Thursday, September 27, 2012
This ends my 3 day ‘trilogy’ on self image and comments made on my body parts.
The first was from my teenage son, the second from a rude stranger and finally from a medical professional.
Was my doctor using a nice euphemism for ‘thunder thighs’? Well, no, but he did observe what I was always aware of. While no way overweight back then, I certainly put the ham in hamstring. No bird legs here.
There was a positive side to this growing up. I could ride a bike, far and fast and I was a kickball star, usually chosen before most of the boys when sides were chosen. However, the low waist, hip hugger, tight thigh, bell bottoms of my youth were a problem and it was obvious that modeling would never be a career option.
Science has begun to research difference body types. So if you’re in my category, you may be interested in this article. It addresses women as well as men.
I sure liked the title
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
When I wore my new bathing suit to the pool for the first time, that’s the comment I got from one of the regulars. And I was only halfway to my weight loss goal at that point.
Yesterday, I wrote about my son’s comment which made me laugh and think. There’s a difference though between an honest observation from a kid who loves you and this double edged compliment open to interpretation. After all, she could have said “that’s a great suit” PERIOD.
Women deal with so many body image issues. As we strive to reach a healthy weight, the one place we want to keep or add weight is in our boobs. Breast enhancement is ever more popular.
Fortunately, after realizing in my teens that efforts to increase my bust size were futile, I discovered padded bras and forgot about it.
There are positives too.
I can sleep on my stomach comfortably.
Running has always been very comfortable. No need to “double bag” here.
My running bras last a very long time because of the lack of stress put on them. LOL
If I want to look more womanly, I grab my wonder-bra. Thank you Victoria’s Secret.
We all come in different sizes and shapes even when we reach our healthy weight goal. I hope women can encourage each other to be the best they can be and not frustrate themselves seeking some media invented ideal.
Just for the record: While I could have responded, “Isn’t fashion great? That blouson top hides your belly so well”. I just smiled and in my best Miss Manners voice replied, Thank you for noticing.” PERIOD!
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
That was the reply of my 14 yr old son in 1989 as we ran around the track at the gym. I had mentioned that I weighed 20 lbs more than in college and I thought I looked pretty good.
I laughed and thanked him for his honest opinion, but I still thought I was fine. Because I was active and fit, I always got positive comments. I kept this good opinion of myself for another 20 years as more pounds piled on. My son went away to college, married and moved far away. No more honest opinions from him.
So, I am the oddball here. No yo-yo dieting. No negative body image. Just blissful, ignorant complacency until 2008-2009 (explained in earlier blogs).
Negative comments can be hurtful and usually they are meant to be, no matter how thinly veiled. But false praise is detrimental too, no matter how well intentioned, especially when it’s something we want to hear.
May we all have family and friends who support us and give positive encouragement, but also love us enough to tell us the truth.
Monday, September 24, 2012
It’s the first thing I see when I enter in the morning still in my PJs. I’m probably alone in this. I know it’s not a common location for this item.
When I moved it from the bathroom to its current visible spot, I wasn’t thinking about me. It was 2008 and my mother, who lived with us since Dad’s death, was losing weight along with her appetite. I noticed her eating less and less and thought it would help her awareness if she stepped on the scale first thing every morning.
Once we determined there was no physical reason for the weight loss, I challenged her to record everything she ate during the day and using an Internet site (not SP) I filled in the calories she consumed. In the beginning it was sometimes as low as 700, hardly enough to sustain someone comatose.
To encourage her to be accountable I started to weigh myself right there along with her. When she realized that she had to watch her nutrition, so did I. If I continued along my current path, my 30 extra pounds could easily become 40, 50 or more.
On Jan 1, 2009 I decided I didn’t want to carry the extra weight anymore. Mom & I continued our daily weigh-ins and calorie tracking for over 2 years. She died in Jan 2011 quite suddenly at age 88.
My 3 year maintenance anniversary will be Thanksgiving Day. The scale is still in the kitchen. You can’t miss it. I’m still weighing myself daily and thinking of Mom when I do.
Sunday, September 23, 2012
Here’s a picture from my sparkpage, posted when I first joined several years ago. This is not a staged photo. My table really looked like this. It’s somewhat better now since I refused to buy it. He has to shop and bring it home himself which has slowed him down a bit. When we shop together our cart is a study in contrasts with my organic Greek yogurt sitting next to his enormous package of éclairs.
My husband, I love him dearly. We’ve been together since we were 16 and 18 and have been married for 45 years. He has also carried on a 45 year affair with Little Debbie. You know, the snack cake lady? In fact, he has never met a donut or snack cake he didn’t love and just have to bring home. Toaster pastries, pop-tarts, packaged bakery items, chocolate, crackers, jams, jellies and an amazing assortment of sugary drinks have always filled our house. Every Breyers Ice Cream sale adds 4 cartons to my freezer. Yes, FOUR – buy one get one free. If there wasn’t a limit, there would be more.
There are obstacles to eating healthy everywhere we go. I have one right here at home. He has to eat my healthy lunches and dinners since he doesn’t cook, but trying to eliminate the junk is a losing battle. I just don’t have to lose the battle along with him.
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