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Shut up, Jillian! I know my body better than you do

Thursday, January 24, 2013

And the question is: ”What will you never hear on the “Biggest Loser?”

But you will hear it in my living room. I have one of Jillian’s DVDs. My daughter gave it to me along with the weights I wrote about last week. I love cardio, but the other stuff? There I need all the motivation I can get.

I assume some people must need or respond to Jillian’s “in your face” method. Not me. Perhaps I’m just too old and ornery or too much of a free spirit. Come to think of it, I doubt I would have made it in the Marines either.

I know Jillian has her fans and even a team here on SP, so let me say that I do like her workouts and completely support “different strokes” and doing whatever works for you.

I prefer SP’s videos, but lately I’ve has issues with them freezing. Of course, I’ve also had problems with heat, electricity and Internet access, so I can’t blame SP and a DVD is an alternative.

I have no problem with most of Jillian’s routines, except for jumping jacks. My body considers that a most unnatural motion. Maybe it’s my flat, over-pronating feet, but thrusting my legs out sideways and hopping back in again, over and over, feels very stressful on my knees. I don’t have knee problems (sound of me knocking wood), but if I make them do that, I’m afraid I soon will.

Jillian loves her title of “world’s toughest trainer,” and to her credit she does point out modifications for some of the exercises. NOT for jumping jacks! There she yells that even 400 lb people can do jumping jacks – NO MODIFICATIONS!

I wonder how she reconciles her attitude, with the disclaimer at the beginning of the video. Basically, they are not responsible for any injuries.

I understand personal responsibility and I’m grateful for all the resources I’ve had that have allowed me to get to and remain in maintenance without verbal harassment. For me that would have been counter-productive.

As for Jillian’s DVDs, I’ll still use them. I’m just glad I have a mute button.

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MJREIMERS 1/27/2013 8:38PM

    Well said. I don't think people need to be yelled at, but I'll admit I can't stand the "mushy" ones either. Denise Austin just about drives me crazy with her too sweet and too encouraging voice. "Come on you can do it," is fine, but over and over again...UGH! I guess that's why I don't use a lot of videos.

Thanks for the blog. It looks like many people agree with you and it's nice to see that others have similar feelings and experiences. emoticon

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DUCKTURNIP 1/26/2013 3:15AM

  emoticon I fully agree with you. I don't like the "in your face approach"-- it's not gonna work for me.

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LOVESTOWALK49 1/25/2013 1:40PM

    When we do jump jacks in Zumba the instructor has modifications that including jumping and ones without. I jump but I don't spread my legs as far and I modify the arm movement so it's easier on my shoulders. Jumping jacks may require modification for the older crowd. No shame in that.

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CAKEMAKERMOM 1/25/2013 10:01AM

    I find she comes across as a fat hater, not a motivator. That could just be my point of view though. No one should be crying because they're in pain and someone else wants them to "do 5 more".

Of the 2 original trainers, I prefer Bob, he seems calmer and more receptive. Either way, I don't watch the show anymore, even with it on Netflix.

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MERRYMARY42 1/24/2013 8:59PM

    I agree too, those jumping jacks are just not my natural thing, makes everything hurt, even my head emoticon

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DEBBY4576 1/24/2013 4:41PM

    I don't like to be yelled at. Don't like watching it on Biggest Loser either. I suppose it has it's place. But not in my life.

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WILSONWR 1/24/2013 1:53PM

    The drill sergeant routine may get you going and help you to see your potential, but I don't believe you can depend on it for a lifestyle change. It also wouldn't work for me at this stage of my life. Yes, it did lots of good when I went through basic training in 1970, but there would be too much resentment now -- I don't respond well to intimidation tactics, and I have never thought too much of the people who use them in their regular jobs.

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CELLISTA1 1/24/2013 12:31PM

    Jillian on mute. Perfect.

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DAUGHTEROFTWIN 1/24/2013 10:39AM

    Thank you. I will no longer feel guilty when she shouts that I must do the jumping jacks because even her 400 pound clients on BLC can do them. I'm not doing the jumping jacks (yet, if ever). I DO modify them by running in place and doing the arm movements and do the same thing with the "jumping rope" action. Doing the jumping makes my knees AND ankles both crack and pop on every single jump--not to mention the discomfort. I have a history of knee problems and since losing 80 pounds and developing a consistent exercise routine, my knee problems have virtually disappeared (except for Zumba nights). You are right on the money. Know your body. Know when you should push your limits and know when you are avoiding damage.

