Saturday, January 28, 2012
Looking back at the errors I made to one degree or another in raising my daughter, I came up with some suggestions for Effective Mothering of Daughters. I offer them with hope they will help someone else.
1. Don't expect your daughter to be anything like you. She won't be. She may have some similarities but she is an individual with her own likes, dislikes, wants, needs, desires, views, and decisions to make. She is your child but her own person. Treat her as such from the beginning.
2. Donít do everything for your daughter. As she grows, she needs to become more and more self-sufficient. Prepare her well in all things beginning when she is young then let her take it from there.
3. As hard as it will be to do, let her make mistakes. Don't always rush in to save her. She has to learn how to fall down and get back up on her own, in order to become the strong, confident and empowered woman you want her to be.
4. Don't spoil her. She doesn't need the world handed to her on a silver platter no matter how much she says she does. Encourage her to earn the things she wants by working hard for them.
5. Listen. Donít be in such a hurry to give her your opinion or advice. More often than not she doesnít want it. She just wants to be heard.
6. When you need to put your foot down about something. Keep it down. Donít waver no matter what. She may cry, rant, rave, call you names, and threaten but in the end you will be doing her a service by staying firm.
7. Be a good role model, inside and out. If you have personal issues and/ or inner demons to slay, donít hesitate to deal with them. Give her someone to look up to and be proud of.
8. Donít stop your life. Continue to grow and be all you can be. You are important too.
9. Most of all insist on RESPECT. It's paramount. Donít ever settle for anything less, no matter what.