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My Brother's Death Anniversary--a Father's Day Reflection

Sunday, June 19, 2011

I just got off the phone with my dad wishing him a happy Father's Day. We chatted, and both said "I love you" before hanging up. He was not able to get together today, but we are meeting later this week. I meet with my dad for coffee or dinner every couple of weeks at a minimum. One would never know that at one point he did not want anything to do with his children.

Tomorrow is the 27th anniversary of the car accident that killed my older brother. Prior to the accident, my dad had left our family. He had been a very angry person and was overwhelmed by trying to balance work and family. He is a genius, and focused his efforts on his career in electrical engineering instead of his family. He chose work over his children; we seemed to be in the way of his career goals.

I think my dad became very confused when my brother died. I stayed with him after the accident because my mom had broken her pelvis and was in the hospital. He didn't seem to know what to do with me. I mean, he sheltered me, fed me, and took me to the hospital to see my mom, but I don't think he knew what to say to a 5-year-old girl who suddenly had to deal with a very adult situation within the matter of a day. He was my dad, but I didn't know what to say to him either--I had barely seen him in 2 years. What I remembered of him was mostly his anger.

The time after the accident started a time of healing not only from my brother Brian's death, but my relationship with my father as well. It was not until he lost his son that he realized what children mean to a father, and that he could either nurture the relationship with his children, or risk losing them forever.

Even as a child, I knew he was trying to be a better father. He was far from perfect, and no one was harder on him than himself. I think my dad's problems were rooted in perfectionism, and his anger stemmed from expecting too much from himself and becoming frustrated when he did not meet those standards. When he worked on letting go of being perfect, he was able to enjoy those around his more, including his children. He learned to love himself in learning to love and appreciate his children.

When I was a teenager, my dad apologized to my younger brother and me. He said he was sorry for not being there more and that he was working really hard on becoming a better person. I know it took a lot out of him to talk to us about his mistakes. My brother and I had already forgiven him long before he apologized.

Now my dad is my biggest supporter. I can talk to him about any adversity and he can help me work through it logically, and without judging me. He has taught me to never regret pursuing my dreams, even when they don't pan out in the end. He sees success in pursuing the opportunity; trying my best is the achievement, and if I actually complete what I set out to do, that's a bonus. My dad is the only person capable of steering me in the right direction without telling me what to do. I am dazzled by his brilliance, and wish I had inherited his talent for math and physics. And most of all, I'm glad we share a crass and dark sense of humor.

Now, when my dad and I talk, we always say "I love you" before we part. And we both mean it very much.

  
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GEMINIAN1 6/21/2011 1:55AM

    I am so jealous of the relationship you and your Dad have.

From what I understand, perfectionism is hard to deal with, internally and for the outside world.
(Not trying to "make excuses"; just sayin')

How wise you are to forgive before there was an apology. I really admire that; good for you.

You are a beautiful person.
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SASSISPRING 6/19/2011 9:39PM

    What a wonderful father you have, to be able to teach you the meaning of love, compassion and understanding. Your father sounds like a strong man with deep feelings and wonderful he was able to "grow" to become the father you know today. Thank-you for sharing such a great story.

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KRISTIARLINE 6/19/2011 5:22PM

    What a blessing to come out of such a awful accident.

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THEWINNER33 6/19/2011 4:49PM

    Thank you for sharing. I am so glad you had a happy ending. Hugs, Marcia

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MARVEEME 6/19/2011 4:33PM

    With age comes wisdom.

(Though, sometimes, age has been known to show up alone.)



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My Brother's Death Anniversary (and the day the binging started)

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Many people have been overweight for as long as they remember, and some of us may not know what started this battle with our bodies, while some of us do. I remember the day my battle started. June 20th, 1984, started as a normal summer day. My mother was going to take my two brothers and I on some errands. The day ended with my family in shambles, my mother's soul crushed by the loss of her son, nearly losing another child, and her own physical pain. A drunk driver can change a life in a split second, as I learned from a young age. As I approach the 27th anniversary of that day, I have been reflecting on how that day changed my life. I had worked hard to work through the grief, but working through the lasting changes has been a life-long process. SparkPeople has helped me look deeper into myself than any other source, so I would like to share my experiences with the SparkPeople community.

