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Tipping for Water Delivery? Other?

Thursday, February 28, 2013

Yesterday, as I was out for a fitness walk, I passed a water delivery man returning from a house to his truck. He was complaining loudly to someone on his cell phone, "Man, if each customer gave me just a dollar, I'd have 40 dollars today!" That got me thinking about people who deliver things to my house. I don't get water delivered, so it never occurred to me that the delivery people would expect (or even hope for) a tip. Certainly I tip for pizza delivery (though we haven't ordered one in ages), but I don't tip the UPS or Fedex delivery people. Often, they just drop packages on the porch, ring the bell, and are gone before I can even get to the door. So I'm curious what other Sparkers think about tipping. Do you tip for water delivery? Flower delivery? Other delivery?

EDIT: Thanks, everyone for great feedback!

  
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DIBANANA 3/11/2013 9:36AM

  Interesting blog Celia. I never have thought of of tipping the UPS or Fedex man. Like others said they usually leave it and run. However mine are very good to me. I do know the name of my UPS guy. I should think to give them something at Christmas but I haven't been home for Christmas in years. I always thought they and PO could not accept tips.

How about hairdressers? I give a tip but sometimes resent it because it is already so expensive! As I age and my income on retirement isn't what it used to be I love the idea of tipping but can't do big tipping any more or I might as well stay home.

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SOXYINMO 3/3/2013 7:20AM

    I tip the UPS guy (handsomely) at Christmas. We have a bad drive and a bad road, so I tip him and the mail lady and the trash pickup (now that we have it) once a year.

Although the UPS guy not bringing my husband's medical supplies these last few days has him on my poopie list.



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CHESAKAT41 3/1/2013 11:54AM

    I am not a great tipper! But, with food I am and that is the only thing I tip for. But, last year I ordered a new full size bed and the delivery man wouldn't put it together (set up on a metal frame only) unless I 'took care of them' - that is what he said!!! So since there were two me men - I gave $15 per man. Duh - won't do that again. $10 would have be enough. Tipping is a personal thing. My friend Pat tips really well and gets mad at me for only giving $1 on a $8 meal at Friendly's. She will give $3 which I think is a bit much. I just say to her - do your thing and leave me alone!!! LOL

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PINKNFITCARLA 2/28/2013 10:21PM

    I tip for food delivery, but I have never tipped for other types of deliveries like UPS, FedEx, etc.

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GINGERHAWK 2/28/2013 1:10PM

    Well, I tip for food delivery (pizza, Chinese, etc) on the rare occasion that we get it but it honestly would not have crossed my mind to tip for packages, flowers, water, etc. We also always tip the pet service if we have someone in to check on our cat. Now you've got me thinking!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/28/2013 11:39AM

    I always tipped for pizza delivery, but haven't ordered in years. When my son was a teenager he delivered food for a Chinese restaurant. One day when it was snowing I took his route since I didn't want a 16 year old driving in that. I made a delivery to a huge "McMansion" and the guy gave me a quarter. Did I mention it was snowing??

I don't tip for a package delivery, but I when I get a delivery of furniture I'll give each of the guys $5 or even $10 depending on how much they had to do. That just has to be back breaking work.

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GOULDSGRANITE 2/28/2013 9:55AM

    We give our water delivery person a christmas card and a tip. Once a year. More like a thank you gift than a tip. I would never think of tipping other delivery people. We make our own pizza, but have tipped for food delivery in the past.

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KANOE10 2/28/2013 9:45AM

    I don't tip the ups and Fed ex not flowers...I would probably not tip water if I got it.

Pizza I did tip in the past when I ordered it.

Interesting blog.

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SHARON10002 2/28/2013 9:27AM

    I don't have things delivered to my house usually, and I believe that UPS or FedEx are not allowed to accept tips because of company policy. So I'm not really qualified to answer, but I would tip for floral delivery, pizza delivery, things like that. I do usually drop a dollar in those tipping jars in Starbucks, Subway, and the likes. . .

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TORTISE110 2/28/2013 9:22AM

    I haven't. But my husband some times tips the McDonald's cashier at drive thru... Always well received!