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BOILHAM 1/24/2013 10:28AM

    I suspect the drill Sargeant routine works in real life much better than via DVD.

I will never forget Navy boot camp, which was just about 50 years ago. It works on the toughest and weakest recruits, and will force you to reach deep inside for that last fibre of effort. You emerge stronger than you'd believe possible. Thanks to those bastards in boot camp I found out how strong I really was.

Perhaps it must be witnessed first hand to appreciate.

Hey, I am glad we can disagree from time to time, it got boring aggreeing with almost everything you wrote. :)

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DR1939 1/24/2013 9:25AM

    I agree wholeheartedly.

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MJZHERE 1/24/2013 9:03AM

  Made me think of my children - with DD you couldn't even raise your voice (once DH and I used "elevated voices" (truly not very loud) with one another and we looked over and she was cowering in a corner). She was the "perfect" child and it was easy to speak quietly with her. Then DS came along and what a handful. I would find myself yelling and he would yell right back (at age 2). Different strokes for different folks. I don't like hearing someone else being yelled at little long anyone yelling at me.

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SUZYMOBILE 1/24/2013 9:01AM

    I have a bit of a hip problem, and I KNOW I can't do jumping jacks any more! I have no problem adapting whatever exercise videos throw at me, or dropping them altogether.

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MOOSLADY 1/24/2013 8:57AM

    I am sure some 400 pound people can do jumping jacks but this 158 pound person with a bad knee and DD chest does not. Way too much impact and shouting at me wouldn't change that. I have never watched one of her videos but shouting at me is more likely to make me work less than more. I have a Petra Kolbert video that is has some encouraging to work at your own pace but mostly just very straight forward. I am with Kanoe, mute button and some music.

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LRSILVER 1/24/2013 8:53AM

    I am with you. Tell me I am doing great and I respond better.

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OJ_2_OK 1/24/2013 8:40AM

    i was told you don't have to thrust your legs out very far to get the benefits of a jumping jack. Just make sure you have good shoe support. However, if your knees feel discomfort, don't do them.

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NELLJONES 1/24/2013 8:18AM

    I don't like to hear anyone yelling, not even on news discussion shows.

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FITFOODIE806 1/24/2013 8:18AM

    Another great blog! I did the 30 day shred after both pregnancies and I have all her one liners memorized. I prefer my peaceful runs over her screaming voice any day.

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AMARILYNH 1/24/2013 7:54AM

    LOL - I say YOU decide!! And while Jillian may not offer them, there ARE modifications for JJs -

As you said, YOU know your body!! And its up to you to keep it healthy!! emoticon

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KELLIEBEAN 1/24/2013 7:46AM

    I agree, she can be over the top but apparently it works for me at times. I couldn't listen to her all the time. I have the 30 day shred DVD that I love, just not all the time.

I was watching the biggest loser the other day and she was getting into it with a woman on the treadmill who broke down saying she couldn't do it and apparently she had before. Jillian was going on and on to her that she has to stop the crying, she has done this before, she has to stop saying she can't, yadda yadda.

I thought that was rediculous. The next night, I was on the treadmill at the gym and I just didn't have it, I was extremely frustrated after I pushed myself and had a great run a few days before. Jillian popped in my head yelling at me... "you've done 5Ks, you're run obstacle course races, you have run 3 miles on the treadmill before, what is the matter with you, shut up and run!"

Okay that was all me but in my head, I put Jillian voice to it and I got moving and I pushed myself just a little harder to finish.

She's definitely not for everyone!

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WATERMELLEN 1/24/2013 7:36AM

    I've never responded well to drill sargeant . . . or to excessively cheery "encouragement" . . . or for that matter to huge dollops of sympathy. Probably the reason I haven't worked very often with a personal trainer.

