Saturday, March 20, 2010
First, a little background. Ten years ago, my DH fell from a ladder while at work and landed (all of his weight) on one leg. His ankle was shattered (the 3-D xr-ray was flipping awesome!). Anyway, for about two years, he was not able to help much around the house. Multiple surgeries, infections, etc. kept him on crutches or in a wheel chair for that long. My kids were 5 and 2 at the time (almost 6 and 3). I tease him that he broke his ankle to get out of potty training the boy! LOL! But I digress.
After he started to be able to get around again, we discussed what he could do to help me around the house again. We agreed that he would take care of the dishes. (He has taken on much more since then..this was a small step). Within two weeks of DH taking over the dishes, the kids had a new chore. Loading and unloading the dishwasher. Why hadn't I thought of that!! LOL!
Dishes is the one chore that my son HATES! He complains about all of them, but he truly hates dishes. His favorite trick is to run the dishwasher and then not unload it and run it again. That way, he is "doing his dishes" as long as the dishwasher is running. Unfortunately, he thinks that DH and I are too stupid to realize that there are no dishes missing from the sink. DS has been sick most of the week. Last night, he was finally feeling better so he had to do his dishes. DH felt sorry for him and helped. Dishwasher ran and only a few dishes from dinner were in the sink.
Tonight, I came home and the dishwasher was running...and all of the dishes that were in the sink the night before were still there. DH and I gave him multiple chances to tell the truth, but he kept insisting that he had unloaded, reloaded and was now washing a whole new set of dishes. We called him on it and eventually he wrote down a confession. We discussed, punishment was set (an extra week of dishes) and done.
About 10 minutes later, DS was watching World's Craziest Police Chases or some such dumb show. One of the chases involved a guy who was not wearing a seat belt. He ran from the cops (in his car) because he didn't want to get the ticket. No other reason. The chase ended badly and the man was paralyzed from the accident. DS asked "What's wrong with people? If you know you did something wrong, just pull over, take the ticket and you're done!" DH and I looked at each other.. .. and DH said "You're right! Like why don't people just admit when they are lying, especially when everyone in the whole room knows it? Or just do the chore in the first place so they don't have to lie about it?" You could see the light bulb pop on over DS's head. (couldn't find a light bulb)
I think he finally got what we've been trying to get through to him for years! Now, do I expect it to stick? No, not really. Am I glad there is a chink in the armor? Yep! Wish us luck!!
Thursday, March 18, 2010
doing something on their own, what would you say? And by spouse, I mean spouse (obviously!) or boyfriend/girlfriend, significant other or even roommate. Someone important in your life who wants to do something that you probably don't like. Say he likes going to garage sales and you want to go to the museum (or sleep in or just NOT go to garage sales!). Do you say go without me and enjoy. Or do you insist on going with, even tho you do NOT like the acitivity. Or, do you drag that person along on your chosen activity?
I am not talking about family functions. I am always dragging DH to those, both my family AND his! LOL! Or school functions. Those are things that really obligations.
I am talking about free time. Can your SO go out on a weekend and play softball while you stay home and you're okay with it? Or vice versa?
In my limited observations, I've found that one partner generally is more comfortable with non-partnered time. (I don't know what else to call it!) For example, if my DH wants to go to a friend's house after work (and I know about it so I don't stress and can change plans accordingly), I say go for it! If he is late leaving work, okay. Just tell me.
DH, on the other hand, wants me home whenever he is home. Part of that is because he works six days a week and we don't see each other very much. And, oddly enough, he LIKES me!! LOL!
Yep, that's my only example. I told you it was limited! Oh wait...just thought of one other example. Good friend of mine is a stay-at-home Mom who also is a free lance writer. She actually likes it when her DH is home and prefers that he NOT make other plans. Of course, she doesn't tell him that he can't do something (she's not his mother for goodness sakes!). But she does try to arrange things so they can spend time together. She is like me in that if she has something planned, and he doesn't tell her, he is in deep water!
So...two examples. Both support my theory (see? More theories!). 100% succes rate! Really, what more do I need?
Thursday, March 18, 2010
It is well established that I am a nerd/geek/whatever. A couple of weeks ago I blogged about a couple of theories I had on the Spark Wheel. One was that over time, your average will be three. The second was that the more points you got BEFORE you spun the wheel, the more points you would win on the wheel.
Yep. I started a spreadsheet! Started out basic. First column, the date. Second column, number of points earned before spinning the wheel. Third column, number of points the wheel gave me. In 21 days, my average for the wheel is just under 5.5 points per day. Kinda blew that theory outta the water huh?
For the second theory, it's a little harder to sort the data. But there is no clear trend there either. I have days with over 80 poinst pre-spin that I won 5 points. Others taht I only got one. Same with under. I hit the 20 two days in a row...once with 76 points pre-spin, the second with only 68. Data does not process (you have to say that last sentence with a robot voice while doing robot moves to get the full effect).
