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Saturday, December 01, 2012

First off I am ecstatic to report I dropped 3 lbs at my last weigh in on the 27th. emoticon That counts for Thanksgiving week with 3 moderate meals of "turkey with all the trimmings" (not all in the same day mind you) and 1/2 slice of pumpkin pie included. I am super proud of myself. This brings me down 24 lbs with only 6 lbs to go to eliminate the reminder of this year's regain. So far so good!

In other news, I have been without my computer for the past week. Prior to that I had only intermittent access to the internet. Virus issues! The Geek Squad at Best Buy has been doing their thing with it and returned it to me late yesterday. I learned the viruses (2) tagged along when I downloaded the latest version of Adobe Flash. I wasn't even aware that could happen. Let me tell you it's rough when you have no internet. I didn't realise how much I have come to depend on it to keep in touch with family and friends. Nevertheless I did managed to get a lot done.

Our Christmas decorations outside are up. emoticon DH and I bought 3 new pieces this year. A set of white light Christmas Trees (1 large, 1 small), a large white light Reindeer and a tall inflatable Nutcracker. These go along well with our Super duper inflatable Santa, super duper tall inflatable penguin, inflatable Mickey Mouse with presents, and hard plastic light up Santa, stackable gifts, Polar Bear, and Snowman. Our house, hedge, and bushes, are all trimmed in white lights and our sidewalk is lined with candy canes. Garland, big red bows and wreaths here and there add the finishing touches. Next up the inside and 2 Christmas trees (1 with ornaments we have collected from our families as well as throughout the years), and 1 Disney inspired complete with monorail running underneath!

I also got busy tackling the office desk, my dressers, and my side of the closet. This weekend I need to sort through my husband's dressers and his side of the closet, with or without his help I might add. Most likely without since he HATES getting rid of anything!!

As for this week, plans to take the grandson to the movies on Tuesday are in the works. emoticon So is the official start of our Christmas shopping. I found out the other day that in our county alone there will be 1200 children slated to go without Christmas presents this year. emoticon It's times like these I really wish I would win the lottery (of course I would first have to play it) but nonetheless DH and I will do our best to buy for as many as we can. The Angel Tree and Toys for Tots have been our charities of choice at Christmas time for years now. We also do a local food drive. And for the past 5 years we have made certain to include our grandson in our participation in hopes the act of giving whether it be with food, clothing, gifts or time, rubs off on him.

As for our daughter, she is still grouchy and mean spirited as ever. No changes expected but I must say she is doing well in her first semester back at college. I pray she hangs in there this time around and finishes what she starts. Believe it or not she wants to be an RN. emoticon I say more power to her. Perhaps she will eventually learn to care, not judge and have compassion in the process. There is always hope, right? In the meantime I will pray mightily for her future patients.

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THETURTLEBEAR 12/3/2012 4:41PM


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BRENDABUNNY 12/1/2012 1:54PM

    Wonderful blog Sallie and the christmas display sounds beautiful emoticon

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 12/1/2012 10:12AM

    Your yard sounds awesome. You'll have to post pictures! Have fun with your grandson on Tuesday. What movie are you going to see?

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BUSYGRANNY5 12/1/2012 8:18AM

    Great blog!!!! I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!

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LKWQUILTER 12/1/2012 7:46AM

    Knew something was wrong Sallie but wasn't sure what. I sure know about "sick" computers as I called Computer Dr. to come see about mine. It is slow, freezing, and frustrating me mightly. You sure did good over the holidays--I didn't but am back on track now (I hope). I bet your outside decorations are beautiful and would love to see him. How bout posting a picture? Have fun with your little guy and when you finish your home, I will gladly let you have fun at my home. lol (((HUGS)))

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Thursday, November 22, 2012

I had a nice time with the husband, daughter, grandson, daughter's boyfriend Dan and adopted daughter Faye yesterday celebrating Thanksgiving. Dinner was yummy. The pies were a hit especially the Apple Pecan! emoticon And Disney On Ice was a lot of fun! The grandson would attest to that. His favorite part was CARS followed by Toy Story.