Rather than spell out the details of that day, I would like to share a short story that I wrote in a creative writing class last year. I am going to blog later about the lasting impact of the day my older brother was killed. Grieving does not necessarily last forever, but the impact from life-changing events forever shapes who we become.


"Blond Brothers"


"Brian!" my mother yells. "Stop bothering your sister!" She shoots the picture as I triumphantly yank the yellow balloon away, my golden blond pigtails bouncing as I skip away. Brian has the same blond hair, a short boy's haircut, although the slight curls make his hair unruly. His pants never fit right, always hanging off of his skinny waist to reveal half of his butt, even though he could tighten his brown leather belt to hold them up. He knows that I started it. I always do.
I win only because he lets me and he adores me.

The photograph shows an average moment between siblings, a typical memory: A gangly eight-year-old boy holding a prized possession, a twerpy little sister wanting it only because she knows she can win. Brother and sister thumb through a photo album, come across this picture, shaking their heads and giggling.

"Do you remember how much you used to piss me off?" one says to the other.

"Whatever, you always started it!" the other retorts. They laugh together and are so glad they have outgrown such childish ways.

I ask Brian in my head, "Do you remember how much you used to piss me off?" The only response is the call of a tall waterbird in the lake near his grave. I will never know if we outgrow our childish ways. I don't want the damn yellow balloon anymore. I want more fights with my brother. I want to let him win for once. My hand absently rises to my forehead, the round bumpy scar one of many reminders. I accept the tranquility of my brother's grave, the turtle carved into the flat gray granite headstone posed just like the turtles basking in the sun by the lake.





Our baby brother John is contentedly gazing out the back window of the car. He has never had a hair cut, his straw-blond baby hair in rambunctious curls around his cherub face. I watch him watching the cars going by from the safety of his car seat; he doesn't know how often I watch him watching things. It is a warm and sunny summer day and Brian and I are excited to go to McDonalds for ice cream. I was dragged to Brian's doctor appointment and I know I deserve a treat. Today we are not squabbling. My mother pulls the car into the left turn lane at the stop light and we wait patiently for our turn. She turns and smiles at me, her five-year-old daughter sitting next to her, and eight-year-old
and two-year-old sons in the back.

Brian picks at my hair and tells me it is like spun gold. He takes off his seat belt and leans over the to the front seat, wrapping his arms around me. I don't resist. I pick fights with him, but secretly I covet his ability to catch turtles and to recite most of the lines from Star Wars. He hugs me every chance he gets, when I'm not being such a brat to make it impossible.

I turn to look at him. The truck is the biggest and fastest thing I have ever seen as it barrels toward the intersection where my mother pulled out after our light turned green. My scream comes too late to warn my mother.

The impact makes no sound.

The car is spinning forever. The sky and ground outside the car melt into a whirl of blue and brown. I turn around during the slow-motion moment to look at my brothers.

Brian's arms are not around me anymore. John's eyes are closed, blood trickling from his ear, his mouth slightly open, his head tilted back as though he is napping. My mother is asleep and her head is pointed at the ceiling.

The car stops after an eternity in the grass median. I clamber to open the door, to go where, I don't know. A tall blond-haired man whisks me up and runs with me through the grass, despite my confused protests. He lays me down on my back and I turn on my side to see the sky blue Chevy sitting gracelessly in the grass, crumpled like a used newspaper. The grass is too high for me to see my mother or brothers. Even though I can
walk, I cannot move from where I am. Sirens wail from a distance, a chorus of them gets louder, then stops.

A paramedic comes and gingerly picks me up. I can say nothing, only scream. He puts me in the ambulance. John's tiny body is surrounded by people, counting out loud as they press on him and squeeze a balloon-looking plastic bag over his mouth. They stop and start to busily poke at him and put a plastic mask over his mouth. All of the equipment seems too big for him.

