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Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Had a nice time with the grandson last night. Helped him with his wish list and had dinner at Cracker Barrel.

Today I have turkey #2 in the oven roasting to perfection or as near as I can get it. Turkey #1 was done yesterday. The husband and daughter pitch a royal fit if they don't get enough left-overs aka at least 3 days worth each so I usually cook 2 big birds. Guest it's a good thing I don't mind cooking. Anyway it saves on the drama! Every little bit counts with my family.

My pies came out okay. Pumpkin and Apple Pecan. I made 2 of each. One set for the daughter's house and 1 set for the husband. Aside from one slice of the pumpkin and a small taste test piece of the Apple Pecan they are all his. And he is more than welcome to the calories. emoticon I must admit though I had a little trouble with the crumble topping as you can see on the Apple Pecan. They didn't turn out as pretty as I had hoped but they are yummy so I will consider it a success for my first attempt at that kind of pie.

I will be leaving shortly with full body armor attached emoticon to head over to the daughter's place to celebrate Thanksgiving with her, the grandson, and her boyfriend Dan. Her best friend will join us after dinner to go see the Disney On Ice show. Praying for a peaceful drama-free day but most of all that my grandson has FUN! I love that little peanut!!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/21/2012 9:54PM

    Glad that you had a nice day cooking and that you get to spend some time with your grandson. I can see how important that he is to you. Good luck! Happy Thanksgiving.

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TRYINGTOLOSE64 11/21/2012 9:47PM

    Happy Thanksgiving!! You can cook my turkey any day now!! LOL

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RURAL3 11/21/2012 3:53PM

    praying for peace. Have a great Thanksgiving Sallie. emoticon emoticon

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KIMPY225 11/21/2012 12:53PM

    Those look GREAT!
I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving!

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ALICIA214 11/21/2012 10:58AM


The pies look yummy!!! emoticon

Happy Thanksgiving. emoticon emoticon

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MOMMY445 11/21/2012 10:55AM

    glad to hear that you had such a great day! you can do this! you are worth it!

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Miserable Week

Thursday, November 15, 2012

A really bad mood plus 2 sleepless nights are making for some very yucky days for me this week. I haven't spoken to the daughter since Tuesday, and don't wish to. Have barely said 3 words to the husband in the past 2 days as well. Of course he is acting as if nothing happened which certainly doesn't help. Learning that he was allowed to not only see our grandson the other day but also take him out to dinner seriously hurt me to no end. Once again my daughter uses my grandson as a form of punishment when she is unhappy with something I have said or done. When my husband returned home he announced that our grandson had asked about me and wanted to know when he would seem me again. He added that he and our daughter didn't give any reason to our grandson as to why I didn't come over. They just left him to wonder where I was as if deciding not to see him was my choice. emoticon

I am surprised that I am not hitting up the refrigerator or cabinets in search of my usual emotional release. I wonder if one can become too depressed to eat? And would that necessarily be a bad thing for someone like me? To say that I am not fit for company is an understatement. And to think Thanksgiving is next week. Plans are to take dinner over to the daughter's place on Wednesday to celebrate than attend Disney On Ice with the grandson, husband, daughter and her boyfriend. The thought of sitting down to dinner and later trying to enjoy a show with my husband and daughter is unimaginable right now. But I can't cancel. I promised my grandson. So somehow I need to rid myself of this nasty mood I'm in before next week. I don't want to feel this way in front of the little guy. It wouldn't be fair to him. Guess I have some work to do.

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LIFE-FAITH 11/16/2012 12:10PM

    emoticon I understand! I am praying for God's grace for you and your family. When I am NOT getting along with my daughter and I go to her house - all of my energy and attention is my granddaughter - I play with her, talk to her, and interact with her - with all of my being so I can enjoy my visit without the emotional baggage.

Thinking of you! Jean

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RURAL3 11/16/2012 11:03AM

    You are doing great. Sleep would certainly help. It has so much to do with your mood and our health.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/15/2012 7:12PM

    I'm sorry that you're having such a bad week. Good for you staying out of the fridge! LOVE ya

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GRANDMABABA 11/15/2012 4:03PM

    I'm sorry you are in such a dark place. I hope you feel much better very soon.