As for any "drama". Yes, there were remarks made to try and upset the day but my suit of armor held emoticon and the smiles on my grandson's face as well as seeing him have so much fun, diminished their stings. I am thankful to say I got through the day intact!

Today will be a quiet one spent watching the Macy's parade, cropping photos from last night and later having left over Turkey with all the trimmings once again with just the husband and me. *And even though I allowed for a "free day" yesterday I have eaten quite moderately. No free for all feasting for me this holiday. emoticon What a change!

Wishing all my Spark friends a wonderful Thanksgiving! Praying the day is full of love, laughter and fun for all. I am so thankful to have found Sparkpeople. It has helped me so much the last couple of years in my endeavor to lose weight and learn to take better care of myself. The friends I have found here are emoticon, each and everyone. You all are my rock to lean on when times are difficult, my cheerleaders when things are going well and each of you have helped and inspired me more than you will ever know. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

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SABLENESS 11/24/2012 9:30PM

    Glad you had a good day and were able to let stuff not get to you. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SGCSVCEEC 11/23/2012 3:07PM

    It sounds like you had a lovely Thanksgiving!
Blessings on you and yours today. emoticon

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HEALTHYSLIM2 11/22/2012 5:59PM

    So glad to hear of your lovely day AND your fully functional suit of armor!
Way to go, dear, just letting anything with a *sting* just deflect right off you.
Thank YOU for being such a wonderful part of my journey here in this blessed place called SparkPeople!
Enjoy your "2nd" thanksgiving meal, your day, and all the peace and joy it has to offer!
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LKWQUILTER 11/22/2012 4:33PM

    Sallie, you have done so good and am so proud for you. I did not do that good but have been walking up and down stairs, other walking, and drinking my water. I have really tried hard but not succeeded--did not have the salads and veggies like I have at home. DD does not cook like we do either and even though dh did help some with the cooking, she does not have the ingredients that we do. I would love to have your apple pecan recipe. I did not eat any pecan pie or pumpkin pie but did taste dirt cake and pig pickin' cake dgd made for us.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/22/2012 11:50AM

    Glad that your family Thanksgiving went well. Glad that you get to rest today and enjoy some peace. I am watching the Parade right now.... I LOVE IT! Happy Thanksgiving my friend.

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LINDA! 11/22/2012 11:00AM

    Glad that you had a good time.

emoticon Happy Thanksgiving!

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IOEINC 11/22/2012 10:27AM

    Thank you Sallie for being such a lovely person and a great friend!! emoticon


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Today's Happenings

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Had a nice time with the grandson last night. Helped him with his wish list and had dinner at Cracker Barrel.

Today I have turkey #2 in the oven roasting to perfection or as near as I can get it. Turkey #1 was done yesterday. The husband and daughter pitch a royal fit if they don't get enough left-overs aka at least 3 days worth each so I usually cook 2 big birds. Guest it's a good thing I don't mind cooking. Anyway it saves on the drama! Every little bit counts with my family.

My pies came out okay. Pumpkin and Apple Pecan. I made 2 of each. One set for the daughter's house and 1 set for the husband. Aside from one slice of the pumpkin and a small taste test piece of the Apple Pecan they are all his. And he is more than welcome to the calories. emoticon I must admit though I had a little trouble with the crumble topping as you can see on the Apple Pecan. They didn't turn out as pretty as I had hoped but they are yummy so I will consider it a success for my first attempt at that kind of pie.

I will be leaving shortly with full body armor attached emoticon to head over to the daughter's place to celebrate Thanksgiving with her, the grandson, and her boyfriend Dan. Her best friend will join us after dinner to go see the Disney On Ice show. Praying for a peaceful drama-free day but most of all that my grandson has FUN! I love that little peanut!!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/21/2012 9:54PM

    Glad that you had a nice day cooking and that you get to spend some time with your grandson. I can see how important that he is to you. Good luck! Happy Thanksgiving.