Outside I see police officers talking to the blond man who took me from our car. The doors close and the sirens blast again as the ambulance starts to move. The ride only lasts a second. We are bustled into the hospital and I am taken by a nurse to a bed surrounded by cloth curtains. My bare feet dangle over the bed. I ask where my shoes are and the nurse tells me they were lost in the crash. The nurse has tweezers and a metal bowl on a table next to the bed. She tells me she needs to remove the "windshield" from my skin.

The first chunk of glass plops into the metal bowl with a staccato Plink. The nurse tells me I'm doing a good job. She finds another piece of windshield glass and digs slightly to pull it from my forearm. Plink. I tell the nurse I want to see my mother, and she says I can in a little bit.

"Where's John?" I ask. The nurse pulls back the curtain next to us to reveal my baby brother nestled amongst beeping machines. Plastic tubes are sticking out everywhere. He is napping and does not look uncomfortable.

The nurse turns back to her task. She sees a sliver of glass on my chest and gingerly tugs at it with the tweezers. Plink. I look at the nurse, who is looking closely at my arm.

"Where's Brian?"

"I'm sorry, he's dead." Plink.

I don't feel any more glass under my skin, each Plink into the bowl sounding more distant, the beeps from machines rushing away.

My Aunt Theresa is walking towards me, smiling with a trembling lip. Her eyes are puffy and wet. The nurse does not stop picking at me as my aunt approaches. Plink. Aunt Theresa sits down next to me and holds my hand. I say again that I want to see my mother. Aunt Theresa squeezes my hand more tightly. Dozens of Plinks later, the nurse stops, and then washes my skin.

Aunt Theresa takes me down the hall, my bare feet almost squeaking on the white linoleum. My father is sitting next to my mother's bed and is holding her hand. He is sad. I have never seen him sad, only mad. That is why we don't live with him anymore. He turns to look at me. We have nothing to say to each other right now.

I cautiously approach the bed where my mother is laying. A machine with squiggly lines on a screen beeps rhythmically next to her bed. She looks beautiful and flawless, but now her eyes are empty.

My mother is staring straight at me, but is not looking at me. Aunt Theresa tells me my mother broke her back and hurts a lot right now. My mother normally has all the answers, so I don't know what to say to her. I place my hand on hers, and she squeezes her eyes shut, tears leaking from her tightly-closed eyelids. My mother says nothing. I study her gorgeous face, her brunette hair cascading on her pillow. My father and Aunt
Theresa are talking about the "drunk" man and "running the red light." Then something about John being in a "coma." Something about Brian "going through the windshield."

Aunt Theresa puts her hand on my shoulder and tells me that it's time to go and buy new shoes.






The flowers my dad left are fresh in the vase by Brian's grave. Hours ago my dad stood over my brother's grave, a different man than the one who received the call twenty-five years ago that his oldest son was dead, the rest of his family in shambles. He became a real father that day. Today I am my father's daughter, my dark blond hair, gray eyes, large figure, and smart mouth are all from him. The anger is long forgotten.

John's hair is no longer blond, but brunette like my mother's, no longer curly, but coarse and chopped close to his head. He does not remember the day of the accident, but knows very well that it shaped him forever. Standing six feet tall, he is handsome and his lean body shows that he frequently runs marathons. He looks at other graves, at the lake, at the sky, at the car. Anywhere but straight down at the granite slab with the turtle and the engraving "...each seed is each seed's child."

John squirms from one foot to the other as he stands with my mother and me. My mother looks up from Brian's grave and grabs my hand. "What do you remember the most about Brian?" she asks.

I pause awkwardly. "His death," I answer honestly. She gazes with hope for more answers from my face, and nods. The wounds continue for my mother all these years later, although she now knows it was not her fault. The tall blond man who had taken me from the wrecked Chevy, the same man who took my older brother's life, had said he was not sorry. She forgave him anyway.

I can remember Brian if I think hard, in thoughts, and in pictures. But the silver truck grill is always bearing down on us in the one second that changes our lives. My mother gazes at the lake, remembering her eldest son, thankful for John and me. "Have I told you how proud I am of you?" she asks me, beaming.

"Yes, earlier today."

She takes John's hand. "I love you so much," she says, squeezing and shaking his hand. He rolls his eyes with slight indignation. "Yeah, I know. I love you, too," he mutters, even though he means it.