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PENNYSAVER2 11/15/2012 9:47AM

    I hope you get to feeling better soon! emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 11/15/2012 7:50AM

    Your mood must be contagious Sallie as I have been a little down the past week. No real reason except maybe I am more concerned about my first plane ride to visit younger dd in Indiana. I would much prefer driving our own car--then if I wanted to leave early I could. lol Not sure how things will go as her hubby will be there too and not on the best of terms with him. Oh well, I will do what I have to. (((HUGS)))

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Hell Have No Fury Like My DH and Daughter

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I refused to type up a paper for the husband today. He has gotten himself into a legal financial tight spot regarding a credit card which has been on going for 3 years. He has now been subpoenaed. I have offered him my advice, help and support up until today. Once more he has decided not to respect nor follow anything I have to say on the matter and has ended up in more trouble. Today I finally drew the line and told him he was on his own. He can type up his own response to the attorneys or find someone else to do it for him. It was a small line in the sand, true but I don't feel I should help him out again only to have him not listen to sound advice and therefore dig the hole deeper.

Well all hell broke loose! He called our daughter and asked her to do it for him. After a small hassle she decided to help him out. At the same time the two of them came to the conclusion that "I" was the real problem. I wasn't being a good, dutiful wife. So for that the daughter decided I was not allowed to see my grandson today as planned. I was being punished for saying no to typing up the paper. UNBELIEVABLE! I lost precious time with my grandson over this.

After trying in vain to get both of them to see the error of their ways I realized there was nothing I could do. My daughter had made up her mind. Like I have said before she will use any reason to hurt. Her view on the subject is that I should have done "my duty" as DH's wife even if I was frustrated with his stupidity. Her words! I look at it in terms that it is a paper for God's sake. Not a huge deal breaker in my book and certainly not something that should have been tied to time spent with the grandson. DH refuses to listen to anyone's advice, especially mine, not only in this instance but in others, and keeps making poor financial choices. I have had it, and feel if he wants to continue making bad choices than by God he needs to take full responsibility for them and can type up his own responses to attorneys and such. At the moment however he is over at the daughter's, having her do his work for him and I might add, seeing our grandson.

Frustration and anger are but two of the feelings running rampant in me at the moment. Sadness at missing out on the little guy today is HUGE to say the least. emoticon

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SABLENESS 11/14/2012 9:02PM

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FRAN0426 11/14/2012 8:31PM

    I never heard that not doing a spouses responsibility ( for a mess that spouse created was your duty. It is time for the spouse to own up to the mess. Sad that your DD has taken sides and is willing to do this letter for him, now he doesn't need to stand up to his mess, but one dy he will have to. Sorry your DD is being childish taking it out on you by not allowing you to see your grandson.

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LKWQUILTER 11/14/2012 8:17PM

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Stand your ground Sallie.

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LJCANNON 11/13/2012 9:19PM

    You will be in my Prayers. I am in a similar position with My DH but his involves the IRS. I agree with your position 1,000%!!!! Maybe after your DD has been 'used' a few times she will "Get It"

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/13/2012 9:09PM

    Sorry that you missed out on time with your grandson today. You're in my prayers.

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LIFE-FAITH 11/13/2012 7:59PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I am so sorry! HuGs! Jean

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GOLFGMA 11/13/2012 7:17PM

    Hope , as a family , you get this worked out. Maybe counseling from an outside source would help. emoticon

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RURAL3 11/13/2012 6:44PM

    I am well acquainted with the grandkids being used as pawns. I am sorry you are having to go through this It is the only leverage she has with you. So she freely uses it because she knows it is the only way she can get to you. Unfortunately now they have banded together. I think it will backfire in the end though. Maybe not in the near future but down the road. My 11 year old now sees it clearly how mean her mother was to me. She is very mad at her about all of it; It will backfire. Just know that you are loved Sallie. I am praying for your sadness tonight. emoticon

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NESARIAN 11/13/2012 6:02PM

    Accountability and responsibility... and I will not get started on this. I am sorry you are going through this. If DH feels entitled to having others take responsibility for his actions, he will look for someone to do his bidding. Taking your stand may not change him. However, drawing the line may help you feel better to not engage in his co-dependent behaviors. emoticon emoticon

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JO88BAKO 11/13/2012 4:57PM

    Good for you! Quite a few years ago my DH got credit cards-I knew nothing about. He charged and charged. One day when I was home sick I got the mail, and there the bills were. I was furious. His mothers advice was file bankrupcy. I told him you do that, you're on your own. I will not be any part of that. Wanting to stay married, he worked and finally paid the bills off. He cut the cards up. To this day we don't use credit cards. If we can't pay for it or put it on lay away, we don't get it. Best of luck to you. They may get mad at you, but someday they will thank you.