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KANOE10 1/24/2013 7:32AM

    I would use that mute button also. Nor do I like jumping jacks. However, in this cold weather, we are forced to use alternative exercise. Good for you keeping on track and exercising! emoticon

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AZMOMXTWO 1/24/2013 6:54AM

  I agree and if I was skinny I would not be working out as much any way

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One dessert I would not deny myself – Granddaughter’s birthday cake for Grandpa

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

I meant to post this last week after my post for DH's birthday - The Junk Food King & I.

Our 11 year old granddaughter likes to bake and decorate cakes. This is our lake complete with sparkly water, our dock and boat, truck and jet skis. There’s even “edible rip-rap.” Very cool.

Here’s our baker with grandpa.

Yes, that’s a race shirt. She’s a runner too.

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GINIEMIE 1/27/2013 11:30AM

    Nice job, nice picture. Thanks for sharing
I love it, my granddaughter hasn't learned to decorate cakes yet- I pretty much gave that up 00 some years ago when we lived in Florida and I was melting the frosting while trying to make flowers.The eldest GD is only 8. But she does like to cook with me.
Maybe this summer I'll sign her up for cake decorating classes-her brother too.

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MERRYMARY42 1/26/2013 6:30PM

    you are right, you can not no eat a piece of it. healthy is one thing but we all have to indulge some times

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HAYBURNER1969 1/25/2013 7:47PM

    I just showed Brooklyn Born's granddaughter (my daughter!) the comments and she is smiling from ear to ear. Thanks, everyone!

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KANOE10 1/24/2013 7:34AM

    That cake is too cute! What a sweet grandchild and your husband looks happy.

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CELLISTA1 1/23/2013 9:17PM

    Yay, grand-daughter! What an accomplished baker and decorator! My oldest grand-daughter is 7 and she loves to cook with me. (I haven't broken the news to her yet that I really don't like cooking.) She is good with a knife and I let her do everything except the stove. Her specialty is baked salmon with bok choy. Anyway, you are lucky and wonderful grand-parents. Enjoy every minute with her!

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WATERMELLEN 1/23/2013 7:56PM

    What a lovely picture of baker, cake and grandfather!! I can't imagine turning down a piece of that!!

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DEBBY4576 1/23/2013 6:22PM

    I am so glad you posted a picture of the cake for us to see. She is one talented little girl isn't she?

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HAYBURNER1969 1/23/2013 10:44AM

    It was yummy!!!!! emoticon to Dad!

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DR1939 1/23/2013 9:17AM

    Our niece once made her father a coffee cake with coffee grounds as the main ingredient emoticon

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BOILHAM 1/23/2013 8:06AM

    That is a great cake. Don't you love little girls who are learning to cook? So many young woman have never learned. DW is teaching our 9 YO GD so many things, so I really love this blog.

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    I believe I'll have a slice too.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/23/2013 7:43AM

    Absolutely awesome!! Talk about a treat worth the calories!!! You must be very, very proud. Have a great Sparklin' day today!!

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WILSONWR 1/23/2013 7:37AM

    That is great! My granddaughter also loves to bake. We've been encouraging her since she was little and she is still going strong at 16 (although now she has a few more interests keeping her busy...)

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TINAJANE76 1/23/2013 7:36AM

    That's incredibly sweet and it looks fantastic. Hope you enjoyed every bite!

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COCK-ROBIN 1/23/2013 7:35AM

    Beautiful cake! Almost too beautiful to eat.

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COCK-ROBIN 1/23/2013 7:35AM

    Beautiful cake! Almost too beautiful to eat.

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ONMYMEDS 1/23/2013 7:28AM

    Very cool!!! A future Top Chef?

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JSTETSER 1/23/2013 6:20AM

    Beautiful cake. I hope you enjoyed every bite!

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JGRAY76 1/23/2013 6:16AM

    She did a great job on the cake and good for you for introducing her to running at such a young age.

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Regarding the weather, just call me Goldilocks

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

My goal this year is to increase my distance running. I even found a trail that perfectly suits my needs. It’s a 25 miles drive, but out here in the country that’s practically next door. The plan was to run there every week or two.

A week ago the temperature reached 70* while I was out on the trail with unfortunate results. I described it here. “Seeking a distance run”

Today it’s 18* and according to the forecast it may not get above freezing all day. I own a lot of layers, but I’m not ready for that.