My brothers, my mother, and I are together as a family.







Thanks for reading.

  
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GEMINIAN1 6/20/2011 6:10PM

    The only response is the call of a tall waterbird in the lake near his grave.
This is me since the above sentence ...
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I wish I had a time machine and could make this never happen or a magic wand to make everything, for lack of a better word, "ok"; dispite what happened.

Thank you for sharing this.

You have my condolences my friend.
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(I started yo-yo'ing, within my "healthy weight range", after I broke my ankle, in two spots. On a *way*, *way* smaller scale, I can understand.)

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MISSME1223 6/19/2011 11:27AM

    sending lots and lots of hugs your way...I'm so sorry for your loss...your story was so moving I read through tears...

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MARVEEME 6/19/2011 8:28AM

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KRISTIARLINE 6/18/2011 11:54PM

    WOW! That was powerful. 27 years can seem like forever ago or just yesterday. My hope for you is that you can remember more of your brother rather than grill. emoticon

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HIKINGSD 6/18/2011 10:29PM

    You have a great talent. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss and struggle.

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DR1939 6/18/2011 8:34PM

    emoticon Our middle grandson was killed in an auto accident 6 years ago. He was 19. It still hurts.

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ALISHAB3 6/18/2011 8:21PM

    emoticonYou are an excellent writer. I am so sorry for your loss. I know it was a very long time ago now, but the memory still holds this sadness, so I am sorry.

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FREECANDY 6/18/2011 8:13PM

    OMG, how sad. I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. :(

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LEONALIONESS 6/18/2011 3:38PM

    *biggest hugs ever*

I had no idea. I'm so sorry to read this.
You're SUCH a strong person and I feel that even more having read this.

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ARCHIMEDESII 6/18/2011 3:05PM

    How tragic ! I am so sorry for the loss of your brother in such a horrible accident, Your blog is a poignant remembrance for your lost brother as well as a way to heal.


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GABENSEBSMOM 6/18/2011 2:33PM

    I'm so so sorry for your loss. Your story was so heartbreaking. I'm sure it must be very therapeutic to write. I'm a writer as well. You're very gifted at it. Nothing but good thoughts to you on this difficult day.

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Put chocolate on your face--chocolate skin facial! (w/ pics)

Sunday, June 12, 2011


Nom nom nom!



I started making homemade skin care products a few months ago, after years of battling my sensitive/dry/oily, acne-prone skin with conventional products. A lot of my skin care utilizes the nutritional value of pure cocoa powder. Today I did a facial at home; this is the second time I've used this facial. My skin feels renewed, refreshed...and chocolatey! This facial also uses the exfoliating power of fruit acids. This facial gives me the best of both worlds--anti-aging and anti-breakout!

Any of these recipes can be used as stand-alone treatments as well (I do the "Morning Mocha" Mask about once a week). Most of the ingredients can be purchased at the grocery store (especially Whole Foods or other natural food stores), otherwise there are great online sources. I order most of my stuff from Mountain Rose Herbs: www.mountainroseherbs.com/




The "Morning Mocha" Mask is pictured above. Good enough to eat, but made to put on skin!



Here are the steps and a few of the recipes:

1)Exfoliate with baking soda--wet face, mix about 1 Tbsp. baking soda with water to make a paste, and gently massage face for about 1 minute. Rinse well.


2) "Apple Pie" Mask

2 Tbsp. applesauce (made without added sugar)
1/2 tsp. cinnamon
scant 1 tsp. fresh-squeezed lemon juice

Mix well and massage onto face. Leave on 5 minutes and rinse well.


3) Massage with cleansing cream (I made my own, but could use a store-bought cleansing cream or lotion suitable to skin type).


4) Steam for 5 minutes.


5) Oil cleanse--no, really!

I was shocked to find how great oil works as a cleanser. I use a 50%-50% min of extra virgin olive oil (good moisturizer) and castor oil (good cleanser, especially for acne). A lot of people just use extra virgin olive oil, and that works well, too. I also add essential oils, including carrot seed, patchouli, geranium, rosemary, orange, and eucalyptus essential oils. Anyone can customize a blend according to skin's needs.

