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Establishing Dreams and Goals

Wednesday, January 04, 2012

One of the amazing things we have been given as humans is the unquenchable desire to have dreams of a better life, and the ability to establish goals to live out those dreams. Think of it: We can look deep within our hearts and dream of a better situation for ourselves and our families; dream of better financial lives and better emotional or physical lives; certainly dream of better spiritual lives. But what makes this even more powerful is that we have also been given the ability to not only dream but to pursue those dreams and not only to pursue them, but the cognitive ability to actually lay out a plan and strategies (setting goals) to achieve those dreams. Powerful!

What are your dreams and goals? This isn't what you already have or what you have done, but what you want. Have you ever really sat down and thought through your life values and decided what you really want? Have you ever taken the time to truly reflect, to listen quietly to your heart, to see what dreams live within you? Your dreams are there. Everyone has them. They may live right on the surface, or they may be buried deep from years of others telling you they were foolish, but they are there.

So how do we know what our dreams are? This is an interesting process and it relates primarily to the art of listening. This is not listening to others; it is listening to yourself. If we listen to others, we hear their plans and dreams (and many will try to put their plans and dreams on us). If we listen to others, we can never be fulfilled. We will only chase elusive dreams that are not rooted deep within us. No, we must listen to our own hearts.

Let's take a look at some practical steps/thoughts on hearing from our hearts what our dreams are:

Take time to be quiet. This is something that we don't do enough in this busy world of ours. We rush, rush, rush, and we are constantly listening to noise all around us. The human heart was meant for times of quiet, to peer deep within. It is when we do this that our hearts are set free to soar and take flight on the wings of our own dreams! Schedule some quiet "dream time" this week. No other people. No cell phone. No computer. Just you, a pad, a pen, and your thoughts.

Think about what really thrills you. When you are quiet, think about those things that really get your blood moving. What would you LOVE to do, either for fun or for a living? What would you love to accomplish? What would you try if you were guaranteed to succeed? What big thoughts move your heart into a state of excitement and joy? When you answer these questions you will feel great and you will be in the "dream zone." It is only when we get to this point that we experience what our dreams are!

Write down all of your dreams as you have them. Don't think of any as too outlandish or foolish—remember, you're dreaming! Let the thoughts fly and take careful record.

Now, prioritize those dreams. Which are most important? Which are most feasible? Which would you love to do the most? Put them in the order in which you will actually try to attain them. Remember, we are always moving toward action, not just dreaming.

Here is the big picture: Life is too short to not pursue your dreams. Someday your life will near its end and all you will be able to do is look backward. You can reflect with joy or regret. Those who dream, who set goals and act on them to live out their dreams, are those who live lives of joy and have a sense of peace when they near the end of their lives. They have finished well, for themselves and for their families.

Remember: These are the dreams and goals that are born out of your heart and mind. These are the goals that are unique to you and come from who you were created to be and gifted to become. Your specific goals are what you want to attain because they are what will make your life joyful and bring your family's life into congruence with what you want it to be.

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 1/27/2013 3:54PM

    Well Said!

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MICHELE142 1/26/2013 12:16AM

    Been trying to check in with you, and not really sure which SparkPage to catch up with you. Thought I would try this blog before I went else where.
Great Blog by the way as will as, food for thought!

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RALKINGCHICK 1/15/2012 9:17AM

    What would you try if you were guaranteed success? Why...I. Don't. Know. But I'm going to ponder!

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WANDATIME 1/7/2012 8:33AM

    Great blog, thank you so much!

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STANBUSH 1/4/2012 10:58AM

    Yep. This is the one. What would you try if you were guaranteed to succeed?
I just saw that yesterday too... and here it is in front of me again.
Would it be... could it be... the power of attraction!!!!

good blog... excellent stuff.

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SNUZSUZ 1/4/2012 9:06AM

    Sandi, I absolutely love this blog! May I copy it and use it for the Glass Slipper Ministries? You can check them out at:
Dreams/goals are what the Glass Slipper is all about! Helping girls in group homes and women in recovery homes, find their dreams again, and pursue them. Please let me know, I will certainly give you the credit for it if you allow me to repost it.

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STALEYK 1/4/2012 4:47AM

    Thank you for sharing! I so often get busy I neglect quiet time and yet my being so craves it!

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Commitment....the act of committing, pledging, or engaging oneself.

Sunday, January 02, 2011

OK so I don't normally blog much! I used to but I didn't really get much feedback and I think that was what I was looking for. Today I am blogging for myself. I've been here on SP for almost 3 years. Initially I wanted to lose the weight for my wedding and to quit smoking.
Well..... I lost 50 pounds and I quit smoking. I have been quit for over 2 yrs. now but the weight, what can I say? I have gained it all back plus some! I know all the reasons, I eat too much, I eat the wrong foods and I lack the exercise I need daily! I have all the tools to lose weight. They are at my fingertips and I know what to do to lose the weight. So today I am COMMITING to :
1.) Using my WW knowledge to eat, consume the proper amount of food daily
2.) Making healthy decisions on what to actually put into my mouth
3.) Having healthy snacks around at all times
4.) Drinking water EVERY day
5.) Walking 3 X's a week
6.) Using the stationary bike for riding instead of as a LR decoration, 3 X's a week
7.) Trying new, healthy recipes
8.) Being positive and excited about my choice to get healthy
9.) Staying focused on me and not everyone else
10.) Limiting my time on the computer
11.) Joining a new team that will motivate & encourage me to do this
12.) Asking for help when I need it

There, I guess this could be my own 12 step program!