I’m like “Goldilocks.” I don’t like it too hot or too cold.

I also do not like to run in the rain
or in the wind
or when the pollen count is high.

Now I sound like Dr. Seuss.

Unlike Goldilocks, I rarely find conditions “just right.” If I wait for that, I’ll never get off the couch. The gym is an alternative. I run on the tm all the time, but usually never more than 4-5 miles. Last Saturday I hung in there for 6.25 miles. That took some determination.

I admire those of you who live in less temperate climates and get out there anyway.
As for me, I’ll either have to learn to like distance treadmill or hope for an early spring.

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RUDITUDI2000 1/22/2013 11:18PM

    I love to run...unless its crazy windy. Any run outside is a good one for me..the treadmill is my dreadmill..I get too hot. Glad you are making it work & chasing your goals. emoticon

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BOILHAM 1/22/2013 2:00PM

    I must be weird, because I run in the rain, heat and what we call cold down here in FL, like in the 40s. I think if I was back up in CT, I would still run in the cold, though. I kind of like toughing it out in different conditions. I used to ride a motorcycle in the snow and ice when I lived in CT. I have yet to take one step on a treadmill. Maybe I need to get one and see what I am missing. Love your blogs!

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DR1939 1/22/2013 11:24AM

    I can manage the cold as long as the wind is not blowing. However, the cardiologist says no outdoor activity in below freezing weather regardless of windchilld. Same thing goes for above 90. Purchasing a treadmill works for me.

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GINIEMIE 1/22/2013 10:19AM

    An early spring with low pollen. I understand your predicament very well, and it doesn't even usually get quite that cold down here. Today we have a balmy 30 degrees, but I have a sore throat and headache.
Increasing from 4 miles to 6.25 is good. Do you own an MP3 player?

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PMRUNNER 1/22/2013 9:33AM

    I know exactly what you mean! I think my outdoor temp range has shrunk a bit over the years. But it is still nicer to be outside most days than run inside. (Yesterday I did 6.5 on the treadmill in a very crowded gym - all the undergrads were back from their winter break and every single treadmill, elliptical, and bike were in use!) Tomorrow is supposed to have a high of 17, I think I will just have to bundle up!

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DAISYBELL6 1/22/2013 9:29AM

    I have had a hard time going out in the "cold" in the winter and the "heat" in the summer, but I keep pushing it. Last year I wouldn't exercise outside if it was below freezing, yesterday I ran 5 miles at 16 degrees. So my tolerance is expanding. Last year I didn't like running when it was above 70 degrees. I'll have to push my heat tolerance up this year. It's all about improving and moving! emoticon

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CELIAMINER 1/22/2013 9:05AM

    Wish there were a "Like" button, not only for the blog but for comments as well. I used to be an all-weather walker, even walking once in a snowstorm. Over time, my weather comfort range shrank considerably, and I'm just now trying to broaden it again. However, 22 degrees this morning was just too cold, and I wouldn't even think of running at this temp. Good luck with your distance training.

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MAHGRET 1/22/2013 8:54AM

    I am the same way!

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SUZYMOBILE 1/22/2013 8:53AM

    I do not like it in the snow,
I do not like it when I'm slow,
I do not like a distance run
When it is neither nice nor fun!

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ONMYMEDS 1/22/2013 8:41AM

    There is nothing like a long run on the treadmill to make you re-assess your tolerance for weather conditions for an outdoor run. This morning it was -4F, so I opted for the treadmill. If it had been 4F, I probably would have run outside.

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WILSONWR 1/22/2013 8:31AM

    Our climate is much milder, but I'm still not crazy about walking or running when it's very cold. Our gym at the local Air Force base has a great alternative - an 1/8 mile track on the second floor that looks down on all the activities on the first floor. They also alternate the running direction every day so you don't get sore muscles from all that turning in one direction.

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MIRAGE727 1/22/2013 8:17AM

    Great blog! I live in Florida!
THAT gives me no excuse not to run! Stay strong and run well!

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KANOE10 1/22/2013 7:58AM

    I am with you. I will not walk when it is too cold. The gym is the only option. Good for yu doing the treadmill. Stay warm and hope spring is early!