After steaming, massage oil on face for 5-15 minutes. To remove, put very warm water on a washcloth, put on face until washcloth cools, then wipe gently (don't scrub). Repeat rinsing process 4-5 times.


6) Blackhead extractions (yep, have a squeeze fest!), then rinse thoroughly with cool water.


7) Lemon-geranium toner

Lemon and geranium essential oil renew skin and fight acne, and witch hazel extract acts as an astringent. In the future, I plan on making this with witch hazel hydrosol, which is alcohol-free. Any astringent toner would do if you don't feel like mixing this.

4 ounces witch hazel extract or witch hazel hydrosol
12 drops lemon essential oil
8 drops geranium essential oil

Mix ingredients in a brown or blue glass bottle and shake for 2-5 minutes. Store in refrigerator for up to 1 year. Wipe a generous amount onto face with a cotton ball.


8) "Blueberry Brownie" Mask

This mask uses blueberries to provide fruit acids, cocoa powder and cinnamon for antioxidants, and Fullers Earth and Epsom salt to purify and mineralize skin. If you don't have Fullers Earth and/or Epsom salt, then simply eliminate. Fullers Earth is also known as cosmetic clay, and is good for acne-prone skin.

1 Tbsp. blueberries (mashed and strained)
1 Tbsp. Fullers Earth
1 tsp. cocoa powder
dash of cinnamon
1 tsp. raw honey
brewed coffee or water

Mix dry ingredients and blueberries well. Mix in honey. Drizzle in coffee or water to make a thick paste. Massage onto skin, leave on 20-30 minutes. Remove by gently wiping with a washcloth and rinse well.


9) "Morning Mocha" Mask

This mask will moisturize and provide more antioxidants. Caffeine helps brighten the skin.

2 tsp. finely-ground coffee
2 tsp. cocoa powder
2 tsp. finely-ground oatmeal
1 tsp. honey
brewed coffee or water

Mix dry ingredients with brewed coffee to form a paste, apply to face. Leave on 20-30 minutes. Remove by gently wiping with a washcloth and rinse well. *NOTE: Make sure the ingredients are ground into powder consistency, otherwise the skin could be damaged; a coffee grinder works well.


10) Spritz skin with plain, but strong, green tea (I use 2 teabags per 1/4 cup water and let steep for several hours. Green tea helps with sun damage and provides antioxidants.

11) Apply face serum--I use aloe vera gel.


12) Pour 4-5 drops of jojoba oil onto palm. Rub hands together, then pat onto face.


13) Moisturize with a rich cream. I made my own ("Chocolate Body Frosting"--I will provide recipe later), but any high-quality anti-aging cream would do.


And there you have it! You get a home spa treatment and an awesome chocolate fix!





  
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CHICAPICA 6/14/2011 2:27AM

    That looks like so much fun! Ive never done anything like those... Sounds like a fun experiment for a girls day :)

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RUE_19 6/13/2011 6:16PM

    sounds amazing but how does it taste?? (j/k)

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GEMINIAN1 6/13/2011 1:23PM

    This is so emoticon!
Thanks for sharing.
I think it is great that you do this.
I'm totally into "this kind of stuff" ... lol.
I don't do facials; but, if I did, this is right up my ally. Maybe I should start ... :-)
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ANDREA409 6/13/2011 10:36AM

    Oh, nom, nom, indeed. They look delicious...lol. Thanks for posting the recipes for the masks. I'll give them a whirl sometime.

I live near Hershey, PA (you know, the chocolate capital of the country), and they have a spa that features their chocolate in an array of things. I've never been, but a few of my friends have. How cool!

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BRDGT262 6/13/2011 7:51AM

    yep def alot of work :) thanks for posting, I might have to give this a try sometime!!

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SYZYGY922 6/12/2011 11:30PM

    Also, I'm afraid that I would eat half of this stuff :D

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SYZYGY922 6/12/2011 11:29PM

    Oooh, I've heard of using olive oil, but I've never tried it.

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The Fat Girl in Gym Class--Revisited...

