Friday, January 25, 2013
The horror stories of abuse hurled at overweight girls/women are sadly numerous. I read them all the time here on SP. They are very visible in movies and on TV as well.
Unfortunately, mean comments about our bodies aren’t limited to cheerleader types.
I regularly hear remarks about being flat-chested and having no boobs. Sometimes it’s directed at me. I prefer a serious sports bra which squashes down whatever I’ve got. I’ve even heard it directed at Michelle Obama. Granted that was probably sour grapes and politically motivated, but still, when will we stop putting down women based on some ideal body image?
Would I accept a few extra pounds of fat if they could be deposited right on my chest? Sure I would, even if it increased my body fat percentage, but we know our body puts the extra fat where it wants and for me that’s my hips and thighs.
I could buy myself some bigger boobs. I understand they cost about $4,000. Nah, Victoria’s Secret gives me options a lot cheaper and I can put them in a drawer and happily sleep on my stomach or run comfortably.
For the record I’ve never responded with “too bad those boobs come with a big stomach and a butt that could stop a Mac truck.” And I never will. Negative comments about our bodies are hurtful no matter who is making them.
Then there’s the backhanded compliments.
My related blog entry: “That’s a great suit for someone small on top”
Is this just a gender thing?
Do adult men treat each other this way?
I’ve heard opinions that this sort of ill treatment teaches you how to deal with life and makes you stronger. I can understand wanting to be strong enough to “take it,” but I don’t understand the mindset of someone who wants to “dish it out.”
Note: I make an exception for military drill sergeants. Their environment and goal is quite different from those of civilian life.
Thursday, January 24, 2013
And the question is: ”What will you never hear on the “Biggest Loser?”
But you will hear it in my living room. I have one of Jillian’s DVDs. My daughter gave it to me along with the weights I wrote about last week. I love cardio, but the other stuff? There I need all the motivation I can get.
I assume some people must need or respond to Jillian’s “in your face” method. Not me. Perhaps I’m just too old and ornery or too much of a free spirit. Come to think of it, I doubt I would have made it in the Marines either.
I know Jillian has her fans and even a team here on SP, so let me say that I do like her workouts and completely support “different strokes” and doing whatever works for you.
I prefer SP’s videos, but lately I’ve has issues with them freezing. Of course, I’ve also had problems with heat, electricity and Internet access, so I can’t blame SP and a DVD is an alternative.
I have no problem with most of Jillian’s routines, except for jumping jacks. My body considers that a most unnatural motion. Maybe it’s my flat, over-pronating feet, but thrusting my legs out sideways and hopping back in again, over and over, feels very stressful on my knees. I don’t have knee problems (sound of me knocking wood), but if I make them do that, I’m afraid I soon will.
Jillian loves her title of “world’s toughest trainer,” and to her credit she does point out modifications for some of the exercises. NOT for jumping jacks! There she yells that even 400 lb people can do jumping jacks – NO MODIFICATIONS!
I wonder how she reconciles her attitude, with the disclaimer at the beginning of the video. Basically, they are not responsible for any injuries.
I understand personal responsibility and I’m grateful for all the resources I’ve had that have allowed me to get to and remain in maintenance without verbal harassment. For me that would have been counter-productive.
As for Jillian’s DVDs, I’ll still use them. I’m just glad I have a mute button.
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
I meant to post this last week after my post for DH's birthday - The Junk Food King & I.
Our 11 year old granddaughter likes to bake and decorate cakes. This is our lake complete with sparkly water, our dock and boat, truck and jet skis. There’s even “edible rip-rap.” Very cool.
Here’s our baker with grandpa.
Yes, that’s a race shirt. She’s a runner too.
Monday, January 21, 2013
During a case regarding hard-core pornography Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart once said that he couldn’t specifically define it, but he knew it when he saw it.
How to define a binge:
By quantity of food eaten?
I’ve had some pretty big meals that didn’t qualify
The length of time we keep at it?
On the cruise we had some 7 (yes seven) course meals that took a very long time.
Definitely not binge material.
How quickly we shove food in our mouths?
I’ve rushed plenty of times eating “on the run”
Is it the type of food we’re eating?
Determined by total calories or maybe fat or sugar content?
I’ve eaten a lot of cheesecake and strudel that I never put in the binge category
Does it matter WHY we’re doing it?
Does there have to be an emotional trigger?
Is it the same as mindless eating?
Last night while watching football with the grandchildren, I ate a bunch of snacks, some healthy, most not. It was more than I should have eaten - excited eating - but not binge-worthy.
Do we have to be alone? Doing it in secret?
I know when my daughter says, “do you really want to be eating that?” that I’m more likely to stop. (Note: DH never says that!)
Maybe it’s the lack of control we feel as we’re doing it?
The voice that says, “you shouldn’t be doing this, it’s bad for you; you’ll feel terrible later” and we answer the voice by doing it anyway.
Maybe like Justice Stewart said, we know it when see it, or rather, when we’re doing it. How we define it may be different for each of us. What we tend to agree on is that it’s bad for us and something that we should strive to avoid. If you are susceptible to binges, it’s a rare person who can cut them out completely for all time.
Maybe overcoming the temptation is just one more step in knowing ourselves and we are all worth knowing. If we slip up, just forgive ourselves and move on.
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