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Car vs. Deer: No winners

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

I wrote a very emotional piece to myself last night trying to get the sadness and anger out, and I had intended to post it as a blog. Instead, I decided to spare everyone the details and just say I am more upset over the broken body of a beautiful creature than I am over the minor breaks in the car.
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GINGERHAWK 2/27/2013 10:01AM

    Really sorry again, Celia, that you had such a rough day. I'm so happy that you're physically okay but know how traumatic something like that can be (I'm from upstate NY where deer in the road is commonplace).

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PINKNFITCARLA 2/26/2013 10:52PM

    emoticon Aww, so sorry. I know that's hard. Are you ok?...physically I mean? I know emotionally will take some time as that's a horrible thing to experience. emoticon

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SHARON10002 2/26/2013 10:46PM

    Celia, so sorry to read about this. Our son had an encounter with a deer about 12 years ago on the Parkway. He was lucky and walked away. Are you OK? I know that the deer isn't. . .I'm sorry you had to experience that. emoticon

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2WHEELEDSHARON 2/26/2013 3:48PM

    I'd be pretty upset too. emoticon

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So very sorry :(( That would be so traumatic to see and experience :(

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 2/26/2013 12:40PM

    So sorry to hear about the deer, it is so hard when something like this happens were you ok???

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LILYDOG11 2/26/2013 12:37PM

    So sorry about the Deer. Sometimes they total a car, and people in the car get seriously injured. Glad you are okay. emoticon

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BETHGILLIGAN 2/26/2013 12:27PM

    I am so sorry to hear this! We've had one encounter with a deer and it was very traumatic and heart wrenching!! Hope you are OK!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/26/2013 12:23PM

    Oh, I'm so sorry and I sympathize completely. I hoping at least you weren't physically hurt. Sometimes the deer isn't the only casualty. emoticon

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Doing the Dishes - Dividing Labor

Monday, February 11, 2013

DH and I do dishes by hand rather than use the dishwasher because it's just the two of us, and we like the ritual and the extra time together. Here's how we divide the labor:
- DH washes.
- I clear the table (anything left on the table is invisible), wipe down the stove and counter, move all the cooking and prep dishes to the counter next to the sink (anything left on the stove or island is invisible), keep moving dishes closer to the sink (anything not next to the sink is invisible), dry the dishes, and put them away.

How does the task work in your house?
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SHARON10002 2/26/2013 10:51PM

    It's just the 2 of us, too, but we made a pact when we got married that whoever cooked did not have to clean-up, and still adhere to that mostly. There are nights when we will share the clean-up. We also use the dishwasher, but rinse the dishes before putting them in, and wash most pots and pans by hand.

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DIBANANA 2/16/2013 2:21PM

  I do them but DH does so much I just can't ask. However, every once in a while he will step up and geet a dishtowel. We have no dishwasher currently so they are done by hand.

Sounds like you have everything worked out! Good for you AND your DH.

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CHESAKAT41 2/14/2013 11:05PM

    Well, since it is just me - and the Kitties don't like getting their paws wet, I hand wash my dishes. I don't have a dish washer - but sometimes wish I had a small one. I do a lot of general cooking for myself and do the dishes 3 times a day, for sure! I think it is wonderful you and your hubby take this time together. I sounds like you have a fabulous bond together. Happy Valentine's Day...
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RDEFASSI 2/12/2013 7:37AM

    We definitely use a dishwasher- but a lot of our dishes/ pots/ knives are not dishwasher safe. So we take turns doing dishes. With the 2 of us we sometimes wait a day or two to actually wash them- but they get done :)

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PINKNFITCARLA 2/11/2013 11:39PM

    Great team work! Unfortunately in my house, I do all the dishes, all the time, all by myself, LOL. I do use the dishwasher though so it's not too bad.

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LILYDOG11 2/11/2013 2:59PM

    It's just me and my husband, and before we were married My DH bet me in a game board that if I lost I would do so many months, then years of dish washing (should of been my clue he didn't like it) So after him keeping to his winnings of years of me dish washing I insisted on a dish washer that I run every other day. I wash pots and pans and the DH does all the yard work. So I am fine with it. Glad your system is working for you and your husband, it sounds like you have it worked out pretty good. emoticon emoticon

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 2/11/2013 12:01PM

    sounds like a good way to spend time together, sorry my dishes go in the dishwasher, easier for my hand

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GINGERHAWK 2/11/2013 11:38AM

    I love the team work! We actually rely pretty heavily on the dishwasher for everything except for good knives, good pots/pans, or anything that just takes up too much space - those all get done by hand. We actually cook together most every night - I do the sous chef role and get things prepped, he sets the table, he does the bulk of the actual cooking, I clean up what I can while he is cooking, and he does whatever handwashing needs to be done after while we jointly load the dishwasher. If I want clean countertops, stove, table, etc though I know to do that myself. The hubby is terrible in that respect!