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NANNABLACK 1/22/2013 7:29AM

    I'm with you on the cold. Nice here this week. 50's in the morning and up to 70's in the afternoon. Have a good day!

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LESLIE871948 1/22/2013 7:12AM

    I had to laugh. I live in a more temperate climate I guess. If you can call 94 degrees and 90% humidity most mornings at 5 A.M. in the summer temperate. It is remarkable how some mornings I can make myself do my version of running in that weather. Right now we have 60 to 70 (ish) and my routine got all shook up when we had a run of 40 (ish) mornings. I get all stiff and unhappy in that.
What I wanted to say about this is that it is VERY HARD to change any routine I get into. If my routine is to go out first thing in the morning, then I am BLIND to other options until I get desperate for the exercise. And I am blissfully addicted again to exercise. I would not want to even try to run on a treadmill, but the other day I put on my IPOD and did 90 minutes of dance, clean the tile, race around the house like an idiot workout. It was neat.

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NELLJONES 1/22/2013 7:10AM

    I always used to laugh at mall walkers, but now I understand completely. I don't think they allow running, but for us walkers it is climate controlled.

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GRAMPIAN 1/22/2013 6:28AM

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What exactly is a binge? Is it like obscenity or pornography, different for different people?

Monday, January 21, 2013

During a case regarding hard-core pornography Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart once said that he couldn’t specifically define it, but he knew it when he saw it.

How to define a binge:
By quantity of food eaten?
I’ve had some pretty big meals that didn’t qualify

The length of time we keep at it?
On the cruise we had some 7 (yes seven) course meals that took a very long time.
Definitely not binge material.

How quickly we shove food in our mouths?
I’ve rushed plenty of times eating “on the run”

Is it the type of food we’re eating?
Determined by total calories or maybe fat or sugar content?
I’ve eaten a lot of cheesecake and strudel that I never put in the binge category

Does it matter WHY we’re doing it?
Does there have to be an emotional trigger?

Is it the same as mindless eating?
Last night while watching football with the grandchildren, I ate a bunch of snacks, some healthy, most not. It was more than I should have eaten - excited eating - but not binge-worthy.

Do we have to be alone? Doing it in secret?
I know when my daughter says, “do you really want to be eating that?” that I’m more likely to stop. (Note: DH never says that!)

Maybe it’s the lack of control we feel as we’re doing it?
The voice that says, “you shouldn’t be doing this, it’s bad for you; you’ll feel terrible later” and we answer the voice by doing it anyway.

Maybe like Justice Stewart said, we know it when see it, or rather, when we’re doing it. How we define it may be different for each of us. What we tend to agree on is that it’s bad for us and something that we should strive to avoid. If you are susceptible to binges, it’s a rare person who can cut them out completely for all time.

Maybe overcoming the temptation is just one more step in knowing ourselves and we are all worth knowing. If we slip up, just forgive ourselves and move on.

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GINIEMIE 1/25/2013 9:03PM

    Interesting! Since I've not felt well, I've been getting out of bed in the evening and finding "something to eat". Was I really hungry no! What was I doing? Binge eating! Or seeking some kind of solace.
Okay, I can remember a time when if I was low, I would take out a box of saltines and the milk and eat and eat and eat. Was I hungry-NO, I was out of control. Now when I have a desire for that "comfort food" I serve myself one bowl, counting my crackers-more than I need, but not the whole sleeve, adding my milk and sitting down to eat it. I refuse to go back for more, because I don't want to go back to those old habits, but occasionally I still revert to that consoling snack. Is it healthy? NO. I've recognized that I do it when I'm feeling low, but now I have some control over the quantity.
So I would say, there is a definition to binge eating, and yet each of us has our own version of what it is. Most of us recognize that it is eating beyond our needs, and at some point control is lost and our emotional stability or lack there of has an impact. Usually this is followed by feelings self disgust.
I've come a long way and I've a long way to go, but I will not give up on myself. I will be an encouragement to others who are in the same battle for self control.
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RUDITUDI2000 1/22/2013 11:14PM

    For me...handfuls. of chocolate chips when I'm stressed. Unplanned. Always accompanied by a BAD attitude..
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SLENDERMAMA1 1/22/2013 4:11PM

    For me a binge is eating despite myself without true enjoyment, regretting the eating even as I am shovelling it into my why do I do it? I wish I knew..

