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Memorial Service with more joy than sorrow!

Saturday, March 12, 2011

I wrote recently about the death of my DH's Uncle George at age 90. His dear wife preceded him in death by two years although we had lost her 5 years before to Alzheimer's. Today the family held a memorial service in honor of both of them at the retirement home where they spent their last years; however, they had been volunteers at the home for over 20 years. Although the service had hymns and Bible readings and prayers, it was the memories shared by nephews and nieces (Uncle George and Aunt Nancy has no children of their own.) that moved us to laughter to shared nodding of heads and indulgent smiles as someone described a situation shared by all present. He always called her Dear Nancy and when she could not longer feed herself, he fed her every meal. As his own end was nearing and he was speaking the the hospice chaplain, he said he was not afraid of death, he just wanted to be with Nancy again.
I must admit that there are some today who call themselves Christian that seem to have forgotten the answer Jesus gave when asked for the greatest commandment. "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, your mind, my strength and your neighbor as yourself." George and Nancy were not theologians, but that they understood and that is how they lived their lives. In fact the dinner after the memorial service was hosted by a family who had been neighbors. Katherine told of moving in next door with five children and Nancy and George appearing before the moving vans left. Katherine realized she had moved from a state where you left your refrigerator to one where you took it when you moved. It was middle of the summer and she had no frig. Uncle George took to the nearby family run appliance store, told the owners this was his new neighbor and she needed a frig now. One was installed in her kitchen within the hour.
This afternoon I sat in a room with family, friends and neighbors and fully and completely experienced the power of love. May everyone be blessed with love like this.

  
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LESLIEJEAN43 3/13/2011 5:24PM

    Thank you so much Carol Jean, for sharing such beautiful memories of such beautiful people.
Hugs, Leslie

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TURTALYA 3/13/2011 2:15PM

    That was very beautiful and uplifting, thanks for sharing... :)

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LADYIRISH317 3/13/2011 12:35PM

    George and Nancy sound like incredible people. The world doesn't have enough like them. I'm glad you and your family have such happy memories to console you.

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WORKOUTWITHPAM 3/13/2011 8:57AM

    Your Uncle George and Aunt Nancy were wonderful people. Thank you for sharing their memories with us.
HUGS
Pam

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MARAHAB 3/12/2011 11:20PM

    Amazing people like you deserve amazing memories of their loved Aunt and Uncle. You were shaped by their example and are better for it! Your uncle knew that they would be together again and had no fear! What a loving relationship they had! Much reason to celebrate!

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MUSHCAT 3/12/2011 11:09PM

    Thank you for sharing such warm, loving memories. Yes, life would be lovely with more people like your Uncle George and Dear Nancy, including those that call themselves Christian. I am happy for you that there was more joy than sorrow. Wishing you love and peace.
Judi

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Planning makes a difference

Friday, March 11, 2011

Setting small doable goals does make a difference, even when they don't have to do with food and exercise. We are out of town this weekend and then I am leaving on a 3 week road trip with a college roommate. I had a series of "small" task to complete.. batteries for the camera, snacks for the trip, programming the GPS, etc. Last night I made a verbal list with my DH about what I wanted to accomplish today... oh, by the way, the laundry as well. Somehow saying them out loud settled them into my plans for the day and I began immediately after, well before breakfast with the first load of laundry. All are done, I will enjoy weekend with family and be ready after a new packing job to roll out Tuesday AM for the West Coast.

  
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MRS_TOAD 3/13/2011 9:45AM

    Stay safe and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!

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BISSA7 3/12/2011 2:48PM

    Very true! It's funny how just saying things outloud can work. Sometimes I have to write it down, but planning ahead is key in most things! Have a wonderful weekend!

