turning out to be a BIG MONTH as well as year for my grandson. Not only will he turn 6 next Sunday but his father just made 2 whopping announcements that will affect his little life in a giant way. The biggest of these is my grandson is going to become a BIG BROTHER in the fall! As one might imagine, he is excited!
His father announced this week that he is not only married but that he and his NEW wife of 3 months are pregnant with their first.
Hereís a little background: Our daughter and her ex were together for 3 years, married for 2 and a half. They separated January 09, and were divorced as of June 2010. Since the separation, her ex has had a revolving door of women running in and out of their son's life with one live-in arrangement for one year. Multiple quick relationships are not unusual for my ex SIL as this was also his MO before, as well as during his relationship with my daughter. His unfaithfulness was the reason our daughter ended the marriage. The man may be 31 but he is as mature as a, well, I wonít get into that.
Anyway this past November he broke up with one woman he had been dating for three months and immediately entered into another relationship just prior to Thanksgiving. Nope, no surprise there! However six weeks later, he and the new girlfriend Shannon woke up one morning and thought it would be a grand idea to get married!! So off the two of them went to the local jail. Yes, I did say jail as the court house is closed Saturdays. Three days before Christmas, the two of them said I do with NO friends, family nor his son present.
Fast forward twelve weeks, they have now informed his son that they are married AND also expecting! Talk about a double whammy! As for the marriage part, my ex SIL did inform my daughter of the marriage back in December when it took place however he asked her not to tell their son yet. He and the new wife have had their first ultrasound and decided this week it was time to share all of their news with not only his son but their parents, family and friends as well.
So this year my grandson will turn 6, adjust to Shannon being part of his family, finish out Kindergarten in June, enter 1st grade in August and welcome his very first sibling into his life in late September. WOW! Itís definitely a lot to take in for someone so young. However I am sure he will rise to the occasion as well as be an BIG BROTHER!
As for the new wife of the dadís, our daughter is holding off for now from allowing their son to refer to Shannon as step mom however she is encouraging a healthy relationship between the two of them. Shannon 29 seems like a nice girl for what we have seen so far and know of her presently. Except for perhaps her "somewhat insane" decision to marry someone after only 6 weeks. Especially in this day and age, after a failed marriage of her own. We can excuse the ex SIL on the grounds that he never has made sense and this is something he would do but seriously what was she thinking? She appears to be a smart girl except for this rather rash decision. Nonetheless I guess I can't fault her too much, my own daughter was under this idiot's spell too for awhile. Eventually she woke up, thankfully. Anyhow I have spoken to Shannon just three times myself so far and she comes across warm and friendly. She is an RN working currently on her Masters to become a Nurse Practitioner. She is Christian and attends church regularly. She was married before at an early age and is still VERY CLOSE to her ex in laws but not with her ex. She is communicative with our daughter. She has been to our grandsonís sporting events several times and most importantly he seems comfortable with her. She even asked my daughter this week if she would consider being like a ďsecond mom or special auntĒ to the new baby and be an active part in his or her life, also if she would like to see the ultrasound video as well as be present for the birth. She has asked my daughter to attend the baby shower as well in August.
Whew!! All of this in just one week certainly has my head spinning, so I had to ask my daughter if any of it is making her uneasy. She told me no, not at all. She said her feelings for her ex are long gone, and she has since moved on. She has put all the heartache of the past behind her. She knows exactly what her ex is like and why she left the marriage. Nevertheless she has worked hard on establishing a healthy communication with him, and vice versa, for the sake of their son. She is in a long term relationship with Dan now (3 years and counting), is happy and no longer concerns herself with her ex's personal life except when "his issues" affect their son. She insists on keeping an open dialog up and running but is also not afraid to speak her mind when needed just as she did when her ex told her of his 6 week courtship and quickie marriage in December. She added that her priority is that of her son and his well-being. As long as Shannon treats her son well, than she is fine with welcoming her into the mix. She says she likes Shannon so far especially the fact that she seems willing to communicate with her as well as accept the fact that ďthe exĒ and her will continue to communicate with one another regardless of any relationships or marriages on either side. My daughter also told me she has already given thought to Shannonís requests of this week. My daughter knows this new baby will be a very important part of her sonís life and therefore she has no issue with being an active part of her sonís new extended family.
I have to say, regardless of how difficult and drama-filled my relationship is with my daughter I must applaud her on the effort she is making as it pertains to these NEW circumstances in both her and her sonís lives. I feel she is showing maturity way beyond her years. Now no one can predict what the future will hold or whether my ex SIL's new marriage will last or not nevertheless there is a new life on the way that will forever be intertwine with my grandsonís. So CONGRATULATIONS GRANDSON! Pepa and I will do our part to help you in any way in your NEW role as BIG Brother. Your baby brother or sister is going to be awfully lucky to have you in his or her life.
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