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Tuesday, March 12, 2013

DH and I went birthday shopping for our grandson today. emoticon He turns 6 in eleven days. We stopped at Toys R Us first where we bought the little guy a:

147 piece Lego set w/ storage case
Animal Planet African Safari playset
Thomas Runaway Boulder Train set
Checker set w/ storage case - He LOVES to play checkers at Cracker Barrel!
Neon Green Surf Skate w/ knee and elbow pads
a Power Rangers 16 inch bike w/ helmet

Afterwards the husband and I grabbed lunch at Panera. I had a turkey, avocado, bacon, lettuce and tomato sandwich on whole wheat with an apple and water, no mayo or cheese. We than dropped by Target where we picked up some Spring and Summer clothes for the grandson as well.

And since Easter is only 2 and half weeks away I picked up 3 Easter goodies to put in his basket. emoticon Next week I will work on his class treats and pick up a couple more little goodies for his basket as well.

I walked a lot today which actually felt good. I know however my knees will pay for it tomorrow. So I will try and head off some of the discomfort by icing them tonight. In any case if they still bother me a lot in the a.m. I will use the down time to wrap the gifts we got the grandson today. emoticon For now, it's onto dinner than a little chill time for ME! Going to catch up on some reading tonight.

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LKWQUILTER 3/13/2013 1:47PM

    I want you to adopt me too. lol What a good time you had today. Sure hope your knees don't bother you toooo much. ((HUGS))

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CAPECODLIGHT 3/12/2013 8:41PM

    Any interest in adopting me as a granddaughter? I'm no trouble at all.... :0)

Sounds like your grandson is going to have a wonderful birhtday.

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RURAL3 3/12/2013 7:48PM

    OMG He is going to have a wonderful birthday. Its a good thing you only have one grandchild. emoticon

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Weigh In

Monday, March 11, 2013

Well the new changes I adopted March 1st along with some increased motivation must be working as I dropped 3 lbs this week. emoticon My goal for this month's challenge is 5 lbs so at this point I am confident I will surpass it however I won't allow myself to get cocky. I have learned in the past there is no sure thing when it comes to losing weight. So I am taking things nice and easy.

This past weekend was a bit tricky I must admit with the knowledge of Girl Scout cookies in the house and the darker mood I lapsed into due to family drama nevertheless I prevailed over both. Side note: DH did find the cookies from the other day and has now hidden them well as I have not seen them since the other day. Of course there is the possibility that he has already eaten them all. emoticon

I wasn't able to get all the sorting and cleaning of closets done that I had planned to do this past weekend. I was way too busy feeling sorry for myself (family drama) so I basically moped around the house for the past two days. It is however on the agenda for this week. DH and I also have some birthday shopping for the grandson to do along with bed shopping. A mattress set for the master and a bunk bed for the grandson's room. Even though he doesn't sleep over as much as he use to, his crib size daybed doesn't cut it anymore. He has been camping out on the couch whenever he comes over so DH and I want to remedy that with a new bed. His room here is a small one so we are thinking a basic bunk bed would work for him and any future grand (I can always hope), as well as for any great-nieces and nephews that visit.

DH and I are also seeing if the daughter will allow us to take the little guy to his favorite play place and to dinner tomorrow night or Wednesday. We are presently in a wait and see mode on this.

As to the concert fiasco from the other day. I have decided that I will use my FREE-TIME on that day for a SPA VISIT. My very 1st!!! We have a nice spa in town that I can get to and from by cab. I figure by than I will have dropped a bit more weight and therefore be a lot less self conscious about going to one. I am thinking having THE WORKS done is just what the doctor ordered. Have already informed DH of my plan. He grumbled as I figured he would but oh well, it is what it is. I am entitled to have a little fun too! emoticon

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RURAL3 3/11/2013 4:08PM

    emoticon emoticon Nice weight loss Sallie.
I think that spa visit sounds just like what DH ordered for you while they are all gone. emoticon I am sure you will have a much more relaxing time doing that than trying to go along with them and be stressed out. It sounds heavenly. emoticon

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CATLADY52 3/11/2013 3:28PM

    What you have planned will be a real treat and one you really deserve with your loss. Have fun.

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LKWQUILTER 3/11/2013 1:20PM

    emoticon on the weight loss Sallie. So proud that you are taking time for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CAPECODLIGHT 3/11/2013 12:17PM

    Congratulations on the 3 lb. loss, but doing so in the face of the past weekend is really impressive. Good for you! I think the spa visit idea is inspired - have a wonderful time.

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MUFFINSKI 3/11/2013 12:01PM

    Nice Loss!
I love that you are treating yourself to a spa day! Much deserved!
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SAILING2GOAL 3/11/2013 11:33AM

    First of all, Congratulations on your weight loss! Secondly, good for you that you took a hurtful situation and turned it into something very positive for yourself! Way to go!!!