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Weigh In

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Another pound bites the dust! emoticon Can't believe there is only 7 weeks left until the end of the year. This year has gone by so fast. At least it has to me. Of course these last weeks are HOLIDAY ONES. With days full of decorating, crafting, baking, shopping, wrapping, and... EATING. emoticon The eating part at this time of the year seems to be more of a challenge for us Sparkies than anything else. I ran across a blog the other day which suggested circling the days on a calendar that you have a party, function or celebration to plan or attend and let them be your "FREE DAYS". This sure beats winging the entire holiday season in my book so I plan to try it. Anything to prevent an all-out assault on every Christmas cookie or bowl of stuffing in sight is a GOOD THING!

As for today, DH and I plan to take the grandson to Toys R Us after school to check out what's new and make his Christmas List. I hope I bring enough paper. Perhaps I should go the way of a LEGAL PAD just in case? emoticon Anyway it should be FUN! Who knows I might find something I would like. After all age is just a number, right? emoticon

Have an awesome week everyone! emoticon emoticon

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/13/2012 3:03PM

    Great job on losing another pound! WooHoo! Have fun at Toy's R Us. I hope that you get that list done. Love ya

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RONALANA 11/13/2012 2:32PM

    Congratulations on a pound lost! Reason to celebrate!

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PARKERB2 11/13/2012 11:03AM

    Have fun! Congrats on the lb lost.

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VINGRAM 11/13/2012 9:42AM

    Good job! emoticon

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ME From A-Z

Monday, November 12, 2012

Just for FUN on this dark and rainy Monday morning.

A. Age: 54

B. Bed size: King

C. Chore that you hate: Cleaning the cat box.

D. Dogs: 1 Brown Lab, Cinnamon aka Meme the Runaway Dog (she is overly friendly and if loose she is off to greet the entire neighborhood).

E. Essential start to your day: Brushing my teeth and drinking a glass of lemon water.

F. Favorite color: Blue

G. Gold or Silver: Both

H. Height: 5'5"

I. Instruments you play: None

J. Job title: Pre K Ė 3rd Grade Teacher - 25 years (Substitute and Tutor these days as it allows me the flexibility to watch my grandson when needed)

K. Kids: 1 adult daughter/ 1 grandson

L. Live: Western North Carolina

M. Mother's name: Kathryn

N. Nicknames: Monkey (my momís nickname for me as a child), and Mema (what my grandson calls me)

O. Overnight hospital stays: Many as a child/ 3 as an adult

P. Pet peeves: Liars and Rudeness

Q. Quote from a movie: Beginnings are scary, endings are sad, but it's the middle that counts the most. Try to remember that when you find yourself at a new beginning. Just give hope a chance to float up and it will. ~ Hope Floats

R. Right- or left-handed: Right

S. Siblings: 1 older sister (passed in 2008), 1 older brother

T. Tattoos & Piercings: Ears pierced for the first time last year

U. Ultimate vacation: Trip to Hawaii when I was 17

V. Vegetable(s) you hate: Okra, Turnip Greens, and Beets

W. What makes you run late: Husband

X. X-Rays you've had: Teeth, knees, chest, arm, elbow

Y. Yummy food that you make: Stuffing, Lasagna, Stuffed Shells, and Desserts

Z. Zoo animal: Tigers

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/12/2012 8:39PM

    It's always fun to find out new things from our friends. Thanks for sharing your info with us. I'll share in my blog tonight! What part of NC are you from? I'm in Martinsville VA. I had no idea that you were so close! Sounds like a chance to meet up & Spark someday. emoticon

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VINGRAM 11/12/2012 11:17AM

    Cool! emoticon

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RONALANA 11/12/2012 9:16AM

    Fun! If you don't mind, I may copy it! emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 11/12/2012 8:11AM

    Sure wish you could send some of that rain south to GA Sallie. Have a great day. ((HUGS))

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