On a funny note........"The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight because by then, your body and your fat are really good friends." Not too far from the truth, I find it so much harder to lose the weight now that I am in the over 50 club, but it is doable. So my friends, please wish me luck as I try again to make this happen..........I KNOW I can!
cheers to 2011


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FUTUREYOGI 5/15/2011 7:45AM

    Yes I know I'm commenting on a fairly old blog but I just met you so it's new to me.
How are you doing with your 12 step plan, looks like you have great goals I hope you are sticking to them although I know how hard that is.
I think you should blog more often, I find you very motivational. emoticon

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DAWN.BELIEVES 1/4/2011 8:46AM

    YAY! I love your new-found motivation! You can do this!!!!

Be Blessed,
Dawn emoticon

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 1/2/2011 8:07AM

I am glad for an update Sandi. Blogging, I believe should be a dialogue. However, I understand your frustration. I do it as a means of working things through as writing has always been an outlet for me. emoticonI am truly sorry you didn't get the feedback you were looking for. No excuses, but by about the time you left, I was a newbie who took attempted to help as the leadership had issues which made it difficult to be "present". Suddenly, it was just me, and an extremely busy Nancy keeping things going. The members were expanding to other areas and a sudden influx of newcomers arrived. I was left for six months, and not well myself, but these are a wonderful group of individuals, and I couldn't simply leave nothing. So much for that...The leader is back, and now that the challenge I created is over, I will be on my own taking the time to catch up with my wonderful Spark friends.
You have been on my mind a great deal. I want you to know how much I appreciate your support and the goodies. I have truly missed you.
Back to the most important issue. You have made a great deal of progress. Those steps should never be discounted. The insight you have gained, and the lessons you have learned will serve you well in many aspects of your life. emoticonYou have selected some great goals for yourself. emoticon
Keep following the path which feels right for you, and you will be successful in more ways than you realize.
I hope you enjoyed your cruise. As you know I have allowed myself to get behind, but in order to remain healthy I, too must work on some difficult goals. I am always glad to hear from friends, and be assured you are not alone. If you ever need to vent, a sounding board, whatever, I have open ears.
Take care. I wish you the very best as you pursue your goals. emoticon emoticon

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RANGERRUNNER 1/2/2011 7:28AM

    Sending GOOD VIBES your way! Of course you can do this! No luck involved. This from the woman who quit smoking 2 years ago! And you know they say that Quitting smoking is the HARDEST thing you will ever do, so losing a little weight should be a walk in the park! In fact, thats all it really takes is several walks in the park! (Haha, sometimes I am so witty!) emoticon

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Sunday, March 28, 2010

Life is a participation sport, not a spectator sport. We have become a society of overfed, undernourished couch potatoes. Maybe it’s because I’m in the autumn of my life that I’m much more conscious of being active and healthy instead of sedentary and overweight. Do you think the next generation will be called “baby blubbers” instead of baby boomers?

A cartoon I saw recently showed a pudgy neighbor kid knocking on his friend’s front door, asking his friend’s mom: “Can Johnnie come out and eat?” And not so many years ago it was can he come out and play.

This week, pass up the fast food and junk food, and put some high-octane, nutritious food in your tank.

Three Rules for Turning Stress into Success by Denis Waitley
1. Accept the Unchangeable—Everything that has happened in your life to this minute is unchangeable. It’s history. The greatest waste of energy is in looking back at missed opportunities, lamenting past events, grudge collecting, getting even, harboring ill will, and any vengeful thinking. Success is the only acceptable form of revenge. By forgiving your trespassers, you become free to concentrate on going forward with your life and succeeding in spite of your detractors. You will live a rewarding and fulfilling life.

Your enemies, on the other hand, will forever wonder how you went on to become so successful without them and in the shadow of their doubts.

Action Idea: Write down on a sheet of paper things that happened in the past that bother you. Now crumple the paper into a ball and throw it at the computer screen. This symbolizes letting go of past misfortunes.
2. Change the Changeable—What you can change is your reaction to what others say and do. And you can control your own thoughts and actions by dwelling on desired results instead of the penalties of failure. The only real control you have in life is that of your immediate thought and action. Since most of what we do is a reflex, subconscious habit, it is wise not to act on emotional impulse. In personal relations, it is better to wait a moment until reason has the opportunity to compete with your emotions.

Action Idea: Write down in your diary one thing you will do tomorrow to help you relax more during and after a stressful day.
3. Avoid the Unacceptable—Go out of your way to get out of the way of potentially dangerous behaviors and environments. When people tailgate you on the freeway, change lanes. If they follow you at night, drive to a well-lighted public place.