Wednesday, June 08, 2011

*WARNING--Some strong language*

I was the fattest kid in my elementary school. I weighed more than even the largest boy. My job was to play The Fat Girl. I was supposed to waddle around and move awkwardly. I chuckled halfheartedly at jabs about my weight. I was shy and demure Erin. Despite being fat, I ran the fastest (5:01 mile in the fifth grade), was stronger than everyone else at sports like shot-put, and enjoyed playing almost every game. I was still simply known as the fattest girl, not the fastest. I stood as teams were picked, wondering who would get stuck with me. I waited until everyone else was picked, standing alone, the team that was one short groaning as I walked towards them. Then, invariably, my team would often win because of me. My classmates always seemed surprised at my decent performance, almost like they had some sort of "fat chick" amnesia where they forgot that a fat person may actually be okay at sports.

Well, I ate shy and demure Erin for breakfast a few years ago. Strong-headed and slightly bitchy Erin was born.

I have been doing kickboxing, boxing, and some mixed martial arts for more than seven years. My skill level is at a competitive level. I haven't been able to kick for more than a year because of a knee problem, but I knew I wanted to return to boxing. I was finally able to return to boxing in February, when my knee was a bit more mobile. I committed to attend the morning classes on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. There were some familiar faces, but no one acknowledged me (despite the fact that I have been a member at the gym for over 2 years). There were some new faces, too, and I just happened to partner with someone who is a newer member. I realized over the months that I dreaded going to boxing. I love boxing, so I chalked it up to getting back into the routine. But every day--and I mean every day--I have been the last to get a partner. I stand there, waiting to see which unfortunate soul gets stuck with me. Eying me from across the room, I see the sunken look of, "Oh great, I'm stuck with HER." Funny how they're so sure they hate someone to whom they've barely ever said two words. Then, during the workout, they try to coach me, there are even eye rolls sometimes, and they throw down the pads and walk away without a word at the end of class.

In martial arts, it is considered exceptionally disrespectful to coach someone who is more advanced than you. I often slip in there that I have been a mixed martial artist, kickboxer, and boxer for seven years; they're supposed to get the hint. Nonetheless, my partner constantly barrages me with, "C'mon, twist those hips!" and "C'mon, reach for those punches!" And then, the kicker...one day, she moved backwards, and as I was winding up for my punch, she blurted, "C'mon, burn those calories!" This resulted in an exceptionally hard punch to the pad, but I otherwise ignored the comment. This is not someone with whom I have never discussed my weight loss (nor would I). I wanted to say, "Right, because the ONLY reason a fat chick would come to boxing is to lose weight. Why else would a fat person ever set foot in a gym?" It was then that I realized that the people in the classes are rude. It has been distracting and, well, no fun to go to boxing. It's not me...it's them. They are the elementary schoolgirls in gym class (maybe physically larger, but just about as mature). I am stubborn as hell, though, so I have still been showing up regularly.

About two weeks ago, I showed up for the morning class as usual. There were only four of us. The other three people were guys from the gym's fight team. One of the guys nodded to me and asked, "You got a partner?" My reaction was to feel bad that he got stuck with me. Instead, he did what the pad holder is supposed to do--just held the pads. No coaching, no eye-rolling, no dumb comments, just the occasional, "You can do it!" It was a flawless workout and the best workout I've had since returning to boxing a few months ago. I was working out with a real boxer, not a girl on the playground. It was then that it dawned on me that I was The Fat Girl in gym class all over again. I love my boxing coach and the other trainers at the gym, so I am going to try to go to more of the evening classes when the fight team is training. I belong with the advanced people, despite the treatment from the recreational people who typically come to the morning classes. I am also going to try some classes at a new boxing gym and see how that goes. Unlike shy and demure Erin, strong-headed and slightly bitchy Erin doesn't cave so easily.

Although I am DONE with being the Fat Girl, I have learned that being fat is not the problem. If other people have a problem with my body size, then that is on them. I own my athleticism now. I am a pretty good boxer, a helluva strong chick, and a decent dancer. I enjoy almost any form of being active. I have nothing to prove to anyone else. Yes, I'm fat, and I also genuinely like to exercise (and not just for weight loss). I wish that shy and demure Erin could have learned that 20 years ago.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to get ready to go whoop some butt at the boxing gym.

