Sunday, June 30, 2013
Okay, it was kind of strange. Last night I had a dream that said "this is what's going to help your weight loss." In my dream I was writing down all the common excuses I make, and writing down why they are not true. I'm going to look at this list every time I feel guilty of that type of thinking. I thought I would share it. Hope this inspires you.
Excuse # 1: I just can't do this.
Stop right there. Yes you can. The simple answer is within a question: Why Not? There are people of all shapes and sizes who have lost weight. There are people who have been twice or even three times your weight, and THEY have done it, so why can't you? If you are getting the "I just can't do this." feeling, go read a spark success story, that will turn your thinking around.
Excuse # 2: It's just too hard.
Yes, it is hard, it is going to be difficult some days, but you are strong and you still have what it takes to go through all the way with this. If it feels like it is just way too overwhelming, maybe its not that it's "too hard" but you are just 'pushing' yourself too hard. You can do your best, and still be kind to yourself, give yourself with little rewards along the way. Stop thinking about how hard it is, and start thinking about the rewards, how GOOD it feels.
Excuse # 3: I messed up, so now I have to quit and start over later.
Whoa. That mindset just does not work. So you overindulged a little too much. Make it a learning experiece, not a quitting experience. Tomorrow is always a new day. Go a little extra on the bike,but don't beat yourself up about it. Beating yourself up, has that done anything for you in the past? No. It's only normal to have some misteps along the way. Get back up again, and dust off your shoulders. Keep going!
Excuse #4 The scale isn't cooperating. What's the point?
This is NOT all about the scale. This is about FEELING GOOD. The scale is not always going to say what you want it to read every time you step on it. You don't need to be stepping on it everyday anyway, because it should not be the prime focus. Make feeling good your prime focus. Quit stressing over the number. The number will change if you stay strong and keep going,
Excuse # 5: I can't stand it!!! I need to eat!
Maybe you do. What type of hunger is it? Emotional, or physical? If it's actual physical hunger, eating something healthy, and eat it mindfully. If it's emotional, you know you've dealt with these cravings before. Try a low cal version of it and look up a good recipe, or, try these affirmations. "I enjoy eating healthy." "I am fully nourished." If you are going to feel guilty and you know it after you eat it, is it really worth it?
Excuse # 6: Is this worth it? maybe I don't need to lose the weight after all.
YES, it WILL be worth it! Look at all the things you will gain: better health, self confidence, more energy, more self esteem, going to the beach without feeling self conscious. Whenever you feel this way, just imagine and daydream about all of the things you will gain when you loose.
Excuse # 7: I am ugly and it wont make any difference. I will still not like myself.
You are not ugly. You are beautiful. You ARE going to feel a lot better, but self esteem and how much you like yourself should not be all about looks. Make this journey about finding yourself, learning to love yourself, and embracing who you truly are. This can be a fun journey, it doesn't have to all be a struggle. Calling yourself names, hating yourself, putting yourself down, will only make you feel worse. You ARE beautiful, at any size. This isn't about looking perfect, it's about better health and feeling good!
Sunday, June 23, 2013
One of the things I really like about spark is that this site always stays interesting, it's never boring! There is always some new article to read or new message board to post on. Very cool. When it comes to the journey this time around, I am doing several different things, but not overwhelming myself with it, just enjoying all of the support and good tools on here.
I love my Sunny Gal's team! We have new little challenges each week pertaining to health, and I feel bad I have not kept up with my goals with this in the past. This time, I AM NOT going to cop out. The new season just started and I am ready to stay in the zone. Having the right frame of mind is so important when it comes to well, any kind of goal in life. When I think of how many times I have walked into things thinking "this wont end well" that has gotten me nowhere. pretty much, I am just very sick and tired of being a slave to my feelings all the time. Today's affirmation was: "I will do the right thing no matter how I may feel." -Joyce Meyer
If I feel like sleeping in, I will do the right thing, and get out of bed for yoga! If I dont feel like exercising because I am depressed or feeling sorry for myself, I will exercise anyway because I know that I will feel better in the long run. And if I feel addicted to weighing myself, I am going to remember that this is the lifestyle I want to live, not a quick fix to hurry to the weight loss finish line.
Monday, June 10, 2013
Last week was a really bad week. I felt like I had absolutely no will power to do anything, let alone exercise. I was not getting along with someone because of them being pushy and not supportive towards things. My phone has been off for a few days now, and I will check it when I'm ready. Do you ever miss the old days when there were just land line phones, and people didn't hound you or get mad if you didn't answer their voice mail or text right away? Every once in awhile I believe everyone needs a break from the phone.