When there are loud, obnoxious people next to you at a restaurant or club, change tables, or locations. Also, be cautious of personal relationships developed via the Internet. With the massive number of individuals surfing the Net, the number of predators increases in proportion. Always be on the alert for potentially dangerous situations involving your health, personal safety, financial speculation and emotional relationships.

Action Idea: What is one unacceptable behavior you have or allow others to do to you that you will avoid, starting tomorrow? Example: The way you drive, being around negative people, walking down dark streets alone late at night, etc.

Hope you enjoyed this blog as much as I did, it is great advice! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DAWN.BELIEVES 6/20/2010 12:17AM

    Loved the blog. Thanks for sharing!

Be Blessed,

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Saturday, March 20, 2010

Be willing to say to yourself, "I'm on the right road. I'm doing OK. I'm succeeding." We too frequently become adept at pointing out our flaws and identifying failures. Become equally adept at citing your achievements. Identify things you are doing now that you weren’t doing one month ago… six months ago… a year ago. What habits have changed? Chart your progress.

Doing well once or twice is relatively easy. Continuously moving ahead is tough, in part, because we so easily revert to old habits and former lifestyles. Over the long run, you need to give yourself regular feedback to monitor your performance and reinforce yourself positively. Don't wait for an award ceremony, promotion, friend or mentor to show appreciation for your work. Take pride in your own efforts on a daily basis.

Making the Most of Today by Denis Waitley

What each of us is doing this minute is the most important event in history for us. We have decided to invest our resources in THIS opportunity rather than in any other.

It is helpful to remember this when we consider the passage of time. As the years pass, I am acutely aware that the bird of time is on the wing. At my high school reunion, I saw people who claimed to be my former classmates. We all had big name tags printed in capital letters so we wouldn't have to squint with our reading glasses on trying to associate the name with each well-traveled face. It was only yesterday that I was really enjoying high school. What had happened to the four decades in between? Where had they flown?

To the side of the bandstand, where the big-band sound of the late 1940s and 50s blared our favorite top-ten hits, there was a poster with a printed verse for all of us to see. I read the words aloud:

"There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

"One of these days is YESTERDAY, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed or erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone.

"The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW, with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise, and its poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.

"This leaves only one day, TODAY. Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities - Yesterday and Tomorrow - that we break down.

"It is not the experience of Today that drives us mad, it is remorse and bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring. Let us therefore… Live this one full TODAY."

Malcolm Forbes believed the important thing is "never say die until you're dead," and he lived that example to the hilt. It is, as we realize when we suddenly attend our high school reunion, a short journey.

But it is difficult to be depressed and active at the same time. So get active! Live TODAY.

Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You may not get what you want, but in the long run you will get what you expect.

A good life is a collection of happy memories.

Happiness is the experience of living a life you feel is worthwhile.

To be enthused is to be infused with life!

Accept yourself as you are right now; an imperfect, changing, growing and worthy person.

You are a masterpiece of creation.

Each human being on earth has equal rights to fulfill his or her own potential.

You are an uncut gemstone of priceless value. Cut and polish your potential with knowledge, skills and service and you will be in great demand throughout your life.

View stumbling blocks as stepping stones to the stars.

Optimism creates energy and is contagious.

The Virtue of Patience by Denis Waitley
While persistence is the determination to strive to achieve your ultimate goal, there is another virtue of equally great value. Persistence keeps us moving inside ourselves to see the purpose behind the purpose, but patience is the wisdom behind persistence.

Patience cautions us to focus our efforts on what we can change while accepting what we cannot. When external circumstance rains on our parade, patience is our umbrella. Rather than blaming what we cannot control, patience is the wisdom behind persistence.

It is when a goal is distant and difficult to reach that patience is an ally. Time changes everything, but with patience you can keep your desires relatively constant. If you can just hang on long enough, time will finally create the conditions in which you can succeed.

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HLTHAPPINESS4C 3/21/2010 5:06PM

    emoticon Blog! I especially like the part about yesterday and tomorrow. So very true, yet sometimes hard to live by. I also like the affirmations. I hope you really do know what a precious gem you are Sandi!

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Get Motivated!

Saturday, January 09, 2010

Find the Drive You Need to Succeed
How self-motivated do you feel? And how hard do you push yourself to get things done?

Wanting to do something and motivating yourself to do it are two different things. So, what's the difference between those who never reach their goals, year after year, and those who achieve one goal after another? Often, it's self-motivation.

Self-motivation is the force that keeps pushing us to go on - it's our internal drive to produce, develop, and achieve. When you think you're ready to quit something, or you just don't know how to start, self-motivation is what pushes you forward. Find your sources of energy.

With self-motivation, you'll learn and grow - regardless of the specific situation. That's why it's so fundamentally important for achieving your goals, realizing your dreams, and succeeding.

Self-talk is a must! emoticon

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DAWN.BELIEVES 2/12/2010 8:49AM

    Motivation is something that I do lack but have been trying to work on. I always start off motivated then I really just dont know what happens......

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