Friday, September 28, 2012
We don’t want to live our lives in fear, but a few precautions may prevent us from being the lead story on the local news.
When out running or walking, it’s easy to get lost in the moment especially when listening to music. Several very popular SP threads involve favorite workout tunes and these are not confined to indoor sessions. I regularly see women with headphones oblivious to the world around them.
This is personal for me since my daughter, then a college freshman, was out running one Sunday morning when a guy jumped out of a parked car and grabbed her from behind. She fought him off and ran to the nearby 7-11 where she found a police car. They cruised around, found the guy and he was taken into custody. What if he had chosen a weaker or slower victim?
So, please be aware of your surroundings and be careful out there.
Thursday, September 27, 2012
This ends my 3 day ‘trilogy’ on self image and comments made on my body parts.
The first was from my teenage son, the second from a rude stranger and finally from a medical professional.
Was my doctor using a nice euphemism for ‘thunder thighs’? Well, no, but he did observe what I was always aware of. While no way overweight back then, I certainly put the ham in hamstring. No bird legs here.
There was a positive side to this growing up. I could ride a bike, far and fast and I was a kickball star, usually chosen before most of the boys when sides were chosen. However, the low waist, hip hugger, tight thigh, bell bottoms of my youth were a problem and it was obvious that modeling would never be a career option.
Science has begun to research difference body types. So if you’re in my category, you may be interested in this article. It addresses women as well as men.
I sure liked the title
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
When I wore my new bathing suit to the pool for the first time, that’s the comment I got from one of the regulars. And I was only halfway to my weight loss goal at that point.
Yesterday, I wrote about my son’s comment which made me laugh and think. There’s a difference though between an honest observation from a kid who loves you and this double edged compliment open to interpretation. After all, she could have said “that’s a great suit” PERIOD.
Women deal with so many body image issues. As we strive to reach a healthy weight, the one place we want to keep or add weight is in our boobs. Breast enhancement is ever more popular.
Fortunately, after realizing in my teens that efforts to increase my bust size were futile, I discovered padded bras and forgot about it.
There are positives too.
I can sleep on my stomach comfortably.
Running has always been very comfortable. No need to “double bag” here.
My running bras last a very long time because of the lack of stress put on them. LOL
If I want to look more womanly, I grab my wonder-bra. Thank you Victoria’s Secret.
We all come in different sizes and shapes even when we reach our healthy weight goal. I hope women can encourage each other to be the best they can be and not frustrate themselves seeking some media invented ideal.
Just for the record: While I could have responded, “Isn’t fashion great? That blouson top hides your belly so well”. I just smiled and in my best Miss Manners voice replied, Thank you for noticing.” PERIOD!
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
That was the reply of my 14 yr old son in 1989 as we ran around the track at the gym. I had mentioned that I weighed 20 lbs more than in college and I thought I looked pretty good.
I laughed and thanked him for his honest opinion, but I still thought I was fine. Because I was active and fit, I always got positive comments. I kept this good opinion of myself for another 20 years as more pounds piled on. My son went away to college, married and moved far away. No more honest opinions from him.
So, I am the oddball here. No yo-yo dieting. No negative body image. Just blissful, ignorant complacency until 2008-2009 (explained in earlier blogs).
Negative comments can be hurtful and usually they are meant to be, no matter how thinly veiled. But false praise is detrimental too, no matter how well intentioned, especially when it’s something we want to hear.
May we all have family and friends who support us and give positive encouragement, but also love us enough to tell us the truth.
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