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“Very well developed quadriceps” said Dr. H.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

This ends my 3 day ‘trilogy’ on self image and comments made on my body parts.
The first was from my teenage son, the second from a rude stranger and finally from a medical professional.

Was my doctor using a nice euphemism for ‘thunder thighs’? Well, no, but he did observe what I was always aware of. While no way overweight back then, I certainly put the ham in hamstring. No bird legs here.

There was a positive side to this growing up. I could ride a bike, far and fast and I was a kickball star, usually chosen before most of the boys when sides were chosen. However, the low waist, hip hugger, tight thigh, bell bottoms of my youth were a problem and it was obvious that modeling would never be a career option.

Science has begun to research difference body types. So if you’re in my category, you may be interested in this article. It addresses women as well as men.

I sure liked the title

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SUZYMOBILE 9/27/2012 9:02AM

    I didn't read the article, but it sounds as if it's about the body shape research. Yep, our "pear shape" is the optimum for health. You don't want to be an apple.

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MAHGRET 9/27/2012 8:57AM

    We always used thunder thighs to describe an athletic body with large thighs, so it would have been a good thing. Legs of power!

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That’s a great suit for someone small on top

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

When I wore my new bathing suit to the pool for the first time, that’s the comment I got from one of the regulars. And I was only halfway to my weight loss goal at that point.

Yesterday, I wrote about my son’s comment which made me laugh and think. There’s a difference though between an honest observation from a kid who loves you and this double edged compliment open to interpretation. After all, she could have said “that’s a great suit” PERIOD.

Women deal with so many body image issues. As we strive to reach a healthy weight, the one place we want to keep or add weight is in our boobs. Breast enhancement is ever more popular.

Fortunately, after realizing in my teens that efforts to increase my bust size were futile, I discovered padded bras and forgot about it.
There are positives too.
I can sleep on my stomach comfortably.
Running has always been very comfortable. No need to “double bag” here.
My running bras last a very long time because of the lack of stress put on them. LOL

If I want to look more womanly, I grab my wonder-bra. Thank you Victoria’s Secret.

We all come in different sizes and shapes even when we reach our healthy weight goal. I hope women can encourage each other to be the best they can be and not frustrate themselves seeking some media invented ideal.

Just for the record: While I could have responded, “Isn’t fashion great? That blouson top hides your belly so well”. I just smiled and in my best Miss Manners voice replied, Thank you for noticing.” PERIOD!

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Sometimes "taking the high road", as I like to call it can be frustrating.
But whenever I try to get revenge or make a smart come back, it never really works out and I regret it. Some people are just rude and thoughtless and we just have to let it go. But, at the extreme, we shouldn't have to be verbally abused or mistreated.

Even fit and healthy people come in different shapes and sizes.
I like the idea of accepting that shape and using a little temporary padding in strategic places every now and then. I have always found the idea of fitness experts getting implants to be so contradictory and hypocritical.

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TANYAP71 9/26/2012 11:17AM

    Even the idea that it was the suit that was great bugs me. 'You look great!' would be, IMO, the best compliment of all :-)

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/26/2012 8:51AM

    I love this blog!! It made me laugh but it is so true. I have always been small on top, too. Fine with me--a little fiberfill in the bra and I'm good to go!!! Love your "thought" response and admire your restraint with a gracious response!

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SUZYMOBILE 9/26/2012 8:50AM

    I am a proud member of the "small on top" group. I don't even wear a bra, and few would notice if I strode around topless. (Well, not quite.) I like myself just fine this way. In fact, I dislike it ifmy boobs inflate when I gain a few pounds.

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62NVON 9/26/2012 8:24AM

    I loved your original thought for a response... but good for you for being gracious!

I am like you and CELIAMINER... thank goodness for supportive and shaping bras for us members of the IBTC.

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CELIAMINER 9/26/2012 8:04AM

    OMG, tears of laughter! I've always been "small on top" except when I was at my heaviest. Now, the "girls" have shrunk and headed south, so a good bra is a MUST.

I commend your restraint, because I would have likely responded in the negative, though not nearly as creatively as your non-stated comment. Something like that would have surfaced 10 minutes later as one of those "what I should have said" remarks.

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JAYEBEAN 9/26/2012 8:02AM

    As someone who is, as they say, "well endowed," I can tell you that it wouldn't have mattered if you had a larger chest. A rude person is going to find a way to be rude. In my case, the comment would have been opposite like, "big up top."

You were nicer than me. I'm quick to lash back because I believe if someone is that bold that they think it's okay to say something that stupid, then they just extended an invitation for me to hit harder.

Good for you for not letting that person get to you.

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AZMOMXTWO 9/26/2012 8:00AM

  and to much is just as difficult to live with
great way to see things

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“Maybe you just lowered your standards”

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

That was the reply of my 14 yr old son in 1989 as we ran around the track at the gym. I had mentioned that I weighed 20 lbs more than in college and I thought I looked pretty good.

I laughed and thanked him for his honest opinion, but I still thought I was fine. Because I was active and fit, I always got positive comments. I kept this good opinion of myself for another 20 years as more pounds piled on. My son went away to college, married and moved far away. No more honest opinions from him.

So, I am the oddball here. No yo-yo dieting. No negative body image. Just blissful, ignorant complacency until 2008-2009 (explained in earlier blogs).

Negative comments can be hurtful and usually they are meant to be, no matter how thinly veiled. But false praise is detrimental too, no matter how well intentioned, especially when it’s something we want to hear.

May we all have family and friends who support us and give positive encouragement, but also love us enough to tell us the truth.