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BOILHAM 1/22/2013 6:05AM

    By the definitions below, clearly a binge is how one defines it. To me, a binge has no shoveling or mindlessness. I even do my binges in moderation, I just keep going back for more treats, telling myself I need the carbs anyway, but knowing full well I am "on a rampage" DW and my term for a binge. I'm still unconvinced my rampages are a completely bad thing. I keep telling myself it's not appetite, but hunger, maybe my body is craving for a reason. Hell, I know what I'm doing is wrong, but I insist on justifying it somehow.

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GEMGODDESS 1/21/2013 10:09PM

    For me, it is eating an indeterminate amount of food that I KNOW I don't particularly want, KNOWING that I'm not really hungry, but feeling helpless to NOT consume it. It's almost like an out of body experience. And it's almost always emotion-driven. Oof. Good blog.

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WATERMELLEN 1/21/2013 8:53PM

    What a great blog: so much to think about . . . and look at all the great comments it inspired!

There are certainly some unifying themes here: loss of control; self loathing. Avoiding those trigger foods is key for me!

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CELLISTA1 1/21/2013 12:31PM

    I used to call it "the Evil Robot" as in "The Evil Robot took over my brain and I ate a huge burger and fries without wanting it or enjoying it." That's my definition, I guess: not wanting it and not enjoying it. Ever since I put a label on that feeling, the Evil Robot has turned up less and less.

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CAKEMAKERMOM 1/21/2013 11:22AM

    For me it's when I give up control to the food and it keeps on coming into my system, I may not be overstuffed, but it's wrong choices that blow my calories for the day and may not always have had anything to do with a mood I'm in.

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LOLATURTLE 1/21/2013 11:07AM

    That's really interesting. I think it's probably personal, because everyone binges differently, and probably at least partly depends on how you feel during and after the binge.

I no longer binge the way I used to ~7-8 years ago; then it was filling myself with whatever food I could find, whatever sounded good, but I was never satisfied because I wasn't hungry, I was unhappy. It was the one thing I could control that could bring me some small amount of comfort or happiness in place of all the wrongness in my life that I couldn't fix.

Now it's more like... I'm too lazy to go buy or prepare what I know I need to feel satisfied and well, so I eat a bunch of different stuff that ends up being way too many calories, or a waste of calories because it isn't what I need. It's a more complex definition now, because I'm more aware of the complex interactions that can lead to binging. How am I feeling? What am I doing today? What food do I have in the house/around me? Sometimes it's not so much a binge as, a pre-binge. I ate something I know can lead to a binge if I'm not careful.

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LIVIN2LOVE1 1/21/2013 10:56AM

    For me, defining a binge involves my feelings. When I begin to feel shame and physical discomfort it is then that I realize that I have been on a binge.

I'm still learning how to handle myself. Learning strategies to avoid a binge and to stop a binge when I find myself in one.

It hasn't been easy for me but I accept the challenge because the alternative, giving in, is not an option.

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 1/21/2013 10:10AM

    There are clinical definitions of binges, and there are also personal definitions of them.

Since the word is in common usage, you get to define it however you like.


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SUZYMOBILE 1/21/2013 9:31AM

    I think it's your very last point: complete loss of control, along with Nell's self-loathing which may or may not happen at the same time you're binging. It's the food thing to which one can apply the 12 steps, the first being: We admitted we were powerless over our [binging] and that our lives had become unmanageable.

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NELLJONES 1/21/2013 9:17AM

    I haven't binged in years because I HATE the aftermath of self-loathing, the wondering "why??" I hate the feeling that I am my own willing victim. I plan for the inevitable longing to binge the same way I plan a safe walking route and for the same reasons: it's easier to avoid pitfalls than to get out of them. I am basically lazy; avoidance by any means is the only way to keep from abusing myself. And wondering Why.