However, when it comes to the weight loss journey, I felt really good after I made myself get on that bike. A spark friend once told me if you at least try, even if it's only 10 minutes and that's all you can do that it still counts. Because of my weight I have really bad lower back pain, but lately even after this one little week of June I have noticed improvement, doesn't hurt too bad at all, and all I have been doing is riding a stationary exercise bike, and a little bit of basic yoga off the television each morning. That's not so difficult once you get into the habit! I also remember that spark quote, that I believe has stuck with so many people: "Wow, I really regret that workout -No one ever." Or, "You'll only regret the workouts you don't do."
Let's face it. For many of us, exercise is not always fun. You don't ALWAYS feel like doing it. And some days all a person wants to do is eat comfort food, and take a nice nap. But there is truly no better feeling going to bed at night, knowing you accomplished what you set out to do that day. Maybe you weren't perfect in your efforts, but just knowing you did your best makes the journey worth it. That's what I believe anyway.
I decided to transfer my progress picture of me on my camera to my computer, and I edited in paintbrush where i simply added the words above me: Starting weight: 330. At first this depressed me just looking at it. I didn't look too enthused in this photo. But this inspires me at the same time. I can not WAIT to add more progress photos. For every ten pound lost comes a reward, and a progress photo. I can't wait until I get to that point, and I can't wait to share them. If I loose 10 pounds each month, at Christmas I could really look a lot different. If only I had done this sooner....but I can't think that way. I feel I have all the tools and support I need, and the umph and motivation level are at an all time high. Nothing can stop me now.
Saturday, June 01, 2013
I know that I have really gotten off track and quit coming on spark for almost the entire month of May. I really don't know what to say other than the fact that I get overwhelmed way too easily. I try to take on too many goals at once and then I seem to just withdraw and people wonder where I went. I know that from now on I need to break this spell, and start to let go of my perfectionist attitude once and for all.
If I don't do all my exercises that day, eat the exact foods according to my meal planner, or even remember to track everything...It seems I have gotten super frustrated with myself and just say well, I might as well give up and start over the next month. This just does not work. In this book I am reading it tells you to focus on the small accomplishments you make through out the day so that you can gradually work your way forward, and I feel that is the very thing that I need to do. I don't understand why I feel like I have to do things perfectly in order to be considered acceptable. This mindset makes me feel like my efforts are going in circles.
Does anyone else struggle with perfectionism? Do you have any advice for me? What's helped you get through that type of thinking? I really tried not to exhaust myself with thoughts today, and all in all, it went pretty good. I did not do perfect today, but I am trying to focus on the things I did accomplish instead of thinking "I should do better."
My goal for this June is to really start coming on spark everyday, just really truly using the resources on here, reading the articles, and taking in the support that is on here, as well as being a friend to others who need support too. I know I've said it before but I am really beyond tired of starting over at this point, so like the quote says, "If you want to quit starting over, stop giving up." Here are the four goals I am focusing on and that is it, I am not overwhelming myself anymore.
1. Daily water 8 glasses
2. Get in some kind of exercise each day/every other day
3. follow my list of "things to do instead of overeating" when I need them
4. keeping up with Spark and staying in contact with friends on here
Thursday, April 18, 2013
I remember when I lived alone in my apartment. I would go to the store and make my favorite foods (lover of pasta) and it would calm me down. Lately I've been thinking about the times that food brought a lot of comfort for me. When you can't stuff your emotions or depression with food anymore, you are forced to face your real feelings, and that can be kind of scary.
It's odd actually because things have been coming up from my past...in thoughts, in dreams, things I had no thought about in years or I think I ever really faced or healed from. Without getting too specific, I was in a really bad/abusive relationship and there was just so much going on in 2008-2009, I never really absorbed it all. And it's weird that stuff from so long ago is beginning to surface, like I need to face it, not supress it and move on. Has anyone ever felt a similar experience in their life?
Journaling helps a lot though. Prayer, meditation. Even the little things like drinking herbal tea or aromatherapy help more than some people might realize. As well as inspiring uplifting music. I wanted to share this christian song by singer Krystal Meyers:
"In Your Hands"
I listen through the darkness
And I know that I'm not alone
And I feel You all around me
But every time I call
All I hear is my own echo
Your silence says it all
I'm restless but I will not fight
It's in Your hands
It's in Your hands
I trust You though I don't understand
It's in Your hands
It's in Your hands
I'll close my eyes and follow your plan
I trust You 'cause it's all in Your hands
As time slips through my fingers
I slow down and breathe you in
There's a peace that washes over me
And I'm not afraid at all
Of things I cannot see
'Cause faith is blind
And I'll go on another night
'Cause I know...
(It's in Your hands)
Maybe one day
This will make sense
But until then
I'm trusting You
But You'll come through
You always do
I've waited so long
To see my sun on
Feel it coming on
And I'm seeing You
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