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LESLIEJEAN43 3/12/2011 12:28PM

    Enjoy your weekend, and your road trip! I am envious---I love road trips!
I'm glad you've done well at getting organized.
Hugs, Leslie

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MUSHCAT 3/11/2011 1:54PM

    I'm glad a verbal list works for you. I have to write things down because my memory is like a sieve. I am very excited about you heading this way and I hope you enjoy each and every moment of your journey. Happy travels!

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FERRETLOVER1 3/11/2011 7:29AM

    Have a great trip! You have learned a valuable lesson - planning really does work!

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Acupuncture ?

Sunday, March 06, 2011

The local yoga studio where I teach offers "community acupuncture" one Sat. afternoon a month. The studio is used, with mats on the floor with supportive pillows and the treatment costs $25. I decided to give it a try. The needles didn't hurt while they were in and I barely felt them go in. I think I had a total of about 20 needles in one ankle, wrist, hand and one in the middle of my forehead. Then I was told to lie still for 30 minutes. I actually ended up meditating for 30 minutes and felt extraordinarily relaxed and at peace at the end of the session...
Needles or meditation? I don't know.

  
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MRS_TOAD 3/8/2011 9:21AM

    The relaxation could have been the result of either the acupuncture or the meditation. The good news is that you found relaxation. emoticon

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SLIMMERKIWI 3/7/2011 3:18AM

    I have had TONS of treatment with Acupuncture, for my Essential Tremors. I have had the needles in the top of my head, by my toes, further up the foot, my ankles, 1/2 way up the lower leg, just above my wrists and further up the arm. Then he has put a pulsating electrical node on them. Altho' the treatments weren't meant for "relaxation" they sure did - I often nearly went to sleep. The Dr who did it said a lot of patients would go to sleep during the treatment. If the therapist is a medical one, then they usually do it holistically, in that they take into account what is happening in your life too! Mine treated asthma-related gunk in the throat, pain, and extreme stress as well as the tremors when I was going! Even tho' it was expensive - $75 per session - and I initially had it fortnightly for about 18 months, then about monthly for a couple years until the tremors were no longer a problem, I really missed traveling down (about 3/4 hr drive) to get it because it WAS so relaxing:-)

Kris xx

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LESLIEJEAN43 3/6/2011 6:04PM

    I have tried acupuncture once. A physiotherapist used it after I had injured my knee. The needles didn't hurt, and in fact, the pain was gone while the needles were in place, but there was no lasting benefit for me. So, I have mixed feelings about it, but I'm glad you found it relaxing!!
Hugs, Leslie

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MUSHCAT 3/6/2011 4:22PM

    Whether it was the acupuncture or the meditation, I envy your ability to achieve a calm, relaxed state. I would not have near the problems with my migraines if I could learn the art of relaxation. So far, my biofeedback isn't progressing very well. I know it takes practice, practice, practice, along with lots of patience. The very act of trying to relax stresses me out. I still wish I were a kitty.

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Self Compassion

Saturday, March 05, 2011

On a post on one of my teams, a Sparker added a link to a newspaper article about self-compassion v. self-esteem. In the article was the following link: www.self-compassion.org/
I have spent much of this evening exploring this site and still have some left to read. However, what I have found so far has been so wonderful, I wanted to share it on Spark People. Think about the messages you give yourself if you "fall off the wagon" whether it is with food, cigarettes, alcohol, exercising, whatever. More often than not we think about what losers we are and that we are never going to be successful in achieving our goals. Now imagine your dearest friend or relative, someone who means the world to you. Imagine that friend making a huge mistake. Would you say the same things to that friend that you just imagined saying to yourself??? If we are going to treat others with compassion, we must begin by having compassion for ourselves and recognizing we all make mistakes, we all deserve to receive compassion and compassion and kindness is the root of all major world religions.

  
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WORKOUTWITHPAM 3/5/2011 6:38PM

    Very true! Thanks for sharing!