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My Apologies - Venting

Sunday, March 10, 2013

There is nothing like feeling completely left out to ruin one's mood. I seriously feel like a third wheel. I am both angry and depressed. Earlier in the week DH asked me to look up some concert information that involves some of our favorite music groups. He didn't mention ME going at the time but I thought he was just waiting until I told him the information. I checked out the concert info on line and relayed it to him the next day. He was all excited yet still made no mention of the "two of us" attending. Two days later our daughter called to tell us the details for our grandson's birthday party that is set to happen later this month. After we talked for awhile DH shouts out from the other room, "Hey, ask her if she wants to go to the concert with ME?". He still had yet to ask if I wanted to go so it is fair to say I immediately felt like I had been tossed to the curb. Nevertheless I conveyed the invitation to our daughter and she responded by saying that she, her boyfriend Dan and her BF were already planning to attend but "if dad wants to go too, they can all go together. The two of them than set out to plan the details such as when to buy tickets, where to sit, etc with ME being the go-between on the phone. I know I was subjecting myself to further heartache but I figure I was way too upset at that point to think logically and hand the phone to him to do his own dirty work so I just played along. After the call however I did let out my feelings on the matter and asked him why is it that the two of them always include each other on plans, have no problem doing so right in front of me but never once try and include me. Whether its concerts, football games, other activities, joining a team, and/ or even going on particular trips, the invitations never extend to ME. Even if I were to say no to an invitation of theirs, it would be nice to be asked but I never am. DH responded to my statement by saying he thought I would say something, thought I wouldn't want to go, thought I didn't like the groups playing (when he knows full well I do), than changed those excuses to he thought I would want to stay home to watch our grandson instead. There were two things I noticed right away about his excuses; he had many reasons why he didn't asked me to go and they all placed ME as the responsible party.

Needless to say we didn't talk much the rest of that day nor the next day. I eventually accepted however that it is what it is and reminded myself that I will never change how the two of them feel about me nor their hurtful ways. Yesterday our daughter called back up and asked me to get on the computer and check out the concerts seats she just bought for herself, her dad, Dan and her BF. "insert physical discomfort" She than hits me with her son will be going with them as well. My grandson's very first concert! Train (they sing one of my grandson's favorite songs Hey Soul Sister), The Script and solo artist Gavin Degraw will be playing. I immediately realized that I am the only one NOT GOING, I will miss sharing with my grandson his first concert experience and my husband and daughter will be having a great time together as usual and I will be once again left out. Neither one of them even bothered to ask what I would be doing while they are 3 hours away having fun? No surprise there for they already know the answer - no car (with my vision couldn't drive one anyway), no cab nor bus availabe and no friends nearby means NOTHING! That physical discomfort I mentioned just a minute ago, oh yeah, that was my heart breaking... again. Like I said earlier there is nothing like feeling completely left out to ruin one's mood! emoticon

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CAPECODLIGHT 3/11/2013 9:21AM

    I am so sorry that your husband would exclude you. This one lays at his feet, not your daughter's. It sounds to me that he never gave you the real reason he excluded you, as he kept coming up with different excuses. I am not in your shoes, but I would insist on marriage counseling; and if he won't go, insist on going alone and his driving you back and forth there. I don't think I could tolerate the continuation of this behavior.


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LKWQUILTER 3/10/2013 7:39PM

    I agree with some others--I would make my own plans with a friend and let dh pick up the tab on my activities. I think he would be worrying about his own meals, clothes, maybe his own bed too for a while. As you can tell, I can be not very nice when someone really hurts my feelings and treats me bad. (((HUGS)))

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BRENDABUNNY 3/10/2013 3:48PM

    So sorry Salie emoticon emoticon

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MRSHELENKITTY 3/10/2013 2:14PM

    I am so sorry that you feel left out. I feel that you did the right thing by communicating to your husband how you felt, he should also not assume you did not want to go. How about sitting down with your DH and daughter and telling them both that it hurts you when they plan things and not include you. It really isn't fair. You should not have to feel this way especially with your DH and daughter. I don't think they would purposefully not include you, but maybe they are so used to doing things this way, that they do not even notice or think about how much they are hurting you. I hope that you express your feelings more to them and it gets resolved. *hugs*

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RURAL3 3/10/2013 11:53AM

    I just can't imagine your pain but I have to say I would be furious with my DH. And I would certainly make plans to do something fun and expensive with a girlfriend who drives. The scenario they set up is totally unacceptable and extremely hurtful. emoticon
I hope venting helped. I am praying for you Sallie emoticon

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GOMAMA10 3/10/2013 11:11AM

  Heart hurts are difficult to see through at the time and rejection is something that is very personal. While they have plans you just keep on making yourself strong. When you get time with your grandson just ask him about his experience and not in a complaining way, but let him know how happy you are that he got to go. Talk of the good memories for him and how he is growing up so fast. Maybe next time ask your DH "Honey what time are we leaving?"I keep my feelings in and that's not good it will be in your thughts and fester ill feelings sooner or later. Stay strong.