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GORIANA 2/11/2013 11:14AM

    It sound like my hubby has the same visual impairment.

Great to hear about the team work.

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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/11/2013 11:08AM

    I remember a children's book - "The Man Who Didn't Wash his Dishes"
That's the mindset of DH and me, but obviously we don't/can't follow that advice. Secretly we both wish some magic maid would appear to do it for us.

Our division turns out like this:
I unload the dishwasher since DH will complain that he doesn't know where everything goes. He rinses everything, loads the dishwasher and turns it on.

He washes/scrubs pots by hand and I take care of counters & the stove.

So it works out, but I like your positive attitude better.

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HELEN_BRU 2/11/2013 10:30AM

    I'm by myself so I fill the dishwasher and when it is full, I turn it on!

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CMRAND54 2/11/2013 9:27AM

    We do use the dishwasher, and we both load it. I usually empty it the next morning. We both clean up the counter spaces of dishes. I generally deal with the pots and pans, and wipe down the counter tops. I am definitely the only one who cleans the stove. It works out pretty well for us.

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BETHGILLIGAN 2/11/2013 7:51AM

    When I was working he always cleaned up the kitchen after dinner. (I often just closed my eyes!! LOL) Since I've retired the divsion of labor has changed: he eats and I clean up! emoticon

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SparkCoach Challenge: Action Plan

Sunday, December 30, 2012

Short blog, as I am still thinking about goals for 2013, but the visualization exercise today is to think about what my life would be like if I were perfectly content in all aspects. Then, the challenge is to blog about an action plan for those less-than-satisfactory aspects.

So far I have used December to ponder changes that need to be made now that I am in maintenance (body weight) and have spent 2012 working on forgiveness (emotional weight), and I see my biggest needs are to lose physical weight (clutter/possessions) and financial weight (debt). Thus, when my action plan solidifies, it will center on those two areas of my life that are weighing me down.

  
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KARRENLYNN 2/11/2013 11:17AM

    Good choices. The simpler our lives are the easier it is to maintain and we can live with joy.

Karen

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CHESAKAT41 1/22/2013 10:10AM

    Great thought and goals for the New Year...Best to you...

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WATERMELLEN 1/20/2013 6:20PM

    Such incisive analysis . . .and synthesis, applying what you've learned from body weight loss to emotions, finances and environment.

This is a life-changing experience.

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BLUEBIRDSFLY 1/1/2013 4:00PM

    Good for you that you are able to narrow down you goals like that. Very impressive.
I thnk now that your targets are so well defined it will be that much easier to achieve your goals.
I hope 2013 will be a wonderful year for you, Celia.

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BECKYLIZ 1/1/2013 3:33PM

    emoticon emoticon On the weight loss and your great plans My brother used to say if you fail to plan, you plan to fail

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DIBANANA 12/31/2012 5:35PM

  Joined Spark Coach Celia. I'm trying to do things I haven't done since what I have done hasn't been working! Happy New Year!

I agree that physical clutter is necessary to get rid of. I love my "things" but I have many I could get rid of. When I do that I feel so much lighter. It makes it easier to clean. The books I have read on de-cluttering say that it helps your mental attitude.



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AMARILYNH 12/30/2012 3:50PM

    Great plan!! I'm so with you on that de-cluttering goal - its something I've been working on but I still have a long way to go!! I love CMRAND54's idea of a shopping hiatus! I believe I need to try that!!

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BETHGILLIGAN 12/30/2012 1:54PM

    Way to go!! Right now I hope to lose more weight and get through the year!!! Daughter's 3rd baby in February; son's wedding in July. I need to continue working on a positive frame of mind. I seem to head down that slippery slope to negativity so easily! Doing better; still need work. Have a happy new year!