HUGS
Pam

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LESLIEJEAN43 3/5/2011 4:19PM

    Thanks CarolJean! I know I am my own worst critic, and definitely could use a lot more self-compassion!
I appreciate the reminder.
Hugs, Leslie

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TURTALYA 3/5/2011 10:47AM

    Thanks for this blog and link, CarolJean! I just visited the site... got a bit carried away nom-nom-ing last night (I am even afraid to log it into the tracker ;) and your blog was spot on! I find it amazing how the Universe puts help in your way when you need it
most!

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ONICAM 3/5/2011 9:42AM

    I need a lot of help in this area.

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MUSHCAT 3/5/2011 5:10AM

    Thanks for the link. I will be sure to bookmark it. I think many of us need to learn more self-compassion. I am my own worst critic. When I'm so hard on myself, who needs enemies? Thank goodness Sparkers are full of encouraging words and sage advice.

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Family Fun sort of??

Thursday, March 03, 2011

A bit of explanation is necessary. DD made great friends in law school and we all become an extended family of sorts. The first part below was written by DD in an email to the whole group. The last section is a response from one of the group. Needless to day, retired life is not boring in our household. This morning DH took pictures of his "invention" with the cat and is creating a "last invention appreciation kit" he will send to all.

"I was speaking on the phone with my parents yesterday and my mom said they had taken all the pets to the vet that day. My parents take all the animals (2 dogs and 2 cats) at one time because they get a"volume" discount. Which, as my mom pointed out, when your bill is
almost $300, a 15% discount is worth it.
Anyway, I know that my parents only have one cat carrier. So, I was curious as so how they transported both cats. My father told me of his ingenious plan: he took an old cat litter pail , took his power drill and drilled eight holes in the top for ventilation and took the cat in that. Can you even imagine what the vet must have thought when he pulled a cat out of a kitty
litter pail???
I am not sure if this is an improvement of his last cat carrier creation - a milk crate with a cookie cooling rack secured to the topwith twisty ties from bread bags.
What do they say...necessity is the mother of invention? Well, in my family I guess it is the father.
My question is, do you think I should spend $6 on a cardboard carrier for them or is it more fun to see what my father will come up with next?"


"I will be very very very upset if you buy them a carrier. You gots ta let this ride. Awesome story and I'm waiting with great anticipation for the next installment. It sort of reminds me of Red Green's Handymans Corner bit. Please don't deprive us of your dad's next great invention."

  
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WORKOUTWITHPAM 3/5/2011 6:36PM

    LOL...I should have read this BEFORE I invesed in SIX pet carriers to transport my six cats to the vet.

There is an email forward going around that shows a picture of a 'REDNECK' pet carrier. It is a 24 pak beer carton. The carton is on its side, and the pet's head sticks out one end; holes are cut in the bottom for the pet's legs to hang out, and a belt is looped around the carton for easy carrying...LOL. Of course, a 24 pak of beer probabaly cost as much or more than a pet carrier..LOL.

HUGS
Pam

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SYLPHINPROGRESS 3/3/2011 6:46PM

    To Carol's beloved daughter:

Your father has fun improvising. His inventions are more than serviceable and possess oodles more personality than a cardboard box.. No need to be embarrassed by the family luggage if you don't have to be seen with it. Think of the vet and the other patients' parents in the waiting room. They smile at your father's inventiveness. You'd deprive them that? Not your style.

Laurie

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SLIMMERKIWI 3/3/2011 4:44PM

    I take my cats in a plastic laundry hamper with the lid tied down. The hamper is the "holey" variety, and can hold 3 cats more than comfortably - they can stand and move around, but don't have 'lots' of freedom:-)

Did the cookie cooling rack get used for cookies after that?-D

Kris xx

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LESLIEJEAN43 3/3/2011 1:13PM

    I love it!
I bought a carrier large enough to transport 2 cats together, although I now only have one cat, who thinks of the carrier as his private 'cathouse', and spends part of each day sleeping in there.
As you've found, where there's a will, there's a way!
Hugs, Leslie

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