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If It isn't One Thing, It's Another

Thursday, March 07, 2013

Okay, so yesterday it was the knees and this morning it's the lower back that hurts. emoticon Getting older isn't always what it's cracked up to be, in more ways than one. Sure I may be a whole lot wiser these days but sometimes it just downright "insert word of choice" if you know what I mean.

The good news is my knees feel better today. emoticon Can't quite figure out though what I did to my back to make it hurt. I don't remember wrestling with my grandson the other day. emoticon Speaking of the little guy, we had an awesome time together on Tuesday. DH and I got in a lot of walking too during our full day which I very much needed. Hummm perhaps that is the cause. Too much exercise in one day when I haven't been as consistent as I have needed to be the last couple of months. Than again, I have been having off & on lower backaches for a while now especially in the mornings. So it could also be my bed. It's way beyond time for a new mattress and box spring. I have known this for awhile but keep putting it off to get other things done around the house. Hence, my very loooooong to-do list. All the other mattress sets in the house have been exchanged for new ones except the master. So perhaps this is a sign that it's time for me to stop procrastinating and buy a new one. emoticon

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LOSTLIME 3/8/2013 9:23AM

    I like to think that I am not getting any older but that just is not the case. I have aches and pains in places I didn't know I had. But I know that I have to keep going on even if it is something small.

The new bed will make a difference for your back. I had the same problem
a couple of years ago. It helped me. I hope that your backpain goes away.
Have a great weekend.

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LINDA! 3/7/2013 8:40PM

    It seems that there is a bit of a struggle for us as we get older. One pain or another. I hope that you do find something to relieve your pain. Sounds like a lot of fun with the grandson. emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 3/7/2013 2:27PM

    Sallie we got new mattress this past summer and that was the best thing we have done in a long, long time. I didn't realize that my mattress could cause so much pain in my hips, knees, back, etc. I sure haven't got younger but those body parts sure feel better. lol

Glad ya'll had such a good time with the little guy. Have a great day.

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PYNETREE 3/7/2013 10:42AM

    Getting old is not for Sissy's...that is for sure!

I, like you said, seem to have a new pain, or ache, every other day!

But growing OLD, emoticon sure beats the other option!

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BBORDEN86 3/7/2013 10:19AM

    Sorry to hear your back is giving you troubles! Hopefully you are able to get a new mattress soon! I'll be in the market for one, as soon as my car is paid off. One thing at a time!!! :)

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MARYGOLD5 3/7/2013 10:18AM

    I keep trying to tell myself that I'm not getting that old, but my body aches and pains tell me otherwise. It is good to be able to keep on going though. I'm sure a new mattress would make a big difference in the back. Good luck. emoticon

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CATLADY52 3/7/2013 9:37AM

    A new mattress can do wonders for the body, not to mention the psychological lift. emoticon emoticon

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Full Steam Ahead

Tuesday, March 05, 2013

We have haircuts scheduled for the hubby and me this morning than we are off to to pick up some home improvement items. We finally got our new storm door installed. It looks very nice. So now it's on to other stuff. We have such a list. Anyway after Lowes, DH and I will do a little birthday shopping for our grandson. He turns 6 in less than 3 weeks. WOW! Seems like just yesterday he was the size of a PEANUT on his mommy's first ultrasound. Time sure does pass by. I enjoy my grandson with each and every new year as well as all his new discoveries but at the same time I miss all the yesterdays. Childhood is so very fleeting sometimes it's bittersweet.

Moving on, DH and I will than stop for lunch somewhere. This afternoon we get the pleasure of picking up the grandson from school. Since it's such a rainy day we plan to take him to Barnes & Noble for a little while (his favorite indoor play place is closed today). He can do his homework there, check out some of the new books available and play with the Thomas display. After we will go to the movies and dinner before taking him home. Escape from Planet Earth 3D is on the agenda! It has been a few weeks since we have had the little guy all to ourselves so DH and I are really looking forward to it.

Wishing everyone a fabulous day. Make it the best one yet Sparkies!

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BBORDEN86 3/6/2013 11:30AM

    Sounds like a good day!!! Glad you got to spend time with your grandson. :) I know that always puts you in a good mood.

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BRENDABUNNY 3/5/2013 5:13PM

    Sounds like a great day planned have a wonderful time emoticon

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KATRINAKAT23 3/5/2013 1:17PM

  Sounds like a lovely day. Can I come? hahha

All kids need grandparents like you and hubby. emoticon

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RURAL3 3/5/2013 11:04AM

    Enjoy yourself. We are getting 10 inches o snow today. emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 3/5/2013 9:58AM

    You have a great day planned for today. Have fun with the little guy. ((HUGS))

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CATLADY52 3/5/2013 9:53AM

    Sounds as if you will enjoy the day as much as your grandson will. Have fun with the little guy! emoticon

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LIFE-FAITH 3/5/2013 9:30AM

    emoticon Sounds like fun! I hope you have a blessed a day with your hubby and grandson.

God Bless you!

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