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DAISYBELL6 1/21/2013 8:56AM

    This blog certainly presented some excellent "food for thought" and it came at the perfect time for me. I agree with Slenderella that letting go of the guilt of binging and accepting that it may happen now and then has been freeing for me. I am human and will make mistakes. What has kept me from binging like I used to 85 pounds ago is the thought that I can immediately go back to my healthy way of eating. I don't have to keep binging because I failed, I have to eat healthfully because I am succeeding. Beating my self up does not change what happened. Acceptance and self love helps. I used to believe that I was "doomed" to keep overeating, that I couldn't help it and that trying to change was useless. None of that is true. I love my new lifestyle and my new body and a one time binge is not going to cause me to return to my old patterns. I wish I didn't binge. Right now, I still binge occasionally but I stop when I recognize what I am doing, look at what triggered it, accept that I need to look at the trigger, then, most importantly, eat in a healthy mindful way. Getting right back to eating well and moving my body is moving me forward.

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TINAJANE76 1/21/2013 7:55AM

    For me a binge is an unplanned overindulgence on food that I'm not even enjoying. It's often something (or a series of things) that are silly like peanut butter or chips. But I think you're right: most of us would probably define our binges in different ways. Thanks for this thought-provoking blog.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/21/2013 7:28AM

    Great blog! For me, it is a combination of a lot of the factors you focus on - the mindlessness, the doing it anyway, the bad choices, the amount, the speed of the shoveling, the loss of control, eating contradictory to my plan and intention, the remorse and even self-loathing.

When I learned I could live life at the weight I want to be and still occasionally slip into a binge, it was freeing. My binges became smaller and smaller, healthier and healthier, and less and less frequent. I found that the real key to it is forgiveness and doing the very best I can each day, each hour, each moment. Don't have to be perfect, just determined. Never, never, never give up!!!

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LESLIE871948 1/21/2013 7:16AM

    I wasn't done. I don't usually blog on the bottom of a blog.. :). What if yesterday was a binge for me. It was a teeny one if it was, but I FELT about it. Should I FEEL about food, other than hunger,- bliss,- satisfaction? I ate things that would formerly be a part of a food orgy. I am so grateful to have sort of grown out of the inclination to stuff my body until it hurts. Still, the guilt dynamic involved in that activity is what gives it the ability to cause me to go down the scary road of 1) binge 2) I am a bad person 3) I might as well give up I am Never going to be okay 4) food is bad 5) I am bad.....
I mentioned somewhere else that in order for me to get to a positive healthy place I have to run toward things that I really want, not back off in disgust from things I don't. For me, how I think about it when I eat something off my major plan in huge. If I just accept that I am human and go on, it's all good. Call it Binge and it turns the other way.

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LESLIE871948 1/21/2013 7:11AM

    Oh Kay here...... There are times when my looonggg history with weight struggles has me over-thinking some things, but this one? I could spend the entire day thinking about this excellent provocative blog. This year I am committed to eating more clean, organic, local foods. Saturday and Sunday past I was short of the mark. Both days I kind of went into a grazing mode, certainly not enough to cause weight gain in any meaningful way unless I continue for some time. Not a *binge*, but also Not what I want for myself. I don't care to eat when my body is not physiologically hungry. Back in the days when I used to diet #crazy# as in 750 calories a day, or using things that Dr's in the 70's prescribed to help me stay on Nutso eating plans, I used to clearly BINGE. Can I be a little bit pregnant and binge a little bit? That is such a loaded ugly word, but is a tiny one a different thing than a huge one? Both one grape and a watermelon are both fruit.

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It was the best of times. It was the worst of times.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Anyone old enough to get my literary reference? I don’t think “A Tale of Two Cities” is required HS reading anymore.

Actually, I was referring to my week – both real life and through TV.

I began the week in a very sad mood (Tuesday’s blog post) and ended on a happy note. Three of our grandchildren are spending the long weekend with us. Their parents are out of town and Friday was DH’s birthday.

Yesterday we watched a lot of TV. They don’t have cable/satellite at home, just over the air channels and Netflix. We finally got satellite access when I could no longer follow the football action – too many ghosts – the downside of living way out in the country.

I recorded a few movies and shows ahead of time.
“Beverly Hills Chihuahua” - This was a cute 2008 Disney Movie, happy ending of course and even an uplifting social message.

Then back in time to my childhood (1955) - “Lady and the Tramp”
Same kind of message – pampered pup and streetwise companion who saves the day.

