Friday, November 29, 2013
I'm having a bit of a rough month. That can go well or poorly depending on how I see it.
I could look at it as a burden that I have to carry and I can't make room for anything else OR I could look at it as a challenge to get through.
If I were to be pessimistic about this, I could stop taking care of myself and completely be involved in the needs of my child. Obviously I have to take care of him to some degree, but I have a husband and daughter that can share the burden. I could try to take care of the household and the bigger needs of my child, overlooking all my needs thinking I have to do it all myself.
I can also be optimistic about this. I could see the end of the tunnel, knowing that every day he'll become more independent and eventually be back to where he was to begin with. I can allow myself to have the help that's given and make sure I have my "me time" when I can get it.
It's going to take the week to get into a routine. I've become tired from trying to catch up, but my husband has been great about making sure the household has been fairly clean, doing dishes and laundry. The holiday week will be done this weekend and we'll be going back to routine, even if part of it as a new routine. We're going to have a 3x a week physical therapy routine which will hopefully get him walking with a walker soon.
I'm going to start figuring out how to fit me into the routine again. I went crazy when the kids were little and had to be home all the time and I know that it will happen again. Hopefully this will go better since I can work on homework with him and do stuff that toddlers can't. It's harder with the sun down before dinner, so it's harder to get out at night for a quick walk, like I do during the summer when I just want to take a walk. Perhaps I'll do some window shopping just to get away from everyone.
It could always be worse, fortunately it wasn't.
Today's Holidays: Buy Nothing Day, Update Your Parent's Browser Day, Native American Heritage Day, and You're Welcome Day.
Thursday, November 28, 2013
In a normal year, I'd probably give a few of these things on my list, but this year they're more meaningful after a crisis.
I'm thankful for my husband, without whom I'd not be able to handle crises.
I'm thankful for my parents, who will drop everything they're doing to help me out in a crisis.
I'm thankful for my children, who are helpful when the other child is sick.
I'm thankful for all the people who work in a hospital so that we can feel better more quickly, from the doctors all the way down to the cleaning people, they're all essential.
I'm thankful for an emergency number, which connects us to the people who can help us the quickest when an emergency pops up.
I'm thankful for 24 hour a day stores, where I can fill prescriptions or pick up over the counter medicines when we get sick.
I'm thankful that some places are open for a little while on Thanksgiving so I can get things that are essential to every day living so we don't have to rely on the gas stations for those things.
I am thankful for online forums, where I can meet people who are helpful and give (mostly) virtual help.
I am thankful for free wi-fi, where I would go crazy otherwise sitting around in a hospital for a week.
I am thankful for those people who are willing to give, without whom I may not have survived for as long simply because I'd be really hungry.
I am thankful for books, which both entertain and educate.
I am thankful for technology, without which we would still be sitting in the dark and dying off quickly.
I am thankful for precipitation, without which we would not have the variety of vegetation we have.
I also want to say thanks to those who have been giving me well wishes and goodies this week. I have not been able to get back to you yet, but I hope to once we're settled down a bit.
Today's Holidays: Happy Thanksgiving (official U.S. date), Make Your Own Head Day, Red Planet Day, National French Toast Day, National Turkey Day, and National Stuffing Day.
Wednesday, November 27, 2013
I've come to the realization that my son's abilities have basically become that of a toddler. We're learning how to do simple things like get dressed by himself, be steady on his feet and even attempt to crawl.
It's a little harder for me as he's more than twice as heavy as a toddler. I have to remember to lift with my legs and not with my back. I have to know what my limits are when carrying him as he just can't do as much as he used to.
I know that I can carry his weight simply because I've lost that much weight on my own body, so having carried it for years, it's a lot easier for me to lift that load when I know I'll be placing it down after a short trip. Stairs are still hard for both of us since he's so unsteady and I just can't walk up or down stairs without being able to see my feet.
I have decided that I can't do personal things when he's awake or when I don't have someone watching him. I just can't take the chance he'll need to pee or tries to do something he's not able yet.
I just need to find that balance I had. It's harder to do when I got used to being without anyone during the day. Now I'll have to figure out how to do things while taking care of my son. It was already harder when he was a toddler to get things done and now it feels like we've gone back to that.
Since we're home, I'm feeling the tiredness start to creep in. I'm hoping that by next week we'll be in rhythm with how we need to do things.
I will figure out that balance, even if it takes a while for him to go back to being able to do things.
Today's Holidays: Turtle Adoption Day, Pins and Needles Day, Tie One On Day (which involves aprons and giving to neighbors), and National Bavarian Cream Pie Day.
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
I have one child at Grandma's, the husband at work and the other kid is sleeping, so I have a little time to write.
My son only woke up once last night. It looks like I have a lot of stuff to teach my husband on how to take care of the child. Since I was the one there with him the whole hospital stay, I'm used to what needs to be done, but if my husband is going to be able to take care of the child in the way I learned from all the people at the hospital, it will take a couple of days.
I made a lot of appointments for my son. He's set up for his first 4 pt appointments and his follow up with his regular doctor. I've cleared out most of my emails from the week, for some reason I couldn't check them all week, there were 200.
My daughter was invited to a birthday party, I called to say yes and we'll have to work on getting a present this week.
I think I have all the calls made I need to make so far.
The garden was neglected while I was gone, I've started to work on watering everything and pruning what needs to be pruned.
Fortunately my husband did the dishes and laundry while I was gone, so I don't have to work really hard to get back to normal around the house. I just need to work on unpacking the stuff we brought with and we'll fold the laundry later.
One step at a time will bring us back. Tonight my husband will talk to the boy's teacher about how to proceed from here. I already emailed her to give her a heads up if she reads it today.
On a good note, I'm down another pound!
Today's Holidays: Charles Schultz was born 1922 and National Cake Day.
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