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TRYINGTOLOSE64 11/21/2012 9:47PM

    Happy Thanksgiving!! You can cook my turkey any day now!! LOL

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RURAL3 11/21/2012 3:53PM

    praying for peace. Have a great Thanksgiving Sallie. emoticon emoticon

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KIMPY225 11/21/2012 12:53PM

    Those look GREAT!
I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving!

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ALICIA214 11/21/2012 10:58AM


The pies look yummy!!! emoticon

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MOMMY445 11/21/2012 10:55AM

    glad to hear that you had such a great day! you can do this! you are worth it!

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Miserable Week

Thursday, November 15, 2012

A really bad mood plus 2 sleepless nights are making for some very yucky days for me this week. I haven't spoken to the daughter since Tuesday, and don't wish to. Have barely said 3 words to the husband in the past 2 days as well. Of course he is acting as if nothing happened which certainly doesn't help. Learning that he was allowed to not only see our grandson the other day but also take him out to dinner seriously hurt me to no end. Once again my daughter uses my grandson as a form of punishment when she is unhappy with something I have said or done. When my husband returned home he announced that our grandson had asked about me and wanted to know when he would seem me again. He added that he and our daughter didn't give any reason to our grandson as to why I didn't come over. They just left him to wonder where I was as if deciding not to see him was my choice. emoticon

I am surprised that I am not hitting up the refrigerator or cabinets in search of my usual emotional release. I wonder if one can become too depressed to eat? And would that necessarily be a bad thing for someone like me? To say that I am not fit for company is an understatement. And to think Thanksgiving is next week. Plans are to take dinner over to the daughter's place on Wednesday to celebrate than attend Disney On Ice with the grandson, husband, daughter and her boyfriend. The thought of sitting down to dinner and later trying to enjoy a show with my husband and daughter is unimaginable right now. But I can't cancel. I promised my grandson. So somehow I need to rid myself of this nasty mood I'm in before next week. I don't want to feel this way in front of the little guy. It wouldn't be fair to him. Guess I have some work to do.

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LIFE-FAITH 11/16/2012 12:10PM

    emoticon I understand! I am praying for God's grace for you and your family. When I am NOT getting along with my daughter and I go to her house - all of my energy and attention is my granddaughter - I play with her, talk to her, and interact with her - with all of my being so I can enjoy my visit without the emotional baggage.

Thinking of you! Jean

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RURAL3 11/16/2012 11:03AM

    You are doing great. Sleep would certainly help. It has so much to do with your mood and our health.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/15/2012 7:12PM

    I'm sorry that you're having such a bad week. Good for you staying out of the fridge! LOVE ya

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GRANDMABABA 11/15/2012 4:03PM

    I'm sorry you are in such a dark place. I hope you feel much better very soon.

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PENNYSAVER2 11/15/2012 9:47AM

    I hope you get to feeling better soon! emoticon

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LKWQUILTER 11/15/2012 7:50AM

    Your mood must be contagious Sallie as I have been a little down the past week. No real reason except maybe I am more concerned about my first plane ride to visit younger dd in Indiana. I would much prefer driving our own car--then if I wanted to leave early I could. lol Not sure how things will go as her hubby will be there too and not on the best of terms with him. Oh well, I will do what I have to. (((HUGS)))

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Hell Have No Fury Like My DH and Daughter

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I refused to type up a paper for the husband today. He has gotten himself into a legal financial tight spot regarding a credit card which has been on going for 3 years. He has now been subpoenaed. I have offered him my advice, help and support up until today. Once more he has decided not to respect nor follow anything I have to say on the matter and has ended up in more trouble. Today I finally drew the line and told him he was on his own. He can type up his own response to the attorneys or find someone else to do it for him. It was a small line in the sand, true but I don't feel I should help him out again only to have him not listen to sound advice and therefore dig the hole deeper.