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CELIAMINER 9/25/2012 8:44AM

    I'm not sure I really wanted my husband to be honest, but I expected my doctor to be, and he never mentioned my weight till I lost it. THEN he commented. I wonder if I would have started earlier if he had given me a wake-up call. Just some Monday morning quarterbacking.

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KANOE10 9/25/2012 8:08AM

    Great blog. Family support is the best.


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My scale is at the entrance to my kitchen

Monday, September 24, 2012

It’s the first thing I see when I enter in the morning still in my PJs. I’m probably alone in this. I know it’s not a common location for this item.

When I moved it from the bathroom to its current visible spot, I wasn’t thinking about me. It was 2008 and my mother, who lived with us since Dad’s death, was losing weight along with her appetite. I noticed her eating less and less and thought it would help her awareness if she stepped on the scale first thing every morning.

Once we determined there was no physical reason for the weight loss, I challenged her to record everything she ate during the day and using an Internet site (not SP) I filled in the calories she consumed. In the beginning it was sometimes as low as 700, hardly enough to sustain someone comatose.

To encourage her to be accountable I started to weigh myself right there along with her. When she realized that she had to watch her nutrition, so did I. If I continued along my current path, my 30 extra pounds could easily become 40, 50 or more.

On Jan 1, 2009 I decided I didn’t want to carry the extra weight anymore. Mom & I continued our daily weigh-ins and calorie tracking for over 2 years. She died in Jan 2011 quite suddenly at age 88.

My 3 year maintenance anniversary will be Thanksgiving Day. The scale is still in the kitchen. You can’t miss it. I’m still weighing myself daily and thinking of Mom when I do.

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MENNOLY 10/8/2012 8:35AM

    What a great story! Your comment on the maintenance check-in line reminded me of my mom's 3rd pregnancy. After giving birth twice with only a mid-wife (in Italy) she cave birth to her 3rd child in America with a Dr's care. Because she was overweight he put her on a strict diet so that she would not gain much weight with this child. When my younger brother was born she was shocked at the puny child she had delivered. Although he was an average sized boy, he was much smaller than myself or my older brother at birth. Genetically we are programmed to have large babies. My 3 ranged from just over 10 lb to 12 lb. I was very careful with baby 3 since I was rather old and overweight when I had her. I weighed less after giving birth to her than when I conceived her. Yet she weighed 10 lb 5 oz.
I also weigh daily it keeps me honest. Have a great week!

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KANOE10 9/25/2012 8:11AM

    That is a great story. I weigh myself everyday. It is the first thing I do.

You are doing great maintaining a 3 year loss. I am glad you think of your Mom when you do.


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STRIVER57 9/25/2012 6:22AM

    excellent idea, and congratulations!

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TINAJANE76 9/24/2012 7:13AM

    That's a great strategy and a wonderful story. By helping your mom to better look after her health, you did the same for yourself. Continuing to maintain is a beautiful tribute to her memory.

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MAGGIEVAN 9/24/2012 6:44AM

    I am sure you are also missing your mum. Good on you for 3 years of maintenance. If the scale in the kitchen is working for you, why change it?

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SWEDE_SU 9/24/2012 6:43AM

    how interesting that your supportive role for your mom was what brought the healthy awareness to you! congratulations on your upcoming 3 year anniversary!

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ORODEO73 9/24/2012 6:37AM

    That is a wonderful story. Its great to see that this started with you being the suporrter and then her living in your memory to fulfill maintaining your regimin. emoticon

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I live with the junk food king of the world

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Here’s a picture from my sparkpage, posted when I first joined several years ago. This is not a staged photo. My table really looked like this. It’s somewhat better now since I refused to buy it. He has to shop and bring it home himself which has slowed him down a bit. When we shop together our cart is a study in contrasts with my organic Greek yogurt sitting next to his enormous package of éclairs.

My husband, I love him dearly. We’ve been together since we were 16 and 18 and have been married for 45 years. He has also carried on a 45 year affair with Little Debbie. You know, the snack cake lady? In fact, he has never met a donut or snack cake he didn’t love and just have to bring home. Toaster pastries, pop-tarts, packaged bakery items, chocolate, crackers, jams, jellies and an amazing assortment of sugary drinks have always filled our house. Every Breyers Ice Cream sale adds 4 cartons to my freezer. Yes, FOUR – buy one get one free. If there wasn’t a limit, there would be more.

There are obstacles to eating healthy everywhere we go. I have one right here at home. He has to eat my healthy lunches and dinners since he doesn’t cook, but trying to eliminate the junk is a losing battle. I just don’t have to lose the battle along with him.

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KANOE10 9/25/2012 8:13AM

    Exactly right. You do not have to join him or everyone else who is eating junk food around you. My husband late night snacks and I do not join him.

We have got to be focused on staying healthy no matter what anyone else is eating.

Great job of being strong. emoticon

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PHEBESS 9/23/2012 12:49PM

    Yup, totally understand! I married the burger meister and fries fiend. His mother once told him he had to buy every single burger he saw, and that wasn't far from the truth!

I finally told him I'm not eating burgers, or fries, or any of the foods he loves - I'll eat my way, he can eat his, and that's the way it's got to be - or else I'd end up buying my clothes from Omar the tent-maker.

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MJZHERE 9/23/2012 9:59AM

  There you go - you don't have to lose the battle with him. With my DH, I just think it is a little unfair that he can eat all that junk and not deal with the weight gain. And to top that off, he doesn't eliminate it but maybe cuts out eating half a bag at a sitting and loses weight. jeesh emoticon

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