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DENNISPARKER1 6/30/2014 5:06AM

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CHICAPICA 6/14/2011 2:33AM

    That is so awesome! i can relate to the dread of partnered activities, though unlike you, i have not always been much help to my teams... hence I am the stereotype and reason you get those reactions LOL. I also did kickboxing a year ago. I absolutely loved it. I wish they had it where I moved to :(
ANyway keep up the awesome work. forget the haters and just enjoy doing what you love :)

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ANDREA409 6/13/2011 10:40AM

    Right on, Erin. Lay it all out there. I've often realized that I like most guys more than women. A lot of women haven't really changed since they were evil little bullies wrapped in demure packages as children. I can't stand it, and I distance myself from it as much as possible. Keep kicking ass, girl.

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ALISHAB3 6/10/2011 2:15PM

    Yeah!!!!!! Dang, a 5 minute mile? Aye Carumba! I wish I was fast like that!

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GEMINIAN1 6/10/2011 10:19AM

    I had issues with the other kids in school picking on me too. More of a dork thing though.
I heard some kid, say on TV, the other week, "High School isn't forever." Whoooo-Wheeee; I'm so glad that's the truth ... lol.
I remember you going back in February.
If you're finding your class rude and no fun you definitely need to fix that.
It's your dime and your time girlfriend.
(I'd rather work out with a guy myself.)
I love the last paragraph you wrote.
One piece of advice I'd give you is to stop calling yourself fat; go with strong, beautiful, athletic, in charge.
I hope you're having a kick ass day ... :-)
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GAILRUU 6/9/2011 9:48AM

    I wasn't the fat girl in school, but due to frequent moves from one school to another, I was always the new girl and also dreaded those team choices since I was the last one chosen. Being horribly shy didn't help either.
I spent 30 years working as a nurse and learned to be nice and to carry on a conversation with almost anyone. My tactic is to be kind to everyone and I find it works well for me since it is difficult to be rude to somebody who treats you well! Good luck to you in finding a compatible class to attend.

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JLONG4 6/8/2011 6:02PM

    Your blog has inspired me. You have taught me that you have to do it for yourself, nobody else. I think that is something I keep forgetting. Thank you so much for all the encouragement!

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JONICACALDWELL 6/8/2011 5:51PM

    Yea, they only wanted me on the Red Rover teams because I could bust my way through anything.

Good for you. You are doing what you love and people's opinions of you and your weight are not standing in your way. Very inspiring! emoticon

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GSWINNIE 6/8/2011 5:51PM

    OMG YOU ROCK!! emoticon emoticon You kick some booty girl! I've been wanting to try boxing but I've always been a little shy about it. Maybe I'll have to give it a try.

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ZUGASAURUS 6/8/2011 5:47PM

    Ugh, I got so angry reading about your experiences that I wanted to box someone too! I love your attitude though; being able to realize that it's THEIR problem and not yours (or your sport's) is something I hope to be able to do in the future. That "I'm doing what I want to do and to hell with everyone who disagrees" mentality is super-inspiring to me and I hope to figure out how to do it for myself!

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RUE_19 6/8/2011 5:46PM

    Go get 'em, girl!

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100-Points-a-Day Challenge

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

I had been slacking on my Sparktime a little bit during May, so I have been trying to earn at least 100 Sparkpoints per day. Yesterday I reached 93 points, and I realized the only way I would get to 100 would be to do at least 35 minutes of activity when I got home from work. I did do 20 minutes of Pilates and 15 minutes of yoga and made it.

I am going to challenge myself to get at least 100 Sparkpoints per day throughout the whole summer (at least through September). This will help ensure that I track everything and, whatever I fall short for the day, I need to make up with activity. This may mean an extra 20 minute walk, or some extra dancing, or Pilates or yoga. Maybe this will help me go from this emoticon to this emoticon by the end of the summer!

  
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GEMINIAN1 5/25/2011 7:17PM

    Well isn't that a nifty idea?
I love it.
Thanks for sharing ... :-)
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MARVEEME 5/25/2011 1:25PM

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YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS! IT WILL!

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