Well all hell broke loose! He called our daughter and asked her to do it for him. After a small hassle she decided to help him out. At the same time the two of them came to the conclusion that "I" was the real problem. I wasn't being a good, dutiful wife. So for that the daughter decided I was not allowed to see my grandson today as planned. I was being punished for saying no to typing up the paper. UNBELIEVABLE! I lost precious time with my grandson over this.

After trying in vain to get both of them to see the error of their ways I realized there was nothing I could do. My daughter had made up her mind. Like I have said before she will use any reason to hurt. Her view on the subject is that I should have done "my duty" as DH's wife even if I was frustrated with his stupidity. Her words! I look at it in terms that it is a paper for God's sake. Not a huge deal breaker in my book and certainly not something that should have been tied to time spent with the grandson. DH refuses to listen to anyone's advice, especially mine, not only in this instance but in others, and keeps making poor financial choices. I have had it, and feel if he wants to continue making bad choices than by God he needs to take full responsibility for them and can type up his own responses to attorneys and such. At the moment however he is over at the daughter's, having her do his work for him and I might add, seeing our grandson.

Frustration and anger are but two of the feelings running rampant in me at the moment. Sadness at missing out on the little guy today is HUGE to say the least. emoticon

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SABLENESS 11/14/2012 9:02PM

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FRAN0426 11/14/2012 8:31PM

    I never heard that not doing a spouses responsibility ( for a mess that spouse created was your duty. It is time for the spouse to own up to the mess. Sad that your DD has taken sides and is willing to do this letter for him, now he doesn't need to stand up to his mess, but one dy he will have to. Sorry your DD is being childish taking it out on you by not allowing you to see your grandson.

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LKWQUILTER 11/14/2012 8:17PM

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Stand your ground Sallie.

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LJCANNON 11/13/2012 9:19PM

    You will be in my Prayers. I am in a similar position with My DH but his involves the IRS. I agree with your position 1,000%!!!! Maybe after your DD has been 'used' a few times she will "Get It"

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 11/13/2012 9:09PM

    Sorry that you missed out on time with your grandson today. You're in my prayers.

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LIFE-FAITH 11/13/2012 7:59PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I am so sorry! HuGs! Jean

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GOLFGMA 11/13/2012 7:17PM

    Hope , as a family , you get this worked out. Maybe counseling from an outside source would help. emoticon

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RURAL3 11/13/2012 6:44PM

    I am well acquainted with the grandkids being used as pawns. I am sorry you are having to go through this It is the only leverage she has with you. So she freely uses it because she knows it is the only way she can get to you. Unfortunately now they have banded together. I think it will backfire in the end though. Maybe not in the near future but down the road. My 11 year old now sees it clearly how mean her mother was to me. She is very mad at her about all of it; It will backfire. Just know that you are loved Sallie. I am praying for your sadness tonight. emoticon

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NESARIAN 11/13/2012 6:02PM

    Accountability and responsibility... and I will not get started on this. I am sorry you are going through this. If DH feels entitled to having others take responsibility for his actions, he will look for someone to do his bidding. Taking your stand may not change him. However, drawing the line may help you feel better to not engage in his co-dependent behaviors. emoticon emoticon

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JO88BAKO 11/13/2012 4:57PM

    Good for you! Quite a few years ago my DH got credit cards-I knew nothing about. He charged and charged. One day when I was home sick I got the mail, and there the bills were. I was furious. His mothers advice was file bankrupcy. I told him you do that, you're on your own. I will not be any part of that. Wanting to stay married, he worked and finally paid the bills off. He cut the cards up. To this day we don't use credit cards. If we can't pay for it or put it on lay away, we don't get it. Best of luck to you. They may get mad at you, but someday they will thank you.

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