Both had good guys and bad guys. In 2008 the danger was a demon dog, “El Diablo” who looked ready to tear you apart and his gangster owners who looked ready to do the same. In 1955 the danger was the dog catcher LOL.

TV Sitcoms – my childhood – Andy Griffith, Donna Reed, Father Knows Best.
For kids today even on Disney – Sorry I don’t remember the titles, but lots of “smart ass” kids.
I asked, “What would happen if you talked to your parents that way?”
The response: “They would take away our WiFi!”

I will not become a crotchety old woman complaining about “kids today” or longing for the “good old days.” Older people have been complaining about the younger generation since Socrates and the old days had a lot of stuff that was not so good if we’re truly honest about it.

Still, it seems so much harder for parents to raise children today and I give you all a lot of credit for the effort you’re making. It’s similar to trying to live a healthy lifestyle, with or without children. We have so much more information, but it seems that there are more outside influences working against us. I suppose we have to be that much stronger. Fortunately, there’s strength in numbers and hanging out with those with similar goals really helps.

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WILSONWR 1/21/2013 9:00AM

    Things are definitely more challenging for parents of today. My folks used to let me and brother walk down to the lake (a mile away), go swimming, go exploring, and just having a great time outdoors. Parents can't do that anymore, unfortunately - too many dangers there now. Dealing with all of the electronics has also got to be a challenge. Some of it is great, but not at the expense of never getting outside and getting some good healthy exercise in.

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CELIAMINER 1/20/2013 7:28PM

    Love uplifting movies. Most of TV today seems to have bowed to the political tide and turned from minimizing women as brainless organisms in need of male protection to bashing men or portraying them as imbeciles. NCIS at least seems to strike a balance.

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WATERMELLEN 1/20/2013 1:44PM

    Sounds like a great ending to your week: lucky grandkids!!

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DR1939 1/20/2013 12:15PM

    Read A Tale of Two Cities in one day because I had messed around during Christmas Break and had a book report due the next day. Nonetheless much of it stuck with me.

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KARRENLYNN 1/20/2013 10:12AM

    It's all about perspective, I think. In some ways things are easier and some ways harder.

I also give credit to those doing their best to raise good kids against all the bad influences out there.

I'm also thankful to have family and friends (online and offline) to give and take support from, like yourself. Sticking together makes it so much easier than going it alone!

At the end of the day, all you can do is the best you can, and hope we catch each other if we fall.

Have a great Sunday!

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KANOE10 1/20/2013 9:56AM

    I have the same reaction to many of the modern tv sitcoms. The humor is often cruel and makes fun of other people..both the kid shows and the adult shows. No wonder we have trouble with bullying in our schools.

I am not complaining about the younger generation, but it is not an easy time to raise kids. I agree with you. It is hard to lead a healthy lifestyle in this society. Thank heavens for support!

Great blog.

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KELLIEBEAN 1/20/2013 9:46AM

    AMEN! I'm so glad I'm not raising kids now!

I raised my kids in the late eighties and early nineties. I watch my sisters with their kids now and their attitudes and I think to myself, 'kids today!' Then I think 'oh no, did I just say that??! emoticon

Every generation gets harder and harder. I'm glad your week ended on a high note!

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COCK-ROBIN 1/20/2013 9:39AM

    A great, nostalgic blog!

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COCK-ROBIN 1/20/2013 9:39AM

    A great, nostalgic blog!

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NELLJONES 1/20/2013 8:49AM

    Our own youths seem easier in retrospect than they really were. At least your grandkids have family that cares, the most important component in a child's life since, well, Socrates' time.

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SWEDE_SU 1/20/2013 8:05AM

    we have had many of these thoughts and discussed how different things were when we grew up in the 50s, and when we raised our kids in the 70s/80s/90s. definitely do not envy today's parents...

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SLENDERELLA61 1/20/2013 8:03AM

    Brilliant blog! You are so right about being stronger to overcome negative influences. It is like trying to eat healthy in a culture that is obsessed with the best taste rather than what is best for our bodies.

Time with grandkids is precious. I must run get our two in just a minute! Take care and have a great day. I sure appreciate your support on my blogs and page!!

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