So, I added some columns. About a week ago, I added max points available on the wheel. Today I added how many SP points I had when I was all done getting points. Theory for the first column is that I have to know what was available to compare to what I earned. If I get 5 every day and 5 was the highest number, I'm pretty darn special!
The last column works off the theory that somehow the wheel "knows" how much I've done and how many more points I could potentially earn. So, do I get more points from the wheel on the days that I get a lot of exercise minutes? Notice, I assume that the wheel rewards me for earning more points. That, students, is a hypothesis. Unless it, too, is a theory and then, never mind.
Anyway, the spread sheet is still going strong! Does anyone want to send me their numbers? Increasing the participants will improve the experiment/evaluation. Here's the info I need.
Points b4 Spin
Points from Spin
Max points on wheel
Total points earned for the day
Man...I am a nerd! I'm kind of giddy at the thought of putting other people's data into my spreadsheet. already thinking how to reformat to fit other folks in. LOL!!
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Today, I got up and headed to work, same as any other work day. Except that I knew my son didn't feel good and would be staying home from school. I called the school from work to let them know he wouldn't be in and to arrange homework (he LOVES me for that! Not!) Then the phone calls began. He called to tell me he didn't feel good. That he just threw up. That his throat hurt. He even called to tell me that an ambulance had just gone down the street behind our house. (No, it wasn't for him. I asked.) He even asked if I could make a doctor's appointment for him. That's when I knew for sure that he was SICK!
I made the appointment, left work early to go get him and get him there on time. Sure enough, strep! Which means he'll miss tomorrow too, since he's still contagious. After picking up his prescription, we came home and he crawled onto the couch to rest/sleep/watch TV. I took the time to go upstairs and to my exercise DVD (BTW, L3 on the Shred makes the other two look like a cake walk! Not sure what a cake walk is, but it's gotta be better than L3!!!) After DH got home, I went to the gym for a workout since I haven't been for a couple of days.
So, here's the question. Was I selfish to work out when my son really wanted his mommy to hang around and take care of him (even tho he was watching TV and/or sleeping?)? Or am I an optimistic person because I took the chance to get my workout done before dinner so I could 1) spend time with the family this evening and 2) watch all of Biggest Loser?
I know how I would vote. Do I dare ask you? LOL!
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
can go to heck in a hand basket in the blink of an eye! (Do you think I get any more sayings in one sentence?)
I packed my breakfast, lunch and snack for work today and decided that I would do my workout after a dinner of chili and cornbread. I tracked everything the night before and made sure that I was in my ranges. All set to start the week off right!
Until DH called to let me know that my daughter was sick and needed a ride home. Normally, he would leave his shop and go get her. But, today, he didn't have anyone to watch the shop so he would have had to close. So, I drove the 35 minutes to her school, took her home, checked on my son (who was also home sick) and headed back to work. Stopped for gas and realized that I would not have time to heat my lunch before my meeting. So, went through a fast food restaurant and "took advantage" of their special, two bacon cheeseburgers, with onion rings on the burgers!, for only $4! What a bargain! That is a bargain for me! (Gumby said that...I think!) Yep, ate them both.
Turns out that I packed ONLY brocolli for lunch today. Grabbed the wrong container! Good thing I found that bargain! LOL!
I did have an apple and string cheese for a snack, so yay for me! On the way home, called DD (who was feeling better) and asked her to make cornbread to go with the chili. Two minutes later, DH called and said that 3/4 of the family wanted Chinese instead of chili. Who am I to try to dictate to the masses? Okay, so I am the dictator, but I like Chinese too! Ate too much of that!
After dinner, DD mentions that she ripped one of her last two pairs of pants, ripped them good. (Can you hear the Devo music in the background and see the kids running in a line, trying to whip the last one off? No? I can!) So, after dinner, I took DD to find some pants. Did I mention that she is a teenager and is built like me? Small waist with some hips. Not big, not fat, but Baby Got Back! Hard to find jeans that fit. We did find her three pairs of pants that we could both agree on and were between $20 and $25 each. Yippee!
I tried on some pants, but didn't care of the legs. I don't need any pants, so I decided to wait for some that were what I really wanted. HOWEVER, I did find thecutest new purse! Saw it in their ad and it lived up to my expectations. Asked DD if I should get orange or green. She very wisely told me orange! LOL! www.shopko.com/detail/rosetti-royal-
979/2938 All orange, tho. No pattern.
BTW, most of you will probably appreciate DD's comment to me. Between Target and Shopko, she looked and me and asked what my natural hair color is. Fair question since I've been dying my hair since before she was born. I pointed at my eyebrow and said this color. "Oh" she says, all cute and young. "So...gray!" I swear, I don't know where she gets it! LOL!!
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