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LILYDOG11 12/30/2012 1:10PM

    I have similiar goals with financial pay down on a loan. And saving some money. But I also have to lose more weight. I did good through the holidays (still have New Years to go bc I am going out to dinner) but I am down in weight. I had gained some but have lost what I gained plus an extra pound!! So I hope to keep that way until this last holiday is past and bring on 2013 !! It should be a good year emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CMRAND54 12/30/2012 12:36PM

    Good plan! Mine will be very similar. Some years i make a vow to NOT shop for at least 6 months. I've done this successfully twice, and I'm going to try again this year. I will still shop for food (and coffee) but will not buy clothes, shoes, household items like dishes, towels, etc., books, magazines, jewelry. No trips to the mall or Bed, Bath and Beyond. No on-line shopping. I can still buy presents for other people. If my car breaks down, I can still repair it. (I may need new tires, for example.) My extra money will go to pay down some bills that bother me.

This exercise helps me to budget my money, and it keeps a lot of unneeded stuff out of my house. It also helps me to focus on the many blessings I already have, and the things in life that are important.

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HELEN_BRU 12/30/2012 11:12AM

    There's always something we can work on, isn't there???

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TORTISE110 12/30/2012 11:06AM

    You are so thoughtful in this. Someone once told me that physical and financial health are the bedrock of happiness. Not necessarily having a lot, but being content with what we have. It always made a lot of sense to me. Wishing you both success and prosperity in the new year!

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KANOE10 12/30/2012 11:05AM

    Your goals are good for the next yearr. You have done a great job of identifying what you need to work on.. I need to work on debt also for next year.

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POINDEXTRA 12/30/2012 10:46AM

    Wow - I really like how you've broken this down - body, emotional, physical (clutter), financial. Things can seem overwhelming sometimes, so tackling one area at a time makes sense.

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SparkCoach Challenge: Out of sight, out of mind

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Gift baskets full of crackers, jams, caramel corn....BEGONE! Stashing those treats out of my sight today to meet the challenge. That bag of caramel corn in particular has been luring me with its siren song. Buh-bye! Scram, sausage log! Hasta la vista, white chocolate! Sayonara, crackers! Helloooo, fruits, veggies, fish!
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DIBANANA 12/28/2012 5:59PM

  Celia looks like time for me to start Spark Coach. Good for you. I am always telling my DH who has no problem keeping a bag of chocolat around for months (I would have eaten it in days) that he must hide his stash from me so I don't see it. If I run across it again I make him hide it again. We do what we can!

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PINKNFITCARLA 12/27/2012 10:15PM

    Good for you!! emoticon

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CMRAND54 12/27/2012 7:47PM

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I divided up the chocolate peppermint bark into 1 ounce pieces in snack bags. I can have one bag a day, if I track it and stay within my calories.

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GRATEFUL_BEING 12/27/2012 7:44PM

    YOU GO GIRL!!!!! emoticon

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2WHEELEDSHARON 12/27/2012 12:46PM

    Nice renouncements and exclamations! Very inspiring!

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INTHEGAP 12/27/2012 12:13PM

    emoticon Celia! I gave away a lot, too, especially the few things that were 'calling' my name. :) I did have "a bit" that, maybe, I shouldn't have ~ but it was very little. I was lucky because the one thing that I wanted above all the rest, I was able to have. That was cabbage rolls, which our family always has on Christmas Eve. They were so yummy and, this year, I wasn't even the one who had to make them. ;) Temptation, out of the way, again, for awhile. *sigh of relief* Have a wonderful New Year, my friend. emoticon

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BECKYLIZ 12/27/2012 11:48AM

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BETHGILLIGAN 12/27/2012 11:10AM

    I sent almost everything home with kids!!!

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BRITOMART 12/27/2012 10:09AM

    I gave away most of my 'stash,' and even threw out one item I knew I'd have a hard time resisting. It wasn't easy! but I feel so much better knowing it can't tease me.


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GINGERHAWK 12/27/2012 9:39AM

    Good for you - there are way too many temptations this time of year so getting them out of your sight sounds like a great solution! Stay strong and keep pushing! emoticon

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KANOE10 12/27/2012 9:24AM

    That was too cute. I am doing the same thing..getting rid of Xmas goodies. I am determined to keep in my range for the Mardi gras challenge.

Good for you being positive and focused.

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